这是典型的“中国式”家长心态，区别之处，只是从以往线下的串联打探，变身为在线群聊、穷聊。其所暴露出来的，依然是这个时代难以掩饰、也难以回避的焦虑。

This is typical of"Chinese"Parents' psychology,Differences from,Just from previous offline series of bug,Change as online group chat/Poor chat.The exposure of the out,This age is still difficult to conceal/Also unavoidable anxiety.

　　要指责这些家长们的过分关怀吗？当然可以。事实上，类似的指责和质疑一直都不绝如缕，几乎成了很多媒体以及有识之士的习惯性动作。从社会上来看，这些年来，一样也不乏特立独行的家长，只不过，那些个案似乎并没能给那些挤在群里、焦虑的家长们减压，大多数人依然在为孩子的选拔和考试、升学和择优而劳心费力。

To accuse these parents too much care?Of course.In fact,Similar accused and question always hanging by a thread,Almost became a lot of the media and the man of insight the habitual action.From the social point of view,Over the years,And there is no lack of parents,just,Those cases and didn't seem to get to those that crowded in the group/Anxious parents decompression,Most people are still in the selection and test for the child/Bound and optimizing and headwork effort.

　　这其中的辛苦，仅仅凭局外人的冷眼观察，很难得到更为深切的体会。以万众瞩目的“小升初”来说，教育行政部门几乎每年都要发布不得进行选拔性考试的文告，以安定人心，这种举动已成例行公事，可是，如果真的相信文告所说的内容，安静地等待的话，那你家的孩子注定上不了那些名校。一方面，缺乏公开的信息，小道消息满天飞；另一方面，事实上的选拔依然存在，这个时候，家长相互之间的互通信息，抱团取暖就显得格外重要。

The hard,Only by observing the outsider,It is difficult to get more deeply understand.To focus attention"another"for,Education administrative department almost every year to be published shall not engage in recruitment exam written statement,To settle the,This move has become a routine,but,If really believe that the content of the statement said,Quietly waiting for words,That your children not to the school.On the one hand,The lack of public information,Gossip all over the place;On the other hand,In fact the selection still exist,This time,Parents mutual communication information,BaoTuan heating is especially important.

　　除此之外，身为中国的学生家长，需要相互通气、相互鼓励的事情还有许多，比如，逢年过节要不要给老师表示表示，标准如何掌握？再如，孩子要不要上一些学前班、辅导班，如何选择？如此等等，细碎的事情不一而足，而无论哪一桩哪一件，都需要一一用心打理，并不是每一个人都有底气完全拒斥这些“庸俗”的东西。道理很简单，没有人乐意拿自家孩子作为改变社会风气的试验品。可以说，这种面对社会风气时的“无力感”，让众多家长为之气短。

In addition,As China's parents,Needs mutual ventilation/Encourage each other things there are many,For example,Holiday to don't give the teacher said,How to master the standard?Be like again,Children want to some preschool/Remedial class,How to choose?So on,Finely things vary,But no matter which one which pile,All need to do with them,Not everyone have bottom spirit completely rejects these"vulgar"things.Reason is very simple,Nobody willing to take their children as change the standards of social conduct test product.Can say,The face of general mood of society"dilutedness",Many parents let the shortness of breath.

　　因此，目前的问题，并不是学生家长们愿意“群居”，愿意每天泡在群里，“一刻都不能离开”。家长固然需要改变心态，放松心情，但是，更需要改变的是越来越畸形的教育环境，是越来越扭曲的社会风气。

therefore,The present question,And not students' parents are willing to"social",Willing to every bubble in the group,"Moment all cannot leave".Parents is need to change the mentality,relax,but,More need to change is more and more deformed education environment,More and more distortion is the general mood of society.

　　教育本来最能够体现人群的起点公平，从这里起步，每一个人的人生都应该走向精彩，然而，现实的情形却是教育资源分布的不平衡，教育伦理的日渐功利化。而与教育相关的社会风气更是很难真正廓清，尽管个体有责任为风气的改变做出自己的努力，但是，如果将扭转风气的希望完全寄托于个体之上，效果难言乐观。

Education was the most to be able to reflect the starting point of the fair,Start from here,Each person's life should be wonderful to,however,The reality of the situation is education resources distribution imbalance,Education ethics being increasingly.And education related to the general mood of society is difficult to really expurgation,Although the individuals responsible for climate change to make their own efforts,but,If the torsional atmosphere hope completely repose on individuals,Effect last optimistic.

　　在这样的大格局下，没有人能置身事外。家长们在群里的执著和焦灼，正是这个时代的焦虑。事关教育公平，社会风气，以及公共生活。（胡印斌）

In such a big pattern,No one can stay.Parents of persistent and deeply worried,It is in this age of anxiety.Education fair is,General mood of society,And public life.(HuYin bin)