英国教育家洛克说过：“父母不宣扬子女的过错，则子女对自己的名誉就愈看重，他们觉得自己是有名誉的人，因而更会小心地去维持别人对自己的好评；若是你当众宣布他们的过失，使其无地自容，他们便会失望，而制裁他们的工具也就没有了，他们愈觉得自己的名誉已经受了打击，则他们设法维持别人的好评的心思也就愈加淡薄。 ”实际情况正如洛克所述，孩子如若被父母当众揭短，甚至被揭开心灵上的“伤疤”，那么孩子自尊、自爱的心理防线就会被击溃，甚至会产生以丑为美的变态心理。

English educators Locke said:"Parents don't promote children's fault,The child to his reputation the value,They think they are's good name,So more carefully to keep others for their high praise;If you in public announced their negligence,Make it small,And they will be disappointed,And sanctions their tools also was done not have,The more they feel his reputation has been suffering a stroke,Then they try to keep other people's praise mind is more light. "Actual situation as Locke mentioned,Children should be JieDuan parents in public,Even the spiritual"scar",That child's self-esteem/Self-love psychological defence will be put to rout,Even will produce the ugly as the abnormal psychology.

　　每个孩子都是活生生的生命个体，他们不仅仅满足于被爱，被保护，他们更渴求得到尊重和理解。

Every child is living the individual life,They are not merely content to be loved,protected,They are more hunger for respect and understanding.

　　孩子也都是有自尊心的，孩子越大自尊心就越强，中学生比小学生自尊心强。父母当众批评孩子容易使孩子自尊心受到损伤，父母经常当着外人批评孩子，有可能使孩子产生敌对心理

Children are also self-respecting,The greater the children self-esteem is stronger,Middle school students have strong self-respect than primary school students.Parents criticism to children children damage self-esteem,Parents often in the presence of strangers criticism children,May make the child have the hostile psychological

　　孩子有缺点，父母要在没有外人的情况下，对孩子进行善意的批评，并指出改进的措施，父母这样的批评，一般来说孩子都能容易接受。

The child has faults,Parents will no stranger in the circumstances,Their children to be good criticism,And points out the measures of improvement,Parents that kind of criticism,In general children are easy to accept.

　　一个星期天，一位中学生邀请他的同学来家聚会，他们玩得正开心，妈妈回来了，看到家里乱七八糟，便火冒三丈，当着同学的面把他臭骂了一顿。儿子觉得自尊心受到严重挫伤，同学们也感觉下不了台阶。这孩子一气之下就到姥姥家去住，每天都从姥姥家直接上学，母子俩僵了两个星期，最后还是妈妈主动承认错误，化解了矛盾，孩子才肯回家。

One Sunday,A high school classmate invited him to come home to the party,They had is happy,My mother came back,See home at sixes and sevens,Will fire emit three zhangs,In the face of the classmate he scold your lunch.Son feel pride serious contusion,The students also feel not the steps.The child in a pet went to grandma's house to live,From grandma's house every day go to school directly,Mother and child are stiff for two weeks,Finally mom initiative admit his mistake,Resolve the contradiction,The child would not go home.

　　尊重孩子，保护他的面子，这对孩子的成长来说是极为重要的。站在孩子的立场尊重孩子，会有益于孩子产生和形成一种自重、自爱、自尊，并要求受到别人尊重的情感。具有这种情感的孩子，在人际关系上，既能尊重自我又能尊重他人，所以他们也能得到别人的尊重，在生活中就会自信心高，责任感强，有进取精神。

Respect children,Protect his face,This is for the development of children is very important.Stand in the position of the children respect children,Children may be beneficial to produce and form a kind of self-respect/self-love/self-esteem,And they ask to be treated with respect emotions.Has this kind of emotional children,In relationships,Can respect for self and respect for others,So they can get respect from others,In the life will be high confidence,The sense of responsibility strong,aggressive.

　　其实，孩子的面子比大人的面子更重要。因此，父母们不要当众批评孩子，因为孩子每一个行为都是有原因的。这是由孩子的心理生理年龄特点所决定的。也许这些原因在成人看来是微不足道的，但在孩子的眼里那是很严重的事情，不了解原因当众批评孩子，非但不能解决问题反而会使问题变得更糟，使孩子产生逆反抵触情绪，导致对孩子的教育很难继续下去。父母对孩子进行批评是为了抑制孩子不良行为、不良品德与不良学习态度。其实，父母要做到正确的批评，还真有些小窍门，因为批评不仅应该有益于家庭教育，也应该是保持良好的亲子关系的关键所在。

In fact,The child's face is more important than adult's face.so,Parents don't publicly criticized the child,Because the child every action is a reason.This is the child's psychological physiological age to the special features.Maybe these reasons in adult seems to be insignificant,But in the eyes of my children that is a very serious matter,Do not understand the reason for children in public criticism,Not only will not solve the problem but will make problems worse,The child produce negative outlaw motion,Lead to the child's education is hard to continue.The parents and children to criticism is to suppress the child bad behavior/Bad character and bad learning attitude.In fact,The parents to do the correct criticism,Really some tips,Because criticism should not only is beneficial to family education,Should also keep good parentage is the key.

　　批评孩子要注意时间和场合 Criticism of the child to pay attention to time and occasion

　　父母尽量不要在清晨、吃饭时、睡觉前批评孩子。在清晨批评孩子，可能会破坏孩子一天的好心情；吃饭时批评孩子，会影响孩子的食欲，长此以往会对孩子的身体健康不利；睡觉前批评孩子，会影响孩子的睡眠，不利于孩子的身体发育。最关键的是，父母批评孩子最不应该在公开场合，比如：公共场所、当着孩子同学朋友的面、当着众多亲朋的面。孩子也是有自尊心的，甚至有的孩子自尊心会很强。如果父母在公开场合批评孩子，会让孩子感觉很没面子，还可能会对父母心怀不满甚至心生怨恨，会影响父母与孩子之间的感情。

Parents try not to in the morning/When having a meal/Before sleeping child criticism.In the morning the children criticism,Could damage the children one day in a good mood;When children eat criticism,Can affect a child's appetite,In the long run will be to the child body healthy;Before sleeping child criticism,Can affect a child's sleep,Against the child's physical development.The key is to,Parents should not criticize the children in public,Such as:public/Children in front of friends face/In the presence of many relatives and face.Children will also be self-respecting,Even some children self-esteem will be very strong.If the parents in public criticism of the child,Will make the children feel have no face very much,May parents grouch even mind resentment,Will affect the feelings between parents and children.

　　批评要合理 Criticism to reasonable

　　批评合理才能使孩子从心理上产生接受感，才有可能抑制孩子的不良品德、不良行为、不良习惯与不良学习态度等。

Criticism reasonable to make children from psychological produce accept feeling,Can inhibit the child's bad character/Bad behavior/Bad habits and poor learning attitude.

　　父母对孩子进行批评首先要把孩子的不良行为事实搞清楚，事实不清，夸大其词会使孩子产生拒绝心理。因此，父母在批评孩子时，要做到有一说一、有二说二，绝不能把一说成二。生活中，有些父母之所以批评孩子遭到抑制，甚至让孩子产生不满，就是因为父母批评的理由不充分，甚至夸大其词，使孩子产生反感

The parents and children are the first to criticism of the children's bad behavior facts straight,The fact is not clear,Exaggerated can make children have refused to psychology.so,Parents in criticizing a child,To do a spade a spade/There are two said two,Can not say into two.life,Some parents are criticized by inhibition of children,Even let the child unhappy,Is because of insufficient reason parents criticism,Even exaggerated,The child produce antipathy

　　批评要与教育结合起来 Criticism and education combined

　　批评的目的是为了抑制孩子不良行为、不良品德、不良习惯与不良学习态度等。为了使批评能够达到目的，父母在对孩子进行批评时一定要向孩子讲清楚不良品德、不良行为、不良习惯与不良学习态度的危害性，使孩子感到非常有必要克服这些缺点与改正错误，使孩子感到父母批评自己的目的确实是为了自己好、是为了自己能够更快地进步。

The purpose of the criticism is to suppress the child bad behavior/Bad character/Bad habits and poor learning attitude.In order to make the criticism can achieve,Parents in the children when criticism must be to child clear bad character/Bad behavior/Bad habits and poor learning attitude hazard,The child was very necessary to overcome these shortcomings and correct errors,Make the child feels parents criticize their purpose is really for your own good/In order to you can progress more quickly.

　　批评要批评在点子上 Criticism to criticize in point

　　“打人莫打脸，骂人莫揭短”，父母的批评要有针对性，就事论事。然而，有些父母批评孩子却不是就事论事，而是东拉西扯算旧账，把上星期，甚至一年前、两年前孩子的过失都放在一块儿算。这样就冲淡了要批评过失的主题，孩子不知道挨批评的重点是什么，也不清楚父母让他改正什么，这也不是，那也不是，总是有缺点，容易使孩子产生消极情绪，失去信心

"Hit mo dozen face,Call names don't JieDuan",Parents' criticism to targeted,Case by case.however,Some parents criticize children but not case by case,But wipe is ramble on,Last week the,Even a year ago/Two years ago the child's fault in is together.This dilute the criticism to the theme of the fault,Children don't know what is the focus of the hearing,Don't know parents let him to correct??????,This is not,That is not,Always has faults,Easy to make the child produce negative emotions,Lose confidence

　　批评孩子也要给孩子申诉的机会 Criticism children will give the child the opportunity

　　当批评不符合事实，父母也应允许孩子作出解释。因为如果孩子表面上虚假地表示接受批评，然而心里大感委屈，实际上不仅于事无补，还可能引发种种弊端。与此同时，父母也要让孩子明白：解释的目的并不是推卸本来应负的责任，还应要求孩子保持解释时心平气和、实事求是的态度

When the criticism is not in conformity with the facts,Parents and children should be allowed to explain.Because if a child on the surface of false that accept criticism,However the heart are wrong,Actually not only to no avail,May also cause all sorts of drawbacks.meanwhile,Parents also want to let the child understand:The purpose of the interpretation and not shirk was responsibility,Should also be requiring children to keep calm when interpretation/The attitude of seeking truth from facts

　　成功的家庭教育来自于父母对孩子的深入了解，接受和尊重孩子而不是揭孩子的短。因此，当孩子的行为表现不能令人满意时，父母千万不要劈头盖脸地随意指责孩子，要根据不同时期的孩子的心理特点给予积极引导。 批评孩子是一门艺术，因此，我们每个做父母的，都应该努力去学习、去探讨这门艺术，以便让我们对孩子的批评能有的放矢，如春风化雨般滋润孩子的心田。

Successful family education from parents to children's understanding,Accept and respect children and not the child's short.so,When the child's behavior when performance is not satisfactory,Parents don't swept over children to blame,According to the different period of the child's psychological characteristics to actively guide. Criticism of the child is an art,so,Each of us parents,Should effort to learn/To discuss this art,So that we can have a definite object in view to the child's criticism,Spring weather rain that keep the child's heart.