楚天金报讯 图为：压岁钱多了，快乐却少了（记者刘蔚丹摄） Chutian 27 - the picture shows:Much more money,Less happy(Reporter LiuWeiDan perturbation)

　　本报记者赵莉

Our reporter Zhao Li

　　中国的春节，一大家子人围坐一桌吃团年饭，孩子们的成绩似乎成了必议话题；下了饭桌，孩子和家长又陷入一场压岁钱归属的暗战。连日来，为在这两个永恒的新年话题中抢得“先手”，孩子们上网求助高人，家长们也在群里切磋取经。

The Chinese New Year,A big family sitting around a table to eat reunion dinner,Children's performance seems to be a topic;Under the table,Children and parents and money belong in a dark war.For several days,As the eternal topic in the New Year in the two grab"Julio cruz",The children get to the Internet for help,Parents also play in a group of buddhist scriptures.

　　

第一回合 成绩、排名问题 The first round of performance/Ranking problem

　　

孩子：最怕亲戚们横向比较 The child:The most afraid of relatives transverse comparison

　　“七大姑八大姨的外甥是年级前十名呢，我期末班上二十好几。求高人化解过年关”……放寒假以来，百度、猫扑等贴吧、论坛中，类似的求助帖比比皆是，求助人有中小学生，也有大学生。

"Extended/priest's nephew is top grade,I'm at the end of the class is twenty.Strives for the superior resolve before year end"……Since the winter vacation,baidu/Mop and so on tieba/In the BBS,A similar turn post everywhere,QiuZhuRen have primary and secondary school students,There are college student.

　　有网友称，过年亲戚问成绩就像北京人问“你吃了吗”一样，并非真正关注于你的绝对分数，因此即使没考好也无所谓。还有网友支招，尽量用“还行”、“不孬”等字眼模糊处理；问到这个时，马上装手机响了，一边接一边往外走，躲过去就好了……“成绩不好不要紧，关键是交代的态度要好，必要时要颤声表示痛改前非，这样不但不会没面子，如若演得好，说不定还能得更多的压岁钱。”网友支出的损招不少，“如果实在不好交代，话题开始后，赶紧去厕所呆到散席吧，注意提前吃饱点！”

Some netizens said,New Year's day relatives grades like Peking man asked"Did you eat?"As well as,Is not really focused on your absolute scores,So even if it doesn't matter didn't test good.Another netizen action,As far as possible with"ok"/"Is not good"Words such as fuzzy processing;When asked about this,Immediately load cell phone rang,Side by side go toward outside walk,Avoid go well……"Bad grades don't worry,The key is confessed attitude is better,When necessary to trill said recognition,Such not only won't lose face,If play well,Still perhaps can get more money."Spending by the loss of many,"If it is no good,After the start of topic,Go to the toilet stay to SanXi,Pay attention to eat satisfied point in advance!"

　　

家长：偏有孩子成绩好的爱问 parents:Have children result good to ask

　　网友“啊呸呸”在武汉一家长论坛中发帖讲述他的“不幸”：小时候成绩不好，但过年时总被问起成绩排名；如今自己的孩子上学了，这一话题还在继续。“我童年的心理阴影，还在蔓延。”该网友表示，孩子读的虽是知名的育才小学，但成绩并不好，每每被问起分数，他便觉得脸上挂不住，但偏偏有孩子成绩好的亲戚爱问。

Net friend"Ah pei pei"In wuhan, a BBS post telling his parents"unfortunately":When I was young bad grades,But always asked about scores ranking when Chinese New Year;Their children go to school today,The discussion continues."My childhood psychological shadows,Is still spreading."The netizen said,Children to read is well-known yucai primary school,But the result is not good,When asked about scores,He would feel face,But must have child achievement good relatives to ask.

　　感同身受的家长们开始传授经验：有的建议模糊处理，如只说孩子进步了多少名、哪一科考得最好；还有的建议转移话题，问到自家孩子时，连忙提议举杯……

Parents begin to teach experience of empathy:Some Suggestions,How many names such as only child said/Which the best itself;Change the subject and suggestion,When asked about their own children,Hastened to propose a toast……

　　

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往孩子开心的地方说 The way to the place children happy said

　　过年要开心，既然问成绩和排名令家长孩子都伤神，亲戚间不如提前做个约定，没有必要讨论孩子的成绩。如果孩子学习上确实出了问题，父母可以和孩子一起分析原因，没有必要拿到过年的聚会上去讨论，增加心理负担。

New Year's day is happy,Parents are children are frustrating since q scores and ranking,A pact between relatives than in advance,There is no need to discuss the child's grades.If children learn to do out of the question,Parents can and children together analysis reasons,There is no need to get New Year's day of meetings to discuss,Increase the psychological burden.

　　团聚时，关乎孩子们的话题多着呢，想吃什么想玩什么，看了什么电影玩了什么游戏，往孩子开心的地方说，让他们过个安心年。没得问了，就夸孩子长高了、俏皮了、懂事了！

When they were reunited,A lot about the children topic,What do you want to play what you want to eat,What movies to play what game,The way to the place children happy said,Let them have a peace of mind.Don't have to ask,I will boast children grow taller/Nifty and the/Understand the!

　　

第二回合 压岁钱之争 The second round of New Year's money

　　

孩子：压岁钱不想被没收 The child:New Year's money don't want to be confiscated

　　家长强行拿走孩子的压岁钱犯法吗？压岁钱总被家长拿走，怎么办？我每年有五千多压岁钱呢，不想被没收！怎么和家长理论……百度上，类似的提问超过数百条，压岁钱的归属也是个“历史问题”。

Parents forced to take children lucky money breaking the law?New Year's money always be parents to take away,What to do?I have a year more than five thousand New Year's money,Don't want to be confiscated!How to and parents theory……On baidu,More than hundreds of similar questions,Home is a New Year's money"Historical issues".

　　纵观网友们的建言，可以看出孩子们在这个问题上一直处于弱势，似乎没有破解的办法。网友们多半表示“胳膊掰不过大腿”“吃爹妈的，在你经济未独立前还是上交为好”“表现得积极点，求妈妈多分几块钱”。

Throughout most of the netizens' recommendations,As you can see the children on this issue has been weak,There seems to be no crack.Most netizens said"Arm break but the thigh""Eat, dad,In you before the economy is not independent or submit as well""Act positive,O mother over a few dollars".

　　

家长：孩子不上交让人被动 parents:Children not to make people passive

　　网络上也有家长“吐槽”称，孩子长大了，收了长辈的压岁钱就不愿意再交出来，这让家长有点被动：一是别人给了孩子压岁钱家长不知道，给了多少也不清楚；二是家长要从家里拿出更多的钱给亲友家孩子，增加了负担。该家长于是想到借网友智慧，说服孩子上交压岁钱。

There are also parents network"Vomit slot"According to,Children grow up,The lucky money from elders do not want to pay out,It gives parents a bit passive:One is the other people give children lucky money parents don't know,To how many don't know;Second, the parents should spend more money to relatives and friends from home baby,Increase the burden.The parents and the thought of borrow wisdom,Persuading children to hand in money.

　　网友“北固山下几多愁”表示，还是要说服孩子，带着他存起来，教育他不要乱花钱，有必要让孩子知道家长同样在给出压岁钱。平时可以带着孩子理财，让他知道钱来得不容易。还有网友建议家长适当提高给孩子的压岁钱提成比例，鼓励孩子主动上交。

Net friend"North mountain much sorrow"said,Or to persuade kids,With his savings,He don't want disorderly spend money education,It is necessary to let the children know that parents in the same given lucky money.At ordinary times can take their children money,Let him know that money is not easy to come.Some netizens suggested that parents more money to give children the percentage commission,Encourage children to actively.

　　

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呼吁压岁钱回归原味 Calls for a New Year's money to return to original

　　饱含祝福之意的压岁钱有点变质了，长辈适当地给点图个吉利、表达关爱就行了，但现在它却承载了太多的人情世故，家长有压力，孩子不理解。

The full blessings of New Year's money is a little bad,Elders give point figure a geely appropriately/To express love,But now it is carrying too much worldly wisdom,Parents have pressure,Children don't understand.

　　呼吁原味的压岁钱回归：长辈递来的红包里有几块钱，这可不用上交，这全是自己的，压在枕头下、放在贴身的口袋里，心里盘算着可以将哪些心爱之物收入囊中，一点点钱还须省着花。

Calls for a plain lucky money return:An older to have a few dollars in your red envelope,This can need not pay,This is all your own,Pressure under the pillow/In the close-fitting pocket,Calculating the thing in the world what love can be,Still must save a little money to spend.