在初中阶段,孩子能否积极而尽快地适应新的学校和集体,能否对新的课程和学校的各项活动产生浓厚的兴趣,是否具有较强的自我评价和自我教育能力,会不会应对和处理好偶然发生的事件,这些都与家长的教育有关。

In the junior middle school stage,Children can be positive and quickly adapt to the new school and collective,Can make to the new course and all kinds of school activities produce strong interest,Have strong self evaluation and self education ability,Will respond and handle good chance,All of these and parents' education about。

　　培养孩子良好的品德 Cultivate children to good moral character

　　一个孩子拥有良好的道德品质,才能拥有一个积极向上的精神面貌,才能为将来的人生发展打下一个良好的基础。家长对孩子不能只注意在校的学习成绩,也要关注思想品德方面的修养,注意他们在社会上可能受到的不良影响,否则好孩子也有可能变坏,有的甚至可能走上违法犯罪的道路。培养孩子的良好品德,就家庭而言,要着重抓好孩子文明礼仪和健康思想观念的教育,这是形成良好品德的基础。家长可以从以下几个方面入手,用适宜的方式对孩子进行品德教育,重视文明礼仪教育。

A child has good moral quality,To have a positive mental outlook,For the future development of life can lay a good foundation。For parents to their children can not only pay attention to academic achievements,Also want to pay attention to the ideological and moral cultivation,Pay attention to them in society may be bad influence,Otherwise good boy also may be getting bad,Some may even on the way of illegal crime。Develop the child's good moral character,Will families,To put emphasis on the following children civilized manners and health concept of education,This is the basis of the formation of good moral character。Parents can obtain from the following several aspects,Use appropriate way for the child carries on moral education,Pay attention to civilization etiquette education。

　　1、父母要教育孩子衣着得体,整洁朴素,美观大方。男孩子不蓄长发；女孩子不化妆,不佩戴成人的首饰。

1、Parents will education child dress,Neat and simple,Beautiful and easy。Boys don't long hair；Girls do not make up,Don't wear adult's jewelry。

　　2、父母要教给孩子对长辈或初识者称呼“您”；对教师、社会工作人员称呼“老师”“师傅”“阿姨”“叔叔”等；对他人提出要求时要说“请”；与人打招呼时要说“您好”；与人分手时要说“再见”；给人添麻烦时说“对不起”；得到帮助时说“谢谢”。要使孩子正确使用礼貌用语,一方面,家长必须在待人接物过程中正确使用礼貌用语,让孩子有活的学习教材；另一方面,家长要创造机会让孩子随时随地练习,逐渐形成自觉使用礼貌用语的习惯。

2、Parents will teach your child to elder people early or call“you”；For teachers、Social workers call“The teacher”“teacher”“aunt”“uncle”, etc；Request to others to say“please”；And when people say "hello" to say“How do you do”；And people say when they parted“goodbye”；Give a person said trouble“I'm sorry”；Get help, said“thank you”。To make the children correctly use polite expressions,On the one hand,Parents must be in the process of people correctly use polite expressions,Let children have live learning materials；On the other hand,The parents want to create the opportunity for children practice anytime and anywhere,Gradually formed the habit of consciously use polite expressions。

　　3、孩子在公共场所的文明举止,既显示出个人的修养,也反映出家庭的教育水平。所以,家长要特别重视并经常利用可能的机会对孩子进行这方面的教育,要善于发现细节。父母应教育孩子热爱父母长辈,有感恩心；友爱他人,有关爱心。

3、Children in public in the civilization manner,Show both personal accomplishment,Also reflects the family education level。so,Parents should pay special attention to and often use possible chance to this aspect of the children education,Be good at discovering details。Parents should education children love the parents elder,A Thanksgiving heart；Love others,About love。

　培养孩子健康的心理 Cultivate the health of children psychology

　　目前独生子女家庭居多、孩子智力开发早、社会影响复杂,家长在培养孩子健康心理上,特别要注重舍得让孩子承受挫折,以提高其挫折的承受能力,便于他们今后能够勇敢地面对生活,战胜困难。

At present the single-child family is in the majority、The child intelligence development early、Social influence complex,Parents in the cultivation of the psychological health of children,Special should pay attention to are willing to let the child setback,In order to improve its frustration capacity,In the future for them to face up to life,Overcome difficulties。

　　日常生活中的挫折情景很多,如能使孩子正确对待和处理,都可以达到提高孩子挫折承受能力的目的。就当今孩子而言,可能会在学习、爱好的选择、自尊和人际关系等方面遭受挫折。如:在学习方面,学习成绩达不到理想的目标；在兴趣和爱好的选择方面,自己的兴趣和爱好得不到父母的支持；在自尊方面,自己常常得不到教师和同学的信任；在人际关系方面,结交不到与自己讲知心话的朋友等。孩子遇到挫折并非坏事,但陷入挫折不能自拔,就会对孩子身心健康造成消极影响,比如孩子丧失自信心,焦虑、自卑等。家长要注意培养孩子以积极、乐观、向上的态度对待生活,使孩子不断增强克服困难、不屈服于逆境的勇气和信心。

Daily life situations many setbacks,If you can make the child treat correctly and processing,Can improve children setbacks to bear ability purpose。Today is for a child,May in the study、Hobby choice、Self-esteem and interpersonal relations between suffer setbacks。Such as: in learning,Learning does not reach the ideal goal；In the interest and the hobby selection,Their interests and hobbies can not get the support of parents；In self-esteem aspects,I always get the trust of the teachers and students；In interpersonal relationship,Make less than and myself confidences friends, etc。The child setbacks are not bad thing,But in frustration cannot extricate oneself,To physical and mental health of children caused negative influence,Such as children lose confidence,anxiety、Inferiority, etc。Parents should pay attention to training children to actively、optimistic、Upward attitude towards life,Make the child to enhance overcome difficulties、Don't give in to adversity courage and confidence。

　　在学习上,作为家长应尽量减少孩子们的心理压力,使他们放下包袱,变被动学习为主动学习,使孩子成为学习的主人,而不是分数的奴隶,同时还应帮助受到挫折的孩子正视困难,在逆境中不灰心,不消沉,从中吸取经验教训,重新制定学习策略方法,争取下次考好。避免给孩子设定过高的目标,应根据孩子的实际,为孩子做好全面规划,设定全面合理的目标,以利于孩子成长。

In the study,As parents should try to reduce children's psychological pressure,So that they let go of burden,Change passive learning into active learning,Make your child a host of the study,Not score slave,At the same time should also help to get setback children face difficulties,Don't lose heart in adversity,Not depressed,Draw experiences and lessons,Reorganized learning strategy method,For the test next time。Avoid giving children set high goals,Children should be based on the actual,For the children make overall planning,Set the goal of comprehensive and reasonable,Help children to grow up。

　　进入中学以后,学校环境和教学要求都发生了很大的变化,这种更高的要求,势必激励孩子产生“长大成人”的责任感。另外,这个年龄阶段的孩子非常注重自己在同龄人群中、在朋友中的地位,他们力求找到知心朋友,渴望得到别人的接纳与尊重。他们要力争一个独立自主的人格。当自主性被忽视或受到阻碍,个性伸展受阻时,就会引起反抗。对这一现象家长应予以客观正确的认识,帮助他们顺利渡过这一人生中的特殊的转折期。1、转变观念。不能只重视孩子半成熟的一面,而忽略孩子的成人感这一发展事实。要多换位思考,尊重孩子的成长需要,不要伤害孩子的自尊。

Into middle school after,The school environment and teaching requirements have undergone significant changes,The higher request,Certainly will motivate children produce“Grown up”Sense of responsibility。In addition,This age children very pay attention to themselves in their peers in the crowd、In the status of friends,They strive to find a bosom friend,Eager to get other people's acceptance and respect。They shall strive to an independent personality。When autonomy be ignored or obstructing,Individuality stretch is disrupted,Can antagonize。To this phenomenon parents should be objective correct understanding,Help them smoothly through the life of the special transition period。1、Changing ideas。Not only pay attention to the child half mature side,While ignoring the child's adult feeling this development the fact。To many transposition thinking,Respect your child's growth needs,Don't hurt the child's self-esteem。

　　2、正视亲子关系的变化。进入少年期后,孩子以父母为范型的态度不再继续,代为看到父母也有很多缺点。到这个时期父母切忌说话不算话,糊弄孩子。

2、Face the change of parenthood。Enter the young period,Children to parents for generic attitude no longer,To see parents also have many shortcomings。To this period parents don't talk not to calculate words,Deceive children。

　　3、以友相待并尊重孩子的自主权。父母与孩子要建立起朋友式的友谊关系,尊重他们应有的自主权与隐私权;遇事多与他们商量,倾听他们的意见。

3、To treat a friend and respect the child's autonomy。Parents and children to set up PengYouShi friendship relations,They should respect the autonomy and privacy;When anything crops up and they talk,Listen to their opinions。

　　4、引导孩子正确接纳自己和自己的变化。

4、Guide children correctly to accept yourself and your change。