武汉“鹰爸”王劭彦和他的孩子王鼎森。《武汉晨报》供图 wuhan"Eagle dad"WangShaoYan and his children WangDingSen.[Wuhan morning]For map

　　今年春节期间，南京4岁男孩何宜德在美国暴雪天气中裸跑迎接新年的视频爆红网络，“鹰爸”何烈胜的极限教育方式引来广泛议论。

During the Spring Festival this year,Nanjing 4 years old boy in the United States HeYiDe blizzard weather bare ran to meet New Year's video detonation red network,"Eagle dad"HeLie - limit education mode draws extensive discussion.

　　近日，在武汉常青花园第三社区组织的徒步比赛中，4岁男童王鼎森一口气走完18公里，将不少大人甩在后面，陪同的妈妈也自叹不如。当地媒体采访后得知，小男孩在爸爸的特训下，每天跑步3000米，日复一日从不耽搁，并且经常洗冷水澡，18公里的徒步其实只是开始。“鹰式教育”再次引起广泛关注。

recently,In wuhan evergreen garden third community organization of walking in the game,4 years old boy's WangDingSen breath through 18 km,Many adults will be left behind,Accompanied mother also find humbling.Local media after the interview that,The little boy in the father prior next,Running every day 3000 meters,Day after day never delay,And often cold shower,18 km hike is just started."6-under education"Once again aroused widespread concern.

　　前天，本报对话武汉“鹰爸”王劭彦。他认为，自己的教育方式并不极端也并不特别，只是相对一般家长对孩子的教育而言，显得比较严苛。他只希望孩子将来成为一个平凡快乐的人，懂得生命的意义。

The day before yesterday,This dialogue wuhan"Eagle dad"WangShaoYan.He thinks,His education mode is not extreme is not special,It is relatively general for parents to their children's education concerned,Appear more tough.He only hope children become an ordinary happy person,Understand the meaning of life.

　　

谈理念 Talk about concept

　　

教育书籍启发很大 Education books inspired great

　　京华时报：为什么要这样训练孩子？

Jinghua times:Why do you want to training children?

　　王劭彦：孩子刚出生时，我们也很迷茫。我的同龄人对教育孩子的观念比较传统，但传统的不一定是正确的，我一直在思考该如何教育孩子。一些教育方面的书籍和资料，对我现在教育理念和方式的形成有很大的启迪。

WangShaoYan:The child just was born,We also very confused.I peers to education children more traditional ideas,But the traditional is not necessarily correct,I've been thinking how to education child.Some education books and material,For now I education idea and the formation of the method of a lot of enlightenment.

　　京华时报：都包括哪些书籍？

Jinghua times:Include what books?

　　王劭彦：对我影响最大的是《卡尔·威特的教育》，它把我的思想观念彻底改变，具有指导意义。此外还有《哈佛女孩刘亦婷》和攸武的《儿童的高级教育》。

WangShaoYan:To me is the greatest impact[Karl Witt's education],It took my ideas completely change,Has guiding significance.In addition[Harvard girl LiuYiTing]And yau wu of[Children's senior education].

　　京华时报：书中哪些理念影响你？

Jinghua times:The book which idea influence you?

　　王劭彦：每个孩子都是天才，只不过大人的教育方式和引导方式不同，有的孩子变成了凡夫俗子，有的孩子变成了天才。教育孩子要越早越好，包括孩子的身体、智力发展，怎么样去开发孩子的智力，卡尔的书说得非常详细。我认为能够做到书上的50%，我的孩子就非常了不起。

WangShaoYan:Every child is a genius,Only adult education mode and lead in a different way,Some children become the ordinary people,Some children become genius.Education children to the sooner, the better,Including the child's body/Intellectual development,How to develop children's intelligence,Carl book very detailed.I think can do 50% of the book,My child is very great.

　　京华时报：您对孩子的教育有详细计划吗？

Jinghua times:Your child's education have the detailed plan?

　　王劭彦：有的，洗冷水澡、跑步、骑自行车，包括开发智力都有计划。当然，跟孩子相处时，会感觉到孩子的世界跟大人是相反的，并不是大人所有的想法都能如愿实施到他的身上。所以，只有把理念渗透到行为里，再把行为实施到孩子身上，根据与孩子相处过程中产生的行为来应变，这样更实用一些。

WangShaoYan:some,Cold shower/running/Riding a bicycle,Including development intelligence all in a planned way.Of course,With children get along,Will feel the world of children with adult is opposite,And not all adults ideas can get it implemented into his body.so,Only the concept penetration to the behavior,Again behavior implementation to children,According to working with children in the process of behavior to strain,So some more practical.

　　

谈生活 Talk about the life

　　

洗冷水澡不是蛮干 Cold shower is not act rashly

　　京华时报：什么时间开始训练孩子洗冷水澡？

Jinghua times:What time to start training children cold shower?

　　王劭彦：2009年4月，孩子1岁零3个月的时候。

WangShaoYan:In April 2009,Children 1 years and 3 months.

　　京华时报：为什么是这个时间？

Jinghua times:Why is this time?

　　王劭彦：孩子年龄太小时，机体没能达到一定的承受能力之前不敢实施。1岁以前，孩子经常感冒发烧，但发烧前3天我们不去医院，而是通过物理降温，充分调动孩子的身体抵抗力。另外，给孩子穿衣服比较少。经过准备，孩子到1岁零3个月时，我觉得他的抵抗力已经积累到一定程度，可以尝试洗冷水澡。

WangShaoYan:Children age too hours,The body can't reach a certain capacity before can't implement.1 years ago,Children often catch a cold have a fever,But a fever before 3 days we don't go to the hospital,But through the physical cooling,Give full play to the child body resistance.In addition,Give your child to wear clothes less.After preparation,The child to 1 years and 3 months,I think he's resistance has been accumulated to a certain degree,Can try to cold shower.

　　京华时报：第一次洗了多长时间？

Jinghua times:How long did the first wash?

　　王劭彦：10分钟左右。一开始不完全是冷水，而是用对小孩来说水温较低的温水，大概33到36度。从高温到低温，经过几天过渡到冷水。冷水澡并不是冰水澡，也不是直接用自来水，那太极端。

WangShaoYan:10 minutes.The beginning is not quite the cold water,But with the for children with low water temperature of warm water,About 33 to 36 degrees.From high to low temperature,After a few days transition into the cold water.A cold shower is not ice water bath,Also not directly use tap water,That's too extreme.

　　京华时报：一开始小孩会哭吗？你怎么办？

Jinghua times:A child began to cry?What do you do?

　　王劭彦：当然，家长跟孩子相处的方式很重要。如果大人觉得这是一件很紧张的事情，并把紧张情绪带给他，他一定会感到非常害怕。我会告诉他，你跟别的小孩子不一样，你很棒，你的身体也比一般小孩好，这样积累起他的自信心。虽然第一次他觉得受不了，但他坚持下来了。有了第一次，第二次第三次也就好办了。

WangShaoYan:Of course,Parents with children get along with way is very important.If adults feel this is a very strain of things,And the tension brought him,He will feel very afraid.I'll tell him,You and the other children is not the same,You're good,Your body is better than general child good,So build up his confidence.Although the first time he felt can't stand,But he insisted on down.The first,The second third is easy.

　　京华时报：你当时心里不难受吗？

Jinghua times:You had the heart not sick?

　　王劭彦：非常难受。但难受归难受，我知道这是科学的，不是蛮干。在西方包括在日本洗冷水澡是一个司空见惯的事情，只是在我国传统教育观念里面难接受。

WangShaoYan:Very uncomfortable.But afflictive be uncomfortable,I know this is scientific,Not act rashly.In the western included in Japan cold shower is a common thing,Only in our traditional education idea it difficult to accept.

　　

谈运动 Talk about sports

　　

跑步是锻炼意志力 Running is exercise will power

　　京华时报：为什么让孩子练长跑？

Jinghua times:Why let the child practice run?

　　王劭彦：孩子肢体比较灵活，反应能力和平衡能力比较好，就想带他运动，尝试让他冒险。1岁3个月时，我曾鼓励他自己走上防洪堤坝再走回来，没有人扶他。他成功了，自己也很高兴。我觉得他能够很好地保护自己了，就经常带他出去玩，带他跑步。

WangShaoYan:The child body more flexible,Reaction ability and balance ability is better,Just want to take his movement,Try to let him adventure.1-3 months,I have to encourage himself on flood control dam to go back,No one helped him.He succeeded,I'm really happy.I think he can well protect themselves,Will often bring him go out to play,Brought him running.

　　京华时报：一开始就要求跑3000米？

Jinghua times:For a start to run 3000 meters?

　　王劭彦：当然不是，是循序渐进的。

WangShaoYan:Of course not,Is gradual.

　　京华时报：孩子坚持不下来怎么办？

Jinghua times:Children hold down how to do?

　　王劭彦：会鼓励他，有时也会给一定压力。刚开始坚持不下来，就让他中间快走休息，现在基本不用。

WangShaoYan:Would encourage him,Sometimes also can give a certain pressure.Just started to hold down,Let him intermediate go to rest,Now the basic need not.

　　京华时报：两年多下来，孩子与同龄人有何不同？

Jinghua times:More than two years down,Children and how different peers?

　　王劭彦：身体上的反应比较明显，不怎么生病，意志力也比较坚强，在幼儿园从未请过病假。

WangShaoYan:Physical reaction more apparent,Don't get sick,Will power is strong,In the kindergarten never called in sick.

　　京华时报：除了身体，在智育方面如何教育孩子？

Jinghua times:In addition to the body,In intellectual education how to education child?

　　王劭彦：每周会请个大学生给他上生物课，因为生物是自然科学，直接讲授大学或高中的课程。不是让他掌握课程内容，而是为将来做铺垫，我想让他从生物过渡到物理、化学，再过渡到奥数。我不给孩子报英语培训班，但英语我从未放松过，每天坚持给他播放《走遍美国》半小时到1个小时，你玩你的，我放我的，让他在玩中学。这是我从《儿童的高级教育》中获得的启发。

WangShaoYan:Weekly will please a college students to him in biology class,Because the creature is natural science,Direct teaching college or high school courses.Not let him to master the course content,But for the future do foreshadowing,I want to let him from the biological transition into the physical/chemical,To transition into the mathematical olympiad.I don't give children to English training class,But English I never relax over,On every day to give him play[Throughout the United States]Half an hour to an hour,You play with your,I put my,Let him play in the middle school.This is me from[Children's senior education]For inspiration.

　　

谈质疑 Talk about question

　　

我的方法不极端 My method is not extreme

　　京华时报：媒体对您的教育方式报道后，网络上褒贬不一。网上的评论会对您有影响吗？

Jinghua times:Media on your education way after reports,The network mixed.Online commentary on you have affected?

　　王劭彦：不会。我愿意同所有的家长探讨孩子的教育问题，即使把我当成反面教材也没问题，有争论才会有进步。

WangShaoYan:Won't.I would like to discuss with all the parents the child's education problem,Even if the opposite me as teaching material is fine,There is debate will have progress.

　　京华时报：有网友质疑训练孩子时没有考虑到孩子的接受能力，对此如何回应？

Jinghua times:Netizens question training children without considering the children accept ability,How to respond to this?

　　王劭彦：这种质疑很正常。让孩子做他自己愿意做的事情，会是什么结果？孩子肯定会做有利于他的事情。孩子是没有辨别能力的，大人应该把他往正确的方向引导。

WangShaoYan:This question is very normal.Let children do what he himself would do,What will be the result?Children must be made to help his things.The child is no discrimination ability,Adults should put him off to the right direction guide.

　　京华时报：让孩子过早地进行这样的体育训练，是否咨询过相关专家？

Jinghua times:Let the children early on such physical training,Whether consulting relevant experts?

　　王劭彦：没有，但我事先查阅了很多资料。跑步这件事完全不用担心，看孩子的适应能力，绝不勉强。洗冷水澡也一样，我不走极端，达到健身效果即可。

WangShaoYan:no,But I had access to a lot of material.Running it completely don't have to worry about,Look at the child's adaptability,Never forced.Cold shower too,I don't go to extremes,Achieve fitness effect can.

　　京华时报：有人觉得您对孩子的教育太残酷。

Jinghua times:Some think you to the child's education is too cruel.

　　王劭彦：我对孩子的锻炼是循序渐进的过程，这是对他意志力的磨练，谈不上残酷。残酷是逼孩子做他不想做的事，我没有。只是我的方法可能很少有人用，相对来说显得严格。

WangShaoYan:I to the child's exercise is a gradual process,This is he the willpower to hone,Less cruel.Cruelty is force their child to do what he don't want to do,I have no.Just my method may be rare,Relatively speaking is strictly.

　　京华时报：网上把您与南京“鹰爸”相比，您对武汉“鹰爸”的称谓怎么看？

Jinghua times:Your online and nanjing"Eagle dad"Compared with,You to wuhan"Eagle dad"What name?

　　王劭彦：我的做法是比较鹰派，对孩子确实比较严苛一点。我认为，真正的“鹰爸”应该是孩子教育很成功的人，我担当不起，我就是个普通的父亲，在教育孩子的过程中，我也在不断地犯错误，不断地改进。

WangShaoYan:My approach is more hawkish,To the child is really a little tough.I think,The real"Eagle dad"Should a child education very successful man,I am not able to bear,I am a common father,In the education of children in the process,I also in constant mistakes,Continuously improve.

　　京华时报：你希望孩子将来成为什么样的人？

Jinghua times:Hoping your child will become what kind of person?

　　王劭彦：成为一个平凡快乐的人。这里的快乐是广义的，就是让他知道生命的意义，善待自己，善待家人，热爱生活中的每一件事，他能够做到这个，我想他以后一定会有成就。

WangShaoYan:Be a ordinary happy person.The happiness is generalized,Is to let him know that the meaning of life,Be good to yourself,Do good to his family,Love everything in life,He can do this,I think he will be accomplished.

　　

-专家说法 - experts saying

　　

适度锻炼有助健康 Moderate exercise will help health

　　北京体育大学运动生物化学教研室主任曹建民教授认为，4岁孩子尚处于幼儿阶段，免疫系统尚不完善，按正常生长发育，并不提倡进行过度的体育锻炼。孩子在3至4岁期间，可以进行一些柔韧性训练和适当的体能训练，适度的体育锻炼有助于孩子的身体健康，过高强度则可能会对生长发育造成负面影响。

Beijing sports university sports biochemistry head of the teaching and research section CaoJianMin professor thinks,4 years old children still in the infant stage,The immune system is not perfect,According to the normal growth and development,Does not advocate for excessive physical exercise.Children between the ages of 3 to 4,Can undertake some flexibility training and appropriate physical training,Moderate physical exercise to help children with physical health,High strength, may cause negative effect on growth and development.

　　曹建民表示，孩子不像成人有自我掌控能力，“孩子一兴奋，大人一鼓掌，可能会掩盖很多疲劳感，从而导致过度训练、过度疲劳的现象。”

CaoJianMin said,Children don't like adults have self control ability,"A child excited,Adult a clap,May cover a lot of feeling of fatigue,Which leads to excessive training/The phenomenon of excessive fatigue."

　　

教育动机应该纯粹 Education motivation should be pure

　　北京市青少年法律与心理咨询服务中心主任宗春山说，在“鹰爸”的教育中，家长应该对自己的童年有很好的认识和剖析，才能真正觉察到教育孩子的行为和动机，到底是纯粹的还是对自己过去的补偿。“如果是补偿性的，家长不会过多地去考虑孩子的感受，对孩子的身心健康都不是有利的。如果出发点是纯粹地培养孩子，那么有些开创性的教育方式值得一试。”

Beijing youth law and psychological consultation service ZongChunShan, director of the center said,in"Eagle dad"Education in the,Parents should of her childhood have very good understanding and analysis,Can really aware of education child's behavior and motivation,What is pure or about her past compensation."If it is compensatory,Parents will not too much to consider the feelings of children,To the child's physical and mental health are not favorable.If starting point is purely training children,So some groundbreaking education way is worth a try."

　　本报记者刘晓旭

Our reporter LiuXiaoXu