与印象中“全职妈妈”的概念相同，本次调查中，母亲是课外陪孩子学习的主力军，占77.7%，远高于父亲。2011年由上海市静安区家庭教育指导中心抽取的4000个中小学生家庭进行的调查结果同样显示，在父母共同参与教育的家庭中，七成家庭以母亲教育为主，父亲投入很少，只是辅助角色。俗话说：子不教，父之过。然而随着社会竞争日益激烈，越来越多父亲在外打拼，家庭教育的重任更多落在了妈妈身上。

And impression"Stay-at-home moms"Concept the same,The survey,Mother is the main force of extracurricular accompany children learn,Accounted for 77.7%,Far higher than his father.In 2011 by the Shanghai family education guidance center extraction body of 4000 Chinese students family survey results is also shown,In their parents' participation in the education family,Seven homes in this mother education to give priority to,Father into little,Just auxiliary role.As the saying goes:Son not to teach,Father of.However, with social competition is becoming increasingly intense,More and more father played out,The burden of the family education more falls on the mom.

　　家长陪读时应注意些什么？是否有必要进行全职陪读？英孚教育青少儿英语中国区总教务长韩安德表示，陪读也要注重方式，过度的“监督”反而会引起孩子的逆反心理。家长在进行课外陪读时，首先应考虑孩子自身的学习情况及个性，此外还需考量陪读的目的及陪读能力。

Parents or relatives can apply what should be paid attention to when?If there is a need for full-time or relatives can apply for?Ef education green children's English China always dean HanAnDe said,Also should notice to or relatives can apply way,excessive"supervision"It will lead the child's psychological inversion.Parents or relatives can apply in extracurricular when,First of all should consider children their own learning and personality,In addition still need to consider or relatives can apply for the purpose of the ability or relatives can apply.

　　韩安德提醒到，如果考虑全职陪读，家长应充分考虑自己是否有相关的教育知识，能否胜任全职陪读。“网络上虽然有大量的教学资料，但质量参差不齐，家长应注意选择出自规范机构或发布对象的教学材料。如果仅仅是为了监督孩子而全职陪读，往往会出现家长‘一厢情愿’，孩子‘毫不领情’的状况。”

HanAnDe remind to,If consider full-time or relatives can apply for,Parents should fully consider yourself if you have the related education knowledge,Can be competent for full-time or relatives can apply for."The network although there are a lot of teaching material,But quality is uneven,Parents should pay attention to choose from the regulatory bodies or release object teaching materials.If only to supervise children or relatives can apply for full-time,Parents often can appear‘Wishful thinking’,children‘Conspicuously ungrateful’condition."

　　要发展成绩，更要发展个性

To develop result,More to the development of personality

　　根据埃里克森的人格发展八阶段理论，每个年龄段的孩子都有自己的不同心理发展特性。韩安德提醒，家长陪读除了注重孩子的成绩及综合素质发展，更要关注孩子的心理个性发展。

According to sven-goran eriksson's personality development eight stage theory,Each age children have their own different psychological development characteristics.HanAnDe remind,Parents or relatives can apply in addition to pay attention to children's performance and comprehensive quality development,More attention to the child's psychological personality development.

　　孩子进入小学后，无形间就与其他孩子展开了竞争为学习成绩、为引起老师及同学的注意等。如果他们体验到了成功，就能获得勤奋感，反之则会自卑。这一阶段是养成良好的学习习惯的重要时期，家长应在陪读过程中帮助他们取得成功并给予承认和奖励。当然，在这一时期，孩子对成功的定义是多种多样的，家长不仅要陪伴孩子进行课外学习，同时也要帮助他们发展多方面的能力、与同伴的关系等，争取“全面发展”。

Children enter primary school after,Intangible with other children between the race for study result/To cause the attention of teachers and students, etc.If they experience the success,Can get hard feeling,Otherwise, it will inferiority.This stage is to develop good study habits important period,Parents should or relatives can apply in the process to help them succeed and to give recognition and rewards.Of course,In this period,The child definition of success are varied,Parents should not only accompany children learning,At the same time also to help them develop the various ability/And peer relationship, etc,for"All-round development".

　　而对12-18岁青少年期的孩子，其主要任务是建立“同一感”。青少儿开始扪心自问：“我是谁？”如果对“理想的自我”和“现实的自我”认识相同，自我认同感就形成了，相反则会出现角色混乱。心理学专家表示，这一阶段的孩子往往自尊心降至最低水平，需要有实际的鼓励。家长应帮助孩子更好地评价、认识自己，提出建设性的意见，培养自尊、独立意识，避免因为陪读而引起的过分依赖及社交、自理、适应能力的丧失。

But to 12-18 adolescence children,Its main task is to establish"The same feeling".Green children's beginning to ask:"Who am I?"If the"Ideal self"and"Reality self"Know the same,Identity is formed,Instead can appear role chaos.Psychology experts say,This one phase children often self-esteem dropped to the lowest level,Need to have the actual encourage.Parents should help children better evaluation/Know themselves,Puts forward constructive opinion,Raising self-respect/Independent consciousness,Avoid or relatives can apply for and cause depend on and social/self-care/The ability to adjust the loss.