新大学生入学在即，在北京中关村某电子卖场，一名女孩看上了“苹果三件套”，面对2万元的花费，母亲刚表示吃不消，这名女孩就扔下一句：“不给我买，就让我在大学丢脸去吧。”说完扬长而去，气得母亲掩面而哭。

The new college entrance in sight，In Beijing zhongguancun a electronic stores，A girl after“Apple three-piece suit”，In the face of the cost of 20000 yuan，Mother just said be unable to stand，The girl is down a：“Don't give me buy，Let me go in university disgrace。”Say that finish swagger off，Anger hid my face from mother cry。

　　这件事引起了很多人关注，有人指责这名女生“脑残”，不知感恩；还有人认为，为人父母者应该首先反思，是自己平时的纵容，导致孩子要这要那，一不如意就翻脸不认人。但笔者更关注的是她要“苹果三件套”的理由，是没有这就可能“丢脸”。

It caused many people pay attention to，The girl was accused of name“Brain damage”，Don't know Thanksgiving；And still others，Parenting person should first reflection，Is his usual indulgence，This will cause the child to it，A bad hair will fall out does not know a person。But the author's is more about her“Apple three-piece suit”reason，Is not this may“disgrace”。

　　把面子和物质享受联系在一起，表明我们的家庭教育、学校教育对于青少年的价值观教育出现了偏差。表面上看，这是因为这些学生没有自控力，深层次的原因是他们缺乏责任心。对孩子进行责任教育，就必须调整传统的与物质享受相联系的财富观、价值观。改变传统的亲子关系父母与孩子的关系，不是父母把孩子作为“私人财产”，也不是孩子把父母作为“提款机”，而是成年公民与未成年公民的关系，父母要引导他们成长为自立的社会公民。

The face and material enjoy relates in together，Show that our family education、School education for teenagers values education appeared deviation。On the surface，This is because these students have no self-control，Deep reason is that they lack the sense of responsibility。Responsibility for children education，We must adjust the traditional and material enjoy related wealth view、values。Change the traditional parent-child relationship between parent and child relationship，Not as parents send their children“Private property”，Is not the parents as children“ATM”，But the adult citizens minors and the relationship between the citizens，Parents should guide them to grow up to become self-sustaining citizens of the society。

　　(来源:中国教育报)

(Source: China education report)