案例 case

　　沈阳男孩考上湖北一所重点大学，只因母亲不能陪读，大学新生的他决定退学

Shenyang boy hubei admitted to a key university,Because the mother can't or relatives can apply for,Freshmen's he decided to drop out of school

　　“我要退学明年考本地大学！”

"I want to drop out from school take an examination of local university next year!"

　　眼下，正值大学新生报到的日子，而18岁的沈阳男孩秦明(化名)随母亲刘女士赶到湖北的一所大学后，却因为母亲不能在自己身边陪读，说啥也不念了。9月4日，刘女士无奈向沈阳市精神卫生中心求助，心理专家刘长辉为她解读了孩子的心理疾病症结。

the,When the day of freshmen report,And the age of 18 shenyang boy qin Ming(alias)Along with the mother liu to hubei university after,But because the mother can't around or relatives can apply for,Say what can not read it.On September 4,,Liu helpless to shenyang mental health center for help,Psychological experts LiuChangHui interpretation for her child's psychological disease sticking point.

父母离异儿子优异 Her parents' divorce excellent son

　　“我要复读，明年考一所本地的大学，那样我就可以天天回家看到我妈啦！”这样幼稚的话，竟然是从一名18岁男孩嘴里说出来的！

"I will answer read,Next year, take an examination of a local university,So I can go home every day to see my mom!!"So childish words,Unexpectedly from a 18 years old boy out of the mouth!

　　秦明长得眉清目秀，性格内向，跟陌生人一说话就会脸红。刘女士说，她和丈夫早年离异，儿子由自己一人带大。从小学、初中到高中，母子二人相依为命，不仅上下学形影不离，就连晚上睡觉，母子俩也是睡在一张床上。令刘女士欣慰的是，儿子的学习从未让她操过心，成绩一直名列前茅。

Qin Ming long with fine features,introverted,A talk with stranger blush.Liu said,She and her husband divorced early,By his son a man with a big.From elementary school/Junior middle school to high school,Mother and son two people depended on each other,Not only ShangXiaXue was like peas and carrots,Even sleeping at night,Both mother and child is sleeping in a bed.Make liu is a comfort,Son's learning never let her hold beings,Performance was at the top.

　　今年儿子高考成绩非常优异，考取了湖北省一所重点大学。整个暑假，母子俩都沉浸在欢喜的情绪中，还采购了大量的生活用品。

Son this year the university entrance exam is very excellent,Pass a key university in hubei province.The whole summer,Mother and child are both immersed in the joy of mood,Also purchase a large number of articles for daily use.

新生报到屡碰“钉子” The new report to repeatedly touch"nail"

　　入学报到的日子近了，刘女士陪儿子乘火车赶到湖北的这所大学。天热、寝室人多、食堂饭菜不可口……一些问题接踵而至，刘女士放心不下儿子，一连在校外小旅馆住了好几天，不料儿子每晚都在熄灯后赶过来，非要跟母亲挤睡在一张床上。

Entrance for the day is near,Her son with the train arrived at the hubei this university.On a hot day/Bedroom many/The dining room meal not delicious……Some problems follow,Liu son feel secure,In a small hotel outside for several days,But every night after the son in turn out the lights come out,Don't want to sleep with mother squeezed in a bed.

　　“儿子同学中有的家长留下来陪读，可是我在沈阳有工作，而且父母年岁大了，离不开人，我不可能留在湖北呀！”刘女士哭红了眼睛说，由于儿子性格内向，不善交际，在学校干什么都不顺利，特别是与操着浓厚方言的南方同学沟通更加困难……

"Son classmates some parents or relatives can apply to stay,But I have work in shenyang,And parents is old,Inseparable from the people,I can't stay in hubei ah!"Her eyes were red with weeping said,Because my son introverted,Good at communication,In the school do not smooth,Particularly with operating the strong dialect southern students communication more difficult……

　　一周后，秦明向母亲寻死觅活地说：“这所大学我念不了，带我回家吧！”

After a week,Qin Ming said to mother repeatedly attempt suicide:"The university I don't read,Take me go home!"

“分离焦虑”催生陪读 "Separation anxiety"Or relatives can apply gave

　　“这是典型的‘分离焦虑症’！”刘长辉说，心理学上，和亲密的抚养者分离时所表现出来的不安情绪和行为，被称“分离焦虑症”。它是儿童时期较常见的一种情绪障碍，而这种不适应行为或情绪，依不同年龄，会有不同的行为反应，例如：越小的孩子，会表现出来紧紧抱着父母不放、害怕、非常爱哭；而较大的孩子，则会有惧怕的表情出现、情绪非常不稳定、又叫又跳的、耍赖、哭躺在地上不起来等等。

"This is typical of‘Separation anxiety’!"LiuChangHui said,The psychology,And intimate raisers separation shown jitters and behavior,called"Separation anxiety".It is children period than a common mood disorders,But this does not adapt behavior or emotional,According to different age,There will be different behavioral responses,For example:The smaller the children,It shows clung to the parents don't put/fear/Love cry;And the larger the child,It will be afraid of expression appeared/Emotion is very unstable/Also called and jump/Play to depend on/Cry lying on the ground do not get up, etc.

　　对于18岁的秦明来说，与母亲相伴生活过久，形成过度的依赖，再加上母亲对儿子的溺爱，才导致秦明宁肯退学、复读，也不接受与母亲分离的残酷现实。

For 18 years old for qin Ming,And mother associated life too long,Form excessive dependence,Plus mother to son dote on,To lead to qin Ming would rather drop out of school/Answer read,Don't accept the cruel reality and mother separation.

　　刘长辉采用“改变认知疗法”，对秦明予以心理治疗。同时，刘女士接受专家建议，决定暂时请假赴湖北给儿子当俩月陪读，逐渐帮儿子“断奶”自立。

LiuChangHui using"Change the cognitive therapy",Qin Ming to be psychological treatment.At the same time,Liu accept the expert advice,Decided to temporarily leave to hubei to his son when two months or relatives can apply for,Gradually help son"weaning"self-reliance.

　　各位大一新生及家长，您有相关心理困惑吗？沈阳市精神卫生中心公益心理援助热线：23813000，心理专家会为您指点迷津。

All freshmen and their parents,You have relevant psychological confusion?Shenyang mental health center public psychological assistance hotline:23813000,Psychological experts will give you advice.

“陪读”母亲扎堆推涨高校周边房价 "Or relatives can apply"Mother gathers together push up around the house prices

　　又是一年开学季，又有一批新生家长不远千里陪着儿女来到大学报到或是陪读。 9月4日，记者赴辽宁大学、东北大学等高校附近，对此现象进行了采访。

Another year opening season,And a group of miles new parents with children came to the university or report or relatives can apply for. On September 4,,Reporter to liaoning university/Northeastern university near university,This phenomenon interviewed.

母亲“病退”全程陪读 mother"BingTui"Or relatives can apply for the

　　“已经来沈阳住一周了。”在沈阳南湖公园门口，操着南方口音的胡女士接受采访时说，她来自河南省驻马店，今年高考儿子发挥出色，以高分考入东北大学。儿子是独生子，从小到大学习成绩优异，在家里，除了学习，她和丈夫几乎把儿子的生活承包了。

"Have to shenyang lived for a week."At the door of the south lake park in shenyang,Fuck the southern accent hu, an interview,She comes from other areas in henan province,This year the university entrance exam son played very well,With high scores was admitted to northeastern university.Son was an only child,Since the childhood good grades,At home,In addition to learning,She and her husband the son almost the life of the contract.

　　眼看儿子念大学了，又是去人生地不熟的东北，气候、饮食等都不一样，“儿子连袜子都不会洗。”她感叹地说，夫妻俩几经商讨，最后决定，让原本上班的胡女士向单位办理了“病退”，专程来沈租房陪读。胡女士告诉记者，她在东北大学附近租了一套50多平方米的小套间，月租金1800元。

See the son college,And to the northeast of are total strangers,climate/Diet is different,"Son even socks won't wash."She exclaimed,A couple was to discuss,The final decision,Let originally work ms hu to unit dealt with"BingTui",Come to shen renting a house or relatives can apply for.Hu lady told reporters,She was near northeastern university rented a set of more than 50 square meters of small apartment,Monthly rent 1800 yuan.

单间抢手能洗衣服 Single hot can wash the clothes

　　“有张床，有炉具做饭就行，对了，最好有地方晾晒衣服。”在辽宁大学附近一家房产中介，来自包头市的万女士对中介人员说，“最好是单间，价格越便宜越好。”

"Have a bed,A stove cooking will do,On the,The best drying her clothing have a place."In liaoning university a nearby house property intermediary,Baotou from women to intermediary researchers said,"It is best single,The lower the price, the better."

　　房产中介的工作人员告诉记者，陪读租房市场从刚发录取通知书时就启动了。 8月上旬开始，就陆续有学生家长前来租房，除了少数给考研学生陪读外，大部分都是新生家长。而按往年经验，这股租房“热潮”将持续到9月末。

Real estate intermediary staff told reporters,Rental market or relatives can apply for admission to the hair from just when they started. In early August began to,Parents of students is in in succession to rent a house,Except a few to one's deceased father grind or relatives can apply for the students,Most of them are new parents.According to the experience and previous years,The rent"boom"Will continue until late September.

　　租房家庭大都来自外省，也有少数来自大连、鞍山等省内各市。来陪读的大多是母亲，学生则以大一新生为主。陪读家庭租房要求大体一致：面积较小，30至50平方米即可；价位较低，最高不超过800元；位置要在距离学校乘公交车两站路以内；对房内设施要求不高，但要有床，可以做饭，能洗衣服。

Renting a house family mostly from provincial,There are a few from dalian/Anshan, etc various cities in the province.Or relatives can apply to most of the mother is,Students have to freshmen is given priority to.Family or relatives can apply for rent is broadly in line:Area is lesser,30 to 50 square meters can;Price lower,Is highest do not exceed 800 yuan;Position in the distance to school by bus within two Station Road;For in the room the facility requirement is not high,But there is a bed,Can cook,Can wash his clothes.

仨母亲合租三居室 Sa mother three-bedroom shares

　　“单间太难租了。”一位陪读母亲说，自己有固定单位，不可能大学四年全程陪读，因此只向单位请了俩月假，准备陪女儿过渡一下。她跑遍了学校周围中介，得知她的租期太短，房主不是涨价就是拒租。

"Single too hard rented."A or relatives can apply for mother said,You have fixed unit,Can't university four years or relatives can apply for the whole,So only to unit please two months off,Ready to accompany the daughter a transition.She went around the school intermediary,Learned that her lease is too short,The owner is not rise in price is refused to rent.

　　无奈，这位母亲又将目光转向周边小旅馆，但由于类似的陪读家长众多，小旅馆也大多提升了价格。同时，小旅馆的配套设施不齐全，生活不太便利。为此，她联系了另两名陪读母亲，通过中介租到一套三室一厅的房子。每月租金2100元，每名母亲每月只掏700元，房子有一间大客厅，被三位母亲拴上多条绳子，到处挂着清洗的衣服、被单，生活氛围特浓。

but,The mother and looked around small hotel,But because of the similar or relatives can apply for many parents,Small hotel most also promoted price.At the same time,Small hotel facilities not complete,Life is not too convenient.therefore,She contacted the two other or relatives can apply for mother,Through the intermediary to rent a set of a three-bedroom house.The monthly rent is 2100 yuan,Every name mother only 700 yuan a month cut,The house has a stateroom,Be tied three mother more than on the rope,Hanging around clean clothes/sheets,Life atmosphere especially strong.

高校周边房租涨价 The surrounding the rise in the house rent

　　记者走访了辽宁大学老校区附近三家房产中介，发现在房价较便宜的泰山小区，仅剩两间单间房源，15平方米左右的房子每月租金在600-800元之间，若两室以上的房子租一间房间每月需400-600元。若要租住学校附近环境较好的高档小区，40平方米左右的单间每月租金为1200-1400元之间，60平方米的一室一厅租金更是高达每月2000元。

The reporter interviewed the old campus of liaoning university near three real estate intermediary,Found in house prices cheaper mount tai village,With only between two single rooms availability,15 square metre house rent every month in 600-800 yuan between,If more than two rooms of the house rent a room should be 400-600 yuan per month.If want to rent near the school environment better high-grade village,40 square metre room the monthly rent for 1200-1400 yuan between,60 square meters of one room one hall rental is as high as 2000 yuan a month.

　　记者在东北大学周边房产中介了解到，得知陪读家长租房，租金报价大致为：单间700-900元；套间1000-1800元；三室1900-2100元。就是这样高的租房价格，也没能挡住家长“陪读”的决心。本版稿件由沈阳晚报高级记者唐葵阳实习记者唐心萌采写

Reporter in the northeastern university surrounding property intermediary to know,That parents or relatives can apply for rent,Rent offer roughly:Room 700-900 yuan;Suite 1000-1800 yuan;Three room 1900-2100 yuan.Is such a high rent price,Also could not stop parents"Or relatives can apply"determination.This manuscript by shenyang evening news TangKuiYang senior reporter intern reporter TangXinMeng collection &composition

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5%大学新生因心理问题退学 5% freshman because of psychological problems drop out of school

　　大学新生因不适应环境而退学，每年都占新生总数的5%左右。9月4日，沈阳晚报记者从沈阳市精神卫生中心了解到，“分离焦虑症”、“人际苦恼症”等心理问题严重困扰着90后大学新生。

University freshman because you did not adapt to the environment and drop out of school,Every year new accounts for around 5% of the total.On September 4,,Shenyang evening news reporter from shenyang mental health center to know,"Separation anxiety"/"Interpersonal distress syndrome"Psychological problems such as serious problem after the 90 freshmen.

　　据临床统计，大学新生面临林林总总的心理问题：

According to clinical statistics,University freshmen face numerous psychological problems:

大学教育趋于“低龄化” University education tends to"DiLingHua"

　　日前，一所大学要求每位辅导员与学生同住宿舍。一名大学生介绍说：“我们的老师能清楚地知道哪个学生常深夜回来、哪个女生肚子疼了几天、哪个男生喜欢在宿舍里大喊大叫……简直和在幼儿园时差不多。”

a,A university required every instructor and student with live in the dormitory.A college student said:"Our teacher can clearly know which students often come back late at night/Which girl collywobbles for a few days/Which boy like in the dorm Shouting……And it almost in kindergarten."

大学女生：“不想长大” College girls:"Don't want to grow up"

　　有一名大三女生，她的宿舍床上摆满了大大小小的玩具。其中一个芭比娃娃又脏又旧却是她的最爱：“我们是最好的朋友，每天晚上我都要抱着她睡觉。有她陪在我身边，我觉得自己就像在家里一样安稳。”她常常搂着娃娃说悄悄话，原因竟是：“爸妈叮嘱我不要和陌生人说话，太不安全了，我不想长大。”

There is a junior girl,Her dormitory bed filled up with large and small toys.One of the barbie doll dirty and old is her favorite:"We are best friends,Every night I have to hold her to bed.With her to accompany in my side,I feel just like in the home safe."She often hug doll said aside,Reason is:"My parents told me not to talk to strangers,Is not safe,I don't want to grow up."

连一盒药都不会买 Even a box of medicine won't buy

　　一个外地大学女生感冒了，发信息问老师去哪里买药。老师回复学生要乘某某路公车到某某站。结果，这个女生坐过了站，又发信息给老师：“过站了”。老师没办法，只好再回复：“看看路牌，有没有车经过药店。”最后，女生自己坐车回了学校，跑了一个下午也没买到药。

A foreign university girl caught a cold,Send a message asked the teacher to where to buy medicine.The teacher reply students to take bus so-and-so to so-and-so station.The results,The girl sitting on the station,And send a message to the teacher:"Had stood".The teacher can't,Have to reply again:"Look at the nameplate,A car through a pharmacy."finally,The girl rode back to the school,Running for an afternoon also didn't buy medicine.

把老师当成父母 The teacher as parents

　　已经年满18岁的大学生，感情上遇到问题，不管是失恋的，还是摆脱不了纠缠的，都找老师；生活上遇到问题，出了交通事故、踢球受伤了，甚至丢了钱包，也会第一个打电话找老师……

Have at least 18 years old of college students,Emotional problems,Whether brokenhearted of,Still can't shake away the tangled,Are looking for the teacher;Meet problem,There was a traffic accident/Injured playing,Even lost my wallet,Also be the first to call the teacher……

　　沈阳市精神疾病预防控制中心负责人刘长辉告诉记者，平均每年因为不适应而退学的新生比例大约有5%左右。这还只是刚入学阶段，要是到大学毕业，退学的比例能达到10%。他总结说，新生“不适应”主要是现实的大学生活与想象的极大落差，比如，学校的硬件设施、老师的态度、学校的管理、同学的关系等等。(沈阳晚报)

Shenyang spiritual centers for disease control and prevention LiuChangHui person in charge told reporters,Average annual because they do not adapt to and from school freshman proportion about 5% or so.It is only a first-year stage,If you graduated from college,The proportion of drop out of school can reach 10%.He concluded,new"Don't adapt to the"Mainly is the reality of college life and imagination of the great head,For example,School hardware facilities/The teacher's attitude/School management/The relationship between the students and so on.(Shenyang evening news)