郑州一家幼儿园近日举行了一场100多名孩子参加的 “集体婚礼”。据媒体报道，小“新郎”们单膝跪地，给小“新娘”戴上戒指。不少家长也在“婚礼”现场。

Zhengzhou a kindergarten recently held a more than 100 children take part in "The collective wedding".According to media reports,small"The groom"They knelt to,For small"The bride"Put a ring on it.Many parents are also"The wedding"The scene.

　　很多人在童年时玩过“过家家”游戏。教育学中有一种方式叫角色体验，“今天我当天父母”、“假如你当一天校长”之类的教育活动也与“过家家”异曲同工。这场幼儿“集体婚礼”的角色体验是否得当，引发了各方争议。

Many people played in childhood"Play house"The game.There is a way called role experience in education,"Today my parents the day"/"If you one day when the headmaster"With such education activities as"Play house"same.The young children"The collective wedding"The role of experience is proper,Cause the parties to the dispute.

“集体婚礼”致孩子“玩”婚姻？ "The collective wedding"To a child"To play with"marriage?

　　据媒体报道，郑州这家幼儿园的园长对“集体婚礼”的解释是“3至6岁的孩子会进入‘婚姻敏感期’，这正是因势利导、给他们灌输健康婚姻观的好机会。”有家长也对记者表示，“让孩子体验一下结婚的感觉，消除好奇心，也是一种良好的成长教育。”

According to media reports,Zhengzhou director of the kindergarten"The collective wedding"The explanation is that the"3 to 6 years old children will enter‘Marriage sensitive period’,This is as follows/Good chance to give they instill healthy marriage."Parents also told reporters,"Let your child experience the feeling of marriage,Eliminate the curiosity,Education is also a kind of good growth."

　　北京师范大学教育课程研究中心教研员、心理督导师姜辉丽认同3至6岁是孩子形成性别意识和性别认同重要时期的观点。但她认为，“集体婚礼”方式有些草率，做法有点偏激。“关注孩子心理健康是件很伟大的事，教育确实需要有魄力和敢于实践的精神，但并不代表冲动和噱头，尤其是关系到孩子一生健康成长的问题，如果能多一些耐心和润物无声的做法更好。”

Beijing normal university education curriculum research center of research staff/Psychological supervision Jiang Huili identity is 3 to 6 years old children form a view during an important period of gender awareness and gender identity.But she thinks,"The collective wedding"Way too,Practice a bit radical."Pay attention to children's mental health is a great thing,Education does need to have the spirit of boldness and dare to practice,It doesn't mean impulse and stunt,Especially the issue relates to the healthy growth of children's life,If you can some more patience and quiet better."

　　网友“腮红”说：“婚姻是一个人成长中必经的一个过程，但婚姻却不是儿戏，不是‘走走过场’就能天长地久的。对幼儿性教育、婚姻教育，不能‘揠苗助长’，这既刺激了孩子的主观愿望，也等于是把成人化的思维‘嫁接’到孩子的头脑中，让他们过早地‘玩’婚姻游戏。”

Net friend"Cheek is red"said:"Marriage is a person growing up in a process of shaping,But marriage is not child's play,Is not a‘Going through the motions’Can last forever.On children's sex education/Marriage education,Can't‘Grow up’,This not only stimulate the child's subjective desire,Is tantamount to the adult mind‘grafting’To the child's mind,Let them prematurely‘To play with’The marriage game."

　　《中华人民共和国人口与计划生育法》第十三条中写道：学校应当在学生中，以符合受教育者特征的适当方式，有计划地开展生理卫生教育、青春期教育或者性健康教育。那么，“集体婚礼”的方式是否是学校普及儿童性教育的最佳方式呢？

[Population and family planning law of the People's Republic of China]Article 13 the wrote:The school should be among the students,In accordance with characteristics of educatees appropriate way,To carry out physical hygiene education in a planned way/Puberty education or sexual health education.then,"The collective wedding"Way is the best way to popularize child sex education?

　　性教育专家、华中师范大学彭晓辉教授对这种方式并不赞成。“婚礼是一个严肃而正式的事情，不能游戏的，既然举行的严肃的仪式，就得要履行。显然，这种“婚礼”是不可能履行的，这对孩子的品格教育是非常有害的，因为这会给孩子一个印象：严肃的事情也是可以游戏和不作数的。”彭晓辉说。

Sex education experts/Central China normal university and professor Peng Xiaohui don't approve of this way."Marriage is a serious and formal,Can't game,Since held a solemn ceremony,Will have to perform.clearly,This kind of"The wedding"Is impossible to perform,This character education is very harmful to the child,Because it can give the child a impression:Serious matter is also can play and do not count."Peng Xiaohui said.

成人不必惊扰孩子的认知过程 Adults don't have to drive children's cognitive process

　　2011年北京市推出中小学性教育教材《成长的脚步》，在试点学校试用。这部教材因涉及性交等内容和卡通图片，引起社会关注。有人称“尺度过大”。联系到郑州这家幼儿园“集体婚礼”的做法，对幼儿的性教育应当怎样界定和把握尺度？

2011 Beijing primary and secondary school education teaching materials[The footsteps of growth],In the pilot schools to try.The textbook because of content such as sex and cartoon pictures,Cause social concern.Some say"Scale is too large".Contact to the kindergarten of zhengzhou"The collective wedding"The practice of,For young children's sex education should be how to define and to grasp the scale?

　　中国青少年研究中心副主任、研究员孙云晓指出，3至6岁幼儿的确处于“婚姻敏感期”，对很多问题比较好奇。但这是儿童的一种自发行为，与成人的引导行为是不同的。在儿童的世界里，成人是权威性的，所以成人一旦给予儿童自发的行为这样的一种仪式，就会刺激、强化这种认识，反而会帮倒忙。

Deputy director of the China youth and children research center/Researcher sun pointed out,In 3 to 6 year olds"Marriage sensitive period",Curious to many problems.But it is a spontaneous behavior of children,And adult guidance behavior is different.In the world of children,Adults are authoritative,So once adults give children's spontaneous act such a ceremony,Will stimulate/Strengthen the understanding,It will help to.

　　“对于儿童这种自发行为一方面应该尊重、理解，不要惊扰与呵斥，另一方面，也不要以成年人的方式取代儿童的方式，这样反而使其世俗化。”孙云晓说。

"This spontaneous behavior on the one hand, should respect for children/To understand,Do not disturb and yelling,On the other hand,Also don't replace the children in the form of adults,This makes the secularization."Sun said.

　　而英国一家育儿网站针对1377人所做的调查则发现，将近一半(49.2%)的家长认为，8至12岁是开始性教育的理想阶段。大多数的家长认为，孩子八岁大的时候就应该开始学习性教育和感情关系。

In Britain a parenting website survey of 1377 people found,Nearly half of(49.2%)The parents think,8 to 12 years old is an ideal stage to start sex education.Most parents think,Children should start learning when I was eight years old education and relationships.

　　彭晓辉指出，儿童的性教育的主要内容应是：性别角色教育(其中要贯彻性别平等和性多数与性少数平等的思想)、性卫生保健教育和性安全教育，爱家人、爱邻居爱他人的教育，在性别教育中，当然是男孩当男孩教养，女孩当女孩去教养。但是，也要规避性多数和男权社会对于“性别模式(性别规范)”的带有僵化和歧视性的性别内容。此外，还要教导孩子尊重女性。 (新华网记者 姜春媛)

Peng Xiaohui pointed out,The main content of children's sex education should be:Gender roles education(Which will implement gender equality and sexual majority and minority equality thoughts)/Sexual health education and safety education,Love my family/Love your neighbor love the education of others,In the gender education,Boy boy as breeding, of course,Girl when the girl to go to breeding.but,Also want to avoid most and in the patriarchal society"Gender schema(Gender norms)"The gender content with rigidity and discriminatory.In addition,Also teach your child to respect women. (Xinhua Jiang Chunyuan)