美国诗人惠特曼曾说，有一个孩子，每天向前走去，他最初看见的东西，他就变成那东西，那东西就变成了他的一部分。　　 

    American poet Whitman said,One child,Forward to walk every day,He first saw things,He becomes the thing,It becomes a part of his. 

    孩子出生以后的身心发展是同步的，即个性、语言、思维和动作发展都是一致的，性别意识也不例外。但如今，在幼儿园和小学里，男孩哭鼻子、女孩挥拳头似乎已经司空见惯，而男生说话细声细气、动作扭捏，女生装扮中性、言行粗犷的现象在中学校园也已经不是少数。为什么会出现这样的现状？原因之一是家长忽视了对孩子的"性别教育"。

    After the child is born of the synchronous development of body and mind,Namely personality/language/Thinking and action development are consistent,Gender consciousness is no exception.But now,In kindergarten and elementary school,The boy crying/The girl seems to have common his fists,And the boy speak fine acoustic fine gas/Action be affectedly bashful,Girls dress up neutral/Words and deeds rough phenomenon in middle school campus is not a few.Why is there such a situation?One reason is that the parents to the child's ignored"Sex education".

　　所谓"性别教育"是指引导和影响孩子向适合于自己自然性别特征的健康的个性品质、风格和行为发展的活动。儿童性教育专家胡萍认为："孩子从出生就开始了对性别的认识。如果在成长过程中，性别意识发生错乱和障碍，很可能会混淆生物学上的性别，或者不接受、认可自己的性别，严重的甚至会发展成‘异性癖’、‘恋物癖’等，要求外科手术来改变自己性别就是其中的极端例子"。因此，对孩子进行正确的性别角色教育非常必要，这不但关系到孩子日后正常的社会交往、恋爱和家庭生活，还会影响其心理发展。

The so-called"Sex education"Refers to guide and influence to children for their natural gender characteristics of the healthy personality/Style and behavior development activities.Education experts discovered that hu ping:"Children from birth began to the understanding of gender.If in the growth process,Gender consciousness happens disorder and obstacles,Will likely confusing biological sex,Or not to accept/Recognized their gender,Serious even develop into‘Heterosexual bug’/‘fetishism’, etc,Requirements surgery to change their sex is one of the extreme example".therefore,Their children to be correct gender role education is very necessary,This is not only related to the children in the normal social contacts/Love and family life,Can also affect their psychological development.

　　对于孩子来说，除了日常的穿衣打扮、行为引导、兴趣爱好的培养外，父母能做到的最好的性别教育就是通过阅读来实现。一些学校和家长让孩子每天只埋在功课里，忽视了孩子的阅读培养，殊不知，功课的好坏一定程度上也是由阅读水平来决定的。专家研究发现，阅读是教育的核心，也是最基本的学习能力。特别是在现在复杂多变的社会环境下，通过死记硬背已无法适应新时代的学习需求，取而代之的是资料的搜集、整合、应用与创新的能力，而这种能力的形成和培养则取决于阅读。

For children,In addition to the daily dress/Behavior guide/The cultivation of interest outside,Parents can do it the best sex education is through reading to achieve.Some schools and parents let children everyday just buried in the lessons,Ignore the child's reading training,Little imagine,The stand or fall of homework to a certain extent, also by the reading level to decide.Experts study found that,Reading is the core of education,Which is the most basic learning ability.Especially in the present complex social environment,Through the rote already can't adapt to the new era of learning needs,Instead material collection/integration/Application and innovation ability,And the power of the formation and culture depends on reading.

　　阅读是有性别之分的，亲子阅读公益组织"三叶草故事家族"创始人周其星说："一般来说，男孩偏爱科普、冒险动作类童书，女孩更爱优美、细腻的公主类故事，如果我们没有留意到这样的差别，随手拿起一本书来讲或者给孩子自主阅读，结果难免会差强人意"。因此，作为一名称职的家长，对自己的孩子要清楚了解，对孩子所读的书也要清晰把握，这样才能得心应手地将最合适的书带到他的面前，从而在共读中感受读书之乐、亲子互动之趣及最终达到孩子自我认知教育的目的。

Reading is a gender points,Parent-child reading public welfare organization"Clover family story"Founder ZhouJiXing said:"Generally speaking,The boy preference science/Adventure action class children's books,Girls love more beautiful/Exquisite princess kind of story,If we don't notice that such differences,Face.he picked up a book speaking or give the child independent reading,The results will inevitably barely satisfactory".therefore,As a qualified parents,For their children to clear,To the child read book also want to clear grasp,This can be handy the most appropriate books to his presence,In order to read in experience the joy of reading/Interest of parent-child interaction and finally achieve the purpose of self-perception children education.

　　现在，书店里大多数的书都没有鲜明的性别和年龄标记，似乎男孩、女孩都可以读。对此，很多父母感到十分茫然。今年的上海书展上，上海师范大学教授梅子涵做客《京东会客厅》，专门就性别教育推荐了美国品牌"漫威"、"华纳DC"、"芭比"，以及比利时知名品牌"玛蒂娜"等系列经典图书，这些系列图书的策划出版方海豚传媒股份有限公司市场总监安海洋说："根据不同的内容和读者定位，很多书其实都可以通过专业的筛选和分类，带给不同性别和年龄层的孩子，给他们不同的滋养。比如，‘玛蒂娜’系列是一套专门为女孩子量身打造的行为成长范本，被誉为‘小女孩的书本妈妈’，讲述的正是一个优雅女孩的成长故事。而‘漫威’、‘蜘蛛侠’和‘钢铁侠’等超级英雄系列图书，则是培养少年读者敢于进取、勇于担当的‘男儿精神’的最佳读品。"

now,Most of the books in the bookstore are not distinct gender and age markers,Seems to boy/Girls can read.this,Many parents feel very at sea.This year's Shanghai on the book fair,Shanghai normal university professor MeiZiHan guest[Jingdong saloon],Special sex education recommend the American brand"Diffuse power"/"Warner DC"/"barbie",And Belgian famous brand"martina"Series of classic books,These series of books of planning and publication party dolphin media co., LTD., marketing director Ann Marine said:"According to the different content and the reader orientation,A lot of books in fact can through the professional screening and classification,Bring different gender and age children,Give them different nourish.For example,‘martina’Series is a set of special for girls custom-made2 behavior growth model,Is regarded as‘The little girl's mother books’,It is about an elegant girl growth story.and‘Diffuse power’/‘spider-man’and‘Iron man’Super heroes, such as series of books,It is to cultivate young readers dare to progress/The courage to bear the‘Man spirit’Best read product."

　　不过，正如周其星所提出的那样，"不要指望哪一本书一定能改变你的孩子，让他长成你需要的那样。阅读，重在享受过程，重在孩子能和你完整地共享一个故事本身，这是根本，不能动摇"。所以，只要父母能找到合适的故事，就可以从容地面对孩子，让他在故事中完成自我人格与道德品质的成长与塑造。

but,As ZhouJiXing proposed that,"Don't count on which a book can change your children,Let him grow as you need.reading,Focuses on enjoyed the process,Emphasis on children and you can complete to share a story itself,This is fundamental,Can't shake".so,As long as the parents can find the right story,Can easy with their children,Let him in the story complete self personality and moral quality of growth and shape.

　　阅读，是让孩子看见——你最初拿给他什么，他便看见什么。所以，让我们一起努力，通过阅读让孩子走向属于他们本来的样子吧！（鲁文）

reading,Is to let the children saw - you first show it to him,Then he saw what.so,Let us work together,By reading let the child to belong to their original look!(achieved)

(来源:中国教育报)

(Source: China education report)