本报讯（记者 韩爱青 文并摄）18岁的小玉是一名孤儿，由于缺乏关爱，上初中时就和班上的一名男同学早恋了，最后没能考上高中，而只是上了职专。3年过去了，小玉的男友辍学成了一名电焊工，而她通过努力终于如愿考上了大学。此时，他们的恋情开始经受考验，小玉的朋友都认为他们地位、身份悬殊，不适合在一起，小玉的心也开始动摇，不知道该怎么办。昨日，一直资助小玉学业的宝坻区“自强爱心社”邀请了婚姻家庭辅导师走近像小玉这样的孤儿特困大学生，开展了一场比较特殊的爱情婚姻家庭培训。

Report from our correspondent（Reporter HanAiQing wen and taken）18 years of age jade is an orphan，Due to the lack of love，Top junior high school and the class a male classmate to early love......，Finally didn't able to go to high school，But the continuing education。3 years，Jade boyfriend school became a electric welders，And she through the effort succeeded eventually admitted to the university。At this time，Their love affair began to the test，Jade friends think they status、Identity between，Doesn't fit together，Jade heart began to shake，Don't know what to do。yesterday，Have been funding jade academic baodi district“Self-improvement "kindness club"”Invited marriage family counselling teacher approached like small jade of poverty-stricken college students such orphans，Carry out a very special love of marriage, family training。

　　18岁女孩子早恋

18 girls to early love

　　难解心事辅导师化解

The difficult solution worry tutoring division resolve

　　18岁的小玉是个苦命的孩子，3岁时父亲因车祸去世，母亲带着她和哥哥改嫁，两年后母亲在集市上也因车祸去世，当时是爷爷把两个年幼的孩子接回了家。从小，小玉就是在亲友的接济下长大的。上初中时，对感情懵懵懂懂的她早恋了，那个男孩子学习不好，但很关心小玉，这让她感到从未有过的温暖。小玉的学习成绩因此迅速下滑，原本有望考上重点高中的她最后只上了职专，她的男友则在一家企业当了名电焊工。

18 years of age jade is a paying children，At the age of 3 father died in a car crash，Mother with her brother and remarried，Two years later the mother in the market also died in a car crash，At that time is the two grandpa young children take back home。from，Jade is put in the relatives and friends grow。Junior high，The feelings of her early love her reddened hands......，The boy study is bad，But is concerned about jade，It made her feel never had the warm。Jade learning achievement so decline rapidly，Originally expected to enter a key high school she finally only continuing education，Her boyfriend is in a business name when the electric welder。

　　本来学习很好的小玉私下学习高中课程，今年终于考上了天津师范大学。这时，亲友开始劝小玉和男友分开，小玉也陷入了困惑中。小玉把心里的想法告诉了婚姻家庭辅导师李智，李智鼓励小玉首先说出内心的真实想法。小玉说，别看她外表好像很阳光，其实外表的活泼是为了掩饰内心的脆弱。“当时也说不清为什么喜欢和他在一起，就是觉得他很强大，可以保护我……”小玉问李智，到底该不该继续这段感情？李智说，其实学历、身份、地位都不是爱情和美满婚姻的必然条件，关键是小玉要清楚自己到底要什么，心理咨询师只是帮助他人更好地了解自己，而不是替人去做决定。辅导师能给小玉的建议就是，想清楚自己到底要什么，内心的真实想法是什么，然后再选择是不是要和这个人继续走下去。

Was learning very good jade private study high school，This year, finally admitted to the tianjin normal university。At this time，Relatives and friends began to persuade jade boyfriend and separate，Jade is Mired in a confused。The heart of the small jade idea to marriage and family counseling teacher li zhi，Li zhi encourage small jade first speak out their real thoughts。Jade said，Although she looks like very sunshine，In fact the appearance of lively in order to cover up the heart is fragile。“At that time can tell why like with him，Just think he is very strong，Can protect me……”Jade ask li zhi，What shouldn't continue to this relationship？Li zhi said，In fact in、identity、Status are not love and happiness of marriage inevitable conditions，The key is jade need to know what your really want，Psychological consultant just help others know themselves better，Rather than others to make a decision。Counseling division can give advice is of small jade，Want to know what will??????，Truly idea is??????，Then choose whether you want to and the people continue to go on。

　　孤儿特困大学生

Orphan the extremely poor college students

　　同样面临着人生课题

Also faces life lessons

　　宝坻区“自强爱心社”成立于2003年，是一个以关爱孤儿特困学生为主旨的民间组织，发起人是当地一名普通的上班族，9年间“自强爱心社”募集了善款42万多元，帮助的10名孤儿特困生中，有9人上了大学，1人上了高中。

Baodi district“Self-improvement "kindness club"”Was established in 2003，Love is an orphan most needy students as purpose folk organization，The sponsors is a local average nine-to-fiver，Nine years“Self-improvement "kindness club"”To raise the donation of 420000 RMB，Help 10 orphans in harmful，Nine people in the university，1 person on the high school。

　　孤儿特困生来自比较特殊的家庭环境，他们在青春期来临之际，一样面临着爱情、婚姻、家庭等人生课题。“自强爱心社”这次特意聘请了宝坻区民政局婚姻家庭辅导室的李智、王兆杰、李乃兵、刘学芬、肖宝君等5位婚姻家庭辅导师为孩子们开展了以“让爱走进春天，使心不再孤单”为主题的团体心理辅导。

Orphans from special family is harmful to the environment，They coming in adolescence，Faced with the same love、marriage、The family, as well as life lessons。“Self-improvement "kindness club"”The specially hired baodi district civil affairs bureau marriage and family counseling office of li zhi、WangZhaoJie、LiNaiBing、LiuXueFen、XiaoBaoJun five marriage family counselling division for the children to develop“Let love into the spring，Make no longer lonely heart”As the theme of the group counseling。