昨天上午，杭州采荷一小三（6）班班主任蒲晓花跟记者说了这样一件事：这段时间，她正在电话家访，了解学生的暑期情况，想不到碰到一个学生，竟然拒绝接听她的电话，“我在电话里听到了很响的哭声。”

Yesterday morning，Hangzhou mining charge a small three（6）BanBan PuXiaoHua director with reporters said such a thing：This period of time，She is telephone family visit，Understands the student summer conditions，Unexpected encounter a student，Should refuse to answer her telephone，“I'm on the phone heard a loud cry。”

　　妈妈向老师抱怨孩子缺点多 Mother to the teacher complaining that the child more than disadvantages

　　孩子此后不敢接老师电话 The child then can't meet the teacher phone

　　蒲老师向记者还原了当时的情景：暑假快结束了，想了解一下学生在假期里的表现。老师电话家访的原则是，先打家里电话，希望拿起电话的是学生，家里联系不上，再打家长手机。

Rush teacher told reporters at the scene of the reduction：Summer vacation is coming to an end，Want to know about the performance of the students in the holidays。The teacher phone family visit's principle is，First hit home telephone，Hope to pick up the phone is a student，Home can not contact，Mobile phone call parents。

　　蒲老师说，因家里没人接电话，就给这个学生的妈妈打电话，谁想到妈妈一开口，就说了一大堆话。回想起来，说的全是孩子的缺点：什么做作业不自觉，需要妈妈催；在家里太懒太贪玩，不太听话；学校里布置的两本书不看，就喜欢看一些无聊的书；快四年级的学生了，还要玩无聊的玩具，一玩就是半天……

Rush the teacher said，Because his family nobody answered the phone，Give the students' your mother on the phone，Who thought of mother a open，He said a lot of things。In retrospect，Said is full of children's shortcomings：What do my homework not self-conscious，Need mother urged；At home too lazy too naughty，Not too obedient；School arrangement of the two books don't see，Like to see some boring books；Almost four grade students，Also play a silly toy，A play is half a day……

　　“孩子有没有一点进步？”本想从妈妈嘴里听到一点鼓励的话，想不到这位妈妈很干脆地说了声：“没有！”

“Children have a little progress？”This want from mother mouth heard a little encouragement，Not the mother is simply say the sound：“no！”

　　蒲老师说，当时孩子就在边上，母子有对话。蒲老师就说要跟学生聊几句，想不到听筒那边传来很大的哭声，左说右说，孩子就是不接电话。

Rush the teacher said，When the child is on the side，Mother and child have dialogue。Rush the teacher said to talk with the students，Unexpected phone there came a lot of crying，Left said the right said，The child is not answer the phone。

　　蒲老师说，孩子有自尊心，虽然妈妈陈述的情况属实，但不应该当着孩子的面，跟老师说一大堆缺点，“不管是家长也好，老师也好，当着孩子的面，尽量以表扬为主，相信每个孩子都有闪光点，不然会伤他们的自尊心的。”

Rush the teacher said，Children have self-esteem，Although mother statement be the case，But should not be in the presence of the child's face，With the teacher say a lot of shortcomings，“Whether parents all right，The teacher or，In the presence of the child's face，Try to give priority to with praise，Believe that every child has flash point，Or you will hurt their self-esteem。”

　　从小得不到表扬，或致强迫症 From childhood not praise，Or to obsessive-compulsive disorder

　　专家建议父母也要心理治疗 Experts advise parents also want to psychological therapy

　　与蒲老师遇到的类似的家长，相信在我们身边不乏其人。日前有媒体报道说，武汉有“狼爸”“虎妈”将优秀儿子逼成强迫症。说有位研究生李明（化名），从小没听到过父母一句表扬的话，当他以高分考取重点大学时，父亲只有淡淡的一句：“你考上大学是应该的，以后还要继续努力。”后来这个学生发现自己越来越在意别人的看法。上课时一个问题没有回答完美，他甚至会因此无心听课。最后到了吃不好，睡不着，完全无法控制自己情绪的地步，被送进医院。

And rush the teacher met similar parents，Believe in our side there is no lack of the person。A media reports said，Wuhan is“The Wolf dad”“Tiger mother”Will good son forced into obsessive-compulsive disorder。A graduate student li Ming said（alias），From childhood parents haven't heard a word of praise，When he to pass when high key university，Father only light sentence：“You pass the college entrance examination is as it should be，Later will continue to work hard。”Then the student found himself more and more care about the view of others。Class a problem didn't answer perfect，He even will therefore centerless to attend a lecture。Finally to eat well，sleep，Completely unable to control their own emotional point，Was sent to the hospital。

　　为这位研究生治疗的心理咨询医生诊断，李明患上了强迫症，表现为强迫思维。这类患者会体验到反复的、持久的思维冲动、想象，而且是强入的、不适应的，无法停止，会引起明显的焦虑或痛苦，如果不积极治疗，甚至可能诱发抑郁症。

For the graduate student treatment of psychological counseling the doctor diagnosed，Li Ming had obsessive-compulsive disorder，For the performance of the forced thinking。These patients may experience the repeated、Lasting thought impulse、imagine，And it is the strong、Does not adapt the，Can't stop，Can cause obvious anxiety or pain，If not active treatment，And may even cause depression。

　　医生认为，这位研究生患病的根源，就在于他从小没得到过父母的肯定和赞扬，这让他缺乏自信，最终导致心理疾病。建议孩子的父母也要一起接受心理治疗，让一家人重新学会沟通和互相关爱，重新建立健康的亲子关系。（记者 梁建伟）

Doctors think，The graduate students at the root of the illness，Is that he didn't get parents since childhood the affirmation and praise，It makes his lack of confidence，Eventually lead to mental illness。Suggest the child's parents will with psychological treatment，Let the family to learn to communicate and to love each other，To establish a health parentage。（Reporter LiangJianWei）