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　　一般来说，孩子惧怕老师，是因为不能忍受老师对自己冷淡的态度，或不能接受老师对自己的批评而与老师产生的一种抵触情绪。特别是在我国目前的各种教育环境里，许多老师都不能够常常以肯定的态度、欣赏的眼光和鼓励的言语对待学生，而是常常用否定的态度、挑剔的眼光和批评的言语对待学生，因此造成孩子对老师的惧怕，产生抵触情绪。而这种负面的情绪直接影响孩子的学习兴趣和学习效率，应该引起老师和家长的重视。那么作为家长如何来帮助孩子克服这种惧怕心理，缓解孩子对老师的抵触情绪呢？

In general,Children afraid of the teacher,Because can't put up with the teacher about their indifferent attitude,Or can't accept the teacher criticism of themselves and the teacher have a backlash.Especially in our country at present the various education environment,Many teachers can not always with positive attitude/Appreciate the vision and words of encouragement to students,But often with a negative attitude/Treat students words of criticism and critical eye,So their children is afraid of the teacher,Produce resistance.And this kind of negative emotions directly affect a child's learning interest and learning efficiency,Should cause the attention of teachers and parents.So as the parents how to help children overcome the fear psychology,Relief to the teacher's resistance?

让孩子说出来 Let children speak out

　　当家长发现孩子对老师有抵触情绪时，首先要给孩子创造一种宽松的、自由的发表意见的心理氛围，使孩子毫不隐瞒地讲清楚老师批评自己的原因以及对自己的态度和自己接受批评时的心情。家长一方面要认真听取孩子对事情的全部经过的陈述，以及孩子对老师批评和处理意见的看法。另一方面要冷静分析孩子产生抵触心理的主要原因，并采取适宜的方法予以解决。如果是属于孩子认识偏激或行为错误时，家长要积极引导，如果是属于老师处理问题存在片面性或有失误时，家长要积极主动与老师交换意见，帮助老师弥补教育过程的疏忽和过失，以化解孩子的抵触心理，从而达到真正教育孩子的目的。

When the parents found that children have a resistance to the teacher,First of all to give children to create a loose/Psychological atmosphere of freedom of opinion,Children clear the teacher to criticize his own reasons and for his attitude and his own mood to accept criticism.Parents on the one hand, listen to the child in the whole story,And the child views on teacher criticism and processing opinion.On the other hand, to calm analysis the main reasons for the resistance,And adopt appropriate methods to solve.If children know belongs to extreme errors or behavior,Parents should actively guide,If it is to belong to the teacher had made a mistake in existence one-sidedness or processing problems,Parents should actively exchange views with the teacher,Help the teacher to make up for negligence and fault in the process of education,To solve the child's resistance,To achieve the goal of true education child.

培养孩子的同理心 Cultivate children's empathy

　　同理心即让孩子学会站在他人的角度考虑问题和处理问题，创造情景让孩子亲身体会老师的难处，并在这个过程中改善师生间的关系，减轻或避免孩子对老师的抵触情绪。切忌在没搞清事实真相之前就简单粗暴地批评孩子或对老师表示不满。如有的家长一听说孩子在学校不听老师的话或顶撞老师，就不分青红皂白给孩子一顿训斥，也不给孩子讲明道理。这既不能使孩子从中受到教育，也不能缓解师生间的矛盾，还增加孩子对老师的抵触情绪；也有的家长对孩子一向很溺爱，不能客观地看待孩子，觉得孩子什么都好，一旦孩子对老师有意见，就不加思索地指责老师。家长这种不经调查研究、草率表态，一味地批评老师的做法，将助长孩子对老师的抵触情绪，并对孩子的人格形成产生极坏的负面影响。

Empathy is lets the child learn to stand in others point of view and deal with the problems,Create scene teacher let children experience difficulty,And in the process, the relationship between teachers and students,Reduce or avoid the child to the teacher's resistance.Before didn't find out the truth of avoid by all means is simple and crude to criticize children or dissatisfied with the teacher said.If some parents a heard that children don't listen to your teacher or contradict the teacher in school,And indiscriminate giving the child a reprimand,Don't give the child to reason.This can not make children get the education,Can ease the contradiction between teachers and students,Also increase the child to the teacher's resistance;Some parents of children always so dote on,Can't objectively look at the children,Think that children what all good,Once children have any questions on the teacher,Is too easy to blame the teacher.Parents that without investigation and study/Summary statement,Criticized the teacher practice blindly,To encourage children to the teacher's resistance,To the child's personality and form a very bad negative effect.

多找老师谈谈 Talk to the teacher

　　家长要了解孩子在学校的表现，老师也要了解孩子在家中的行为，这对家长和老师共同教育孩子、避免孩子对老师产生抵触情绪是极其重要的。如：小学一年级的小刚在课堂上纪律比较差，不仅小动作多，而且还影响其他同学听课。老师经常批评他，甚至让他站着听课。久了，小刚对老师产生抵触情绪，在课堂的表现越来越糟糕，下课还躲着老师。老师找小刚的父母谈话，反映小刚在学校违纪的情况，小刚的父母不敢相信这是真的。因为小刚平日在家里是很乖的，特别害怕他的爸爸，只要他爸爸在家里，他都不敢大声说话。胆子这么小的孩子怎么会在课堂上捣乱纪律呢？通过小刚这件事，小刚的父母意识到由于他们在家里过分约束了小刚的行为，使他不能像其他孩子一样舒展自己的四肢，自由表达自己的思想，所以他希望在学校里得到释放，以致造成经常违反纪律的现象。小刚的老师也意识到自己由于不了解小刚的实际情况，不是在满足小刚的需要的基础上对小刚提出要求，而只一味地要求小刚像其他同学一样遵守纪律，结果适得其反。发现问题以后，小刚的父母与老师积极配合，使小刚改变了不遵守纪律的坏习惯。

Parents should understand children's performance at school,The teacher also want to understand the behavior of their children at home,The parents and the teacher education child together/Avoid children produce resistance to the teacher is extremely important.Such as the:Primary school in grade one of xiao gang with poor discipline in the classroom,Not only are there more!,But other students listen to the teacher.The teacher often criticize him,Even he stood listening.For a long time,Xiao gang to the teacher,In the classroom performance is getting worse,Also hide the teacher class.The teacher talk to xiao gang's parents,Reflect the xiao gang in the case of school discipline,Xiao gang's parents couldn't believe it's true.Because of xiao gang daily at home is very good,Especially afraid of his father,As long as his father at home,He didn't dare speak loudly.Courage so small children how can act up in class discipline?By xiao gang in this matter,Xiao gang's parents realized due to their excessively constraints the behavior of xiao gang at home,That he could not stretch their arms and legs like the other children,Freedom to express their thoughts,So he wants to get his release in the school,As a result causes often violate discipline phenomenon.Xiao gang's teachers are aware of their own because don't know the actual situation of xiao gang,Not on the basis of meet the needs of the xiao gang to xiao gang request,And just like other students asked xiao gang blindly obey the discipline,The results backfire.After found the problem,Xiao gang's actively cooperate with parents and teachers,Make xiao gang changed the bad habit of don't obey the discipline.

　　如果让孩子对学习感兴趣，并保持较高的学习效率，就必须尽可能避免孩子由于对老师的抵触情绪而产生的不愉快学习体验。同时，要让孩子懂得，对老师的尊重并不等于认为老师做得都对，对老师有意见就应该向老师提出来，只是需要讲究一些策略，最好是在事后找老师谈心，说明实情，消除误会。这既是一个让老师更好地了解你的机会，同时也是一个真诚地爱护和帮助老师的机会。

If let the child interested in learning,And maintain a high learning efficiency,Must be as close as possible to avoid children because the resistance of teachers and of generation unpleasant learning experience.At the same time,Let your children know,Respect for the teacher is not equal to think the teacher is doing all right,You should have any questions on the teacher to the teacher,Just need to pay attention to some policy,It is best to find teacher talk in later,That the truth,Clear the air.This is both a chance to let the teacher better understand you,At the same time is also a sincere love and help the teacher.