爸妈借本报隔空传话：不再逼你读名校 孩子，快回来吧！

Parents borrow this newspaper every empty message：No longer forced you to read school children，Quick come back！

　　近日，寻找成都一所名校学生的微博转发量极高。20天前，16岁的黄义修带着行李离家出走，期间与父母、老师、同学完全失去联系。昨日，心急如焚的黄爸爸思虑再三后，决定通过成都晚报向孩子隔空传话：爸爸妈妈会充分尊重你的意愿，让你选择适合自己的学习、生活环境；宝贝快回家吧，爸爸妈妈爱你……

recently，Looking for chengdu a school student's micro bo forwarding quantity is extremely high。20 days ago，The age of 16 HuangYiXiu with their luggage away from home，With parents during、The teacher、Classmate completely out of touch。yesterday，The yellow dad thought burned after repeatedly，Decision by chengdu evening to child telekinesis message：Mom and dad will be fully respect your wishes，Let you choose to suit their own learning、The living environment；Baby let's go home，Mom and dad love you……

　　铁了心要离家—— Iron the heart going away from home to--

　　离家前卖掉所有教材 Before left home sell all materials

　　20天手机关机不上QQ 20 days on mobile phones don't QQ

　　昨日（2日）上午，成都晚报记者来到了黄义修的家中。说起出走的儿子，神色疲惫的黄爸爸不断地叹气。

yesterday（2 days）morning，The chengdu evening news reporter come to the house of HuangYiXiu。Speaking of runaway son，Look tired yellow dad constantly sigh。

　　黄爸爸说，妻子在遂宁上班，平时主要是他在管孩子，因为工作忙碌，同儿子的交流不多。

Yellow dad said，His wife in SuiNing work，Mainly is he is in charge of children，Because the job is busy，The exchange with son not much。

　　13日（7月13日）中午下班回家后，他发现儿子不见了，书架上所有的初中教材、儿子的部分衣服、洗脸帕、被单和一个旅行箱也不见了。黄先生判断，儿子应该是赌气离家出走了。

13（July 13,）Noon when I get home from work，He found out his son disappeared，All of the junior middle school teaching material shelf、The son of clothes、Face palmer、Sheets and a luggage was gone。Mr. Huang judgment，The son should is to run away from home in anger。

　　黄先生从儿子同学那里得知，黄义修并未去重庆。儿子同学、同学家长还提供了几个他可能去的地方，当黄先生开车赶去搜寻，但均未发现儿子的身影。

Mr. Huang son learned from students，HuangYiXiu did not go to chongqing。Son classmate、Parents also offers several students he might go places，When Mr. Huang drive to get to the search，But have not found son figure。

　　小区附近的打印店员工提供了一条重要线索：黄义修出走前，曾在打印店打印类似于找工作的简历。这条线索对于找孩子没有直接帮助，但这说明黄义修离家出走决心十足。

The print shop near village employees provide a important clues：HuangYiXiu before flee，Once in the print shop print job similar to resume。This lead to find children have no direct help，But this shows HuangYiXiu away from home determination is dye-in-the-wood。

　　从7月13日出走至今日，黄义修已经离开20天，没有给家里打过电话，手机一直关机，QQ一直未登录。没有身份证，没有特别技能，他可能从事着辛苦的工作。为此。黄先生和妻子非常担心。

From July 13, go to this day，HuangYiXiu has left 20 days，Not to call home，Mobile phone has been shut down，QQ has not login。Have no id，No special skills，He may be engaged in hard work。For this。Mr. Huang and his wife very worried。

　　同学“不可思议”—— students“incredible”--

　　咋会离家出走？ How will run away from home？

　　他是个“阳光男孩” He is a“Sunshine boy”

　　“黄义修，同学们都很担心你，快回家吧！”昨日，黄义修初中所在班级副班长刁子科同学，代表全班45名同学通过成都晚报，向黄义修发出了呼唤。

“HuangYiXiu，The students are very worried about you，Let's go home！”yesterday，HuangYiXiu junior high school class in the vice President DiaoZiKe classmates，Represent the class 45 students through the chengdu evening，To HuangYiXiu issued the call。

　　刁同学告诉记者，黄义修是一个性格开朗的男孩，与同学们关系十分融洽。每次班集体活动，他都踊跃参加，特别喜欢和大家一起打篮球。最初听说黄义修离家出走的消息后，她和其他同学都觉得不可思议。“那么开朗的一个人，怎么会和父母赌气出走？”

Diao classmate told reporters，HuangYiXiu is a character, cheerful boy，With the students was very harmonious relationship。Each class activities，He have to participate in this，Especially like and everyone together to play basketball。First heard the news HuangYiXiu to run away from home，She and other students feel mysterious。“So cheerful one，How can parents and anger away？”

　　记者了解到，同学们已自发地组织起来，冒着酷暑拿着寻人启事在街头散发，希望找到知情人。还有一些同学不断通过微博、QQ给黄义修留言，希望得到他在外平安的消息。

The reporter understands，The students have spontaneously organize up，Take the intense summer heat take without notice in the street to send out，Hope to find insider。And some students constantly through the micro bo、QQ to HuangYiXiu message，Hope to get him out the news of peace。

　　昨日记者从学校教育处梁主任处获悉，黄义修出走后，学校向全体学生、家长发了两次短信，希望学生、家长积极提供孩子的线索。

Yesterday reporters from school and education section, director of the beam have learned，HuangYiXiu away，All the students in the school、Parents send two text messages，Hope that students、Parents to actively provide clues to the children。

　　家长说了实话—— Parents say the truth--

　　读名校让孩子压力很大 School children to read under a lot of pressure

　　他提转学 我们没同意 He asked transfer we didn't agree

　　对儿子的出走，黄先生说直接原因是7月12日的一次冲突。那天，儿子突然提出要去重庆，恰好老家出了点事情，一家人都忙得不可开交，加上儿子正在念初高中衔接班，黄先生便拒绝了儿子的要求。“当时我的口气很重，可能伤到了孩子。”

Son of the left，Mr. Huang said the direct reason is July 12 th a conflict。That day，Son suddenly offered to go to chongqing，Just home something's come up，The family are too busy，Son is read and high school class cohesion，Mr. Huang and refused to the requirements of the son。“Then my tone very heavy，May hurt children。”

　　对于是否应该求助媒体，黄妈妈和黄爸爸一直有分歧，她担心媒体介入后，孩子会更加反感。一个同学、老师眼中的阳光男孩为啥会突然离家出走？昨日，黄先生向记者道出了其中的隐情。

For whether we should help the media，Yellow mom and dad has always been a yellow differences，She worried about the media after intervention，The child will be more disgusted。A classmate、The teacher's eyes of sunshine boy is what will suddenly away from home？yesterday，Mr. Huang to reporters recognizes the secrets of among them。

　　记者：孩子学习怎么样？

reporter：Children learn？

　　黄父：学习不好，今年考高中刚刚超过重点分数线。

HuangFu：Study not good，Take an examination of this year high school just over key fractional line。

　　记者：能上重点线也不容易了，是不是家长对孩子要求太高？

reporter：On ChongDianXian can also not easy，If the parents who asked too much？

　　黄父：相比较而言算是差的，他周围的同学成绩普遍优秀。我们对孩子的要求确实比较严格，希望孩子将来好嘛。

HuangFu：In comparison is poor，Around his students generally good grades。We to the child's requirements is really strict，Hope that the child well in the future。

　　记者：周围同学个个优秀，是否让孩子产生了很大的学习压力？是不是长久下来孩子积聚了很多不满情绪，需要发泄，才有了这次出走呢？

reporter：Around the students all excellent，Whether to let the child had a very great pressure of study？Is come down for a long time the children up a lot of resentment，Need to vent，Just had this away？

　　黄父：这些天我也在思考。孩子之前曾向我们提出过，希望换一所适合自己的学校。但当时我太主观了，以为在这样的环境中学习对娃娃更好。娃娃肯定能感受到我们对他的期望和爱，所以只好把转学的想法放下，心里的压力却越来越大。

HuangFu：These days I also thinking。The child was put forward to us before，Hope for a suitable for their school。But at that time I was too subjective，Thought in such an environment of doll study better。Baby can feel we expect of him and love，So we had to transfer from the idea down，The pressure of the heart is more and more big。

　　记者：孩子这次出走很坚决。他最希望看到的，可能是父母对他的充分理解，而不是仅仅表达牵挂和担心。

reporter：The children run away very firmly。His most want to see，May is to his parents understand fully，And not only express care and worry。

　　黄父：是的，我们对孩子的要求太严格，把很多我们的想法期望强加给他，一直忽视他自己的意愿。这些天我反复思考得到的结论就是父母应充分考虑尊重孩子对生活、学习的意愿。如果孩子能平安回家，我和他妈妈一定尊重孩子的意愿，让他选择自己喜欢、更加适合他的学习环境和生活方式。(成都晚报记者 程璞 李惠 摄影 黄尚斐)

HuangFu：yes，We to the child's request is too strict，The idea of the many we impose expectations，Has been ignored his will。These days I deeply thinking the conclusion is that parents should give full consideration to respect for life children、The will of the study。If the children can come home，I and his mother must respect the will of the children，Let him choose your favorite、More suited to his learning environment and way of life。(The chengdu evening news reporter ChengPu LiHui HuangShangFei photography)

　　父母给孩子的一封信： The parents to the child of a letter：

　　“不尊重你的感受 是我们的最大错误”

“Don't respect you feel is our biggest mistake”

　　亲爱的儿子：

Dear son：

　　你还好吗？你离开家的时候，还在拉肚子，鼻尖上还生小红疮，现在好些了没有呢？你安全吗？爸爸妈妈日日夜夜都在牵挂着你。

Are you all right？You leave your home，Still have loose bowels，The nasal tip still living on small red sores，Now many not yet？Are you safe?？Mom and dad all day and night in worried about you。

　　自从你离家之后，我们每天只能睡三四个小时，我们把认为有寻找希望的地方都找遍了，却仍不见你的踪影。你的同学们也在冒着酷暑找你。亲爱的孩子，你到底在哪儿啊？

Since you left home later，Every day we can only sleep three to four hours，We think there are looking for hope the place all to find times，Still not see your sight。Your students also take in the intense summer heat looking for you。Dear children，Where the hell are you？

　　妈妈上周五回家来，一下火车就咳嗽得要命，然后在七医院打了一夜的点滴，星期六再输液仍然不减轻，咳得不断声气。儿子呀，回家吧，妈妈的心口一直喊疼。

Mother came home last Friday，The train is cough desperately，And then in a hospital a night of seven drip，Saturday again infusion still don't reduce，Cough ShengQi constantly。Son ah，Go home，My mother has been called the pit of pain。

　　宝贝，回来吧！自你离家之后，爸爸一直在痛苦的自责和反思之中。你要与同学去重庆，我没有考虑到你的感受和想法，我因为自己心烦而简单粗暴地拒绝了你的要求，没有坐下来与你好好地沟通，这是爸爸的错！

baby，Come back！Since you left home later，My father has been in painful remorse and reflection in。You want to and students went to chongqing，I didn't take to your feelings and thoughts，I because he upset and simple and crude to refuse the your request，Not sit down and to communicate，This is the father's fault！

　　你一直不很喜欢读书，爸爸却常常严格要求你，这是爸爸的最大错误！爸爸不该一直那么严格地要求你，却忽视你的内心感受。爸爸日夜盼望着你早日回家，爸爸向你保证，只要你能回家，今后将不再要求你了，爸爸妈妈将尊重你做出的选择！

You didn't love reading，Father is always strict requirements you，This is the biggest mistake dad！Dad shouldn't have been so strictly to ask you，But ignore your inner feelings。Father look forward to your home soon, day and night，Dad assure you，As long as you can go home，Will no longer ask you......，Mom and dad will respect the choices you are making！

　　亲爱的儿子，从没独自在外生活过的孩子，你还好吗？天黑了，你睡在哪里？没有钱，你是不是在忍饥挨饿？没找着工作，你是不是还在到处奔走？

Dear son，Never lived outside the children alone，Are you all right？It's getting dark，Where you sleep？No money，Are you in starved？Was not looking for work，Are you still in rushing around？

　　回家吧，儿子！没有你，我们的天空不会再晴朗；没有你，我们的家不会再有欢笑！

Go home，son！Without you，The sky will not be sunny；Without you，Our home no more laughter！

　　永远永远都珍爱着你的爸爸妈妈

Never never cherish your mom and dad

　　2012年8月2日

On August 2, 2012