今年年初，陈老太把三个子女叫到一起，说自己准备立遗嘱，因为三个子女中，大儿子经济条件最差，夫妻都下岗，大孙子在念大学，又是大儿子照顾自己。所以陈老太提出把房产留给老大，家里还有十几万元现金由二儿子和小女儿平分。得知母亲的想法后，二儿子觉得不公，和母亲大吵一架。

Earlier this year,Age is too the three children call together,Said he ready to make a will,Because the three children,The first is the worst economic conditions,Husband and wife are laid-off,Big grandson in the college,Is the first take care of yourself.So age too proposed housing for the boss,Home and several hundred thousand yuan cash by the second son and daughter share.After that mother's idea,The second son felt unfair,And her mother have a big fight.

　　但是，二儿子的强烈反对，并没有改变陈老太的态度，今年6月，老太立了遗嘱，果然把房子留给了大儿子。而二儿子得知之后，一气之下，跑到墓地，把有父母两个人名字的墓碑给砸了，然后又出钱立了一块新墓碑，去掉了母亲和所有子女的名字，只留下了父亲和自己一个敬立人的名字。

but,The second son of the strong opposition,Does not change the attitude of the age too,In June this year,Granny made a will,Indeed as expected house to his eldest son.And the second son after that,In a pet,Ran to the cemetery,The parents have two personal name tombstone was smashed,Then the QianLi a piece of new tombstone,Remove the mother and all names of his children,Leaving his father and himself a proposes the man's name.

　　当父亲的祭日到来，其他子女去扫墓时，发现了墓碑的变化，回来跟陈老太一说，陈老太当即气得昏了过去。

When father's festa arrival,Other children go to the grave,Found the change of tombstone,To be back with age too said,Age too promptly gas get faint.

　　他们一家人找到墓地管理方，问墓地为何允许二儿子私自砸墓碑。但是管理方表示，虽然墓葬证上写的是陈老太和老伴的名字，但是具体经办人是二儿子，钱也是由二儿子支付的，根据《物权法》二儿子有处置权。

They found the family graveyard management,Asked why the graveyard to allow the second son privately hit tombstone.But management said,Although tombs write on card is the age of her name,But the specific agent is the second son,Money is also the second son of payment,According to[Property law]The second son have disposition.

要告儿子侵犯人格权 调解员律师都为难 Tell son infringement of right of personality mediators lawyers are difficult

　　与墓地管理方交涉无果，陈老太到江宁区法律援助中心求助。“在我们农村，把墓碑上的名字去掉就表示不是夫妻，不能合葬，而且把老头子其他子女名字都去掉，那更是对死者的不尊重。”陈老太气愤地说，二儿子在没经她允许的情况下，擅自去掉了她的名字，她要告二儿子侵犯了她的人格权，并要求把自己和其他子女的名字都加上去。

And cemetery management without bargaining,Age too to jiangning area legal aid center for help."In our rural,The tombstone name remove means not husband and wife,Can't buried together,And the old man other children names are removed,It is to the dead not respect."Age too angrily say,The second son by her without permission,Do STH without authorization removed her name,She will Sue the second son infringed on her right of personality,And asked to themselves and other children's names are added.

　　但当法援中心的律师找到陈老太的二儿子，交涉陈老太墓碑的问题，陈老太的二儿子也非常强硬，他说“我出钱给父亲买的墓，我自然有权决定墓碑上写谁。”

But when the center of the legal aid lawyers find age too much second son,Bargaining age too grave problems,The second son of age is also very strong,He said"I pitched in to buy the grave of my father,I shall have the right to decide to natural tombstone who write."

　　司法局调解员面对这种状况，也感觉很为难，因为这种情况即使帮助陈老太起诉到法院，陈老太胜诉的几率也不大，而且案件可能会被法院直接发回调解，而起诉人格权受侵犯，不在法律援助的范畴。

Justice bureau mediators in the face of this situation,Also feel very embarrassed,Because this kind of situation even help age too Sue to the court,Age too prevailing probability is not large also,And the case may be sent directly to the court mediation,Sue personality right infringement,Not in the category of legal aid.

事件比较罕见 法律界人士见解不一 Event rare legal professionals opinions differ

　　接待陈老太的江苏同安宁律师事务所律师周安凌认为，墓碑的功能是标识死者的安葬之处和身份，记载死者家族世系以及功德行事等，约等于家族的“荣誉状”，符合中国人光宗耀祖的社会风尚，亦是生者寄托对死者哀思、进行祭奠的物质载体，是具有人格象征意义的特定纪念物品。死者的亲属按照长幼顺序在墓碑上雕刻姓名符合我国传统伦理道德的一般观念，应视为公序良俗，这样的民事权益应当受到法律保护。

Reception age too jiangsu with peace law firm lawyers ZhouAnLing think,The function of the tombstone is marking the dead man's burial place and identity,Record the dead family and lineage qualities such as act,Approximately equal to the family"Honor shape",Accord with Chinese society fashion expression,Is also on the living to the dead grief/In memory of the material carrier,Personality is a symbolic meaning of specific items.The dead relatives his birthright and the youngest according to sequence on the tombstone carving name conforms to our country traditional ethics and the general idea,Public order shall be regarded as good morals,Such civil rights shall be protected by law.

　　“根据我国 《民法通则》第7条：民事活动应当尊重社会公德，立碑尽孝和夫妻同穴而葬都是中华民族的风俗，属于自然权利，陈老太可以主张她的人格权。”周安凌说。

"According to our country [The general principles of the civil law]Article 7:Civil activities shall respect social morality,Made with hole and hoping and husband and wife buried is the Chinese nation's custom,Belongs to natural rights,Age too can claim her personality right."ZhouAnLing said.

　　但是南京大学法学院邱鹭风教授认为，如果单纯从人格权起诉，老太太胜诉的希望不大。作为法律界的专家，邱教授提出此案的两点纠纷症结点所在。

But the nanjing university law school professor QiuLuFeng think,If only from the right of personality prosecution,The old lady is little hope of changing the situation.As the legal profession of experts,High professor put forward the two disputes in the crux point.

　　首先，对于房子的处置权，老太太其实无权把整套房子都给老大继承，因为她的老伴去世不久，她的房子其实是夫妻共同财产。按照法定继承，二儿子至少有权分到老父亲的那一半中的一部分，所以老太主张把所有房屋给老大，那至少在其它方面要给其他子女适当补偿。

First of all,For the house disposition,The old lady actually has no right to the house of a complete set of to boss inheritance,Because of her his wife died soon,Her house is actually the couple's joint property.In accordance with the statutory succession,The second son to father at least have the right to that part of the half,So that all the old houses to the boss,That, at least, in other respects will give other children appropriate compensation.

　　而老二毁掉有父母名字的墓碑，做法欠妥，但是侵犯人格权又谈不上。其实，墓地是儿子赠与父母的一种固定财产，从某种意义上说，从墓地买好，墓碑立好那一刻，墓地已经完成赠与的交接。没有极为特殊情况(譬如受赠人被赠与人严重虐待等)，赠与人不能撤销赠与。现在这场纠纷，其实是二儿子侵犯了母亲对于墓地的所有权，从这个角度上讲，也许陈老太的胜诉几率能大点。(通讯员 陈晓琴 赵伟 记者 贾晓宁)

The parents have destroyed the names of the tombstone,Practice not,But the infringement of right of personality and less.In fact,Cemetery is the son of a gift parents a fixed property,In a sense,Bought from the grave,Tombstone made good at that moment,Cemetery has been completed gift handover.Not very special circumstances(Such as the recipient is donative person serious abuse, etc),Donative person cannot revoke the gift.Now the dispute,It is the second son violated the mother for the ownership of the graveyard,Tell from this Angle,Maybe the chance to win the lawsuit can age too big point.(Reporter correspondent ChenXiaoQin zhao JiaXiaoNing)