男生手掌擦破皮哭了5分钟，最后由女生扶到医务室

The boy hand rub skin cry for five minutes,The girl finally help to the clinic

　　拍一张合影，男生个个要求排到女生前面

Take a group photo,The boy all requirements to row in front of girls

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　　这两天，江北区新村同创国际小学3年级2班的小朋友们，已经开始了寒假生活，也开始认真“落实”班主任刘莹老师布置的寒假作业。这份寒假作业，最大的特点在于男女有别！

These two days,Jiangbei xincun create international primary school class 2 grade 3 children,The winter had already started life,Began to seriously"implement"The teacher in charge teacher assigned LiuYing winter vacation homework.This winter vacation work,The biggest characteristics is different between men and women!

　　阅读书籍有区别：男生读物是《海底两万里》和《格列佛游记》，主要讲述励志、团结和探险的故事；女生读物是《小公主》和《会飞的女孩》，主要讲述自爱、自信、自强和友情。

Reading books is different:Boy reading is[Submarine two miles]and[Gulliver's travels],Mainly about inspiring/Unity and adventure story;Girl reading is[The little princess]and[Can fly girl],Mainly about self-love/confidence/Self-improvement and friendship.

　　体育锻炼有区别：虽然同为每天1小时，但要求男生的锻炼内容是跑跳投、多打篮球踢足球，练习俯卧撑、仰卧起坐；对女生的要求是跳绳、慢跑、打乒乓球和羽毛球。

Physical exercise is different:Although every day with for 1 hour,But for boys exercise is run jump shot/Many playing basketball playing football,Practice push-ups/sit-ups;The requirements of the girl is rope skipping/jogging/To play table tennis and badminton.

　　寒假作业为何要区别对待？在上周末的寒假放学典礼上，重庆晚报记者走进了他们。

Winter vacation work why the difference between?In the winter vacation last weekend ceremony in school,Chongqing evening news reporter walked into them.

一半男生投掷实心球没达标 Half boy throwing medicine ball not standard

向班主任抗议要求参照女生 To the teacher in charge protesting for reference to the girl

　　“我对全班男女生区别对待的目的只有一个：希望引导和改掉部分男孩子身上的娘娘腔，把他们培养成阳刚果敢、心胸开阔的男子汉，避免男孩危机。”班主任刘莹老师的第一句话，便震住了记者。

"I to the class difference between male and female students of only one objective:Hope to guide and change on the part of the boys sissy,Train them into masculine resolute/Broadminded man,Avoid boy crisis."The teacher in charge teacher LiuYing first sentence,Then the earthquake live the reporter.

　　3年级2班有25名男生和23名女生，30岁出头的刘莹教龄10年。

3 grade 2 class there are 25 boys and 23 girl,In their early thirties LiuYing of school age ten years.

　　区别对待男女生，是去年12月中旬发生的一起抗议引出来的该班男女生体育委员姚浩宇（男）、吴雨霏（女），向记者讲述了事件的来龙去脉：

Make a difference between boys and girls,Is in the middle of December happen together protest derivation of their boys and girls YaoHaoYu athletics member of committee(male)/kary(female),To the reporters about the incident thoroughly:

　　当时，全班同学上体育课参加实心球投掷测试，根据国家达标标准，男生为5米，女生为2.5米。结果，25名男生一半不达标，部分男生仅仅刚过2.5米的女生标准这些男生遭到女生们的起哄“比我们还不如”。

At that time,The whole class physical education classes in medicine ball throwing test,According to the national standard standard,Boy for 5 meters,The girl is 2.5 meters.The results,25 boys half is not eligible,Some of the boys only just over 2.5 meters of girl standard these boys were girls kick up a fuss"Than we may as well".

　　这下，不少小男子汉的自尊心受伤了，他们开始用口水反击。最后，不服气的十余男生跑到刘莹那里抗议：“我们也要参照女生标准测试，这样我们都及格了。”

this,A lot of little man pride injured,They began to use the saliva counterattack.finally,Defy spirit of ten boys ran to protest LiuYing there:"We also want to reference the girl standard test,So we have to pass the exam."

　　“为什么？”刘莹很吃惊。

"why?"LiuYing was surprised.

　　“我们要男女平等做的作业一样，参加的考试一样，体育测试标准当然也要一样。这才是真正的男女平等！”参加抗议的男生们个个群情激愤，义愤填膺，个别男生甚至因为男女不公平委屈得要哭出来。

"We want to equality of men and women to work on the same,As the test,Sports test standard of course also to be the same.This is the real equality between men and women!"To participate in the protest the boys all mounting public indignation,outraged,Individual boy even for men and women unfair injustice want to cry out.

　　对于这场突如其来的抗议，刘莹没有当场作答，但承诺会在班会上给大家一个答复。

For the sudden protest,LiuYing no answer on the spot,But commitment at the class meeting will give you a reply.

　　虽然没有当场作答，但刘莹的思绪已开始飞转，以往见到的一些场景，在脑海里一一闪现。“这些思绪片段，全是关于班上部分男生体质差、不大气、娘娘腔的画面。”刘莹告诉记者，她从1年级开始带这个班，发现该班和以往两届学生最大的不同便是：不少男生严重缺乏阳刚之气，具体表现在四个方面。

Although there is no answer on the spot,But LiuYing thoughts has started to long,In the past to see some of the scene,In one mind blink."These thoughts of fragment,Some of the boys in the class is all about physical difference/No air/Sissy pictures."LiuYing told reporters,She from 1 grade begins to take this class,Found this and past the two students the biggest different is:Many boys serious lack of masculinity,The specific performance in four aspects.

体质差 Physical difference

很小气 Very stingy

跑得最快的竟是女生 The fastest is the girl

　　跑、跳、投，是衡量男女生身体素质的最基本方式。但在这方面，班里男孩子从没让刘莹省过心。

run/jump/throw,It is to measure the quality of the men and women living body is the most basic mode.But in this respect,Never let the boys in the class LiuYing province beings.

　　除了这次实心球投掷测试，刘莹还从体育老师处得知，班上男生的立定跳远成绩，同样近半未达国标；全班短跑最快的也是女生“这些都说明，班上男生的身体素质比往届差远了。”

In addition to the medicine ball throwing test,LiuYing also learned from physical education teacher,The boys in the class of the standing long jump performance,The same nearly half did not reach national standard;The whole class sprint the fastest is the girl"These show that,The boys in the class body quality than go to the far worse."

　　更让刘莹忧虑的，是男生们无所谓心态和不爱锻炼行为。“和以前的孩子相比，现在的男生喜欢上网打游戏，提起体育锻炼反倒没了兴趣；他们比的不是谁个子高、成绩好、身体壮、跑得快，而是比谁在游戏中级别最高。”刘莹担忧，若不加强思想引导和体育锻炼，新的东亚病夫绝不是危言耸听。

More let LiuYing worried,Are the boys don't matter attitude and do not love exercise behavior."And the child before compared,Now the boys like playing games on the Internet,A physical exercise but didn't interest;They are not who is tall/Do well/Body strong/Run fast,But who is the highest level in the game."LiuYing concerns,If not strengthen ideological guidance and physical exercise,New sick man of east Asia is not alarmism.

很小气 Very stingy

拍集体照都要争前排 Pat will occasion for the front

　　“男子汉的阳刚之气，应该包括大方大气、心胸开阔、谦让女生、做事坦荡、光明磊落，而不是小肚鸡肠、输不起，什么小事都要和女生争个输赢，把自己弄得像个怨妇男！”刘莹说。

"A man's masculinity,Should include and easy atmosphere/open-minded/Obey girl/Things straight/aboveboard,Rather than love of petty/Cannot afford to lose,What things are and the girl has to win an argument,Get like a hatred fu male!"LiuYing said.

　　刘莹给记者讲了一个实例：有一次，全班在学校操场拍集体合影。考虑到女生个头相对矮一些，刘莹便让女生或坐或蹲在前排，全体男生和自己站在后排。没想到这样一个常规举动，竟然引来男生集体抗议：“为什么把露脸的机会都留给女生，我们也要站前排！”

LiuYing to reporters about an instance:once,The class in the school playground take group photo.Considering the girl a relatively short some,LiuYing then let the girl sitting or squat down in the front row,All the boys and myself standing in the back row.Didn't expect such a normal behavior,Should draw boys collective protest:"Why the opportunity to show girl,We also want to stand in front of the!"

　　晓之以理，动之以情，甚至声色俱厉，刘莹硬是在现场动员教育好几分钟，才说服男生们。

Xiao zhi in order to manage,"Magny cours,Even loud voice and stern expression,LiuYing just in the mobilization education for several minutes,To persuade the boys.

娘娘腔 nance

擦破手掌哭了五分钟 Rub hands crying for five minutes

　　最让刘莹担心的，是班里少数男孩子的娘娘腔，言行举止透露出女性化趋势。

The most let LiuYing to worry about,A few boys in my class is sissy,Words and deeds show women trend.

　　“班里有个男生，说话媚声媚气，经常翘起兰花指，还要不时抛媚眼！”刘莹说，当她把这个男生叫到办公室交流，自己故意媚声媚气模仿该男生的行为时，对方也很不好意思地笑起来。“显然，这个男生自己也看不惯这种娘娘腔行为，但他却经常无意识地做了出来。”刘莹说，事后深入交流，这个男生才道出原委：他在多部港台影视剧中均发现有娘娘腔人物，很抢镜很搞笑，自己图好耍所以模仿……

"There is a boy in the class,MeiQi speak mei sound,Often tilt LanHuaZhi,And from time to time the glad eye!"LiuYing said,When she put the boy called to the office communication,Deliberately mei sound MeiQi imitate the boy's behavior,The other side also embarrassed smile."obviously,The boy himself can't bear to see this nance behavior,But he was often unconsciously do out."LiuYing said,After further communication,The boy didn't tell the whole story:He in Hong Kong and Taiwan of movie and TV drama are found to have gay characters,The mirror is very funny,His figure more so imitate...

　　“还有一种娘娘腔，是娇气爱哭和习惯性撒娇。”刘老师说，上学期一个中午，一个男生在校内追逐嬉戏时不慎摔倒，手掌擦破指甲壳大小一块皮，竟然坐在地上哭了至少5分钟，最后还是班上一位女生好言相劝，他才止住哭泣，最后还是由这个女生把他搀扶到医务室。

"There is also a sissy,Is effeminacy crying and habitual coquetry."Liu said,Last term, one at noon,A boy is in the run and play when he fell down,Hand rub refers to the carapace size a piece of skin,Had to sit down on the ground crying at least 5 minutes,Finally the class a girl counsel discussion,He didn't stop crying,Finally by the girls put his hand to the clinic.

花美男 Flower "pretty boy"

漫画影视侵蚀男子汉 Cartoon film erosion man

　　还有一种苗头，让刘莹很警惕漫画书、影视剧甚至娱乐节目中，频繁出现各种扮相妖娆的所谓花美男。

Still have a kind of symptom,Let LiuYing very alert comic books/The film and television play even entertainment programs,Often appear all sorts of chi enchanting so-called flower "pretty boy".

　　“孩子们的价值观很模糊，容易受外界引导，误认为在电视上、杂志上频繁曝光的就是美的、好的，就会悄悄效仿。”刘莹说，虽然类似情况在班级男生中并未出现，但也需要警惕和担忧。

"The children's values are fuzzy,Vulnerable to the outside world guide,As on TV/Magazine frequent exposure is beautiful/good,Will follow quietly."LiuYing said,Although similar in all the boys in the class is not present,But also need to be vigilant and worry.

教孩子弄清什么是男生女生 To teach a child to find out what is the boy girl

约法三章做什么不该做什么 Draw up three chapters do what shouldn't do??????

　　“要改掉男孩娘娘腔、培养阳刚男子汉。”刘莹决定以男生集体抗议体测标准为契机，开一场特殊的班会：教孩子了解什么是男生，什么是女生。

"To get rid of sissy boy/Cultivate masculine man."LiuYing decided to boys collective protest standard it has been revealed as an opportunity,Open a special class meeting:Teach your child understand what is the boy,What is the girl.

　　去年12月下旬，这场筹划已久的“拯救男孩”班会举行了。刘莹结合上述经历片段，以不点名的方式，把男女生在体育锻炼、身体素质、行为习惯、性格爱好等各方面的表现进行了阐释和讲解，“因为都是身边发生的事，男生们都听得津津有味，不时点头。”

Late last December.,The planning of the already a long time"Save the boy"Class meeting held.The combination of these LiuYing experience fragment,Not to call way,The men and women born in physical exercise/Physical quality/behavior/Character hobbies and so on various aspects of the performance for the interpretation and explanation,"For they are what happened around,The boys could hear with relish,Nod from time to time."

　　最后，刘莹和全班男女生一起约法三章：男生在日常生活学习中应该做什么，不能做什么

finally,LiuYing and class men and women living together draw up three chapters:The boy in daily life learning should do??????,Cannot do what

　　1、男生不能轻易哭泣掉眼泪；

1/The boy can't cry tears easily;

　　2、男生不能背后打小报告；

2/The boy can't a snitch;

　　3、遇到争执时，男生要谦让女生，尤其不能起哄、辱骂女生；

3/Meet at,The boy to obey the girl,Particularly can't kick up a fuss/Abuse the girl;

　　4、在做班级清洁卫生，提水、搬课桌等体力活，应该由男生主动抢着做；

4/Doing class clean sanitation,water/Move the desk physical strength live, etc,Should the boy active rob to do;

　　5、放学回家、外出玩耍，若遇到突发意外状况，男生应主动站出来保护女生；

5/Come home from school/Outside to play,If meet sudden accident situation,The boy should be stepped forward to protect the girl;

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男生父亲收到特殊寒假作业 The boy father received special winter vacation homework

每周要陪儿子读书跑步打球 Weekly to accompany son reading play running

　　班会后，对孩子的教育暂告一段落，但与家长的交流才刚刚开始。

After class meeting,In children's education temporary end,But parents and communication has just begun.

　　在期末家长会上，刘莹专门把这场特殊班会的来龙去脉与家长进行了沟通，呼吁家长尤其是男生的父母，一起监督强化对儿子的阳刚化教育，避免出现男孩危机。

In the final parents meeting,LiuYing special to the special class meeting the ins and outs of the communication with parents,Calls for parents, especially the boy's parents,With the enhancement of the supervision of the sons of masculine change education,Avoid boy crisis.

　　“男孩的成长，父亲角色影响至深。”刘莹说，现实普遍状况是，父亲常年奔波在外，辛劳打拼事业，疲惫回家便不愿多说话，把教子的工作全交给妻子，导致儿子偏母亲、偏女性化。“其实，哪怕父亲身处外地，只要有心，不时打个电话回家关照儿子两句，效果都远胜母亲常年唠叨。父亲在儿子心目中，永远是不露自威的偶像。”

"The boy's growth,The father's role to deep influence."LiuYing said,Reality condition is common,Father perennial on the run out,Fight hard career,Home tired and don't want to talk much,The godson work all to his wife,Lead to partial mother son/Partial feminine."In fact,Even if the father in the field,As long as the heart,From time to time to make a phone call home care son two sentences,Effects are better than mother perennial nagging.Father son in mind,Never open since wei images."

　　最后，刘莹给所有家长尤其是男生的父亲们布置了一道寒假作业：工作再忙，每周至少陪儿子读一次书，跑一次步，或打一场球，孩子的作业尽量由父亲督促完成并签字。

finally,LiuYing to all parents, especially the boy's father decorate a winter vacation homework:Again busy work,At least every week with his son to read a book,Run a step,Or play a game,The child's homework by father urged to complete and sign.

　　家长会后，不少男生的父母对刘莹的寒假作业感动不已，有的母亲表示，寒假一定要老公抽空陪儿子一起做作业，下次家长会一定让儿子父亲来。

After the parents,A lot of the boy's parents to LiuYing winter vacation homework deeply touched,Some mother said,Winter vacation must husband time with son do homework together,The next parents must let the son to father.

提水搬桌扫地全由男生完成 Move the water table is complete by the boy finished

主动要求为女生拎包送一程 Active request for girls bag send a path

　　如今，距那场特殊班会和家长会已过去一个月和半个月，班上的男生们有了哪些改变呢？在昨天的放学典礼结束后，重庆晚报记者见证了3年级2班的点点滴滴：

now,From the special class meeting and parents have the past a month and a half month,The boys in the class have what change it?In yesterday's school after the ceremony,Chongqing evening news reporter saw the three grade 2 class of dribs and drabs:

　　作为本学期最后一次大扫除，提水、搬桌子、扫地等重活，全是男生完成，女生只负责擦黑板、擦玻璃；

As the semester last spring cleaning,water/Move the table/Sweep the floor and heavy work,All the boys finished,The girl is responsible only for clean the blackboard/Wipe glass;

　　离校时，因为带回家的书本资料太多，书包格外沉重，并排出校的部分男生主动要求为女生拎包送一程；

When you,Because home books material too much,Particularly heavy bag,Side by side out part of the school boys active request for girls bag send a path;

　　走出校门后，男生们非常绅士地统一走在靠近马路的人行道外侧，把更安全的人行道内侧留给女生；

After getting out of school,The boys very gentleman to reunification walking in the street near the sidewalk,The safer pavement inside for girls;

　　最“冥顽不化”的男权主义者小森（化名），承诺寒假期间少打游戏，多打球；

The most"Die don't turn"The male activists komori(alias),Promise little play games during winter vacation,Play more;

　　男生中短跑最快的许文齐（50米8秒73），向全班最快的“飞毛腿”女生吴佳蔚（50米8秒72）下战书：“寒假锻炼后，两人再来比一比，我要替男同学维权争气。”

The boys in the fastest XuWenJi dash(Fifty meters 8 seconds 73),The fastest to the class"scud"Girl WuJiaWei(Fifty meters 8 seconds 72)afternoon:"Winter vacation after exercise,Two people to compare again,I will fight for male classmate rights."

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四大原因形成男孩危机 Four reasons for forming boy crisis

　　记者注意到，同创国际小学3年级2班出现的“男孩危机”，绝不是一个独立个案。在国内其他城市及至世界许多国家，都有类似的情况出现。

Reporter noticed,Create international primary school class 2 grade 3 appeared"The boy crisis",Is by no means an individual cases.In other cities in China and many countries of the world,All have a similar situation.

　　那么，造成“男孩危机”的原因有哪些？重庆师范大学心理学教授、心理教育专家周小燕根据多年的研究，从四个方面进行了分析。

so,cause"The boy crisis"What are the reasons?Chongqing normal university professor of psychology/Psychological education experts ZhouXiaoYan according to many years of research,From the four aspects are analyzed.

女性大包围圈 Women ring of encirclement

　　周小燕说，现在的孩子一生下来，基本上就进入一个女性大包围圈妈妈、外婆、奶奶、女保姆、幼儿园女老师。在家里，老老少少的女性围着孩子转，孩子能接触到的男性只有父亲一个。在学校，目前我国依然是女老师居多，而女老师的言行，必然带着自身的性别烙印。这都造成男孩缺乏成长的榜样，不知道真正的男性应该是什么样子，难以获得关于男人和男子汉的角色认知。

ZhouXiaoYan said,Now children life down,Basically into a ring of encirclement women mother/grandmother/grandma/Female nurse/Kindergarten female teacher.At home,Young and old women turn around the child,Children can come in contact with a male only father.In the school,At present our country still is a female teacher is in the majority,And the female teacher's words and deeds,Must take its own gender brand.The boy caused the lack of growth model,Don't know the real men should be what look like,Difficult to obtain about man and man role cognition.

男孩成为闺蜜 The boy became, honey

　　“要听话哟，不准跟调皮的娃儿耍”、“你要和成绩好的、斯文的同学交朋友”……几乎所有的家长都会这样告诫孩子。周小燕说，其实男孩基本上天生喜欢玩闹、调皮，喜欢与家长讨厌的这类人交朋友。然而，家长和老师喜欢的斯文、听话学生，女生必然是大多数，孩子自然就都去模仿女生，选择和女生交朋友，“所以现在很多男孩都是女孩们的闺蜜，这不是一个正常的现象。”

"To listen well,No with naughty ran play"/"You want to and good/Sven classmates friends"...Almost all the parents will be warned the children.ZhouXiaoYan said,In fact the boy basically born like horseplay/naughty,Like and parents hate this kind of people to make friends.however,Parents and teachers like sven/Obedient student,The girl is necessarily most,Children are naturally to imitate the girl,Selection and girl friends,"So now a lot of boys are girls's maiden honey,This is not a normal phenomenon."

应试教育惹祸 Takes an exam the education to

　　周小燕说，许多家长曾谈到，现在的应试教育模式，限制了男孩的性别成长需要。应试教育只追求一个标准，那就是成绩。这种教育制度确实更适合善于背诵和表达的女生。比如，男孩子对历史的爱好和广泛的涉猎，但语文是不会考的；再比如，男孩普遍动手能力强，玩具电器拆了再装，但数学是不会考的。不得已，男孩子们只能向女生看齐，学会安静，学会背诵，男孩子本身应具备的素质和优势无从衡量，甚至被完全忽视。

ZhouXiaoYan said,Many parents talked about,Present should try education mode,Limit the boy's gender growth needs.Takes an exam the education only pursues a standard,That is the result.The education system are more suitable for good recite and presentation of girl.Such as,The boy the history of the hobby and extensive dabble,But language is not done;Again for instance,The boy generally practical ability,Toy electric appliance and the reload,But the math is not done.forced,The boys to girls only emulate,Learn to quiet,Learn to recite,The boy itself should have the quality and advantages don't measure,Even was completely ignored.

性格教育混淆 Character education confusion

　　周小燕最后指出，现在国际上有一种新观点，认为男孩女孩可以推行中性化教育，即男孩拥有女孩的性格优势，比如细心、耐心，女孩拥有男孩的性格优势，比如勇敢、果断。这种中性化的人，在就业、人际交往中可能会更有优势。“其实这是一种性格教育，但很多家长甚至社会上一些人士，都把它和性别教育混淆了。”她说，“中性美是指性格的兼容性，而决不是性别的模糊性。男人就应该阳刚，女人就应该柔美。”

ZhouXiaoYan finally pointed out,In the world now has a new point of view,Think that boys and girls can implement neuter education,That boy has girl character advantage,Such as careful/patience,The girl with the boy's character advantage,Such as brave/decisive.The neutralization of the people,In the job/Interpersonal may have more advantages."In fact, this is a kind of character education,But many parents and even some people in the society,It and gender education confusion."She said,"Neutral beauty is refers to the compatibility of character,It is never the fuzziness of gender.The man should masculine,The woman should be gentle."

幼儿阶段 Infant stage

父亲应当经常单独陪儿子玩耍 Father often play with my son shall be separately

　　江北区东海岸幼儿园园长 陈进

Jiangbei east coast kindergarten Chen calls

　　很多家庭习惯于由母亲、外婆或奶奶带孩子，父亲很少参与教育活动，这对男孩来说不利于他们成长为小小男子汉。父亲应常陪儿子玩耍，要有单独与儿子在一起的时间。

Many of the families are used to the mother/Grandmother or grandma take children,Father seldom participate in education activities,The boy is against them grow into the little man.Father often should play with my son,To be alone and son together of the time.

　　如果是单亲家庭或者父亲长期在外，孩子缺乏父亲的榜样引导作用，可以引进男性亲戚、朋友或家庭教师来施加影响，多和男人在一起游戏或干有兴趣的活动，会使孩子受到感染并出现模仿行为。

If it is single parent families or father out for a long time,Children lack of father's example guidance,Can introduce male relatives/Friends or family teachers to influence,And man together games or dry interested activities,Can make children infected and the emergence of modeling behavior.

　　父母要及时鼓励孩子正确的性角色行为。特别对于文弱的男孩，要对他爬山踢球这类活动和其他勇敢行为进行表扬，表扬可以是口头上的，如称赞他是“好小伙子”、“小男子汉”；也可以是物质上的，如奖励他一把冲锋枪。

Parents should encourage children timely correct sex role behavior.Especially for frail boy,He climb to play this kind of activities and other brave behavior of praise,Praise can be lip,Such as praise he is"Good boy"/"A little man";Also can be material,As his reward a submachine gun.

　　此外，让男孩多看、多听一些关于男性英雄的书和故事，对他们的性别角色培养也大有裨益。

In addition,Let the boy see/Listen more about male hero books and stories,To their gender role culture go a long way.

小学阶段 Primary school

男孩调皮捣蛋打打小架很正常 The mischievous boy play the small frame is very normal

　　南岸区珊瑚实验小学老师 杨林

Nanan distract coral experiment elementary school teacher Yang ling

　　男孩子缺乏男子汉气概多是由于家庭原因造成的，如家庭成员大多为女性，日常生活都在女性包围中，平时喜欢跟女孩一起玩等。因此，要鼓励男孩子多参加一些激烈对抗运动和集体性体育运动，可以让他们在男性群体中启发他的性别意识和群体意识。

Boys are lack of masculinity due to family reasons,Such as family members mostly for women,Daily life are surrounded by women,Usually like to play with girl, etc.so,To encourage boys take part in some of the more violent confrontation and collective sports,Can let them in the male population inspired his gender consciousness and group consciousness.

　　另外，家长要对男孩子多宽容，不要动辄就批评他们调皮捣蛋。其实，男孩子打打小架、弄脏扯破衣服、出一身臭汗回家等等，这些对男孩子来说，都是再正常不过的。

In addition,The parents should be more tolerant to boys,Don't easily to criticize them a naughty boy.In fact,The boys play the small frame/Dirty torn clothes/Out of a smelly sweat home and so on,For the boys,All it is more common.

　　对于已有女性化倾向的男孩子，家长和老师只能暗中引导，特别注意不能刻意提示他，说他是“假女娃儿”，因为小学生在成长过程中的可塑性很强，周围人的看法对他们的心理暗示作用也很强，这样容易加重他们的女性化倾向。

As for female tendency of boys,Parents and teachers can only secretly guide,Pay special attention to not deliberately hint he,Said he is"False woman ran",For primary school students in the growth process of plasticity is very strong,The people around them about their psychological suggestion effect is very strong,So easy to add to the feminization tendency.

中学阶段 Middle school

要让男孩初步形成家庭责任感 Let the boy the initial formation of the family sense of responsibility

　　江北区复盛中学老师 邹红

Jiangbei compound filled ZouGong high school teacher

　　在近20年的中学心理辅导经验中，碰到不少男孩子女性化的案例，十几岁的男生戴耳环、翘兰花指，说活、动作扭捏，甚至涂口红、描眉等，看到都让人痛心。调查原因发现，有的是因为父母离异，长年跟母亲一起生活；有的是因为父亲忙于工作，几乎不管孩子，要管也只是关心成绩。这样的家庭氛围，让孩子的性意识缺乏足够的榜样，如果再缺失正确的引导，就容易造成性别畸变。

In the past twenty years of high school counseling experience,Run into a lot of boys feminine case,Teenage boys wear earrings/Become warped LanHuaZhi,Said live/Wriggle action,Even lipstick/MiaoMei etc,See all harrowing.Survey found that reason,Partly because her parents divorced,The elder and mother living together;Partly because father busy with work,Almost regardless of the children,To tube is concerned about performance.Such family atmosphere,Let the child's sex consciousness lack of enough example,If you lack the right guidance,It is easy to cause sex distortion.

　　初中的孩子正处于青春期，性取向的问题必须加以科学引导，对衣着打扮要加以管束，要让男孩子多承担一些家务，甚至参与家庭管理，要让他初步形成家庭责任感，勇于承担责任。

Junior high school children are in adolescence,Sexual orientation problem must be scientific guide,To dress to be over,To make more than boys for some of the housework,Even participate in the family management,Want to let him the initial formation of the family sense of responsibility,Dare to undertake the responsibility.

这样教育避免男孩危机 Such education avoid boy crisis

儿子说放心，我会照顾好你老婆的 Son said trust,I will take good care of your wife

　　“骏骏说，妈妈你别害怕，爸爸今晚不在家，我来陪你，别哭哦。”骏骏的妈妈尹思茹女士昨天在自己的微博上写道：“儿子长大了，懂事了。”

"Jun jun said,Mother you don't be afraid,Father won't be home tonight,I come to accompany you,Don't cry oh."Jun jun's mother YinSiRu lady yesterday in his own micro blog wrote:"Son grew up,wiser."

　　家住九龙坡区滩子口广厦城3单元6楼的骏骏，今年虽然才5岁，但他已经知道，保护妈妈是自己的责任所在。

Live in jiulongpo district beach rebate poor city 3 unit 6 floor of jun jun,Although only 5 years old this year,But he already know,To protect my mother is my responsibility.

　　骏骏的爸爸是一家私企负责人，长期出差，经常留下尹女士和儿子在家。骏骏的床头书桌上，堆放着一套《关于爱的故事》亲情篇绘本，这是爸爸送给他的5岁生日礼物，“每一本都讲述了动物家庭之间的温馨故事，孩子从中懂得了谦让、照顾、关爱家人。”

Jun jun's father is in a private enterprise,Long-term business,Often leave a woman and son at home.Jun jun of the head of a bed on the desk,Piled up a set of[About love story]Family article draw this,This is my father gave his 5 years old birthday gift,"Each book tells the story of animal between the family warmth,The child to know the courtesy/care/Love our family."

　　昨天，爸爸再一次离家到成都出差，临行前，骏骏站在门口一边向爸爸做再见，一边说：“放心吧，我会照顾好你老婆的，你早点回来就是了。”

yesterday,Dad again left home on a business trip to chengdu,Before I leave,Jun jun stood at the door side to dad do goodbye,Side said:"Stop worrying,I will take good care of your wife,You just come back earlier."

　　妈妈的话：对一个智力正常的孩子来说，情商大于智商。只有懂得爱、有责任感的孩子，才是一个真正的男子汉。

Mother's words:For a normal intelligence for children,Emotion quotient (eq) than intelligence quotient (IQ).Only those who know how to love/Has the sense of responsibility of children,Is a real man.

妈妈说家人的昵称，让儿子有压力 Mom said family nickname,Let the son have pressure

　　家住南坪春风绿苑D栋4楼的陈佳颖，2007年生下儿子豪儿。孩子来到世上，成为全家人的掌上宝。“乖幺幺”“狗狗”“红苹果”……这些美好的词汇，全是妈妈、外婆和婆婆对豪儿的昵称。

In the spring breeze NaPing LuYuan D building 4th floor of ChenJiaYing,In 2007, gave birth to son hao son.Children come into the world,Become a family treasure."Good how do""The dog dog""Red apple"...These beautiful words,All mother/Grandmother and her mother-in-law to hao son nickname.

　　这种爱，延伸到了豪儿的其他方面床单是粉色，墙面是黄色，书包是绿色……几乎所有颜色都是暖色调。上学期期末的一天，上学前班儿子回到家后经常叹气。一问才知道，现在连幼儿园打扫卫生的阿姨都叫儿子“红苹果”，让儿子感到了恐慌。

This kind of love,Extended hao son the other side of the bed sheet is pink,Metope is yellow,The schoolbag is green...Almost all color is warm color to move.One day last term,Go to preschool classes son home often sigh.Ask don't know,Now even the kindergarten cleaning aunt call son"Red apple",Let the son feel panic.

　　第二天，陈佳颖带着儿子到幼儿园，当着所有小朋友的面给儿子道歉，“对不起，儿子，我们不该乱给你取昵称，从今天开始，你就是你，你就是曾子豪。”

The second day,ChenJiaYing took his son to the kindergarten,In the presence of all the kid's face to his son to apologize,"I'm sorry,son,We shouldn't be disorderly to take nickname,Beginning from today,You are what you,You are engzi hao."

　　妈妈的话：培养孩子，要从尊重他的人格做起，不要因为父母的爱而忘记孩子的感受。

Mother's words:Cultivate children,From the respect of his personality with,Don't because of his parents' love and forget the feelings of children.