开学了，原本刚上初一的女孩小玲应该开心地到学校报道，却因为剪不剪头发的事与妈妈起了矛盾，结果憋着一肚子气到了学校。

begins,Originally just on the first girl xiao ling should be happy to report to the school,But because scissors don't cut hair and mother up contradictions,The results held fed to the school.

　　昨天，万般无奈的小玲妈妈求助了海曙区教育心理咨询热线。

yesterday,All but the little bell mother for help the haishu district education of psychological counseling hotline.

妈妈要女儿剪了齐腰长发 Mother to daughter cut neat waist long hair

　　原来，早在开学前一星期，看到女儿快齐腰的乌黑长发，小玲妈妈下了“剪发令”。

The original,As early as in before the start of a week,Seeing his daughter's waist quickly black long hair,Xiao ling mother down"Cut to".

　　说起自己的良苦用心，小玲妈妈有点“恨铁不成钢”，“初中要住校，平时她洗完头，我都会用吹风机帮她吹干，在学校根本没这个‘待遇’，加上初中学习紧，总不能因为洗头而耽误了。”

About his great effort,Xiao ling mother a bit"Hate iron not rewinded into","Junior middle school to live on campus,Usually she wash a head,I will use hair dryer help her blow dry,In the school doesn't this‘treatment’,Add the junior middle school learning tight,Always cannot because shampoo and delayed."

　　另一方面，小玲妈妈也担心女儿的漂亮长发会引起男孩子的注意，最终影响学习。

On the other hand,Xiao ling mother also worried about her daughter's beautiful long hair will cause the attention of the boys,Finally affect learning.

　　面对妈妈的“剪发令”，小玲倒是显得淡定，说头发是她从小养长的，一句“不剪”就轻松拒绝了。

In the face of the mother's"Cut to",Xiao ling is appear calm,Said hair is a long since she was young,a"Do not cut"Easily refused.

　　因为这事，母女间有了隔阂。

For this thing,Between mother and daughter a gap.

　　开学前一晚，小玲妈妈本想最后一次劝说女儿剪发，没想到刚开口就被女儿顶了回来，一气之下，小玲妈妈打算送女儿去学校的念头也打消了。

Before the start of a night,Xiao ling mother wanted to the last to persuade daughter cut,Unexpectedly began but the daughter top back,In a pet,Xiao ling mom going to send her daughter to school gave up the idea.

孩子青春期，父母应“抓大放小” The child adolescent,Parents should"Keep the tail from wagging the dog"

　　小玲妈妈心里百般难受，终于在海曙区教育心理咨询热线的QQ群里，向心理咨询老师道出了心底的苦闷。

Xiao ling mother sad heart in every possible way,Finally in the haishu district education of psychological counseling hotline QQ group,To the psychological counseling teachers say the bottom of my heart the anguish.

　　国家二级心理咨询师徐晓虹听了小玲妈妈的倾诉后，示意她，不要因为剪发这种小事去加重与女儿的矛盾。

National secondary psychological consultants XuXiaoHong heard xiao ling mother after speaking,Hint she,Don't cut off your hair for such a trifle to aggravate the contradiction with her daughter.

　　“小玲正处于青春期，特别敏感和叛逆，对于坚持的事物，往往会无视家长的意见，这时候家长需要作出判断。”。

"Xiao ling is in adolescence,Particularly sensitive and revolt,To adhere to the things,Tend to ignore the views of parents,At that time the parents need to make judgment.".

　　她建议，只要不是出格的要求，尽量“抓大放小”，尊重孩子的决定，让他们能体会到成人成熟感和自我决定感。（记者 倪王镇）

She suggested that,As long as it's not revolutionary requirements,As far as possible"Keep the tail from wagging the dog",Respect your child's decision,Let them can realize adult mature feeling and self-determination feeling.(Reporter NiWang town)

　　(来源:钱江晚报)

(Sources: qianjiang evening news)