孩子幼儿园过生日 The birthday child kindergarten

　　

分送小朋友的礼物动辄近千元 Distribute the kid's gift is prone to nearly one thousand yuan

　　

家长很纠结，不送担心影响孩子情绪，送了又怕助长不良风气 Parents very ravel,Don't send worry affect children mood,Sent again afraid encourage bad style

　　儿子1月中旬才过生日，陈妈妈这几天就网购了礼物，收货屯好了。

Son birthday only by the middle of January,Chen mother these days the net is the gift,Receiving tuen good.

　　“咳，这礼物不是给他准备的。”陈妈妈苦笑。

"cough,This gift is not to his prepared."Chen mother forced smile.

　　不知道何时起，这似乎成为心照不宣的惯例：小孩过生日，流行给班里的同学派礼物。铅笔、橡皮、书本、拼图、拉杆书包、玩具，各种吃的穿的用的玩的，能想到的都已成为礼物清单，价格从几元钱到上百元，越来越豪华。

Don't know since when,This seems to be understood practice:The child's birthday,Popular to his classmates sent gift.pencil/rubber/books/puzzle/Rod bag/toys,All kinds of food in the use of the play,Can think of all has become a gift list,Prices range from several dollars to hundreds of dollars,More and more luxurious.

　　家长感叹：孩子不是伤不起，而是生不起了！

Parents exclamation:The child is not can't afford to injury,But they can't afford to get the!

　　

为儿子生日提前抢购特价礼物 As a son birthday early buying special gifts

　　上周双十一，陈妈妈给自己定的唯一目标就是买到一家网店的积木，而且要买上36套。“儿子生日时，要分给班里小朋友每人一套。”陈妈妈解释说。

Last week a double tenth,Chen mother to set his only goal is to buy a shop building blocks,And buy on 36 sets."Son birthday,Give a portion to children in the class each a."Chen mother explained.

　　儿子洋洋今年9月刚上小班，每隔一段时间就往家拿各种新鲜东西。有蜡笔、玩偶、拼图、衣服、电动玩具之类的。“说是班里同学过生日，每人都有一份。”陈妈妈仔细看了看，发现每样东西都不便宜，“最便宜的也要二三十吧，贵的要近百元了。”

Son's September this year just on small class,Every once in a while he went home with all kinds of fresh things.A crayon/doll/puzzle/clothes/Electric toys and so on."The students in my class is a birthday,Each have a."Chen mother carefully looked at,Found that everything is not cheap,"The cheapest also want it twenty or thirty,Expensive to nearly yuan."

　　在感叹别的家长“不差钱”的同时，陈妈妈更觉得压力“山大”：“一个个都送得那么好，而且花样百出，等我们生日时，不能买重样的，价格上又不能难看，真是头大！”

In exclamation other parents"Not bad money"At the same time,Chen mother more feel the pressure"shandong":"One by one all send so well,And pattern,When we birthday,Can't buy the same beverage,Price and can't ugly,Is really huge!"

　　之前，陈妈妈给儿子买过一款木头积木，要五十多块钱一套，前几天在搞活动，一套三十不到。陈妈妈赶紧下手抢了36套。“一千块钱不到点，付款的时候还是很肉痛的。”陈妈妈说，平时给自己买礼物都没下那么大“狠手”。

before,Chen mother to son bought a new wood blocks,To fifty dollars a,A few days ago doing activities,A set of less than 30.Chen mother hurriedly lay robbed 36 sets."One thousand dollars less than point,Payment is still the RouTong."Chen mother said,Usually buy them gifts are not down so big"Malicious hand".

　　“想着三年就是三千块，实在郁闷啊。但不送又不行，别的小朋友都有，就你没有，小孩会很郁闷的。”陈妈妈说，自己把礼物搬回家的当天，儿子又从幼儿园拎了盒礼物回来，是托马斯的小火车。“天哪，礼物越来越高级了。怎么办怎么办。老公还说要不要再追加一点一起送，就一份积木会不会太寒碜了……我也觉得这样子不好，但拿别人的，总得还吧。”

"Thinking about three years is three thousand pieces,Really depressed.But don't send and no,Other children were,Will you have no,The child will be very depressed."Chen mother said,Their gifts on the day of the move to go home,Son and from kindergarten carry the box gift back,Thomas the train is small."dear,The present more and more advanced.Do how to do.The husband said to don't additional point send together,Is a building blocks will not too ugly the……I also feel like this is bad,But take someone else's,Must also it."

　　

收到的礼物过几天就成“废品” Receive gift into a few days"waste"

　　记者随机调查20位幼儿园孩子的家长，发现九成要为孩子生日准备礼物派发。

Reporter random survey 20 a kindergarten children's parents,Found that ninety percent to prepare gifts for children birthday distributed.

　　“本来生日开开心心的，现在没到生日我们就很紧张。”林女士说起女儿生日就大倒苦水，她已“深受其害”整三年了。“从托班开始，就要送礼物。刚开始时我还真搞不懂，自己过生日还要送别人礼物？老师也不阻止，还发短信来告知。没办法啊，随大流呗。书、水彩笔、魔方，我们都送过，每年都是绞尽脑汁。”林女士抱怨。

"Originally the birthday happy,Now not to birthday we'll be very nervous."Ms Lin speaking of daughter birthday big grumble,She has"too"Whole three years."From Joe class began to,Will send gifts.At the beginning I still don't understand,You celebrate your birthday gift to give others?The teacher also don't stop,Also send text messages to inform.No way!,Follow the crowd bai.The book/Colour pen/Rubik's cube,We all had sent,Every year rack one's brains."Ms Lin complain.

　　对家长鲍女士来说，送礼物不光是花钱，还搭上了不少脑细胞。

For parents bao women,Gift is not only money,Still, build on a lot of brain cells.

　　“今年实在没东西送了，能想到的都送过了。”只好自己动手，设计并制作绘画本，还给男孩女孩配上不同颜色的礼品袋子，“虽然很受欢迎，孩子也觉得很有面子。但绝对花费大量的时间和精力。班里还有妈妈自己做布偶来送的，过个生日简直就是‘坑妈’！”

"This year there is no things sent,Can think of, all given before."Had to yourself,The design and construction of the painting,Back to boys and girls with different color gift bag,"Although very popular,Children also feel very face.But it cost a lot of time and energy.In the class there are mother make the puppets to send,A birthday is just‘Pit mom’!"

　　“说分礼物是分享，但我觉得小孩学了不少坏习惯来。”郑女士说，家里人都没有过生日的习惯，本来女儿过生日也很简单，现在会提要求了，“生日买个大蛋糕来，要双层的，带到幼儿园”。

"Said points gift is to share,But I think the child learned a lot of bad habits."Zheng lady said,The family have the habit of birthday,The daughter was a birthday is also very simple,Now going to mention the requirements,"Buy a big birthday cake,Want to double the,To kindergarten".

　　“有次我说明天我生日，她马上说，给我买个什么娃娃，我一下还没反应过来，后来才想起幼儿园都是过生日的人分礼物给别人。”郑女士哭笑不得， “我觉得这样分礼物，很铺张浪费，是无意义的攀比，不知道是谁开的这个先例。而且收到的礼物，基本成为废品，新鲜个几天就不受宠了。”

"Once I said my birthday tomorrow,She immediately said,What to buy me a doll,Me also had no reaction to come over,Then think of kindergarten is the birthday person points gifts to others."Zheng woman in distress situation, "I think it points gifts,Very extravagance and waste,Is meaningless bandwagon,Don't know who open this precedent.And receive gifts,Basic become obsolete,Fresh a few days will not loved the."

　　

“集体生日”让孩子学会分享 "Collective birthday"Let children learn to share

　　生日互赠礼物，从十余年前的送蛋糕到如今的昂贵玩具，可谓越来越“奢华”。对此，杭州西溪花园幼儿园园长胡赟颇有感触。

Birthday presents,From more than 10 years ago to send me a cake now expensive toys,Is more and more"luxury".this,Hangzhou xixi garden kindergarten HuYun kinzley is quite effective.

　　多年前，她曾在杭州开发区一所幼儿园任园长。由于当时只此一家幼儿园，辖区内的家长都把孩子往里送，其中，不乏有钱人。

Years ago,She worked in a nursery school hangzhou development zone as the principal.It was only this a kindergarten,Within the jurisdiction of parents the child to send,the,Some richer people.

　　渐渐地，胡赟发现，“小朋友生日时，家长送的礼物都很高档”。这个苗头“不好”，礼物的安全性不能保障，礼物过重，给了其他家长压力，更重要的是，这会直接影响孩子的价值取向，“他今后可能会一味求好的贵的东西。”

gradually,HuYun found,"Children birthday,Parents send gifts are very high".The symptom"bad",Gifts do not guarantee the safety,Gift overweight,To the other parents pressure,More important is,This will directly affect the child's value orientation,"He could in the future will blindly for good expensive things."

　　于是，她对家长说：“按月过生日，一月一次过集体生日。礼物，每人送一幅画或手工小礼物就行。”至于蛋糕，胡赟也不建议家长带到幼儿园，“外来食物，万一不安全，出事，就不好了。”

so,Her parents said to:"Monthly birthday,Once a month after collective birthday.gift,Each send a picture or manual small gift will do."As for the cake,HuYun also don't advise parents to kindergarten,"Foreign food,One thousand unsafe,accident,it."

　　现在，这个“月生日”的传统，也带入了西溪花园幼儿园。其实，对于生日礼物这个问题，胡赟认为，“关键在于园方是否在意，是否有意识地去协调。”

now,this"Month birthday"traditional,Also into the xixi garden kindergarten.In fact,For birthday present this problem,HuYun think,"The key lies in whether the zoo care about,Whether consciously coordination."

　　采荷第二幼儿园教育集团的陈静老师说，幼儿园里也采用过“月生日”的办法。

The second kindergarten education group in charge of reiter teacher said,In the kindergarten have also been used"Month birthday"way.

　　“每个班有生日展板，几个孩子集中一天过集体生日。大家会唱生日歌，送生日祝福。这样既避免了攀比，又有快乐的氛围。”陈老师说，有些家长想得太复杂，“不好的风气都是大人惯出来的，孩子很简单很单纯。”简单的生日，孩子过得也很高兴。“特别是说生日祝福的时候，有的会说，希望你长得更高一点；有的说，希望你吃饭更快一点，这些是吃蛋糕玩高级玩具这些物质的东西带来不了的。”

"Each class have birthday exhibition board,Several children focused day after collective birthday.Everyone will sing a birthday song,Send birthday wishes.Such a move to avoid bandwagon,And have a happy atmosphere."Chen said,Some parents think too complex,"The bad atmosphere are all adults used out,The child is very simple is very simple."Simple birthday,The child had also very happy."Especially when said birthday wishes,Some will say,Hope you grow a bit higher;Some said,Hope you to eat a little faster,These are eating cake play senior toy these material things bring too."

　　夏衍幼儿园的夏媛媛老师认为，现在独生子女小孩多，很渴望跟同伴在集体氛围中过生日：“幼儿园会提前告诉当月过生日的几位孩子与家长，他们可以在幼儿园选择某一天一起过。”夏媛媛觉得，让孩子们体会到这种分享的感觉，才是最重要的。

Xia yan all XiaYuanYuan kindergarten teacher to think,Now only children more than children,Very eager to companions in the collective atmosphere birthday:"The kindergarten will tell in advance the birthday several children and parents,They can choose one day in kindergarten together."XiaYuanYuan think,Let the children to experience the feeling of this kind of share,Is the most important.