火车站的茫茫人海，要找一个离家出走的17岁女孩，而且与这位女孩素未谋面，你会答应这样的请求吗？

The railway station the vast sea of humanity,To find a runaway 17 years old girl,And the girl you've never met,You will agree to this request?

　　南京的两位热心志愿者清荷（网名）和贾永喜答应了，并且帮助焦急的母亲找到了。这个17岁的女孩，带着42斤的行李从浙江海宁，乘火车来到江苏南京，离家出走是因为和母亲吵了架，想在南京找份工作，独立生活。与两位志愿者的交流中，女孩并没有表现出多少叛逆的情绪，志愿者觉得，孩子的压力确实有些大。

Nanjing two enthusiastic volunteers clear load(net)And JiaYongXi promised,And help anxious mother found.This 17 year old girl,With 42 jin luggage from zhejiang haining,The train to nanjing, jiangsu,Away from home because and mother a quarrel,Want to find a job in nanjing,Independent life.And two volunteers in communication,The girl did not show how many rebellious mood,Volunteers feel,The child's pressure does have some big.

　　现代快报记者 是钟寅

Modern express reporter is ZhongYin

　　志愿者夜寻出走女孩 Volunteers night away for girl

　　11月4日晚上8点多 On November 4, at 8 o 'clock

　　能不能帮我找找女儿 Could you help me look for her daughter

　　银川打来求助电话： Yinchuan ask for help a telephone call:

　　能不能帮我找找女儿 Could you help me look for her daughter

　　清荷是一名心理咨询师，也是“一家圆·心灵保姆”志愿者组织的成员。11月4日晚上8点多，她忽然接到一个从银川打来的电话。求助者是她在银川出差时，偶然认识的一个服装店的女店主。女店主有个17岁的女儿蓉蓉（化名），因为母女俩吵了架，蓉蓉带着行李离家出走。

Clear load is a psychology to seek advice from division,Is also"A round · mind nanny"Volunteer members.On November 4, at 8 o 'clock,Suddenly she received a telephone call from yinchuan.Patient is her business trip in yinchuan,Met by chance a clothing store landlady.Landlady has a 17 year old daughter yung yung(alias),Because the mother and daughter both a quarrel,Yung yung with their luggage to run away from home.

　　母亲在电话中已经急得语无伦次，声音也有些颤抖，“能不能帮我找找女儿，她快到南京火车站了。”清荷听到这样一个请求，心有余而力不足，火车站人海茫茫，与蓉蓉又没见过，找起来实在力不从心。“找孩子总得知道孩子叫什么，长什么样吧？不然我们到哪去找？”双方交流中，手忙脚乱的母亲几次误按挂断电话，清荷一次次打过去，最终通过彩信要来一张女孩的照片。

Mother on phone have nasty incoherent speech,Also some voice trembling,"Could you help me look for her daughter,She come to the nanjing railway station."Qing charge heard such a request,The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak,The railway station is boundless,And yung yung and haven't seen,Find up really ability not equal to one's ambition."Looking for children must know the child's name,Long what kind it?Or should we go look for?"Both sides communication,Helter skelter mother several times error according to hang up the phone,Qing charge after playing the past,Finally through the multimedia message to a photo of a girl.

　　这张照片是蓉蓉以前拍的大头贴，强烈的灯光下，女孩做着鬼脸，相貌模糊，对找人帮助有限。清荷看对方实在着急，硬着头皮答应下来，她上QQ请志愿者群里的人帮帮忙，一起来火车站找人。

This picture was taken before yung yung photo,The strong light,The girl doing a face,Looks fuzzy,To find someone to help limited.Qing charge at each other really worried,Crustily skin of head promised down,Her QQ please volunteer group of people in the help,A railway station get up.

　　

晚上9点 9 PM

　　找到女孩，一转眼又没了 Find girl,I have no more

　　志愿者相约寻人： Volunteers meet people search:

　　找到女孩，一转眼又没了 Find girl,I have no more

　　贾永喜也是“一家圆·心灵保姆”的志愿者，他原本都打算洗漱休息了，但看到群里清荷说蓉蓉出走的事情，立即自告奋勇，要来帮忙。

JiaYongXi is also"A round · mind nanny"volunteers,He originally is going to wash gargle to rest,But see group clear load said yung yung away things,Immediately come forward,Wanted to help.

　　晚上8点54分，他发了一条微博：“刚刚接到求助，一个外地小孩来南京会网友，家人请我们在火车站帮忙拦截。”

54 points 8 p.m.,He made a small bo:"Just received help,A foreign children come to nanjing will net friend,Our family in the railway station, please help intercept."

　　小贾从夫子庙出发，乘公交车往火车站赶去。

Small jia on from Confucius temple,Take a bus to the railway station to catch.

　　当他到达火车站时，已经是晚上9点，天色已经黑了，手上也没有女孩的照片，清荷还在从江宁过来的地铁上。

When he got to the station,Is 9 o 'clock at night,It was already dark,Hands no photo of a girl,Qing lotus in jiangning come from the subway.

　　对小贾来说，这样找人无异于大海捞针，他只听清荷说，女孩身高1.64米，短发，来南京是见网友的，身边很可能有一名男孩子。他开动脑筋，“见网友？一般挑地方不会离火车站太远，不是肯德基，就是麦当劳吧？”他随即就往火车站旁的肯德基走去，转悠一圈，果然在靠窗的座位上有一男一女，女孩子的长相、年纪都符合描述。

For small for jia,So for someone is looking for a needle in a haystack,He only hear charge said,The girl is 1.64 meters,hair,Nanjing is to see a net friend's,Side there is likely to be a boy.He use your head,"See a net friend?General pick place does not too far away from the railway station,KFC is not,Is McDonald's,?"He then went to the railway station and by KFC,Hover around a circle,Indeed as expected at window seats on a man and a woman,The girl's face/Age conforms to the description.

　　虽然八九不离十了，但小贾还没敢惊动他们，他心想，“若是女孩子执意要离开，反而把事情弄糟了，先看看。”他从两人的交谈中听到只言片语，果然年轻男女聊得是关于离家出走的事情，小贾心里暗暗高兴，果然没弄错。他出门给清荷打了电话，这时清荷已经出地铁站了，于是他去站口接清荷。

Although the pretty close,But little jia haven't dare disturb them,He thought,"If a girl desire to leave,But will make things worse,First take a look at."He from two people's conversation heard a few words,Indeed as expected young men and women talk to run away from home is about things,Small jia heart secretly happy,Does not mistaken.He went to the qing lotus dozen telephone,Then clear load has been out of the subway station,So he went to the ZhanKou joint clear load.

　　两位志愿者还挺高兴，没想到寻人如此顺利。当他们到达肯德基时，小贾的笑容凝固住了，“咦？人呢？”他没想到，只是接清荷短短5分钟的间隙，找到的人又没了。

Two volunteers also pretty happy,Didn't expect people search so smoothly.When they reached the KFC,Small jia smile solidification lived,"yi?People??"He didn't expect,Just pick clear load just five minutes clearance,Find and they didn't.

　　晚上10点30分 At 10 PM

　　志愿者把女孩接回家 Volunteers take girl home

　　网友帮忙联系： Net friend help contact:

　　好在清荷又找到一线希望，蓉蓉来宁之前，把男网友的手机号码交给了要好的同学，蓉蓉母亲向这位同学要到了这个号码。

Fortunately clear load and find a ray of hope,Yung yung before to better,The male net friend's phone number to the good students,Yung yung mother to the classmate to at this number.

　　通过这个号码，清荷找到了蓉蓉的男网友。原来两个年轻人也走散了，男孩劝蓉蓉不要太任性，离家出走不安全，并且承认已经接到蓉蓉母亲的电话。女孩却听不进去，她觉得是网友“通敌卖友”，把自己的行踪泄露给了母亲，两人不欢而散。

Through this number,Qing lotus found yung yung's male net friend.Originally the two young people also lost contact,The boy advised yung yung is not too capricious,Away from home safe,And that has received yung yung is mother's call.But the girl won't listen,She felt is net friend"Collaborate with MaiYou",His whereabouts leaked to the mother,Two people part on bad terms.

　　清荷先找到了男孩，并请男孩打电话给蓉蓉，终于和女孩见上面。蓉蓉见到清荷和贾永喜，听说是帮妈妈找人的，孩子一脸郁闷，“怎么可以这样，我刚到南京就被你们拦截到了。”

Qing lotus first found the boy,And please boy called rong rong,Finally and girls see a top.Yung yung see clear load and JiaYongXi,Heard that is to help my mother for someone's,The child looked depressed,"How can so,I have just arrived in nanjing was you to intercept."

　　蓉蓉虽然有些失望，但没有表现出太多反抗情绪，清荷和孩子耐心交流了一会儿，孩子也承认，一个人在陌生的城市有些怕，愿意跟志愿者回家。清荷也向孩子保证，不会立即喊来母亲，让孩子在南京多玩几天，并且会帮忙做母亲的工作，劝母亲与女儿平等交流。

Yung yung although some disappointment,But did not show too much resistance mood,Clear load and children patience exchange for a while,Children also acknowledged that,A man in the strange city some fear,With volunteers to go home.Clear load to ensure children,Not shouted immediately to mother,Let the child play more than a few days in nanjing,And will help to do the work of the mother,Mother and daughter to equal communication.

　　晚上10点30分,寻人的事情终于告一段落，女孩的母亲也与清荷通了电话，答应让女孩再玩几天，11月6日来南京与孩子见面。

At 10 PM,Without things finally come to an end,The girl's mother also and clear charge through the phone,Agreed to let the girl again a few days,On November 6 days nanjing and children meet.

　　阳光女孩为何离家出走 Sunshine girl why run away from home

　　妈妈的爱让她透不过气来 Mother's love let her breath away

　　希望她成绩好，进银行，找个“高富帅” Hope she good results,Into the bank,Find a"GaoFu handsome"

　　蓉蓉是一个来自浙江海宁的女孩，今年17岁，上高二。清荷和贾永喜眼中，蓉蓉是个健谈的女孩，是个可爱的女孩。她虽然离家出走，可在她身上，志愿者并没有看到叛逆等负面的情绪。她最大的烦恼来源于母亲。

Rong rong is a from zhejiang haining girl,17 years old this year,high.Clear load and JiaYongXi eyes,Rong rong is a talkative girl,Is a lovely girl.Although she run away from home,Can be in her body,Volunteers and didn't see treason and negative emotions.Her greatest worry comes from mother.

　　母亲希望她能成绩好，希望她交的朋友也是优等生，希望她以后能进银行工作，希望她将来找个“高富帅”男友。然而，母亲的期望不是她的期望。

Mother wants her to do well in,Hope she pay friends is also top student,Hope she can into the bank after work,Hope she will find a"GaoFu handsome"boyfriend.however,Mother's expectations are not her expectations.

　　蓉蓉成绩并不好，她也承认自己不擅长学习，她希望进一所3+2大专，或者是上卫校，学一门技术，过普通人的生活就可以。她有要好的朋友，可朋友和她一样成绩不好。她还没有男朋友，但她觉得未必要找“高富帅”，男朋友最重要的是爱她，人品好。她觉得，爸爸就是一个挺好的人，可妈妈常常埋怨爸爸不会赚钱。

Yung yung result is not good,She also admit they are not good at learning,She hopes to get into a 3 + 2 college,Or is set on,Learn a technique,Over the life of the ordinary people can be.She has good friends,Can friends and her bad grades.She also don't have a boyfriend,But she felt not to find"GaoFu handsome",Boyfriend the most important thing is to love her,Good character.She felt,My father is a good man,But mother often blame dad won't make money.

　　父母都在银川做生意，都不能在身边陪她，母亲最常关心的方式就是打电话。电话中透露出的爱却让她透不过气来，妈妈叮嘱她好好学习，她觉得跟不上课程，希望换个学校，重读高一，但妈妈不答应。她告诉母亲，自己有一个很要好的朋友，可母亲听说，这个朋友成绩也不好，便让蓉蓉少和这个朋友往来，交一些成绩好的朋友。但母亲的这个要求，蓉蓉不能答应。蓉蓉很难过，“我回家都没人能说话，在学校也只有这样一个能说知心话的朋友，为什么要用成绩来衡量一个人好坏呢？这个朋友关心我，我觉得她人很好。”

All the parents in yinchuan business,Can in the side to accompany her,Mother most often concern way is called.The telephone show love but let her breath away,Mother told her good good study,She felt can't keep up with the course,Hope to change a school,Stress higher,But the mother don't promise.She told her mother,You have a very good friends,But mother heard that,This friend result is bad also,Then let yung yung is less and the friends,Make some good friends.But the mother's this requirement,Yung yung can't promise.Yung yung is very sad,"I go home and nobody could speak,In the school is the only way one can say confidences friend,Why want to use achievement to the measure of a man stand or fall?This friend care for me,I think she's a good person."

　　女孩本想在南京“闯世界” The girl wanted to in nanjing"started"

　　想打工，租个小房子，找个爱自己的 Want to work,Rent a small house,Find a love their own

　　母女俩一次次争吵，蓉蓉知道母亲是关心自己，但她实在无法忍受。

Mother and daughter both quarrel again,Yung yung know mother is concerned about yourself,But she can't stand.

　　前不久，她决定要自己出去“闯世界”，“去他的学校，去他的考本科，去他的进银行上班。”她只想去一个母亲找不到的地方，靠打工养活自己，租一个小小房子，以后可以找到一个爱自己的人一起生活。

Not long ago,She decided to go to"started","To his school,To his take an examination of undergraduate course,To his into the bank work."She just want to go to a mother can't find place,On the job to support yourself,Rent a small house,Later can find a love their own people living together.

　　于是，蓉蓉悄悄攒钱，准备攒足了钱就出发。可没等到她攒足钱，母女俩又吵架了，蓉蓉只带了1000多元，收拾了足足42斤的行李，就从海宁出发了，她买了一张火车票来南京。选择南京，她有自己的计划，她的网友中有一个男孩子是南京人，两个人聊了一年多，觉得男孩稳重可靠，自己到南京打工可以有人照应。她怕住宾馆会有身份证登记，泄露自己的行踪，想和男孩商量先借宿几天，再想办法租房子。蓉蓉还留了个心眼，她把男孩的号码交给了同学，万一自己“人间蒸发”了，同学可以与男孩联系，寻找失踪的线索。

so,Yung yung quietly saving money,Ready to start saved enough money.Can't wait until she saved enough money,Mother and daughter had another argument,Yung yung with only 1000 yuan,Tidy up for 42 jins of luggage,From haining set out,She bought a train ticket to nanjing.Choose nanjing,She has her own plan,Her net friend, there is a boy who is nanjing,Two people chatted for more than a year,Feel a boy to steady and reliable,His work to nanjing can someone look after.She was afraid to stay hotel will have id card registration,Let the cat out of his whereabouts,Want to consult the night before the boy and a few days,To think of a way to rent a house.Yung yung also left a mind's eye,She put the boy's number to the students,One thousand himself"evaporation"the,Students can contact with boys,Looking for the missing clues.

　　蓉蓉想在南京长期生活，但她自认没文化，没有学历，找工作不容易，到南京可以先当服务员。当志愿者问她，怎么带来这么多行李，她答道，“服务员工资不高，我得节省一点，不大手大脚花钱，用的东西尽量从家里带，好以后攒钱开个奶茶店。”

Yung yung wanted to live for a long time in nanjing,But she identity have no culture,No record of formal schooling,Looking for a job is not easy,To nanjing could start as a waiter.When volunteers asked her,How to bring so much luggage,She replied,"The waiter salary is not high,I have to save a little,Don't spend too recklessly,With things as far as possible from the home zone,Good save money after a milk tea shop."

　　可惜女孩的小小梦想，终究没实现，几天以后，她还是得回到学校。幸运的是，她这趟“闯世界”没遇到坏人，无论是这个男网友，还是两位志愿者，都劝说她回家。

But the girl's little dream,Ultimately didn't realize,A few days later,She still have to get back to school.fortunately,Her flight"started"Didn't meet the bad,Whether the male net friend,Or two volunteers,All persuade her home.

　　专家建议 Experts suggest

　　心理咨询师：请尊重孩子的意愿 Psychological consultant:Please respect the wishes of the children

　　在志愿者看来，阳光、可爱、有梦想的蓉蓉之所以离家出走，最大的症结在家长。

The volunteers seems,The sun/lovely/Have a dream of yung yung is away from home,The biggest sticking point in the parents.

　　“小丫头虽然成绩不好，可在我看来，综合素质很好，家长的问题在于，没有和孩子平等交流。”清荷是心理咨询师，她与蓉蓉聊得很投机，还把蓉蓉请到家里住，孩子能干懂事，给她烧了一大桌菜。

"Little girl although bad grades,But in my opinion,The comprehensive quality is very good,The problem is that parents,No and children equal exchange."Clear load is psychological consultant,She and yung yung talked very speculative,The yung yung please go to the home,Children do reasonable,Give her burned a large desks.

　　清荷分析，蓉蓉的父母在外地做生意，大人与孩子接触较少，孩子肯定会觉得缺少关爱。这种关爱不是用金钱就能补偿的，需要生活中点点滴滴的交流慢慢浸润。母亲一味让孩子好好学习，缺少耐心平等的沟通，显然无法达成目的。“要孩子好好学习，得有内心的东西才行。母亲给孩子规划出一个未来，却是孩子完全不想要的那种，孩子哪有动力呢？”清荷说，强加压力只会让孩子灰心失望，让孩子觉得缺少尊重，家长在这方面需要自我检讨。

Clear load analysis,Yung yung parents do business in the field,Adults and children less contact,Children will certainly feel the lack of love.This kind of love is not money can compensation,Need life dribs and drabs communication slowly infiltrating.Mother always let children study well,The lack of patience equal communication,Obviously can't reach a purpose."Children study well,Have a heart to do things.Mother to child planning out a future,Is the child completely don't want that,Children which have power??"Qing lotus said,Impose pressure will only let the child discouraged,Let children feel the lack of respect,The parents in this respect need to self review.

　　清荷表示，等孩子的母亲来宁后，她会先和母亲见个面，帮孩子解开母亲的心结。

Qing lotus said,And the mother of the child to the better,She will first and mother see a surface,Help my child to unlock the mother's heart.

　

　母亲的期望 Mother's expectations

　　成绩好

Do well in

　　交的朋友是优等生，以后能进银行

Delivery of a friend is top student,There will be into the bank

　　将来找个“高富帅”

Future to find a"GaoFu handsome"

　　不擅长学习，好友和她一样成绩不好

Not good at learning,My friend and her bad grades

　　希望学一门技术靠打工养活自己

Hope to learn a foreign technology on job to support yourself

　　找一个爱自己的人

Find a love themselves