“再co jià我就自杀！”(编辑注：应为cho，下同)昨日下午，网友“陈家小阿呆”在微博上发表一张图片，图片显示，一张贴在电线杆上的纸片上，一小孩用绿色的水彩笔写了四行稚嫩的字：“老爸，我上学了！老爸老妈不要co jià，再co jià我就自杀。”并写下了自己的名字。大河报官方微博转发该微博后，引起了许多网友的关注。

"I will commit suicide again co jia!"(Editor's note:Cho should be,Similarly hereinafter)Yesterday afternoon,Net friend"The small foolish"In micro bo published on a picture,Images show,A Posting on the pole on the pieces of paper,A child with green colour pen wrote four lines childish words:"dad,I go to school!How I met your mother don't co jia,I will commit suicide again co jia."And write down their names.The river to the official micro bo forwarding the micro after bo,Caused the attention of many users.

孩子的心酸：老爸老妈“再co jià，我就自杀” The child's feel sad:How I met your mother"Then co jia,I will commit suicide"

　　昨日下午，网友“陈家小阿呆”在微博上发了一张图片，并@大河报，大河报官方微博随即对这张图片进行了转发。图片中，一张灰白的长方形纸条贴在一根水泥电线杆上，纸条上面用绿色水彩笔写着：“老爸，我上学了！老爸老妈不要co jià（吵架），再co jià（吵架），我就自杀。”字体稚嫩，并混合着汉语拼音，右下角还留下了自己的名字。

Yesterday afternoon,Net friend"The small foolish"In micro blog hair a picture,And @ the river to,The river to the official micro Po immediately to this picture on the forward.picture,A hoary rectangle note posted on a piece of cement on the pole,Note it with green colour pen to write with:"dad,I go to school!How I met your mother don't co jia(quarrel),Then co jia(quarrel),I will commit suicide."Font young,And mixed with Chinese pinyin,Lower right corner also left his name.

　　纸条贴在水泥线杆较低的位置，应该是一名小学生留下的。网友“陈家小阿呆”告诉记者，纸条是朋友邱先生昨日上午10点左右经过郑州经二路与红专路交叉口时，在路口一根电线杆上看到的，邱先生随即用手机拍了一张照片。

Note posted on cement pole low position,Should be a pupil leave.Net friend"The small foolish"Told reporters,Note is a friend Mr Khoo, yesterday morning 10 o 'clock after zhengzhou JingErLu and GongZhuan when intersection,In crossing a wire pole see on,Mr Khoo, to use a mobile phone immediately took a photograph.

　　昨日下午，记者来到经二路与红专路交叉口，经过仔细寻找，并未发现这张纸条，询问路边商户和几名小区住户，均未听说纸条上的小孩的名字。

Yesterday afternoon,The reporter comes to JingErLu and GongZhuan road intersection,After careful looking for,Did not find this note,Ask the roadside merchant and several village resident,All did not hear note on the child's name.

　　附近的一名清洁工说，电线杆上张贴的纸条每天都会有人清理，这张纸条很有可能被清理掉了。

Nearby a cleaner said,Telegraph pole on the note posted some cleaning every day,This note is likely to be cleared away.

网友的愤怒：家长争吵打架，只会让孩子跟着扭曲变态 Net friend anger:Parents quarrel fight,Will only let the children follow distorted abnormal

　　网友“陈家小阿呆”的这条微博经过大河报官方微博的转发，迅速在网上扩散，许多网友都开始转发这条微博，并声称“希望孩子父母能看到”。许多网友看到照片后十分愤怒。

Net friend"The small foolish"Article the micro bo after the river to the official micro bo forwarding,Quickly on the Internet diffusion,Many netizens are beginning to forward this article micro bo,And claimed that"Hope that parents can see".Many users see pictures very angry.

　　网友“美惠爱美景NUJZ”说：“非常痛恨那些不好好过日子，自己扭曲也让孩子扭曲的父母。没完没了争吵打架，只会让孩子也跟着扭曲变态，幸福的家庭会遗传，不幸也会遗传。”

Net friend"MeiHui love beauty NUJZ"said:"Very hate those who don't live it,His twisted also let the parents of children distortion.Endless quarrel fight,Will only let the child also follow distorted abnormal,Happy families genetic,Unfortunately also can genetic."

　　一些网友看到照片后，也开始反思对孩子生活的关心和照顾。

Some net friend after see pictures,Also began to reflect on child lives concern and care.

　　网友“两天旅行”说：“为人父母，为了儿子也要相互谦让。”

Net friend"Two days travel"said:"parents,In order to son also want to mutual humility."

　　网友“山风的微博2012”说：“有家有子女的人们，请顾及并尊重你周围的人吧！”

Net friend"Mountain breeze micro bo 2012"said:"There's a children's people,Please take into consideration and respect the people around you it!"

　　网友“新密论坛”说：“父母吵架，对孩子起到我们自己无法想象的坏影响。”

Net friend"XinMi BBS"said:"Parents fight,To the child play our own can't imagine the bad influence."

　　许多网友表达了对孩子的牵挂。

Many netizens expressed the child's care.

专家的忠告：家长一定不要当着孩子的面吵架 The expert's advice:Parents must not in front of the kids face quarrel

　　“这是孩子的一种宣泄方式。”对于孩子写纸条一事，郑州市健康教育协会常务理事周建勋表示，孩子在遇到问题无法解决时，会选择这样的方式来宣泄自己的压力。

"This is the child's a catharsis way."For a child to write a note,Zhengzhou health education association executive member of the council ZhouJianXun said,The child cannot solve the problems when,Will choose this way to vent their pressure.

　　周建勋告诉记者，孩子用写纸条贴在路边这种方式来向父母表达自己的想法，说明孩子曾经通过其他方式跟父母反映过，但是并没有引起重视，多次表达后没有受到重视，孩子就会考虑“是不是应该活着”、“活着有什么意义”这一类的问题，所以会在纸条上写“我要自杀”。

ZhouJianXun told reporters,The child used to write note posted on the roadside this way to parents express their ideas,The child once through the other way with their parents had reflected,But did not pay attention,Many times after expression were not taken seriously,The children will consider"Should it be alive"/"Alive what's the point"This kind of problem,So will note top write"I want to commit suicide".

　　周建勋说，孩子对于社会的认知、情感的认知、生活感受主要来自于父母，家庭氛围不和谐就容易造成孩子紧张、不安、烦躁，时间久了影响孩子处理对外关系的能力，长此以往就会影响孩子的心理健康。

ZhouJianXun said,Children in social cognition/Emotional cognitive/Life experience mainly from their parents,Family atmosphere not harmonious is easy to cause the children nervous/uneasy/fidgety,Time for a long time affect the child the ability to deal with foreign relations,In the long run, it will affect the child's mental health.

　　周建勋说，作为父母，在处理情绪时，应当注意回避孩子，不要当着孩子的面吵架、打架，如果事情已经发生，家长应当采取补救措施，比如事后跟孩子沟通，安抚孩子的情绪，说明吵架的原因不是来自于孩子，这样能减少孩子的心理负担。

ZhouJianXun said,As parents,In the treatment of the emotions,Should pay attention to avoid the child,Don't quarrel in the presence of the child's face/fight,If things have happened,The parents shall take remedial measures,For example with children after communication,Children's emotional comfort,Explain the cause of the quarrel not from children,This can reduce the child's psychological burden.

　　孩子们在遇到家庭问题时要学会寻找帮助，积极想办法帮自己解决问题，比如可以找爷爷奶奶、姥姥姥爷说出自己的想法，反映困扰自己的问题，也可以通过学校、社区积极调解，解决问题。

The children in the family problems encountered when learn to look for help,Actively trying to help solve the problem by themselves,For instance can look for grandpa's grandmother/Grandma grandpa tell one's own idea,Reflect the troubled his own problems,Can also through the school/Community positive mediation,Solve the problem.