8岁儿子的无理要求一旦被拒绝，当妈妈的就要“挨”儿子的打。昨日，福州林女士致电本报热线968111哭诉，离婚后6岁的儿子跟了爸爸，不久前，她将孩子接回身边，发现原本老实胆小的儿子就像变了个人，对她稍有不满就拳打脚踢。“我该怎样教育这样的孩子？”电话中，林女士充满了无奈与困惑。

Once rejected eight year old son's unreasonable demands,When the mother's will"get"Son of the play.yesterday,Fuzhou Lin cry call our hotline 968111,After the divorce with the father, the son of 6 years old,Not long ago,She will be back around children,Son was found honesty timid like changed people,For her little dissatisfaction with kicks and blows."I should how to education child?"On the phone,Ms. Lin is full of helpless and confused.

儿子嚷嚷：“我打死你” Son rang rang:"I killed you"

　　林女士说，儿子明明（化名）从前夫处接回来没两天，就吵着要买玩具，一开始，她都满足了儿子的要求。但明明对玩具越来越“贪得无厌”，有一次被她拒绝后，儿子不仅赖在天桥上不走，还恶狠狠地瞪着眼睛对她说：“看来小孩就是要对大人来硬的才行！”当她扳住明明的肩膀，问这话是哪里学来的时，明明强硬地说：“爸爸教我做人心要狠些！”此后，儿子的暴力倾向越发明显。如今儿子打她似乎成了家常便饭，有时口中还嚷嚷着“我打死你，打死你”，而她觉得对孩子有亏欠，不知该如何对孩子“下手”。

Ms. Lin said,Son Ming Ming(Not his real name)From her ex-husband didn't fetch back two days,Noisy toys to buy,At the beginning,She has meet the requirements of the son.But for toys more and more obviously"greed",Once after she refused to,Son is not only depend on not to walk on the bridge,Also bad to ruthlessly stare eyes told her:"It seems children is to hard for adults to just go!"When she live plainly on the shoulder,What this is where to learn,Yao said forcefully:"Dad taught me to do the heart to malicious!"Since then,Son of violence tend to be more obvious.Now call her son seems to have become commonplace,Sometimes the mouth was still screaming"I killed you,Killing you",And she felt is owed for children,I don't know how to children"Laid hands on him".

　　“孩子的暴力是他爸爸和奥特曼一起教给他的。”林女士认为，明明的父亲对孩子疏于管教，常让孩子看奥特曼类型的动画片，日积月累，明明对奥特曼的暴力动作就充满了崇拜，还将暴力带到了生活中。

"The violence children is his father taught him together with Ottoman."Ms. Lin think,Clearly the father to the child neglect of discipline,Often let their children watch ultraman type of animation,Accumulate over a long period,Clearly the violent action is full of admiration for the Ottoman,Violence will also be brought to life.

家长切勿因暴制暴 Parents do not because of violence

　　省阅读协会传统文化促进会副秘书长、有二十余年幼教及教育管理经验的毛慧青老师认为，对这样的孩子，家长不能“以暴制暴”。“不要在烦躁的时候处理孩子的问题，待自己冷静下来，再和孩子沟通。告诉孩子，如果对伙伴感到生气了，要清楚地告诉对方，他做了什么使你生气，而不是用暴力解决。”毛老师说，遇到明明这类打妈妈比较严重的问题时，家长要及时反思家庭环境和教育的方式。因为小学学龄前的孩子学习的主要形式是模仿，家长尤其要做好榜样。另外，家长还要给孩子提供高质量的书籍，远离有暴力情节的影视节目、动画片和书籍。(东南网-海峡都市报 记者 何旌 实习生 陈聚星）

Traditional culture promotion association deputy secretary-general of the provincial reading association/With more than 20 years of preschool education and education management experience Mao Huiqing teachers think,To such children,Parents can't"Violence with violence"."Don't be agitated when dealing with children,Stay calm down myself,Communicating with your child again.Tell the children,If the partner is angry,Want to clear tell each other,What did he do to make you angry,Rather than use violence to solve."The teacher said MAO,Encounter this kind of play obviously she was serious problem,Parents should timely reflection of family environment and education method.Because the main form of pre-school children learning is imitation,Parents should be role models especially.In addition,Parents also need to provide the high quality books,Stay away from violent plot of the film and television programming/Animated films and books.(Net - strait southeast of metropolis daily reporter Chen Juxing continuous intern)