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从“拼爹”到“拼同学”“关系文化”呈低龄化趋势 from“Spell dad”to“Spell students”“Relationship culture”Attained the trend

　　新华社记者管浩、翁晔

Xinhua news agency reporters GuanHao、WengYe

　　近日，国内众多媒体报道，一些家长甘愿多付数万元择校费让孩子进入名校，以便让孩子能够认识名校里的同学，以后办事有强硬的关系网。于是，继“拼爹”之后，一个描述“关系文化”的新词“拼同学”进入人们的视野。

recently，The domestic numerous media reports，Some parents willing to pay tens of thousands of yuan ZeJiaoFei let children to enter the school，In order to let the child can know the school students，After a tough work relationships。so，the“Spell dad”after，A description“Relationship culture”New words“Spell students”Enter people's field of vision。

　　针对这一话题，记者采访了家长、学校与专家，他们都认为，父母尽力为孩子提供更好的教育资源本身无可厚非，但是如果给孩子灌输“关系至上”的观念，很可能会对孩子的成长造成负面影响，最终得不偿失。

In view of this topic，The reporter interviewed the parents、The school and experts，They all thought，Parents try to provide children with better education resources for itself，But if you give children infusion“Relationship first”concept，Is likely to cause negative effect the growth of children，Finally the loss outweights the gain。

家长：父母希望给孩子更好的未来 parents：Parents hope to give children a better future

　　“拼同学”这一事件在网络上引起了热烈的讨论，一些网民感叹，在当今社会中“人脉”“关系”对个人成长的影响太大了，因此才会有家长为了给孩子积攒人脉而不惜出大价钱。但也有网民提出，人脉固然重要，可能力来自自身，家长还是应当重视对孩子道德观念以及个人素质的培养。

“Spell students”This event on the Internet caused a heated discussion，Some netizens exclamation，In today's society“contacts”“relationship”For personal growth too much influence，So just can have parents to give children accumulated contacts and at a great price。But there are also put forward Internet users，Contacts is important，But from their own ability，Parents should pay much attention to the child moral concept and personal quality of the training。

　　广西玉林市的高中生庞喻告诉记者，一直以来，身边都有同学通过缴纳择校费的方式转到“名校”就读。“大多数同学交择校费是因为家长想让他们能有更好的教学条件，但是我也听说过有几个同学转校，是因为家长希望孩子可以结交到更好的、‘层次更高’的同学。”

Yulin city high school students in guangxi Mr Yu told reporters，Has been，Side have students through the pay ZeJiaoFei way to turn to“school”studying。“Most of the students pay ZeJiaoFei because parents want to let them to have a better teaching conditions，But I also heard of some students turn school，Because parents hope children can make better、‘Levels higher’classmates。”

　　家住广西壮族自治区桂林市的李燕萍女士也曾经面临是否给孩子缴纳择校费的选择。在李女士看来，所谓“拼同学”的情况，其实很久以来就存在了，只是最近才被“名词化”了而已。“2000年的时候，我就听说公司里有家长为了以后让孩子同学多、人脉多，而花钱把孩子送进名校读书。而且这种情况从小学、中学，一直到大学都有。”李女士说，“家里条件好的，还会把孩子送到上海这样的大城市去念书。”

Live in the guangxi zhuang autonomous region of guilin LiYanPing lady also once face whether to give children pay ZeJiaoFei choice。In ms. Li looks，The so-called“Spell students”situation，Actually for a long time will exist，Only recently been“nominalization”The just。“In 2000，I heard that the company has parents in order to let the children after more than classmates、Contacts many，And spend money send their children to school reading。And this kind of situation from elementary school、Middle school，Have been to university has。”Ms. Li said，“The condition in the home is good，Also, to send their child to kindergartens Shanghai such big cities to study。”

　　记者在采访中了解到，在很多家长看来，如今“拼同学”的情况，不过是一直以来择校风潮的延续与发展罢了，进入好的学校，认识“有背景，有关系”的同学，对以后孩子办事或多或少能够有一些好处。“现在大家经济条件好了，也更愿意在孩子的教育方面投资，毕竟每个父母都希望能给孩子更好的未来。”李女士说，“不过我觉得一个人能否成功，还是要看自己的能力，父母应该更重视对于孩子个人素质的培养。”

Reporter in the interview to understand，In many parents looks，now“Spell students”situation，But is a continuation of the school has been agitation and the development of it，Get into a good school，know“Settings，There is a relationship between”classmates，After work to children more or less to have some benefits。“Now everybody economic conditions well，Were also more willing to in the child's education investment，After all each all parents hope to give children a better future。”Ms. Li said，“But I think a person will be successful，Or to see their own ability，Parents should pay more attention to the cultivation of the personal qualities for children。”

学校：“拼同学”现象仍是“非主流”思想 The school：“Spell students”Phenomenon is still“non-mainstream”thought

　　广西壮族自治区桂林中学是广西重点中学和示范学校，在桂林市乃至全广西享有较高的声誉。提到最近颇受关注的“拼同学”话题时，桂林中学党组副书记、副校长黄乘英表示，相比之下，家长让孩子就读名校，还是更看重优质的教学资源。

The guangxi zhuang autonomous region of guangxi guilin middle school is a key middle school and demonstration school，In guilin and even the whole guangxi enjoy high reputation。Mention a recent concern“Spell students”topics，Guilin deputy secretary of the party school、Vice President huang by British said，Compared with，Parents let children attend school，Or think more of high quality teaching resources。

　　“我所接触的众多家长中，更多的是看重学校的管理和教育理念、学校的师资、教师对学生的人文关怀以及在校其他学生的素质。‘拼同学’只是部分家长的想法，并不是主流的观点。”黄乘英说。

“I am in contact with many of the parents，More is the value of school management and education concept、School teachers、The teacher to student's humanistic care in school and other student's quality。‘Spell students’Only part of the parents' ideas，And is not the mainstream views。”Yellow by British said。

　　一些教育工作者提出，在当今多元化的社会，出现“拼同学”这样的言论，很重要的原因在于部分家长对于教育没有进行深入的思考，盲目跟风，仅仅看到“人脉”“关系”在成人社会中的作用，而忽略了在校教育对孩子性格、品德的培养。另外，目前沉重的高考压力也是导致家长在“人脉”问题上下工夫的一个原因。

Some education workers put forward，In today's multicultural society，appear“Spell students”Such a speech，Very important reason is that some parents for education no in-depth thinking，Blindly follow suit，Only see“contacts”“relationship”In the adult society in effect，While ignoring the school education to the child personality、The cultivation of moral character。In addition，At present the heavy pressure is also the university entrance exam to parents“contacts”The upper and lower time of problem one of the reasons。

　　广西壮族自治区社会科学院社会学所所长周可达则表示，这种将成人社会当中的“关系文化”“圈子文化”强加给学生，对他们的成长并没有好处。“过早让孩子接触这些东西，可能会扭曲孩子的价值观，一心想着拉关系、处人脉，对孩子有弊无利。个人的成长主要还是靠自己，即使在普通高中，也能成长出社会的精英。”

The guangxi zhuang autonomous region academy of social sciences institute of sociology ZhouKeDa, said，This will of adult society“Relationship culture”“Circle culture”Upon his students，For their growth and no good。“Let the children early contact with these things，May distort the child's values，Intent on try to curry favor with、Place contacts，The child without the disadvantages。Individual growth is still mainly rely on their own，Even in ordinary high school，Can also grow out of the social elite。”

专家：多种因素导致“拼同学’现象 experts：Many factors lead to“Spell students’phenomenon

　　除了家长“望子成龙，望女成凤”的心理外，还有什么因素导致“拼同学”这一情况的出现呢？周可达认为，这一现象是受到多种社会因素共同影响而产生的。在我国传统文化中，一直非常重视对下一代的教育，而且当今社会竞争压力加剧、个体向上流动通道愈加拥挤，加上中国社会一直以来重视人脉、强调“关系”的传统，导致了“拼同学”情况的出现。

In addition to the parents“Used to，Hope female ChengFeng”Psychological outside，And what factors lead to“Spell students”The emergence of this situation?？ZhouKeDa think，This phenomenon is by many social factors arising from the common effect。In China's traditional culture，Has been attached great importance to the next generation of education，And in today's society increased the pressure of competition、Individual upward flow channel more crowded，With Chinese society has been pay more attention to connections、emphasize“relationship”traditional，Led to the“Spell students”arises。

　　人脉关系、圈子文化，这些现象并非新现象，一些学者承认，好的人脉关系的确可以对个人的成长有着积极的作用，而“进名校”“攒人脉”想法的出现也不是只有中国才有的。

connections、Circle culture，These phenomena is not a new phenomenon，Some scholars admit，Good connections can indeed for personal growth has a positive effect，and“Into school”“Saving contacts”The emergence of the idea is not only China to some。

　　“在国外，择校的现象也是普遍存在的，政府建立的公立学校为教育提供基本的保障，而经济条件比较好的家庭就会把孩子送入较好的私立学校，在校友会文化盛行的西方国家，良好的校友资源也是吸引家长的一个重要因素。”周可达说。

“In foreign，The phenomenon of school is widespread，The government set up public school education to provide basic guarantee，And economic condition good families will take the children into good private schools，In the alumni association culture in the western countries，Good parents also attract alumni resources one of the most important factors。”ZhouKeDa said。

　　但专家提醒，在为孩子提供好的教育资源的同时，更应该强调对孩子的个人道德与个人能力的教育与提升，在给孩子择校的时候，不妨多与孩子沟通，听听他们的意见。黄乘英则说，同学之间的感情十分可贵，家长如果给孩子灌输太多的“人脉”“关系”之类的概念，可能让这些功利的东西绑架同学之间的真挚情感。（完）

But the expert reminds，In providing children with a good education resource at the same time，More should emphasize on the child's individual moral and personal ability education and ascension，The child will be the time，You might as well communication with your children，Listen to their opinions。Yellow by British is said，The affection between the students is very valuable，If parents give children infusion too much“contacts”“relationship”Concepts such as，May let the utilitarian things between the classmate kidnapping sincere emotion。（finish）

　　(来源:新华网)

(Sources: xinhua)