孩子脑出血、身体多处骨折，目前没有生命危险

The child cerebral hemorrhage/The body more fractures,There is no danger

　　专家说，千万别轻易给孩子扣上“早恋”的帽子

Experts say,Don't easily give children wear"Early love"hat

　　9月14日傍晚，金东区读者秦先生致电本报《浙中城事》热线0579-89111111：

On September fourteenth evening,JinDong area reader Mr Qin call our newspaper[Middle of zhejiang city things]Hotline 0579-89111111:

　　我的儿子小磊（化名）在多湖初中读书，下午5点40分左右，我接到班主任电话，说要找我谈话。老师当着的面，说我儿子“太花了”。后来，我儿子竟然从三楼跳了下去，受了重伤。

My son small lei(alias)In lake junior middle school reading,5 p.m. about 40 minutes,I got the teacher in charge telephone,To say to want to seek me conversation.The teacher in front of face,Said my son"Too spent".later,My son unexpectedly from the third floor jumped down,Was badly injured.

　　

因为老师一句“你太花了”，男孩从三楼跳下 Because the teacher a"You are too spent",The boy jumped from the third floor

　　在金华市中心医院抢救室，小磊躺在病床上呻吟，嘴里都是血，双脚已经浮肿，身边站着的家人更是满脸愁容。

Intensive care in jinhua center hospital,Small lei lying in bed moan,Mouth are blood,Feet have bloated,Surrounded by family is sad face.

　　秦先生家里就这么一个独子，今年14岁，在多湖初中读书，他的班主任姓杨。

Mr Qin home so a only child,14 years old this year,In lake junior middle school reading,His teacher in charge Yang.

　　“小磊平时成绩挺好，性格也很乐观积极，虽然有时候顽皮了点，但还算讨老师喜欢。”一旁亲戚说。

"Small lei peacetime result is good,Character is also very optimistic positive,Although sometimes a little naughty,But still calculate for the teacher like."Aside relatives said.

　　“下午班主任杨老师叫我去学校，说他和女同学关系亲密。当时，还当着我的面责怪了孩子一句‘你太花了’。”秦先生认为，小磊自尊心强，老师这句话说得太重，“对他打击太大了。”

"Afternoon class teacher Yang teacher told me to go to school,Said he and female classmate relation close.At that time,Also in the presence of my face blame the child a‘You are too spent’."Qin says Mr,Small lei strong self-respect,The teacher the other words too heavy,"A terrible shock to him."

　　老师和秦先生谈完话后离开，秦先生也准备叫上儿子回家，“他说要去厕所，我就在原地等他。”

The teacher and Mr Qin finished talking out,Mr Qin also ready to call up the son home,"He said that he would go to the bathroom,I was in situ wait for him."

　　没过多久，秦先忽然听到儿子的声音出现在楼下，听上去颇为痛苦。

It wasn't long before,QinXian suddenly heard the voice of the son of appear downstairs,Sounds quite painful.

　　“他躺在地上，满脸是血。”秦先生冲下楼，才知道儿子竟然从教学楼的三楼跳了下去，“我立即给杨老师打电话，她居然不接。”

"He was lying on the ground,Face is blood."Mr Qin downstairs,Just know son unexpectedly from building three floor jumped down,"I immediately to Yang the teacher make a phone call,She incredibly don't pick."

　　

老师：小磊和女同学过于亲密，才说他“太花了” The teacher:Small lei and female classmate too close,Just say that he"Too spent"

　　在医院里，记者见到了小磊的班主任杨老师。她守在在病床边，怀着歉意对着小磊说：“是老师不好，不够关心你，平常老师都夸你是男子汉，老师很喜欢你这个学生，批评下有什么关系呢。”

In the hospital,Reporters saw the little lei teacher in charge teacher Yang.She keep in the bedside,With apologies to the small lei said:"Is a teacher is bad,Didn't care enough about you,Usually the teacher all kua you are a man,The teacher like you the student,What is the relationship between criticism."

　　杨老师说，从去年开始，小磊和女同学出现过于亲密的举动，发现苗头后和家长说过。今年开学，班级重新组合，两个人分到了不同的班。

Yang said the teacher,Since last year,Small lei and female classmate appear too intimate behavior,Find symptom and parents said.The start of this year,Class realignment,Two points to the different class.

　　“可是，在新的班里，有个漂亮女同学，他和那个女同学又走得很近，当时和他爸爸说明了情况，因为学生犯错误，我心情也不大好，确实说了不好听的话。”杨老师说。

"but,In the new class,There is a beautiful female classmate,He and that female classmate and close,At that time and his father explained the situation,For students to make mistakes,My mood is not good,Really said no good words."Yang said the teacher.

　　至于不接电话，杨老师的解释是，“当时在开车。”等回到家，知道出了事，她第一时间便赶往医院。

As for don't answer the phone,Yang teacher's explanation is,"At that time in the car."Back to home, such as,Know what happened,She was the first time to the hospital.

　　对于小磊出事，杨老师觉得十分内疚。

For small lei accident,Yang the teacher felt very guilty.

　　

最新进展：小磊目前无生命危险，将择日做手术 The latest progress:Small lei at present not life-threatening,Will next surgery

　　多湖初中校长助理叶老师表示，出了这样的事，学校方面感到十分痛心，校方会加强对班主任的教育，提醒他们在做学生工作时要注意方式方法。

Many lake junior high school principal assistant leaf teacher said,Out of such a thing,Schools feel awful,The school will strengthen the teacher in charge's education,Remind them doing students work should pay attention to methods.

　　叶老师说，“我们会全力配合家长、医院，做好孩子的抢救工作。”

Leaf teacher said,"We will cooperate fully with the parents/hospital,Do children's rescue work."

　　经诊断，小磊身体多处骨折，有脑出血症状。

The diagnosis,Small lei body fractures,Have cerebral hemorrhage symptoms.

　　昨天，记者从医院了解到，孩子目前已脱离生命危险，还处于观察期。

yesterday,Reporters from the hospital to understand,The child has been out of danger,Is still in the observation period.

　　“医生说，孩子脑内有出血，要等情况好点再动手术。”秦先生红着眼睛说。

"The doctor said,The child brain hemorrhage,Want to wait for a circumstance better surgery again."Mr Qin said the red eyes.

　　

专家：别轻易给孩子扣上“早恋”的帽子 experts:Don't give the child on the button"Early love"hat

　　金华市第二医院院长、精神心理学专家张载福：在青春期，男孩和女孩关系亲密，这是很正常的事。在这个特殊的时期，老师和家长要把同学间的友情与早恋区别开来，不要轻易地给他们扣上“早恋”的帽子。

Jinhua second hospital dean/Spiritual psychology experts ZhangZaiFu:In adolescence,Boys and girls close relationship,This is the very normal matter.In this special period,Teachers and parents to put students friendship and distinguish puppy love,Do not easily give them on the button"Early love"hat.

　　遇到这种事，老师和家长不要主动去“捅破那层窗户纸”，也不要过于紧张，要给孩子足够的时间和空间，相信孩子在成长过程中是能够自己处理好的。

This happen to,Teachers and parents don't initiative to"Crush the layer window paper",Don't too nervous,Give him enough time and space,Believe that children in the growth process is able to handle their good.

　　现在的孩子自尊心都很强，进行教育时要注意方法，不要过于正面地批评。

Now the children have a strong self-esteem,For education should pay attention to when method,Don't be positive to criticize.

　　正确的做法是：要加强对孩子心理和生理方面的教育和普及，让他们知道，什么年龄段应该做什么，引导孩子应该如何处理学习以外的人际关系。如真的出现早恋倾向，要展开心理辅导，必要时咨询心理医生。

The right way is:To strengthen the psychological and physiological aspects of children education and popularization,Let them know that,What age paragraph should do??????,Guide the children should be how to deal with learning outside of the interpersonal relationship.If really appear early love tendency,On psychological counseling,When necessary consulting psychological doctor.

　　总之，老师和家长如果能设身处地为孩子着想，了解他们的情感和需要，事情也没有那么棘手。

In a word,Teachers and parents if you can put yourself in the shoes for children,To understand their feelings and needs,It is not that difficult.

　　本报记者 张姮

Our newspaper reporter zhang Heng

　　实习生 冯梦哲/文

Interns FengMengZhe/text

　　特约记者 葛跃进/摄

Stringer GeYueJin/taken