金陵晚报记者报道 “我爸是李刚”让“拼爹”着实火了一把，没资本拼“爹”的人，又开始寄希望于“拼同学”。最近一则消息在网上引起了人们广泛关注，有家长花几万元送成绩并不好的孩子上名校，目的是让孩子有一大帮有能力的同学，为孩子提前积累人脉资源。

Jinling evening news reporter “My father is li gang”let“Spell dad”Really fire，No capital spell“dad”people，And began to hope that“Spell students”。Recent news on the Internet caused a people's attention，Parents spend tens of thousands of yuan sent achievements were not good child in school，The purpose is to let children have a big help the ability of the students，Ahead of human resources for accumulation of children。

　　对这位家长这种“拼同学”的做法，某网站做了调查，结果是过半数的家长认为“拼同学”不太靠谱，并对此持反对意见。

The parents of this“Spell students”practice，A website do an investigation，The result is that more than half of the parents“Spell students”Don't rely on spectrum，And opposed the idea。

网友热议 Net friend of hot debate

“拼同学”是“拼爹”升级版 “Spell students”is“Spell dad”Upgrade edition

　　引发热议的是外地一位家长的“拼同学”之举。据称，这位家长的孩子虽然学习成绩不好，但他依然花了几万元让孩子上了名校。目的不是为了让孩子的成绩有多好，将来能考上名牌大学。主要原因是因为上名校的学生多数都是成绩好的孩子，将来能有出息。

Cause of hot debate is a parent of outside“Spell students”lift。allegedly，The parents of the children while learning result is bad，But he still spent tens of thousands of yuan let kids to go to school。Purpose is not to let the child achievement have much good，The future to enter a famous university。The main reason is because most of the students in the school are good children，The future can have ambition。

　　这位家长用心良苦地想为孩子提前积累人脉资源，以便孩子将来有一帮出色能干的同学扶持。这位家长的做法，被网友戏称为“拼同学”。

The parents for the children's elaborate to accumulation of human resources in advance，So that children have a good future for the students do support。The parents of approach，Be net friend calls for“Spell students”。

　　那么“拼同学”到底靠不靠谱呢？随后，某网站针对此事做了调查。结果是50%的人对此观点认为“不靠谱”，13%的人保持中立，37%的人对此表示“可以理解”。由此可见，“拼同学”还是有一定市场的。

so“Spell students”What? By not by the spectrum？then，A website on the did an investigation。The result is 50% of this view“Not by the spectrum”，13% of people remain neutral，37% of the people have expressed“Can understand”。This shows，“Spell students”Or is there some of the market。

　　有网友认为，“现在每家只有一个孩子，除了堂兄堂哥表妹之外，能互相关注相互照应的也就只有朋友和同学了！”

Netizens think，“Now each have only one child，In addition to cousin cuz cousin away，Can care about each other mutual coordinate the only friends and classmates！”

　　而持反对意见的网友madbot认为，“关键还是要自己有能力，至少要朋友给你机会的时候你有能力接才行，不然你在那些有能力的朋友面前永远是个酒肉朋友，不会是合作伙伴。”

But opposition net friend madbot think，“The key is to want oneself ability，At least to give you the opportunity to friends when you have the ability to pick up to just go，Otherwise you in those capable in front of friends is always a fair-weather friends，Won't be partners。”

　　“拼同学不靠谱，存在风险系数的，没有拼爹保险系数高，同学关系会随时间变得淡薄，而亲爹不会抛弃自己的儿子，还是好好教育孩子实际。”wumeko125说“拼同学”的前提也要有个有钱的爹才行，它只不过是“拼爹”的升级版本。

“Spell without spectrum students，The risk in the coefficient，No spell dad insurance coefficient tall，Classmates will have less over time，And dad would never abandon his own son，Or a good education child practice。”Wumeko125 said“Spell students”The premise of the also want to have a rich dad to just go，It is just“Spell dad”The upgrade to version。

记者调查 A survey

南京曾有教育机构引导这种观念 Nanjing had education institutions to lead this concept

　　在金陵晚报记者的调查中，不少家长对这种“拼同学”的做法都表示了不认同，但也有家长认为可以理解。

In the evening the reporter's investigation of jinling，Many parents on this“Spell students”Practice all expressed no identity，But there are also parents think they can understand。

　　在IT公司工作的李女士表示，现在工作节奏很快，毕业之后很多同学都是多年不见，关系比较淡漠；其次，如果孩子成绩不好，把孩子送进名校，不是让他自己有压力吗？

In IT company work ms. Li said，Now the pace of work quickly，After graduation many students are not seen for years，Relationship between indifference；second，If a child result is bad，Send their children to school，Not let him have pressure？

　　而王女士却认为，这种做法是可以理解的，现在社会已经形成“有人际关系好办事”的风气。既然孩子成绩搞不好，从另一个方面培养孩子的社交能力有什么不好呢？曹先生也提到，对于这种社会风气，家长也是“没办法”，社会就是这么“现实”，孩子将来要进入社会立足，总要有些资本。

And ms. Wang but think，This kind of practice is understandable，Now society has been formed“Interpersonal good handle affairs”The custom of。Since the child achievement make not，On the other hand, develop the child's social ability to have what not good？Mr Cao also mentioned，For this kind of social convention，Parents have also“Can't”，Society is so“reality”，Children should enter the society in the future based on，Total want to some capital。

　　“我在孩子选择是去国外留学还是在国内升学时，曾有留学机构给我们灌输这种观念。”曹先生表示，当时有些拿不定主意，但那位留学机构工作人员说，去国外名校读书，接触的都是高端人才，将来孩子会有很好的人脉。而记者也发现，有不少教育机构会用这种“拼同学”观念去引导家长的择校观。

“I choose to go abroad in children is to study abroad or at home when the entrance，Once we have studied abroad to instill this concept institutions。”Mr Cao said，At that time some minds，But the study abroad agency workers said，Famous overseas to study，Contact is high-end talent，The future child will have very good contacts。And the reporter also found，There are many education institutions will use this“Spell students”Concept to guide the parents will view。

专家忠告 Expert advice

不要别拿成人游戏规则“污染”孩子的单纯 Don't don't adults take the rules of the game“pollution”The child's simple

　　对于这种“拼同学”的做法，国家二级咨询师南林君表示，家长的这种做法是不科学的。南老师强调说，家长这种行为就是“过早地把成人世界的游戏规则灌输在孩子身上”，将会造成孩子过早地“成熟”。

For this kind of“Spell students”practice，National secondary consultants south LinJun said，The parents of this kind of practice is not scientific。South teacher stressed said，Parents the action is“The early adult world into the rules of the game in children”，Will cause children prematurely“mature”。

　　孩子的交往，实际上是一种很干净、很单纯的友谊，他们和成人的交往方式不同，孩子之间相互帮助，是纯粹没有任何利益成分的。如果家长抱着“拼同学”的目的去为孩子择校选择同学，对于孩子的成长是有百害而无一利的。“孩子上学受教育的目的，是为了学习知识，学习如何做人。别用成人游戏的规则去污染孩子。”（实习生：周冬梅 记者：曾亚莉）

The child's contacts，In fact is a very clean、Very simple friendship，They and adult relationship in a different way，The child to help each other，Is pure without any interest ingredients。If parents hold“Spell students”For the purpose of school children to choose classmates，For a child's growth is never going to benefit from。“By the purpose of children to school education，In order to study knowledge，Learning how to behave。Don't use adult rules of the game to pollution children。”（interns：ZhouDongMei reporters：CengYaLi）