新华网南京8月22日电（记者朱旭东）最近蹿红网络的一则帖子《孩子27句心里话，最想你懂》让不少父母看了很愧疚。愧疚之余，能真正把孩子的话听进去的，估计还不会太多。

Xinhuanet nanjing August 22 (xinhua) --（Reporter ZhuXuDong）Recent leap up is red network a post《Children and other my mind，Most think you understand》Let many parents saw very guilty。Guilt over the，Can really put the children in words，Estimation is not too much。

　　中国的父母，应该算天下最负责的父母了，一辈子都在围着孩子转，所谓“可怜天下父母心”。但在很多父母眼里，除了孩子的学习，确保其“吃好穿好”就够了，其他基本不作考虑，而这正是很多孩子产生心里话的原因。

Chinese parents，Should calculate the world the most responsible for parents，All my life all around children in turn，The so-called“Have mercy on all the parents heart”。But in the eyes of many parents，In addition to the child's learning，To ensure the“Eat good wear good”Is enough，Other basic not consider，And this is what many children have the reason of my mind。

　　“你要是觉得人家的孩子比我好，就让他（她）当你的孩子好了，何必老拿我和人家比呢？”“爸爸妈妈不要吵闹不停了……我多么希望有一个和蔼的爸爸，慈祥的妈妈？”……

“If you think somebody else's child than me，Let him（she）When your children are good，Why old take me with somebody else than it？”“Mom and dad don't keep the noise……How I wish have a kind father，Kindly mother？”……

　　这27句话中，除了对父母所设计学习路径的反抗、对父母个别言谈举止的不满外，还有对自尊心的维护、对自我的追求、对亲情的呼唤等。可以说孩子在成长过程中，开始追求个性的独立、思想的解放。

The 27 sentence，In addition to parents design learning path resistance、To parents individual behaviour of the discontent，And the maintenance of self-esteem、Pursuit of self、To the call of the family, etc。Can say children in the growth process，Began to pursue personality independence、Thought liberation。

　　可是，父母们迟迟不愿放手，少有人倾听孩子的心声，更别说尊重孩子的意愿。绝大多数父母会理直气壮地表示：小毛孩懂什么？父母不做主，孩子将来肯定会吃苦。

but，Parents can not willing to let go，So few people listen to the child's voice，Let alone respect the wishes of the children。Most of the parents will confidently said：Small hairy child understand??????？Parents don't make decision，Children in the future will certainly bear hardships。

　　父母强势当政，孩子自然无处“话凄凉”。孩子的心里话，远不止这27句。正因很多心里话都成了父母的耳边风，曾经的孩子、目前仍郁闷的大孩子，才会集成这27句，是希望更多的孩子能在家里有合适的参政议政机会，共同维护家庭的圆满和谐。

Parents in strong，The child is natural“Words and”。The child's mind，Much more than this and other。Because of a lot of my mind has become a parents' water off a duck's back，Once children、Still depressed the older kids，Can integrated this and other，Is the hope that more children can at home have suitable participating politics opportunity，Work together to maintain a harmonious family。

　　为人父母总是担心孩子的叛逆。所谓叛，即背叛；所谓逆，即反其道而行之。如果父母长期不听孩子的心里话，孩子只能为了自己的“理想”而叛逆。细想想，孩子的叛逆，原因还是出在父母身上。

Parents always worry about the children rebel。The so-called Julian，Namely rebelled against；The so-called inverse，That is exactly the opposite。If the parents long-term don't listen to the child's mind，Children can only for one's own“ideal”But rebel。Fine think，The child's rebellious，Reasons or out on the parents。

　　如果，现在将孩子的心里话当耳边风，将来，父母老了，该唠叨想唠叨更想让孩子听唠叨的时候，孩子（当然此时已经是主政的大人了）如果不听，徒唤奈何？所以，当父母仍然主持家政时，不妨民主点，听听孩子们的心声和不同意见，为将来自己发表意见争取机会。

if，Will now the child's mind when water off a duck's back，future，Parents old，The nagging want to nag more want to let children listen to the nagging，children（Of course at this time is already ruled the adults）If you don't listen，ACTS pile alternative？so，When parents still presided over the housekeeping，Might as well democratic point，Listen to the children's voice and different opinions，In the future for his comments get opportunities。

　　(来源:新华网)

(Sources: xinhua)