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　　近日，在国内首个专为儿童设计的创作分享社区天空城儿童创作社区里，一位名叫冯邵一的十岁男孩发表一篇《申请书》称，“我申请退学，我不想把我的理想葬送在这无聊的考试中”。文章不仅展现了这个10岁儿童对“理想”等问题的思考、同时也表达了他对学校各种僵化制度的不满。他的表达随即引发了天空城内小朋友、老师以及家长的关注及讨论。

recently,In the domestic first designed for children's design creation share community sky city children creation in the community,A man named feng shao a ten-year-old boy published an article[application]says,"I apply for drop out of school,I don't want to ruin my ideal in this boring test".This article not only shows the 10 years old for children"ideal"The problems such as thinking/Also expressed his dissatisfaction with the school all kinds of rigid system.His expression immediately cause the sky city children/Teachers and parents' concern and discussion.

　　与以往的“愤世嫉俗者”不同，他并不排斥“万恶”的高考制度，也并非不热爱学习，但他所希望的是“更舒服、更自由地去读书”。

And past"cynic"different,He is not exclusive"sin"College entrance examination system,Is not love of learning,But his hope is that"More comfortable/The more free to read".

　　在“虎妈”、“狼爸”的风潮过后，这次人们的关注直接指向学校教育的主体——儿童究竟想些什么、需要什么。“能不能让我们的学校教育制度更加柔软一些，为不同的孩子留下一些‘自由选择空间’？”这是学校、家长和孩子需要共同思考和讨论的。

in"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"After the agitation of,This time the attention of people leads directly to the school education subject - children really want some??????/Need what."Can make our school education system more soft and some,For different children leave some‘Free choice space’?"It is a school/Parents and children need common thinking and discussion.

缘起??“除了考试排名次，我们还剩下什么？” origin??"In addition to test order,We left?"

　　“我的理想就是和心爱女孩一起生活，哪怕以砍柴、捡破烂为生。”“几十年青春花在上学路上，最终只是找一份工资高一点儿的工作，有意义么？”“无数战争，多少血泪和家破人亡，哪种破坏不是有远大理想的人干的？”“每天无非是上课、作业、考试、排名次，除了这些，我们还有什么？”这些看起来有些离经叛道的话语出自冯邵一的退学申请书，这篇文章里冯邵一谈理想、谈志向，并对“远大理想抱有一种怀疑的态度。”

"My ideal is and beloved girl living together,Even if to cut wood/JianPoLan for a living.""Dozens of young spring flower on the way to school,Finally is just to find a high salary a little work,Meaningful??""Numerous war,How many tears of blood and family broken up,What kind of damage is not has great ideal dry?""Everyday is the class/homework/examination/order,In addition to these,What have we?"These look some deviant discourse from feng shao a dropout application,This article feng shao a talk about ideal/Talk about ambition,and"Broad ideal with a skeptical."

　　令人意外的是，冯邵一并不是一个老师眼中“坏孩子”，也并非一个愤世嫉俗之人。相反，他是一个标准的全面发展的“优等生”：他在小学因为成绩优异连跳三级，年仅10岁已经读初中一年级。在业余时间，他还做过主持人、拍过影视剧，早前在数学、钢琴、书法等比赛中多次获奖。他擅长写作，被《成长周刊》聘为专栏小作家小记者。

Surprisingly,Feng shao together is not a teacher eyes"kids",It is not a cynical man.instead,He is a standard all-round development"Top student":He in elementary school because the result is outstanding even jump level 3,Only 10 years old have read the junior middle school freshman class.In his spare time,He also made the host/Taken the film and television play,Earlier in the mathematical/piano/Calligraphy competition award many times.He is good at writing,was[Growth weekly]As the small column writer small reporter.

　　“他想要的生活就是有时间练琴、绘画，能够观察他喜欢的动物和昆虫标本，能够有时间爬山，在想学习的时候学习，累了的时候就可以休息”，冯邵一的父亲冯银刚告诉记者。而在采访中，冯邵一更加直接地表达了他的不满：“现在中学教育的终点都是高考，如果我能通过别的方式达到这个目标，为什么非得每天呆在学校里接受这种僵化的教育？”

"He wants to life is have time to practice/painting,To observe and he likes animals and insects specimen,Can have time to climb mountains,When I want to study while you study,Tired when can rest",Feng shao a father FengYinGang told reporters.And in the interview,Feng shao a more directly expressed his dissatisfaction:"Now the end of high school education is the college entrance examination,If I can achieve this goal through other means,Why every day to stay in school to accept this kind of rigid education?"

　　在冯银刚看来，“他的不快乐应该是从上初中开始的”，冯银刚回忆，小学期间的冯邵一凭借自己的聪明“一本教材几天就能看完，并且可以考个不错的成绩”，所以花在学习上的时间并不多；而课外他参加了影视剧拍摄、绘画、写作等多种活动，“生活多彩、成绩优异”。“但是上初中之后，学校的教学比较枯燥，大部分时间都是上课、做作业、考试、排名，孩子很不适应。而升学后的首次考试，冯邵一班级第9、年级100多位的排名也不能令孩子自己、老师和家长满意，骤变的环境和心理落差都让他感觉一下子难以适应。”冯银刚表示。

In FengYinGang seems,"He's not happy should start from the top junior high school",FengYinGang memories,During the primary school of feng shao a with his clever"A few days a textbook should be finished,And can you take an examination of a good results",So spend in study time is not much;And extracurricular he took part in the film and television play shooting/painting/Writing and so on the many kinds of activities,"Life is colorful/Excellent results"."But after the junior high school,The school's teaching is quite boring,Most of the time are the class/Doing his homework/examination/ranking,Children are just not used to it.And for the first time after the entrance exam,Feng shao a 9 class/Grade more than 100 ranking also can't make their children/Teachers and parents satisfaction,Shock environment and psychological gap are made him feel suddenly difficult to adapt to."FengYinGang said.

　　此外，在冯银刚看来，不同的教学方式也会影响孩子对学校的感知和认同感。“邵一小学阶段老师的教学更温和，也会鼓励学生多参加辩论赛等一些课外活动，甚至给学生一些小甜头以资鼓励。”冯银刚向记者介绍。

In addition,In FengYinGang seems,Different teaching methods will affect children to school awareness and sense of identity."Shao a primary school teacher's teaching more gentle,Will also encourage students to take part in the debate and other extracurricular activities,Even give students a little sweet taste as a little encouragement."FengYinGang introduces to the reporter.

进展??达成《父子谅解备忘录》 可申请休学 progress??reach[Father and son memorandum] Can apply for the suspension

　　冯邵一的退学申请书在天空城社区引发了很多关注，尽管不少网友表示“很少孩子能这么坦诚地说出自己的想法”，但冯邵一仍然不得不面对一些拍砖和质疑。针对是不是真的要退学这个关键问题，冯邵一随后发表文章阐明自己此次举动的目的：“公开表达自己的观点，然后看看大家的意见”；“表明自己是有看法的”；并“通过对话选择一种大家都接受的方式，引起爸爸妈妈和老师的注意”。在这篇文章里，他明确回应，“要读书、要学习，只是能不能让我们更舒服一点地去读书？”在他看来，自己所想所写并非一个人的态度，只是自己最终选择用一种方法表达出来。

Feng shao a dropout application in the sky city community has caused a lot of attention,Although not a few net friend said"Few children can so openly discuss your own ideas",But feng shao a still have to face some clap brick and questioned.According to really want to drop out from school this key problem,Feng shao a subsequent editorial to clarify the purpose of his move:"Open to express their point of view,Then look at everyone's opinion";"Show that he is a point of view";and"Through the dialogue choose a everyone acceptable way,Cause mom and dad and the teacher's attention".In this article,He clear response,"To read/To learn,Just can let us more comfortable to reading?"In his view,What his writing is not a person's attitude,Is your final choice a method to express.

　　如他所愿，这封《申请书》成功地触动了冯银刚。“心疼”，冯银刚回忆，自己最初通过微博看到这份申请书时的反应并没有像孩子担心的“咆哮如山洪”，“因为想一想也能理解孩子的压力；每一次考试后，我们家长都能够收到学校发来的有关孩子成绩排名的信息，时间长了也会感觉到压力，更何况小孩，每天考虑考试、排名，难免会觉得枯燥单调。”他看来，冯邵一的叛逆是在可控范围内的。

As he had let,This letter[application]Successfully touched FengYinGang."Love dearly",FengYinGang memories,His first through the micro bo see when the application did not react as a child to worry about"Roar like flash floods","Because think can also understand the child's pressure;Every time after the exam,Our parents are able to receive from school the child achievement the information,For a long time will also feel the pressure,Besides the child,Considering the exam every day/ranking,Hard to avoid can feel dull monotone."He seems to,Feng shao a rebel is controlled within the scope of the.

　　“我尽管也不赞同这样的教育方式，但是作为家长也没有其他的办法，”冯银刚说，作为家长自己更倾向于中西结合的教育，即希望学习成绩能和个人其他能力综合发展，“但是目前的升学方式必然导致了现在以成绩至上的教育模式，作为家长我们也是被动的。”

"Although I don't agree with the education mode,But as parents also have no other way,"FengYinGang said,As parents more tendency YuZhongXi combination of education,Is hope study result can and personal other ability comprehensive development,"But the current study mode will inevitably lead to the present to result the highest education mode,As parents we are passive."

　　冯邵一说，经过谈判妥协，他和冯银刚达成《父子谅解备忘录》，里面有重要的四条决议：“我不出卖自己的主权，爸爸只享受监护权。我继续上学，也可以申请休学，但学习不能停止。允许我抗议，实行家庭两票通过的抗议有效。拒绝家长长期在我身边三米内巡航。”

Feng shao said,After negotiation compromise,He and FengYinGang reach[Father and son memorandum],There are important four resolution:"I don't betray their sovereignty,Dad only enjoys custody.I continue to go to school,Also can apply for the suspension,But learning can't stop.Allow me to protest,To carry out family two tickets through the protest effective.Refuse to parents for a long time in my side in the three meters cruise."

争论??“能不能让孩子更舒服地读书？” debate??"Can let the child more comfortable to reading?"

　　冯邵一的这封《申请书》在天空城发表出来后，立刻引发了同龄的小朋友和身为“天使守护团”的作家、老师们的关注。“看到你的这封自白有点震撼呢。虽然有时候我也不喜欢学习、上课、考试，但我家小艇姐姐一直告诉我，读书不是为了找到好工作，那是很世俗的想法。人活着，应该保有一颗好奇心去更多地了解自己生存的这个世界，对于自身，也是一个不断提高自我的过程。”网名为“伊一在笑”的小学生说。图书编辑、书评人、天使守护团的老师马伯贤称：“起码你这封申请书已经让老师和家长有所反思了，这已经是好的开始。人生的路还很长，用未来的眼光看现在，可能会有不一样的想法。”

Feng shao a of this letter[application]In the sky city published after coming out,Immediately triggered children their age and as"Angel guardian group"writer/The attention of teachers."See you this letter confessions a little shocked?.Although sometimes I also don't like learning/class/examination,But my boat sister has been told me,Reading is not in order to find a good job,That is a very secular thoughts.People alive,Should have a curiosity to know more about them to live in this world,For their own,Is also a continuously improve the process of self."Net is"Iraq in a smile"Pupils said.Books editor/Book review people/Angel guardian group teacher MaBoXian says:"At least you this letter application has let teachers and parents have the reflection,This is a good beginning.Life is still a long way to go,With the future look now,May have different ideas."

　　青年作家、天使守护团成员“善若水”则认为应当尊重孩子表达的权利，“善若水”解释：“感谢天空城有了一个让孩子发泄的渠道，相信孩子发泄完了，该干嘛还得干嘛。”这条留言则得到冯邵一的回复“谢谢！你懂我”。

Young writer/Angel guardian group members"Good if water"Argue that children should respect the rights of expression,"Good if water"explain:"Thanks to the sky city have a let the child out of the channel,Believe that children had vent,This why still have to why."This article is a message to get von shao a reply"thank you!You know what I".

　　在这次有关“争取自由空间”的争论中，让大人们讶异的不仅是孩子们的想法，更重要的是他们的表达方式。冯邵一的独立思考能力给不少老师和家长带来了震撼，作家、天使守护团老师郑枫戏称冯邵一为冯小先生，因为“叫你孩子明显不对”。基于此，这些老师、家长的引导虽然温和但也更多地展现了平等对话的姿态。

In the relevant"Freedom space"debate,Let the grown-up surprised not only is the children's idea,The more important thing is their expression.Feng shao a independent thinking ability to many teachers and parents brought shock,writer/Angel guardian group teacher ZhengFeng calls feng shao one for von little teacher,because"Call your child obviously wrong".Based on this,These teachers/Parents' guidance gentle but also showed more equal dialogue attitude.

　　而记者发现，对父母唯唯诺诺或者是逆反已经过时，像冯邵一这样试图通过一种辩论协商的方式解决问题已经成为孩子们的新潮流。在冯邵一之后，江苏省徐州市树人中学初一学生、小作家任蔷羽则把自己与父母进行“民主辩论”争取上网权益的过程贴上了空间。在这场模拟的法庭辩论中，双方不仅陈述自己的理由，还拟定了“公告”，作为家庭成员必须遵守的准则。

But the reporter discovers,To parents obsequious or negative have been out of date,Like feng shao a such attempts through a debate consultative way to solve the problem has become the new trend in children.In feng shao after a,Jiangsu xuzhou ents middle school students first/Small writer as Qiang feather makes his parents' and"Democratic debate"For the process of the Internet rights with a space.In the simulation of the court debate,Not only both sides stated his reason,Also draws up the"announcement",As a family member must abide by the rules.

校方??初一新生需要一定的适应期 school??First new need certain period of adjustment

　　记者随后采访了冯邵一所在的学校珠海拱北中学。一位教务处老师表示，由于相较于小学，中学的科目增多、难度变大、课业压力有所提高，同时学生由于环境的改变也需要一定的适应期，所以刚入学的学生普遍会产生一些不适应。但是大多数学生的不适应仅维持一个月左右。针对这种情况，她表示，学校把新生入学的第一个月看做调整期，从学科、德育、家庭沟通等方面帮助同学尽快适应新环境。

Reporter then interview von shao a school zhuhai gongbei middle school.An academic administration teacher said,Because in elementary school,Middle school subjects increased/Difficulty bigger/Their pressure improved,At the same time students due to the environmental changes also need a certain period of adjustment,So first-year students generally will produce some does not adapt.But most of the students not only to maintain a month or so.In view of this situation,She says,The school admission of the first month as an adjustment period,From the subject/Moral education/Family communication, etc to help students adapt to the new environment as soon as possible.

　　“与小学不同，中学必须面对升学压力，这是不容回避的客观问题，但是我们强调公平教育，尽量引导学生淡化排名，更重要的想要培养学生的自主学习能力。”这位老师表示，学校安排了丰富的课外活动供学生选择，“但有些同学可能在兴趣爱好上执着于某一方面，我们的活动无法满足他，这种状况也不可避免，还需要加强沟通。”

"And primary school different,Middle school must face pressures upon their schoolwork,This is unavoidable objective problem,But we emphasize fair education,Try to guide students to desalination rankings,More important to cultivate students' autonomous learning ability."The teacher said,School for the rich extracurricular activities for students to choose,"But some students may be in interests attached to a hand,Our activity can't satisfy him,This situation also inevitable,Still need to strengthen communication."

　　在学生的心理压力问题上，该老师表示，同学们遇到问题应当加强与班主任的沟通，“我们的老师都学习过教育心理学并且参加相关的培训，可以给同学们以指导；但是，由于班上同学较多一时难以兼顾，一些同学的心理压力如果表现不明显老师可能会有所忽略，所以还需要老师、家长、同学加强沟通。”

In the students' psychological pressure on the problem,The teacher said,The students have a problem with the teacher in charge shall strengthen the communication,"Our teachers are studied education psychology and participate in related training,Can give students to guide;but,Because the class a more difficult to give attention to two or morethings,Some students psychological pressure if performance is not obvious teacher may have ignored,So also need to the teacher/parents/Students strengthen communication."