不久前，周女士儿子所在的小学举行了一次测试，孩子考了88分，年级家长群中“爆料”：“老师说了，90分以下都是不及格的，要努力啊……”一整天，周女士的心情随着QQ群中的信息起伏，“怎么说呢，被QQ群绑架了吧，虽然这样的日子很忐忑，但已经离不开了。”

Not long ago,Weeks in lady son primary school held a test,The child took an examination of 88 minutes,Grade of parents"kept":"The teacher said the,Below 90 points is not pass the exam,Try to......"All day,Weeks lady mood with the information in the QQ group ups and downs,"How to say,Be QQ group kidnapped it,Although such days in very,But can not do without the."

　　通讯技术迅猛发展，江城众多中小学生家长们抱着共同的目标，纷纷投身各类家长QQ群、教育论坛中，共享升学考试、家庭教育信息，抱团取暖、过着“网络群居”的生活，分享着为人父母的酸甜苦辣。近日，记者走访了这些“网络群居”的家长们。

Communication technology rapid development,Small and medium-sized river students' parents hold common goal,Have been in all kinds of parents QQ group/Education BBS in,Sharing eleven-plus/Family education information,BaoTuan heating/Have a"Network social"life,Share the parents of the sweets and bitters of life.recently,The reporter interviewed these"Network social"parents.

加群发帖 Add group of post

家长“网络群居”成常态 parents"Network social"Into normal

　　今年9月，陈湘的女儿如愿进入了武汉市一所著名初中，因为“成功”，她被武汉市一教育论坛聘为“小升初”的版主，继续留在“小升初”家长群中“传经送宝”。陈湘在传授经验时特别强调，她的女儿能够顺利地通过“小升初”自主招生的选拔，多亏了她加入的5个家长群。

September this year,ChenXiang daughter fulfill a wish to enter the wuhan city a famous junior middle school,because"success",She was a wuhan education BBS appointed"another"The moderator,Continue to stay in"another"Parents of"Transmitting scriptures and delivering treasures".ChenXiang teaching experiences in particular emphasis on,Her daughter can waltz through"another"Autonomous enrollment selection,Thanks to her to join five parents group.

　　“孩子上小学五年级时，我就加了5个‘小升初’的家长群，5个群里有近1000个家长，我在里面泡着，尽可能多地收集信息。群里的信息瞬息万变，临近选拔时，我简直一刻都不敢离开，生怕有用的信息被淹没了。”陈湘说，通过一年的“潜伏”，她对名校“小升初”的选拔有了全面的了解。女儿“小升初”时，她按照“过来人”的经历，从容不迫地安排女儿的培优，为女儿抓住了一个又一个的机会。

"The child elementary school five grade,I added a five‘another’Parents group,Five group has nearly 1000 parents,I inside the bubble,Collect information as much as possible.In the group of changing information,Near the selection,I just moment all dare not leave,For fear that useful information is flooded."ChenXiang said,Through a year"latent",She is famous for"another"The selection of a comprehensive understanding.daughter"another"when,She followed her"A n experienced person"experience,Leisurely daughter arrangement of the pew,For her daughter caught a another chance.

　　在凯迪电力工作的徐工，每天下班后第一件事，就是登录教育论坛发帖、灌水，这已是他多年的习惯，“一天不在网上说点啥，就不舒服”。徐工的孩子上小学六年级了，三年前他就在这一教育论坛中，和志同道合的家长们过起了“群居生活”。他所在的论坛在江城颇有人气，会员就有近200万人。徐工活跃度高，隔三岔五上传儿子的教育故事，在论坛里小有名气，拥有了不少“粉丝”。

In the kaidi electric power work xugong,The first thing every day after work,Is the login education BBS post/irrigation,This is the habit of his years,"One day is not online say a point what,Is not comfortable".Xugong child elementary school grade six,Three years ago he in this education in the BBS,And some parents lived a"Social life".He is reputed BBS in quite some gas,Member, nearly 2 million people.Xugong active degree is high,Regularly upload son's education story,In the BBS a little famous,Has a lot of"fans".

　　记者了解到，当前江城绝大多数中小学都建立了自己的家长QQ群、贴吧或是论坛，有的还细化到了年级、班级的小团体。估约六成的家长们通过网络“群居生活”掌控孩子的学习、教育，这已是他们生活的常态，“也省得老往学校跑”。家长们少则加入1-2个家长群或论坛，多的不设上限，来者不拒。在“网络群居”的家长们看来，一个家长是否尽责，有一个重要指标：那就是看看他加入了几个群。

The reporter understands,The current river most elementary and middle schools have set up their own parents QQ group/Stick or BBS,Some still refining to grade/Class's and grade's clique.Estimate about sixty percent of the parents through the network"Social life"Control of the child's learning/education,This is their normal life,"Also province old to run schools".The parents little criterion with 1-2 a parent group or BBS,Many unlimited,net.in"Network social"Parents looks,A parent is responsible,There is a important index:That is to see him to join a few group.

　　最热衷于过“网络群居”生活的家长，当数孩子面临“幼升小”、“小升初”、中高考等重大转折的家长们，他们的热衷程度近乎疯狂，一口气加二三十个群不是稀奇事。他们在各类升学群中，焦躁地打探、搜寻，考试、分数、升学、名校等关键词搔动着他们的心。

The most keen on a"Network social"Life's parents,When several children face"Young rise small"/"another"/ZhongGaoKao major turning point of the parents,Their keen degree closer to madness,A sigh of relief and twenty or thirty group is not unusual.They are all kinds of studies in the group,Fretfully bug/search,examination/score/bound/Schools and other key words scratch moving their hearts.

考试升学 Entrance exam

共同的压力令家长抱团 Common pressure to BaoTuan parents

　　“××小学入学测试要注意什么”“有没有‘566’报名、考试的信息”“听说××中学在小学开始摸底了”“九月调考重点线划出来了”……一教育论坛负责人告诉记者，在众多家长群、论坛中，与升学、考试有关的信息最受青睐，凡透露出有用的升学考试信息的群和论坛，很快便一传十、十传百地升温，一个可容纳500人的超级群在半天时间就能够加满，而论坛在一天之类可以增加几千、甚至上万的会员。“如果不是有着共同的烦恼和需求，家长们是不会走到一起的；孩子不经历升学，当家长就无法体会到那种焦虑和煎熬！”“过来人”曾琳说，与其说家长们是在网上掘取信息，不如说是在抱团取暖。曾琳的孩子今年参加的中考，现就读于武汉二中。“今年春节一过，直到七月份，简直就是考生家长人生中最焦虑的日子，重点高中的各类招考信息一点点地透，调考、自主招生、分配生、报志愿……网上每天都有新的信息，一有点‘风吹草动’，就得赶紧跑去核实，不然孩子可能就少一次机会……”曾琳形容这种日子“不堪回首”，这样的压力，群里的家长共同承担，不是亲历者无法体会。

"Xx elementary school entrance test to pay attention to""have‘566’registration/Examination information""Heard that xx secondary schools in the school began to touch bottom""September adjustable exam ChongDianXian stroke out"...A education BBS person in charge told reporters,In many parents group/BBS in,And bound/The exam related information is the most popular,All reveal a useful eleven-plus information group and BBS,Soon going/Ten preach the ground temperature,A seating capacity of 500 people super group in half a day time will be able to fill up,And BBS in a day and so on can add several thousand/Even tens of thousands of members."If not has the common troubles and demand,Parents are not together;Children don't study experience,When parents can't realize that anxiety and suffering!""A n experienced person"CengLin said,Parents are not so much on the Internet dig take information,Rather than in the BaoTuan heating.CengLin children attended this year's mid-term exam,Now, he is studying second wuhan."This year the Spring Festival a,Until July,It is the examinee parents in the life most anxious days,Key high school all kinds of recruitment information through little by little,Adjustment test/Autonomous enrolment/Distribution was born/Quote volunteer...Online every day there are new information,A little‘happens’,Will have to rush to verify,Otherwise the child may be less chance..."CengLin describe this day"wretched",The pressure,Group of parents assumed jointly,Shi yafeng describes some not unable to realize.

　　曾琳说，心里越是没底的时候，家长们在群里混的时间就越长，有时到了凌晨一两点，200人的家长群中，一大半头像都亮着。听着别人跟自己有相同的焦虑，至少能找到些安慰，“家长们在群里大吐苦水，平时不敢向家人、同事抱怨的话也说了出来，大家纷纷给予安慰。网络群居就是这点好，大家因为共同的需求组合在一起，但相互不认识，没有了顾忌，反而提供了绝好的心理按摩平台。”

CengLin said,The more the heart unavoidable,Parents of mixing time is longer,Sometimes to 1 or 2 o 'clock,200 people in the group of parents,More than half of all head on.Listen to someone and you have the same anxiety,At least can find some comfort,"Parents in the group big beefing,Usually can't to the family/Colleagues complain that the words say that come out,You have to give comfort.Social network is that good,Everybody because common demand together,But don't know each other,No scruple,Instead, provide the perfect psychological massage platform."

　　但是，这样的浸泡有时也会衍生更深的焦虑。晏先生的女儿即将面临“小升初”，从老师那里，他知道了了解信息的重要性。他先后加入了多个“小升初”家长群，确实从中获得了很多有用的信息。但是随着群头像的不停闪动，晏先生开始害怕，不敢去点开它，“越看越焦虑，很多信息知道了也没有解决办法，还不停地增添烦恼，不如不看。”

but,Such soak sometimes derived deeper anxiety.Taking the daughter of Mr Will face"another",From the teacher there,He knows about the importance of the information.He has joined the multiple"another"Parents group,Do get a lot of useful information.But as the group image kept flashing,Mr. Taking began to fear,Dare not to point to open it,"More looks is more anxiety,A lot of information to know no solution,Also constantly add trouble,As from."

酸甜苦辣 Sour, sweet, bitter, hot

“群居生活”左右家长情绪 "Social life"Parents about emotions

　　对于“网络群居”生活，家长们感受到的滋味是多重的，酸、甜、苦、辣滋味俱全。

for"Network social"life,Parents feel the taste is multiple,acid/sweet/bitter/Spicy flavor is.

酸：人家孩子总得表扬 acid:Somebody else's children have to praise

　　宋露是一名家庭主妇，女儿在武昌一所优质小学读三年级，为了借鉴其他家长的教育经验，她加入了2个家长QQ群，每天一早她便打开电脑接收信息。一边做家务一边竖着耳朵听信息来时的动静，“现在老师评价孩子、布置任务，都是通过家长群发布，这种提心吊胆的滋味不好受，但又不能不盯着。”宋露说女儿成绩在班上中等，每次老师在群里公布孩子们的成绩，评点谁表现得好、谁表现得不好。看到别的孩子受表扬，家长们频频发言时，自己因为孩子的平庸不好意思现身，心里除了酸还是酸。

SongLou is a housewife,Daughter in the wuchang a high-quality elementary school is in the third grade,In order to reference to other parents' education experience,She joined the two parents QQ group,Early in the morning every day she was turned on the computer receiving information.While doing the housework while vertical the ears to hear information comes the action,"Now the teacher evaluation children/Arrangement task,Are all through the parent group of release,This kind of scary is not a good feeling,But have to stare at."SongLou said the daughter result in class medium,Every time the teacher in the group published in children's school,Commentaries on who put up a good show/Who do bad.See other children were praised,Parents speak frequently,Yourself because of the child's mediocre embarrassed appeared,Heart in addition to acid or acid.

甜：教育孩子小有成就 sweet:Education child small achievements

　　因为孩子上学，去年9月，朱先生注册成为一教育论坛的会员，并加入家长群，开始了“网络群居”。每天进办公室的第一件事就是打开电脑，开启论坛，开始时只是看看，后来学着回帖，当第一次有人给自己评分和送花时，觉得非常新鲜。于是有了发帖子的冲动，帖子一出，送花的，送金币的都有，感到了莫大的鼓舞。很快，朱先生的身份从新手注册再到中级、高级，随着发帖量的增加，他很快冲到了金牌会员。

Because the child to go to school,Last September,Mr. Chu registered as a member of the education BBS,And join the parents group,began"Network social".Every day into the office first thing is turned on the computer,Open BBS,Just look at the beginning,Then learn to reply,When the first time someone give yourself when score and flowers,Feel very fresh.Then a post of the impulse,Post a,flowers,Send gold have,Feel the great inspiration.soon,Mr. Chu identity from beginner to intermediate registered/senior,With the increased amount of post,He quickly rushed to the gold medal member.

　　“论坛中介绍的好的教育方法我会践行，教育孩子越来越得力。”朱先生坦言，自己在单位一直没有提升的机会，论坛中的表现让他小有成就感，这种感觉挺好。此外，他还通过论坛结识了多名“牛娃”的家长，自我提升了不少。

"BBS is introduced in the good education method I will practice,Education child more and more capable."Mr Zhu said,Himself in the unit has been no promotion opportunities,BBS in performance let his little with a sense of accomplishment,This feeling is good.In addition,He also through the BBS met more than"NiuWa"parents,A lot of self-improvement.

苦：攀比的滋味真难受 bitter:"Keep up with the joneses" taste really uncomfortable

　　说起“网络群居”生活，刘女士感受到的却是苦涩。去年底，她加入了一个“小升初”家长群。当时正值“小升初”最紧张的时候，每天群里发布的便是谁家的“牛娃”又收到了名校的预录通知。刘女士的儿子成绩平平，按照信息指示，参加了几次选拔考试均无果。

Speaking of"Network social"life,Liu feel is bitter.end,She joined a"another"Parents group.It was"another"The tension,In every group by whose is"NiuWa"And the school received the advance record notice.The son of liu mediocre,According to the information indicating,At several selection examination are inconclusive.

　　“群里最后一次放榜时，我儿子仍旧没戏。看到有的家长开始欢呼时，我心里很不舒服。加上工作压力大，那天我的心情特别差。”回到家，刘女士看到孩子在看漫画，终于爆发了，她推搡着孩子，孩子没站稳，撞到家具上，手臂划了个大口子……

"Group of the last time when announcement of examination result,My son is still no.See some parents began to shout when,My heart very uncomfortable.Combined with work pressure,That day my mood special difference."Returned home,Liu saw the child watching cartoons,Finally broke out,She pushing children,Children don't stand,Hit the furniture,The arm stroke a big cut...

　　如今，刘女士的儿子就读一所普通中学，因为上回的事母子俩的关系变得紧张，“我现在没有再加群了，也不想再随大流走，攀比的苦涩滋味真不好受。”

now,Liu's son attends a common middle schools,The last time because of both mother and child tension,"I am not add the group,Also don't want to follow the crowd go,Comparisons of bitter taste really terrible."

辣：被人耻笑出言不逊 hot:Be sneer at by the person fling out

　　同一屋檐下过日子，争吵不可避免。“网络群居”生活中，也避免不了争吵。家长们告诉记者，群里经常会有家长因为意见不同，而大打口水仗，屏幕滚动迅速，好不热闹。“在群里混久了，如果自己或是孩子被人耻笑了，还要不要混了？”家长认同这样的一种心态，如果其他家长的发言直接指向了自己，那种感受真的不好受，为了脸面常常会出言不逊，搞不好还会被“踢”出群，就算事情平息了依旧是“毛焦火辣”。家长们还透露，一个群里还会有更小的团体，他们为了自己的利益，有用信息不愿公开，同这样的家长群居令人“窝火”。

Live under one roof,Quarrel inevitable."Network social"life,Also avoid the quarrel.Parents told reporters,Group often have parents because different opinions,And big play saliva battle,Scroll rapidly,Very lively."In the group mix for a long time,If his children be sneer at by the person or the,Also don't mixed up?"The parents agree with such a state of mind,If the other parent speech directly pointing to his,That kind of feeling really terrible,In order to face often fling out,Make not still will be"play"A group of,Even if things calm is still"MaoJiao hot".Parents also revealed,A group will have smaller groups,They in order to their own interests,Useful information not willing publicly,With such parents social a"nest".

择校风盛、信息封闭 ZeJiaoFeng filled/Information closed

“群居生活”多了悲哀色彩 "Social life"Much sorrow colour

　　“选择‘网络群居’的家长，多是没有什么路子、关系的家长！”采访中，一教育论坛红人“tianxiang027”说，多数家长选择群居，就是因为没有途径获取有价值的升学信息，而期待在群居中取得“小道消息”，说到底一是江城择校竞争惨烈，二是升学信息还不够透明。

"choose‘Network social’parents,There is no more than what way/Relationship of parents!"interview,A education BBS blue-eyed boy"tianxiang027"said,Most parents choose social,Is because there is no way to obtain valuable information studies,In social and look forward to achieve"gossip",In the final analysis is a river so select one school competition,The second is bound information is not enough transparent.

　　对于这一说法，“网络群居”的家长们多表示认同，他们说，江城的择校风很盛，家长如果没有门路，那么孩子参加奥赛、培优班的选拔、中高考就是进入名校的不二通道。因此，一些校外培优机构借机建立家长群，不定期公布“有用”信息，要想加群、抢得信息，就必须交钱给孩子报班。“群居”的家长在尝到“甜头”后，往往会非常小心，不轻易对外公布信息，唯恐孩子多了竞争对手。

For this statement,"Network social"Parents agree more,They say,The river is filled ZeJiaoFeng,Parents if there is no way,So the child to the olympiad/The pew class selection/ZhongGaoKao into school is not 2 channel.therefore,Some external the pew institutions looking to establish parents group,Don't regularly publicize the"useful"information,To want to add group/Got the information,We must make money to children sign up for a class."social"Parents in taste"sugarplum"after,Often very careful,Don't easily announced information,For fear that the child much competition.

　　“tianxiang027”认为，“网络群居”的家长内心是恐慌的，因为当前义务教育还远没有达到均衡的状态，校际之间的差距依然很大，家长都希望孩子上好学校，择校的竞争趋于惨烈。尽管教育行政部门三令五申，不让小学、初中违规进行选拔考试，但选拔考试还是在暗箱操作，使得家长们安不下心，一面将孩子推进培优班“填鸭”，一面“网络群居”打探消息，如果择校禁令能够落实到位，扼制住“肇事”源头，“网络群居”的家长则会少些恐慌。

"tianxiang027"think,"Network social"Parents mind is panic,Because the current compulsory education is still far from achieving equilibrium state,There is a large gap between schools,Parents hope that children superior school,The competition will tend to be tragic.Although education administrative department repeated orders,Don't let primary school/Junior high school in selection of the exam,But selection examination or in the black case work,Parents can make, heart,A child will promote the pew class"duck",side"Network social"beagle,If a ban on school can be put in place,End live"Hit and"source,"Network social"Parents will be less panic.

　　此外，一些学校发布的招考信息严重与事实不符，比如说是×日报名，但家长按着那个日子过去时，才发现人家的录取都已经结束了。信息的不透明、学校的违规操作，令家长们摸不着北，只有顺了学校的思维，“旁门左道”地打探，“网络群居”生活由此多了悲哀的色彩。（楚天金报 记者赵莉 通讯员魏波）

In addition,Some schools admit by examination issued by the serious information with the facts,For instance, the name × daily,But parents according to the day when the past,Found that people admit all is over.Information is not transparent/The school illegal operation,Make the parents can't reach the north,Only shun the school thinking,"heterodoxy"To find out,"Network social"The life which the colour of mourning.(Chutian 27 reporters ZhaoLi correspondent WeiBo)