爱孩子，是父母的天性。这份爱中不仅要包含理智与宽存，更应松紧有度，要为儿女们在“可以”和“不可以”之间划一条清楚的界限，使他们的行为有章可循，学会忍受一时的不舒服、烦心事，甚至忍受必要的痛苦，因此，对孩子如下的几种行为，一定要及时制止，绝不能手软，更不能把宽容演变成纵容。

Children love,Is the nature of the parents.This love not only to include the sense and wide deposit,Should have more firmness,For children in"can"and"Can't"Draw a clear line between,Make their behavior to have zhang ke follow,Learn to endure the uncomfortable/troubles,Even stand the pain of the necessary,therefore,To the child the following several kinds of behavior,Must be stopped in time,Can never be hand goes limp,More can't tolerant evolved into connivance.

　　

一、不能放纵孩子的5件事 a/Can't indulgence children five thing

　　

1、得不到就动手： 1/Not start work:

　　孩子们在玩沙子，其中一个想抢小伙伴的玩具推土机，未果，一口就咬向对方的小手。结果，推土机如愿到手。

The children were playing sand,One want to rob a toy bulldozer,Not if really,Bite bite to each other's hands.The results,Bulldozer to fulfill a wish.

　　达标做法：对咬人的孩子，父母一定要严肃批评，让他知道，咬人是不对的，已经对小朋友造成了伤害，必须亲自道歉；同时，让他明白，小朋友如果不愿意把玩具借给自己玩，他应该学会接受这种不如意。

Standard practice:The children to bite,Parents must be serious criticism,Let him know that,Bite is wrong,Children have caused the damage,Must personally apologize;At the same time,Let him know,Children if you are not willing to lend themselves to play the toy,He should learn to accept the not equal to idea.

　　除了批评和讲道理，一定的惩罚必不可少，并将与惩罚相反的待遇呈现在他眼前：呵护和安抚被咬的孩子。从而令孩子懂得，攻击他人不但不可能得逞，也得不到任何好处，进而自觉摒弃攻击性行为。

In addition to criticism and reasonable,Certain punishment essential,And will and punish the opposite treatment is presented in his eyes:Care and comfort is bitten children.To make the child know,Attack others not only unlikely to succeed,Also can't get any benefits,Then the aware rejection aggressive behavior.

　　

2、顺手牵羊： 2/appropriated:

　　孩子给你看一双袖珍水晶鞋，告诉你那是从小朋友家的地上捡的。

The child to show you a pair of pocket crystal shoe,Tell you that it is from my friend's house on the ground of the.

　　达标做法：立即带孩子归还物品，让他亲自道歉：“对不起，我把你的东西拿回家玩了，现在还给你，请原谅。”借助“物归原主”的过程，让孩子学会勇于承认错误。

Standard practice:Children immediately returned items,Let him personally apologize:"I'm sorry,I put your things take home to play,Now back to you,Please forgive me."With the aid of"Come home to roost"process,Let children learn to have the courage to admit his mistake.

　　3、4岁的孩子没有“物权”概念和所属意识，自认为喜欢的、想要的就都是自己的。对此，父母千万不要采取“下不为例”的态度。记住那句古话：勿以善小而不为，勿以恶小而为之。

3/4 years old children have no"Real right"Concept and subordinate consciousness,Think oneself like/Want to is their own.this,Parents don't take"Not as an example"attitude.Remember the old saying:Not in the good small and not for,Don't to evil little but is.

　　

3、见了玩具就走不动 3/See the toys will walk

　　在超市，你拒绝买芭比娃娃，女儿却紧紧地抱着不放，任你怎么解释也不松手，还一屁股坐到了地上。

In the supermarket,You refuse to buy a barbie doll,Daughter is tightly hold not to put,For how do you explain also don't let go,Also a ass sat upon the ground.

　　达标做法：对孩子表明你的态度：今天不买玩具，因为前不久刚刚买了一套芭比娃娃。如果孩子听不进父母的话，无理取闹，不妨置之不理，继续选择其它物品，或者佯装离开，任其坐在地上哭。妥协是不明智的，否则孩子的任性将变本加厉。等孩子冷静之后，通过讲道理或讲故事等方式，使之明白，懂事的孩子招人喜欢，撒泼、哭闹的结果是什么也得不到，而且令人讨厌。

Standard practice:To the child shows that your attitude:Today don't buy toys,Because recently just bought a set of barbie dolls.If a child can't hear into the parents' words,Make trouble without a cause,Might as well ignore,Continue to choose other items,Or pretend to go away,Allow it to sit down on the ground crying.Compromise is not wise,Otherwise the child's capricious will be further intensified.After the kids cool,Reason or stories, etc,To understand,Sensible child recruit people like,On the ground screaming/Crying is the result of nothing,And annoying.

　　

4、该睡不睡： 4/Don't sleep the sleep:

　　晚上10点该睡觉了，孩子却把娃娃和毛绒玩具摊到床上。

10 PM this bed,The child is the doll and plush toys booth to bed.

　　达标做法：指指墙上的卡通挂钟，示意孩子到就寝时间了，告诉他按时休息才能保证第二天去幼儿园不迟到。没有一个孩子会主动上床，他们永远没玩够。如果父母允许孩子一而再、再而三地晚睡，规律的作息和良好的生活习惯就难以养成。所以，无论孩子找什么理由，父母都要想办法拒绝。

Standard practice:Finger the wall cartoon wall clock,Constructed the child to go to bed time,Tell him rest on time to ensure that the second day go to kindergarten not to be late.Not a child will be active to go to bed,They never play enough.If parents allow children once and again/Repeatedly sleep late,A regular routine and the good life habit is hard to develop.so,Whether children seek what reason,All parents want to way to refuse.

　　

5、用谎言掩盖事实： 5/Use lies to hide the fact:

　　8岁的孩子施展“武功”，将花瓶摔得粉碎。当妈妈问起这事，他却说的家里的猫干的。

8 years old children cast"Fighting skill",The vase shattered.When mother asked,But he said house cat dry.

　　达标做法：鼓励孩子说实话：“告诉妈妈，到底怎么回事？摔了花瓶不可怕，可怕的是不敢承认。妈妈喜欢诚实、勇于对自己行为负责的孩子。”以此打消孩子的顾虑，鼓励他说出真相，并在第一时间“拥抱”他、表扬他。

Standard practice:Encourage your child to tell you the truth:"Tell mother,What's going on?Broke the vase is not terrible,The scary thing is can't admit.Mother like honesty/The courage to take responsibility for their children."To reassure children's concerns,Encourage him to tell the truth,And in the first time"embrace"he/Praised him for his.

　　6、7岁以上的孩子明知说谎不对，却为了逃避惩罚而为之。如果你相信他的话，或者即便不信也不予追究，就等于助长了这一恶习，以致他在谎言的泥潭里越陷越深。

6/7 years old children lie not knowing,But in order to escape punishment but is.If you believe his words,Or even if not letter also shall not be prosecuted,Is to encourage the bad habits,So that he lies in the mire deeper.

　　

二、爱孩子的注意事项 two/Love the child's attention

　　

1、不要让孩子依赖成性 1/Don't let children rely on integrity

　　父母给孩子的爱愈多，他对父母依赖性也愈强，爱本来发自天性，但父母不能让他自觉是温室里的一朵小花，每一秒钟都需要爱的滋润，没有父母跟在身边就仿佛失去行为的指针，这不算溺爱，但却爱得不得法，也爱得缺乏深度。

The love of the parents to the child the more,His parents are more strong dependence,Love originally from the nature,But parents can't let him consciously in the greenhouse is a little flower,Every second is need love moist,No parents with around as if lost behavior of the pointer,It's not coddle,But love is not going method,Also love the lack of depth.

　　

2、不要让孩子永不知足 2/Don't let the child never satisfied

　　享受太多的人，往往不懂得享受所应该付出的低价，使他在定型的生活满足感中，追求永无止境的物欲享受，做父母要给子女一种有限度的享受，使他知足，知止，知其所应为。世界不能没有你我他。

Enjoy too many people,Often do not know how to enjoy what should pay low,In his finalize the design life satisfaction,The pursuit of endless worldliness enjoy,Do parents to give their children a limit to enjoy,Make him satisfied,Know check,Should know the.The world can't be without you I am he.

　　

3、不要让孩子太爱自己 3/Don't let children love yourself too

　　从小让孩子养成自私心理，长大后容易不合群，所以必须让孩子晓得这个世界是属于大家的，他只是这个世界中的一份子，他爱自己，更要爱人，基本上，至少要对兄弟姐妹，充分发挥手足之情。

Allow children to develop from selfishness,Grew up easy self-containment,So must let the child know that this world is belong to everybody,He is just a part of the world,He loves his,More you shall love your neighbor,basically,At least to the brothers and sisters,Give full play to the brotherhood.

　　

4、不要让孩子孤僻成性 4/Don't let autism integrity

　　太孤僻的孩子不仅不合群，而且会形成“自闭症”，使自已孤立于团体之外，造成偏激和反社会的心理冲动。

Too autistic children not only social withdrawal,And can form"autism",Make yourself isolated from outside organizations,Cause extreme and antisocial psychological impulse.

　　

5、不要让孩子老气横秋 5/Don't allow children to act as an elder

　　孩子永远是一个孩子，“小大人”不会讨人喜欢，过于精明的孩子常常出现老气横秋的态度，日久会影响他健全的人格发展，不得不严加纠正。

The child is always a child,"grownup"Won't please,Too smart child often appear at attitude,Time will affect his sound personality development,Have to carefully correcting.

　　

6、不要让孩子若有所失 6/Don't let the child lost

　　孩子的心太纯也太美，他容不下太多失落感，他希望相信这个世界，获得更多富足的爱和温馨，如果任他终日沉浸在“若有所失”的生活里，将会痛苦万分，难以适应而失却童雅的天真和赤子之情。

The child's heart is too pure is too beautiful,He hold too much loss,He want to believe this world,Get more rich love and warmth,If let all day long he immersed in"reminded"life,Will be very painful,Difficult to adapt to and lose child and the naive and newborn baby of love.

　　

7、不要让孩子没有明天 7/Don't let the child no tomorrow

　　富兰克林说：“一个今天值两个朋友。”约翰雷却说：“今天是过去的终结，未来又是今日的创始。”所以，今天固然重要，但明天也值得重视，因为没有明天的人，也没有展望，没有展望的人，也不会有斗志，做父母的要鼓舞子女如何去把握今天，创造明天，使连续不断的今天和明天，串连成一个完美的生命。

Ben franklin said:"One today is worth two friends."John ray said:"Today is the end of the past,The future is today's founding."so,Today is important,But tomorrow also deserves attention,Because the person who has no tomorrow,Also have no prospect,Not looking man,Also won't have morale,Parents to encourage their children how to grasp today,Create tomorrow,Make continuous today and tomorrow,String into a perfect life.

　　结语：爱是心甘情愿的奉献，每一个父母都希望自己的子女锻铁成钢，其实不难，只要能遵守上述信念，教他“尽己推己”的哲理，敦促他“恐惧戒惧”的律则，当能达到这个心愿。

epilogue:Love is willing dedication,Every parents hope their children rewinded into cast iron,It is not hard to,As long as you can keep the faith,Teach him"Do push yourself"philosophy,Urged him"Fear JieJu"Is the law of the,When can achieve this dream.