“让孩子觉得自己什么都不行，学习不行，长相不行，交际不行，干家务不行……总之，没有行的地方。”

"Let the children feel what all not line,Learn can't,Looks like no,No communication,Not do housework...All in all,Is not the place."

　　“经常拿比他‘行’的人刺激他，例如把‘看人家某某，从不让父母操心’挂在嘴边。”

"He often vophsi‘line’To stimulate him,Such as the‘See family so-and-so,Never let parents worry about’Hang in the mouth."

　　“把自己塑造成牺牲者的形象，时不时告诉孩子，自从有了他，你连电影也没看过，为他操碎了心，使孩子产生罪恶感从而自暴自弃。”

"Put yourself into image for the victims,Tell children from time to time,Since have he,You even haven't seen movie,Fuck broken heart for him,Make the child produces guilt to abandon."

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　　可怜天下父母心，没有一个人愿意毁掉自己的孩子。可帖子里的话，怎么听着这么耳熟？难怪网友踊跃留言，称自己“全部中枪”。

Pitiful world parents heart,No one is willing to destroy his own child.Can post,How to listen is so familiar?No wonder netizens to leave a message,According to your"All of a gun".

　　是的，就是这些常常在我们身边响起的话，也许是因为跟自家孩子“有啥说啥”，也许是关键时候恨铁不成钢，也许是急于树立家长权威，也许是以谦虚的名义，当着外人的面以示贬低……作为父母，不管是有意识的“激将法”，还是无意中的“说溜了嘴”，初衷本是好的，但是因为方法不当，反而容易收到“毁人”的效果。

yes,It is these rings often around us,Maybe it is because their own children"Have what say what",Hate iron not Angle may be the right time,May be eager to establish the authority of parents,Maybe in the name of modesty,To diminish in the presence of outsiders...As a parent,Whether it is conscious"challenging",Or not in the"Slip of the tongue",Original intention is good,But because of improper way,But easy to receive"Destroyed by people"The effect of.

　　不难发现，“7招”有一个共同点，就是对孩子自尊心、自信心的打击。如果孩子得不到尊重，谈何尊重别人呢？如果不被信任，如何学会担当呢？如果总也比不上“别人家孩子”，成长的希望又在哪儿呢？好孩子是夸出来的，这句话也许不完全对，但传达的理念值得思考：你发现了孩子的闪光点，闪光点才有可能成燎原之势；如果只盯着缺点，那孩子也容易淹没在缺点之中。

It's not hard to find,"7 for"Have one thing in common,Is the pride of their child/Confidence in the fight.If the children don't get respect,Talk about what respect?If you don't be trusted,How to learn to bear?If the total is no match"Someone's home children",Where is the hope of growing up?Good boy is praised,This sentence may not be entirely,But convey ideas worth thinking about:You find the best in the child,Sparkle is likely to start a prairie fire;If only looked at faults,The child is easy to drown in the shortcomings.

　　《如何毁掉你的孩子》告诉我们的，不是怎样“毁人”，而是提醒诸位家长，在孩子被“毁”前，改改教育孩子的方法。（张 烁）

[How to ruin your children]Tell us the,What is not"Destroyed by people",But remind you parents,In the child was"destroyed"Prior to the,Change education child's way.(Zhang shuo)