人生应该有个长远的规划，不要临时抱佛脚，不要头脑一热，就仓促做出重大的决定。更不要因为是一个疏忽和错误，反倒不得不收拾残局。当然，我们不能保证人生每一个决定都没有瑕疵，但起码在重大问题上，要力争多一点把握。对于一个期望一生幸福的女人来说，尤其需这样。

Life should be a long-term planning,Don't cram for,Don't mind the heat,Will rush to make a big decision.More don't because it is a negligence and error,But had to pick up the pieces.Of course,We cannot guarantee that life every decision without blemish,But at least on major issues,To strive for more grasp.For an expected life happy woman,Especially need to such.

　　如果你的婚姻出现了裂缝，请不要指望生出一个带着强力胶水瓶的孩子。你的事情你要自己处理好，如果处理不好就承担责任，孩子是无辜并且无能为力的。

If your marriage appeared crack,Please don't expect produce a with super glue bottle children.You of the things you want to deal with,If treatment is not liable,The child is innocent and helpless.

　　听到太多的夫妇说生孩子的目的，是为了弥合已经渐渐疏离的感情。这个方法有没有效果呢？我想，一定有过成功的经验。因为两个人的基因合在了一起，两个人有了共同的载体和平台。婴儿无疑是可爱的，在我们的基因里，遗传的力量很强大。记得我看到过一个动物实验的结果，说是有比较多的后代的某种雄鼠，在遇到另外的雌鼠时候，交配的次数就比较少，如果套用到人类身上，就好比说是有后代的男人，见异思迁的机会要少些，家庭责任感会深厚些。

Hear too many couples said the purpose of the children,In order to heal have gradually alienative feelings.This method have the effect it?I want to,There must be a successful experience.Because two gene together,Two people have a common carrier and platform.The baby is undoubtedly lovely,In our genetic,Genetic power is strong.Remember I have seen an animal experiment results,Say have more offspring, some male mice,When to meet other females,The number of mating is less,If applying to humans,Like say have offspring of man,Grasshopper chance to be less,The family sense of responsibility will be deep some.

　　我至今不知道这个试验是否准确，是否是孤证，心中存疑。况且次数少一点和坚持一夫一妻的操守，还是有质的距离。再有，人和老鼠毕竟是有大不同的，在老鼠那儿得出的规律，放在人身上，就有鼠目寸光之感。人虽然是动物，毕竟前面要冠以“高等”二字。高等和低等是不同的，你不能同草履虫讲一夫一妻。

Till now I still don't know this test is correct or not,Is GuZheng,Heart dubious.Besides times less and adhere to the monogamous integrity,There are still qualitative distance.have,And mice after all is a big different,In the mice there came to the law,On man,There is the feeling of a short-sighted.People are animals,After all previous words"higher"Two words.Higher and lower is different,You can't speak with paramecium monogamy.

　　总之，夫妻关系在没有孩子之前就已经存在了，没有孩子之后，也会存在。在现阶段，孩子应该是爱情的产物，为了给孩子一个健康成长的机会，孩子也应该是美满婚姻的产物。如果自己的事情都处理不好，一个大人都望洋兴叹的艰巨任务，让一个婴儿的大脑袋小胳膊扛起来，往小里说是不负责任，往大里说，就是不配做父母了。

In a word,Husband and wife relationship in the no child it has existed before,No child after,Also may have.At the present stage,Children should be the product of love,In order to give the child a chance to grow up healthy,The child should also is the product of a happy marriage.If your own thing all processes is not good,A adults feel powerless and frustrated task,Let a baby big head small arm carry up,Go to the small is irresponsible,To big said in,Is not worthy to be parents.

　　每一个生命来到世上，都带着千姿百态的特征，正等待着我们挖掘。

Every life has come into the world,With various types of features,Waiting for our mining.

　　我当过一段时间的妇产科医生，看到一个圆滚滚的生命，披着黏稠的红战袍，如同朝阳一般娩出，是难以忘怀的经历。新生的婴儿非常滑，比任何一条鲇鱼更滑。有一次，他在我手中不安地挣扎着，因为他太大了，脐带粗得像一根紫蓝色的宽皮带，一下子套住了我的手，差一点把他扔到了脚下的污物桶里。幸好我手疾眼快，像抢一个篮板球似的，把他抱在了怀里，才免去一场人仰马翻的灾难。

I used to be a period of time in the department of obstetrics and gynecology doctors,See a roundabout life,Covered with thick red shirt,As chaoyang general childbirth goes out,Is unforgettable experience.Newborn babies are very slippery,A walking than any article more slippery.once,He in my hand anxiously struggling,Because he is too big,Umbilical cord coarse like a root purple blue wide belt,A set of in my hand,Nearly threw him out at the foot of dirt in a barrel.Fortunately I moving or acting quickly,Like grabbing a rebound similar,Take him in her arms,From scratch to a disaster.

　　曾目睹这一惊险的老医生说，你知道如果你接不住这个孩子，会怎么样吗？

Watched the breathtaking old doctor said,You know that if you can pick up the child,? What will it be?

　　我说，他会掉到垃圾堆里，闹不好，碰出个脑震荡。

I said,He will drop to the dump,Make bad,Touch a concussion.

　　老医生说，这要算是最好的情况了。因为这个婴孩的脐带很短，还没断脐，如果他掉到污物桶里，就会把他妈妈的子宫拽个底朝天，引发大出血，后果不堪设想。所以，我今天要表扬你的临危不乱，以后所有的妇产科医生，都要像你一样去练习打篮球……

Old doctor said,This will be the best.Because the baby's umbilical cord is very short,Haven't broken umbilical,If he fell into dirt in a barrel,Will put his mother's womb ye sigint,Cause massive haemorrhage,Consequence is unimaginable.so,Today I will praise your unflappable,After all of the department of gynaecology and obstetrics doctor,Will like you to practice playing basketball...

　　说了这么半天，只是为了证明我在妇产科正正经经地当过助产士。那些刚刚出生的孩子，是如此不同，从未见过两个一样的孩子。即使是双胞胎，也不一样。

Say so along while,Just to prove I in gynecology and obstetrics is serious the land as a midwife.Those children born just,Is so different,Have never seen the same two children.Even twins,Is different also.

　　但是，当护士用统一的襁褓，将他们包成一模一样的蜡烛包的时候，很多特征就消失了。他们变得难以识别。

but,When the nurse with unified swaddling clothes,Will they bag into a same candles when bag,Many features disappeared.They become it is difficult to identify.

　　(来源:日本新华侨报网；作者:毕淑敏)

(Sources: Japan 'xinhua net;Author: BiShuMin)