专家建议老人提早做好心理准备 合理安排孙子孙女入学后的富余时间 以缓解分离焦虑

Experts suggest early old man prepared for reasonable arrangement of the grandchildren after admission surplus time to ease separation anxiety

　　“开学啦！”清脆的童声飞扬到空中，久久回荡。昨日，广州的中小学和幼儿园正式迎来新学期的到来。

"Opening!!"Sound of the children's chorale flying into the air,Long echoed.yesterday,Guangzhou formal primary schools and kindergartens in the advent of a new semester.

　　很多学校举办别出心裁的开学礼，迎接同学们的到来。比如，荔湾区沙面小学的开学典礼上，出现了“小林丹”、“小孙杨”、“小刘翔”这些奥运大明星。天河区长兴小学的新生开笔礼上，孩子们进行了一场文武大穿越，既体验了开笔礼的优雅美丽，也体验了一把军人的英姿飒爽。

Many schools try to be unique held the beginning of the ceremony,To meet the arrival of the students.For example,Liwan district sand surface primary school on the opening ceremony,appeared"Small lindane"/"Sun Yang"/"XiaoLiuXiang"These Olympic star.Tianhe district in changxing new primary school on the first writing ceremony,The children on a large through the,Experience is the first writing ceremony elegant beauty,Also experienced a soldier of bright and brave.

　　开学第一天，也有不少初入校门的“小豆丁”掉了眼泪，临别时抱住父母不放手。对此，有小学一年级班主任表示，新生入学到初步适应小学生活，一般需要一个月的时间。家长要与老师配合，消除孩子对学校的恐惧感和不适应。

The first day of school,There are many first joined the school gate"The little one they called bean"Away tears,When parting embrace parents don't let it go.this,Have a first-grade teacher in charge said,Admission to the preliminary to adapt to the primary school life,General need a month of time.Parents should cooperate with the teacher,Eliminate the children to school fears and does not adapt.

　　昨天是开学日，无论是对幼儿园和小学的新生而言，还是对孩子的家长来说，都是“备受考验”的一天。幼儿园门前除了那些哭得撕心裂肺的新生，还有谁在默默垂泪？记者发现，在孩子入托这件事上，不少老人也会经历分离焦虑的折磨孙子孙女在幼儿园哭，他们则在园门外一边偷看一边抹眼泪。

Yesterday was the opening day,No matter whether the kindergarten and primary school freshman,Or to the child's parents speaking,are"Test is"day.In front of the kindergarten except for those who cry tore heart crack lung of newborn,Who else in silent cry?Reporter discovery,Children in the nursery,Many old man will also experience separation anxiety torture grandchildren in kindergarten cry,They are in the garden door side peek side wipe the tears.

　　心理专家指出，老人退休后生活圈子狭窄、富余时间多，带孙子成了生活的全部。孙子入托对于他们来无异于“失业”，情绪上出现波动在所难免。建议老人要提早做好心理上的准备，合理安排时间，丰富自己的生活和爱好，这样才能和孩子一起共同度过分离焦虑。

Psychological experts point out that,The old man retired life circle stenosis/Surplus time,Son with a life of all.Grandson nursery for them would be"unemployment",Emotional turmoil unavoidable.Suggest the old man to do early psychological preparation,Reasonable arrangement of time,Enrich their life and interests,Such ability and children spend together separation anxiety.

　　今年64岁的刘先生有个3岁大的孙女，从孙女出生起，刘先生和妻子就挑起了带孙女的重担。

This year 64 - year - old Mr. Liu has a 3 year old granddaughter,Granddaughter from birth,Mr. Liu and his wife will start with the burden of the granddaughter.

　　8月初，刘先生的女儿Linda为了让9月份就上幼儿园的女儿提早适应新生活，特意给孩子报了幼儿园开设的全日制体验班。上学第一天，外公刘先生坚持要和Linda一起送孩子。第一天上学，孩子哭闹在所难免，然而让Linda意外的是，当她好不容易把女儿交到老师手上的时候，转身一看，老父亲竟然也在幼儿园门口老泪纵横。“哭得像个孩子一样，实在让人心酸。”

Early August,Mr. Liu's daughter Linda in order to make September is the daughter of kindergarten early to adapt to a new life,Especially for children to open for the kindergarten full-time experience class.School the first day,Grandpa liu insisted on going with Linda send children together.The first day of school,The child crying unavoidable,However let Linda surprise,When she is very not easy to her daughter to the teacher the hands of time,Turned a look,Old father was also in the old man wept bitterly. At the door of the kindergarten."Cry like a child,Really make people feel sad."

　　而更让Linda担心的是，回家后，老人坐立不安，整天念叨着怕孩子在幼儿园吃不饱，没水喝，担心老师不记得给她擦汗……幼儿园明明下午4时30分才放学，刘先生3时30分就到幼儿园门口，在烈日下眼巴巴地等着孙女出来。

But more let Linda worry about is,After coming home,The old man on pins and needles,Talking about the fear of all children in kindergarten do not have enough to eat,No water to drink,Worry about the teacher don't remember to wipe her sweat……Kindergarten clearly afternoon 4 when 30 points before school is over,Mr. Liu 3 when 30 points to the kindergarten,In the hot sun waiting eagerly looked out granddaughter.

　　Linda把父亲的情况写成帖子发到论坛，没想到竟然引来很多人的回应。“原来这竟是个普遍现象，很多家庭的老人都有类似的问题，有些妈妈反映，自己家的老人甚至为此连续一个月失眠。”

Linda the father of posts written to BBS,Unexpectedly unexpectedly draws a lot of people respond to."So this is a common phenomenon,Many of the families of the old man have similar problems,Some mother reflect,His family in the old man and even for this for a month insomnia."

　　心理专家：让老人对幼儿园多些了解

Psychological experts:Let the old man a kindergarten for more understanding

　　广医二院心理科主任龚梅恩分析说，不少年轻的父母认为，老人辛苦了3年，孩子上幼儿园他们就解放了，但没想到，老人也会不适应，这在心理学上属于分离焦虑。“老人这种分离焦虑的诱因主要有两个，一是不舍，孩子带了3年，感情深厚，现在孩子上学了，白天的大部分时间都见不着，心里难免空落落的；二是担心，担心孩子在幼儿园得不到像家里一样细致的照顾，担心安全问题……”

GuangYi two school psychology department director said GongMeiEn analysis,Many young parents think,The old man hard for three years,Children in kindergarten they liberated,But I didn't know,The old man will also does not adapt,This in psychology belong to separation anxiety."The old man this separation anxiety incentive there are two major,One is to give up,The child took three years,Feelings deep,Now the children go to school,The day of most of the time not see,The heart is empty;The second is worried about,Worry about the children in the kindergarten not like home and meticulous care,About safety……"

　　龚梅恩认为，大部分老人可以在几天或一周的时间内把情绪调整过来，适应新的变化。“如果老人在孙子入托这个应激事件的刺激下，情绪波动持续两周都得不到缓解，那就要到医院的心理门诊看看，采取适当的干预手段。”龚梅恩说。

GongMeiEn think,Most old people can be in a few days or a week's time to adjust to emotions,Adapt to the new changes."If the old man in the grandson nursery this stress events under the stimulus,Mood swings are not ease for two weeks,That is going to the hospital to see psychological outpatient service,Take the appropriate intervention means."GongMeiEn said.

　　龚梅恩建议老人的儿女在孙辈入托前后要做好老人的心理辅导：第一要让老人有充分的思想准备，让老人认识到孩子上幼儿园是他们人生的必经阶段；第二要让老人多了解幼儿园的情况，让老人知道孩子在幼儿园也会得到很好的照顾；第三，帮助老人安排好孙子孙女入托后的富余时间，避免空虚寂寞。

GongMeiEn suggest the old man's children in the nursery grandchildren around to do the old man's psychological counseling:The first to make the old man have the full mental preparation,Let the old man to realize children in kindergarten is their life's inevitable stage;The second to make the old man know more of the kindergarten,Let the old man know the child in the kindergarten can be taken good care of;The third,To help the old man arranged grandchildren nursery after the surplus time,Avoid empty lonely.

　　幼教专家：4招缓解孩子分离焦虑

Preschool education experts:4 recruit alleviate children separation anxiety

　　那么，面对孩子入学初期的哭闹，又有些什么好办法呢？广州警备区幼儿园园长何丽珠给出了以下几招：

so,In the face of the children of the early admission crying,And there are any good method?Guangzhou garrison command kindergarten the principal HeLiZhu gives the following a few action:

　　放下就走。送孩子的人要态度坚决，把孩子交到老师手上，要爽快地和孩子再见，交接的时间拖得越长越不利。

Go down.Send the child to be firm,The children make the teacher hands,To racily and children goodbye,Over time the longer the disadvantage.

　　家长千万不要在孩子面前流泪。因为孩子很敏感，很容易受家长情绪的影响。家长应该通过自己的行动让孩子感知，上幼儿园是一件让人愉快的事情。

Parents do not in front of children tears.Because the child is very sensitive,Very susceptible to the influence of parents mood.Parents should through his own actions to children,Kindergarten is a pleasant thing.

　　要坚持上学。有些家长看见孩子第一天上学哭得很厉害，第二天心疼了，索性让孩子在家休息一天。这样做极其不妥，因为孩子很聪明，这会让他们知道，“哭”原来是有用的，“哭”可以不上幼儿园，那么他下一次就会故伎重演。

To adhere to the school.Some parents saw the first day of the school children crying badly,The next day the love dearly,Simply let the child at home a day of rest.Do this very wrong,Because the child is very clever,This will let them know,"cry"It is useful,"cry"Can not in kindergarten,So the next time he will repeat the same tactic.

　　信守诺言。家长送孩子的时候要明确告诉孩子：“我会在下午放学的时候来接你。”这句话不妨反复强调，目的是让孩子知道，上幼儿园就像父母上班一样，放学就可以回家了。一旦答应了孩子，就一定要信守诺言，以增加他的安全感。

Keep his promise.Parents send a child to tell the children to clear:"I will in the afternoon when school to meet you."This sentence might as well repeated,The purpose is to let the child know,Kindergarten is like parents go to work,He can go home from school.Once promised to the child,Must keep his promise,In order to increase his feeling of security.

　　何丽珠说，按照他们的经验，绝大多数孩子能在1周内度过分离焦虑期。（文/记者黎蘅 通讯员许咏怡）

HeLiZhu said,According to their experience,Most children can within 1 week through separation anxiety period.(Wen/reporter LiHeng correspondent 许咏怡)

　　(来源:广州日报)

(Sources: guangzhou daily)