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　　据《羊城晚报》报道，因为怕回国后找不到工作，远在澳大利亚的孩子让年逾五十的父母代替自己去参加招聘会的一则消息在网上引起了热议。

According to[Yang cheng evening news]reports,Because be afraid can't find a job after going back to the motherland,Australian children have to over 50 years instead of their parents to attend recruitment of news on the Internet caused a hot debate.

　　“代求职”，父母是无奈之举吗？

"Generation of to apply for a job",Parents are zoology-designing changing?

　　王月新（化名）是南加州大学计算机技术专业的学生，面临毕业归国，国内多个场次的招聘会都无法及时赶到。他选择将电子简历发回家，让父母代投。问及原因时，他这样说道：“海归现在找工作太难了，尤其像我这样毫无经验的海归。我不想错过任何机会，所以选择让父母代投。”王月新的妈妈接受采访时说：“没办法，我就这么一个孩子。他能有一份好的工作，是我和他爸爸最大的心愿。”

WangYueXin(alias)Is the university of southern California computer technology professional students,Facing graduation returned,Many domestic session of recruitment couldn't get there in time.He choose to send home electronics resume,Let parents generation for.Asked her why that was,He said so:"Returnees are now looking for a job is too difficult,Especially like me so no experience of returnees.I don't want to miss any opportunity,So choose to parents for generations."The king month new mother an interview:"Can't,I was such a child.He could have a good job,Is my father and his greatest wish."

　　而毕业于德国工业大学的马琳在面对笔者的提问时，则直言不讳地说：“我大学专业课基础真的不好，出国读研，两年学得也很吃力。我在找工作的时候，待遇好的工作找不到，薪资低的又没有面子。”而马琳父亲则说：“我们代投简历，就是因为他被拒绝多次后，会灰心，怕他再受打击。”

And graduated from the German industrial university Marlene in the face of the author's question,The call a spade a spade to say:"I specialized university based really bad,Go abroad to go to graduate school,Two years learn is also very difficult.I'm looking for work,Treatment can't find a good job,The low salary and no face."And Marlene father is said:"Our generation of a resume,It is because he was rejected after many times,Will lose heart,Afraid of him to hit."

　　代投简历，招聘单位面试谁？

Generation of a resume,Recruitment unit who interview?

　　有着12年人力资源管理经验的李毅主任说：“在一次招聘会上，一位海归硕士在被问到问题时，总是被妈妈抢答，而自己只是在旁边默默地站着。你说你让我面试谁啊？这样的海归即使学历再高，我们也会认为你还没有做好参加工作的准备，你还没有完全的独立。”

Has 12 years human resources management experience LiYi director said:"In a job fairs,A master of returnees in asked questions,Always be mother vies to answer first,And just beside stood silently.You said that you let me interview who ah?Such returnees even degree high again,We will also think that you are not well prepared to work,Do you still not fully independent."

　　对于家长的这种做法，李毅说：“家长过多干涉和操心，不仅会让孩子没有独立思考的空间，还会给孩子未来的同事、领导造成负面印象。现在还要父母操心，今后到底能不能独当一面？父母要想让孩子找到好工作，首先要给孩子‘断奶’！”

For parents of this kind of practice,LiYi said:"Parents too much interference and worry about,Will not only let the child have no independence thinking space,It will give the child future colleagues/Leading cause negative impression.Even parents worry about now,What are those in the future can?Parents will want to let children find a good job,First of all to give the child‘weaning’!"

　　越俎代庖，能否事半功倍？

fact,Can be twice the result with half the effort?

　　对于家长代投简历的现象，厦门大学教育研究院副院长杨广云教授表示理解，但他并不提倡，“家长代投简历并不是海归的初衷，可能出于很多原因，比如他们还在国外处理工作的事情。而现在家里几乎都是独生子女，家长的这种爱子心切的心情可以理解。冷静地分析，这种‘保姆’式、‘奶妈’式的教育，从侧面也反映了海归的不成熟。据我了解，这方面很少有成功的例子。”杨教授认为，这种行为其实并不利于海归找工作。很多家长代投简历时，向用人单位介绍孩子留学方面的信息并不准确。

For parents and the phenomenon of a resume,Xiamen university education institute, vice President of the YangGuangYun professor understands that,But he does not advocate,"Parents generation of a resume is not the original intention of returnees,Perhaps for many reasons,Such as they are still in the foreign processing work of things.And now home is almost the only child,The parents of this aiko eager mood can understand.Calm analysis,this‘nanny’type/‘mammy’Type education,From the side, it also reflects the returnees is not mature.I understand,The few examples of success."Professor Yang think,This kind of behavior is not conducive to returnees to find a job.Many parents generation when a resume,Unit of choose and employ persons to introduce children to study abroad information is not accurate.

　　据调查，担心孩子受骗，怕孩子多次被拒绝后心理有阴影，成了家长代投简历的主因。杨教授说：“若真的想回国找工作，海归一定要舍得花钱花时间，真正来到国内招聘会现场，与用人单位面对面交流，全面展示自己的专业技能、情商水平。并且，海归还需要亲身感受一下国内的就业市场、专业热门度，同时还要开始拓展自己的人际圈，这样才能得到比较好的发展机会。”

According to the survey,Worry about the children deceived,Many fear the child after the rejection psychological shadow,Become parents generation leading cause of a resume.Professor Yang said:"If you really want to return to find a job,Returnees must be willing to part with or use to spend time,Really came to the domestic job fair site,Unit of choose and employ persons communicate face to face,Comprehensive display their professional skills/Emotion quotient (eq) level.and,The sea returned to need to experience the domestic employment market/Professional degree of popular,At the same time also began to expand their interpersonal ring,In order to get good development opportunities."

　　专家建议说：“海归求职应减少对父母的依赖，靠自己的能力去适应社会，放正心态，先就业后择业，而不是抱着‘反正父母可以养活自己，不找到满意的工作就不上班’的态度。海归找工作，家长越俎代庖，怎么可能事半功倍？” Experts suggest that:"Returnees job should be to reduce dependence on their parents,By their ability to adapt to society,Put positive attitude,Employment first selection,And not holding the‘Anyway, parents can support himself,Don't find a satisfactory job will not work’attitude.Returnees to find a job,Parents do it for someone else,How could it be possible with less?"