大学不是“断奶期”(且行且思) University is not"Weaning stage"(And do and think)

　　大学新生入学之际，发生了不少“新鲜”事儿：

The students,A lot has happened"fresh"business:

　　前不久，家住大连沙河口区、70多岁的周奶奶收到一份快递，打开一看，原来是刚上大学的孙女寄回来的“礼物”：一大包衣服和7双袜子，让奶奶帮着洗。上大学才一个多星期，孙女就寄来了这样的“礼物”，着实让周奶奶颇感无奈；

Not long ago,ShaHeKouOu in dalian/More than 70 - year - old jer grandma received a Courier,Open on see,It is just the university granddaughter send back"gift":A large bundle of clothes and seven pairs of socks,Let grandma helped to wash.The university just more than a week,Granddaughter will send such"gift",Really made week grandma was helpless;

　　一位18岁的沈阳男孩考上了湖北某大学，本来是件高兴的事儿，可是在入学几天后，他竟然提出退学复读，理由是不能适应大学生活，他表示：“我要明年考一所本地的大学，那样我就可以天天回家看到我妈啦！”

A 18 shenyang boy admitted to a university in hubei province,It is a happy thing,But in a few days after admission,He unexpectedly put forward drop out of school answer read,Reason is not adapt to college life,He said:"Next year I want to take an examination of a local university,So I can go home every day to see my mom!!"

　　类似的例子不胜枚举。如今，在一些高校附近，有不少租房的母亲，她们是“专职妈妈”，专门来为上大学的孩子做饭、洗衣服的……为此，有教育专家提出，这些学生虽然上了大学，可是在心理上、精神上还没有“断奶”，亟须通过大学生活的矫治，使他们尽快实现“心理断奶”。

Similar by numerous examples.now,In some university nearby,There are many renting a house's mother,They are"Full-time mother",Dedicated to the college cook for children/Wash his clothes......therefore,Have education experts,Although these students in the university,But in psychological/There is no spirit"weaning",It is urgent to through the university life of correctional,Make them as quickly as possible"Psychological weaning".

　　不能否认，在当今独生子女时代，绝大多数孩子是被家长们“抱”大的。父母的溺爱代替了理性的家庭教育，无微不至的呵护取代了必要的历练摔打。家长们不愿让孩子吃一点苦、受一点累，看不得孩子受一点挫折、受一点委屈……结果呢，孩子长大成人了仍然对父母有着过分的精神依赖，上大学后才面对“心理断奶”问题。这不是一种典型的成长扭曲和教育缺失吗？

Can't deny,In today's one-child era,The vast majority of children are the parents"embrace"big.The parents dote on instead of rational family education,Meticulous care replace the necessary experience throw.Parents don't want to let the child to eat a little bitter/By a little tired,See not child suffer a little frustration/From a grievance...The result,The child grown up to their parents still have excessive psychological dependence,The university before face"Psychological weaning"problems.This is not a typical growth distortion and lack of education?

　　人们经常批评大学教育的弊端，大学总是把问题的症结归因于基础教育。其实，每个阶段的教育都有其必然规律，每个阶段的教育都不能缺位、不能失职。教育不能总是为人生“补课”，中小学的德育不能形同虚设，更不能把大学当作学生的“断奶期”。(俞 任)

People often criticized the disadvantages of university education,University always put the crux of the problem due to basic education.In fact,Every stage of the education has its inevitable rule,Every stage of the education cannot lack/Can't neglect of duty.Education can't always for life"Make up a missed lesson",Primary and secondary school moral education can not exist in name only,More can't leave university as a student"Weaning stage".(Shu as)