相亲还是网恋，要顺眼的还是要找性格好的？年轻人在找另一半时，到底有啥想法？为什么身边的“剩男、剩女”越来越多？昨天，宁波市总工会公布了《宁波市职工婚恋状况调查报告》，报告调查了全市5000名青年职工。

Blind date or the net love,To like or want to find a good character?The young man was looking for the other half,Really have what idea?Why side"With male/Left female"More and more?yesterday,Ningbo federation of trade unions released[Ningbo worker marriage condition investigation report],Report, the city's 5000 young worker.

结婚途径 Wedding way

大多渴望自由恋爱，但相亲成功率高 Most of the desire to free love,But to a high success rate

　　虽然现在“非诚勿扰”、“百里挑一”电视相亲节目收视率不低，但宁波青年人“找朋友”的途径还是挺传统。近3500人表示，希望能在工作、学习生活中“擦出爱的火花”。

Although it"If you are the one"/"Cream of the crop"TV programs to ratings are not low,But ningbo young people"Find friends"A way or traditional.Nearly 3500 people said,Hope I can in the work/Learning life"Wipe out the spark of love".

　　另有800人左右希望能由领导、同事、长辈介绍，排在第二位。从调查看，希望通过集体相亲活动、网恋、婚介来认识另一半的比例相当低。至于“网络电视栏目等途径相亲”这一选项，几乎没人选择。

Another 800 or so hope to the leadership/colleagues/Elder is introduced,Row in the second.From the survey to see,Hope that through the collective to activities/The net love/Dating service to meet the other half of the proportion is quite low.As for"Network TV columns and the way to skin"This option,Few people choose.

　　不过，另一项“实际渠道”的调查显示，领导同事长辈介绍的效率相当不错。虽然只有800人左右喜欢这一途径，可事实上，有1100人左右曾经以这种方式找到了另一半。分析下来，这是因为这种方式往往比较“靠谱”，条件也较为般配。

but,another"Actual channel"Survey shows that,Leadership colleagues elder introduction of efficiency is quite good.Although only about 800 people like this way,But in fact,There were about 1100 people have been this way to find the other half.Analysis down,This is because this way tend to be"By spectrum",Conditions are more match each other.

　　而3000多人希望在工作学习生活中找到爱情，可最后成功的不到2000人。

And more than 3000 people hope in the work study life find love,But finally successful less than 2000 people.

配偶职业 Spouse professional

超两成人想找公务员结婚 Super two adults want to find marriage civil servants

　　“从调查看，大多数职工更看重对象的性格气质和内在涵养。”工作人员这样总结。

"From the survey to see,Most of the workers pay more attention to the object character temperament and inner self-restraint."Staff concluded.

　　据统计，择偶最在乎的方面依次排序分别是性格气质（占31.2%）、孝顺老人（占13.5%）、经济条件（占13%）、外表外貌（占10%）、职业收入（占8.9%）、家庭背景（占8.6%）、知识内涵（占7.8%）、父母意见（占4%）。

According to the statistics,The most care about aspects of a sort in turn were character and temperament(Accounted for 31.2%)/Filial piety the old man(Accounted for 13.5%)/Economic conditions(13%)/Appearance appearance(10%)/Professional income(8.9%)/Family background(8.6%)/Knowledge connotation(7.8%)/Parents opinion(4%).

　　单从职业看，公务员最受欢迎。23.2%的受调查人员希望自己的配偶是公务员。另外，19.8%希望是教师，选择“企事业管理人员和医生”的各占16%左右。25%不到的人希望配偶是技术人员、工人等其他职业。

Single from professional look,Civil servants of the most popular.23.2% of the respondents researchers hoped that your partner is civil servants.In addition,19.8% hope is a teacher,choose"Business management personnel and the doctor"The 16% or so.Less than 25% of the people hope to spouse is technical personnel/Workers and other professional.

　　从调查结果来看，青年职工对恋爱、婚姻、家庭的看法及态度总体上是积极正面的。43%的职工谈恋爱的目的是为了结婚，38.7%的职工谈恋爱的原因是双方情投意合，40.1%的职工认为婚姻应该建立在爱情和经济共同的基础上，36.9%的职工认为婚姻就是与自己心爱的人一起创造幸福生活。

From the results of the survey to see,Young worker to love/marriage/Family views and attitudes are generally positive.43% of the workers in the fall in love of purpose is to get married,38.7% of the workers in the fall in love of reason is the soul,40.1% of the workers think that marriage should be based on love and economic common basis,36.9% of the workers think that marriage is and his beloved people together to create a happy life.

　　但是，仍然有7.7%的职工谈恋爱是出于空虚寂寞或觉得单身没面子，10.5%的职工认为婚姻就是找个人过日子，6.5%的职工认为婚姻就是爱情的坟墓。

but,There are still 7.7% of the workers in the fall in love is from empty lonely or feel single didn't face,10.5% of the workers think that marriage is to look for individual life,6.5% of the workers think that marriage is the grave of love.

结婚阻碍 Married obstacles

社会压力大，让恋爱有点难 Social pressure big,Let love a little difficult

　　为什么“剩男、剩女”越来越多？问卷调查结果统计，青年职工认为影响恋爱的主要障碍前三位分别是社交圈子太窄、工作太忙、自身要求太高。

why"With male/Left female"More and more?Questionnaire survey statistics,Young worker believe that the impact of the main obstacles in love before the three were social circle is too narrow/Work too busy/Itself is too demanding.

　　结婚中遇到的主要困难前三位分别是没有房子车子、感情不稳定、没有稳定职业。有不少职工把“父母反对”作为结婚中遇到的主要困难。实际上，在“自己要求太高”、“文化差异”等因素中，也受到了很多家庭因素的影响。

Get married in the top three major difficulties were no houses and cars/Emotional instability/No stable career.There are many worker put"Parents against"As a wedding in the main difficulties.In fact,in"Myself too much"/"Cultural differences"Etc factors,A lot of families are the influence of the factors.

　　“社会竞争压力上升挤压青年职工的交友空间。”市总工会负责这项调查的工作人员分析，婚恋需求旺盛和社会压力上升的矛盾，使得青年男女“鱼和熊掌”难以兼得。为了获取更多发展机会和上升空间，往往要挤占更多个人闲暇时间，以更多精力专注于工作、学习，致力于事业发展，个人成长进步。其直接结果是，恋爱社交、婚姻家庭为工作事业让路。有些青年职工将事业和婚姻对立起来，顾此失彼，错失婚恋黄金期。

"Social competition pressure rise extrusion young worker dating space."City federation of trade unions is responsible for the survey staff analysis,Marriage demand and social pressure rise contradictions,Makes young men and women"Fish and bear's paw"Seldom meet together.In order to obtain more development opportunities and rise space,Tend to occupy more personal time,With more energy to concentrate on work/learning,Commitment to the business development,Personal growth progress.The direct result is,Love social/Marriage and family to make way for work.Some young worker will oppose career and marriage,attend,Miss marriage gold period.

　　市总工会女工部部长齐向力表示，今后全市范围内将建立一支以基层工会主席、女工干部为责任人的红娘队伍，帮助解决单身青年职工婚恋问题。单身男女职工还可以加入“51牵手网”（www.12351.gov.cn），这是市总工会为全市单身男女职工搭建的另一座鹊桥，让青年男女相互了解。

City federation of trade unions NvGongBu minister qi to force said,In the future the range will build a team of the basic-level trade union chairman/Women cadres for the red team,Help solve single young worker marriage problems.Single men and women workers can also join"51 in hand and"(www.12351.gov.cn),This is the city federation of trade unions for the single men and women workers built another bridge,Let the young men and women to get to know each other.