原标题 [10岁男童上初中欲退学：不想把理想葬送在考试中] The original title [10 years old boy's top junior high school to drop out of school:Don't want to ruin the ideal in the test]

　　南方日报记者吴敏实习生张天赦 近日，在国内首个专为儿童设计的创作分享社区天空城儿童创作社区里，一位名叫冯邵一的十岁男孩发表一篇《申请书》称，“我申请退学，我不想把我的理想葬送在这无聊的考试中”。文章不仅展现了这个10岁儿童对“理想”等问题的思考、同时也表达了他对学校各种僵化制度的不满。他的表达随即引发了天空城内小朋友、老师以及家长的关注及讨论。

Southern daily users reporter intern zhang day forgive recently,In the domestic first designed for children's design creation share community sky city children creation in the community,A man named feng shao a ten-year-old boy published an article[application]says,"I apply for drop out of school,I don't want to ruin my ideal in this boring test".This article not only shows the 10 years old for children"ideal"The problems such as thinking/Also expressed his dissatisfaction with the school all kinds of rigid system.His expression immediately cause the sky city children/Teachers and parents' concern and discussion.

　　与以往的“愤世嫉俗者”不同，他并不排斥“万恶”的高考制度，也并非不热爱学习，但他所希望的是“更舒服、更自由地去读书”。

And past"cynic"different,He is not exclusive"sin"College entrance examination system,Is not love of learning,But his hope is that"More comfortable/The more free to read".

　　在“虎妈”、“狼爸”的风潮过后，这次人们的关注直接指向学校教育的主体儿童究竟想些什么、需要什么。“能不能让我们的学校教育制度更加柔软一些，为不同的孩子留下一些‘自由选择空间’？”这是学校、家长和孩子需要共同思考和讨论的。

in"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"After the agitation of,This time the attention of people leads directly to the school education the main body of the children really want some??????/Need what."Can make our school education system more soft and some,For different children leave some‘Free choice space’?"It is a school/Parents and children need common thinking and discussion.

　　缘起“除了考试排名次，我们还剩下什么？” origin"In addition to test order,We left?"

　　“我的理想就是和心爱女孩一起生活，哪怕以砍柴、捡破烂为生。”“几十年青春花在上学路上，最终只是找一份工资高一点儿的工作，有意义么？”“无数战争，多少血泪和家破人亡，哪种破坏不是有远大理想的人干的？”“每天无非是上课、作业、考试、排名次，除了这些，我们还有什么？”这些看起来有些离经叛道的话语出自冯邵一的退学申请书，这篇文章里冯邵一谈理想、谈志向，并对“远大理想抱有一种怀疑的态度。”

"My ideal is and beloved girl living together,Even if to cut wood/JianPoLan for a living.""Dozens of young spring flower on the way to school,Finally is just to find a high salary a little work,Meaningful??""Numerous war,How many tears of blood and family broken up,What kind of damage is not has great ideal dry?""Everyday is the class/homework/examination/order,In addition to these,What have we?"These look some deviant discourse from feng shao a dropout application,This article feng shao a talk about ideal/Talk about ambition,and"Broad ideal with a skeptical."

　　令人意外的是，冯邵一并不是一个老师眼中“坏孩子”，也并非一个愤世嫉俗之人。相反，他是一个标准的全面发展的“优等生”：他在小学因为成绩优异连跳三级，年仅10岁已经读初中一年级。在业余时间，他还做过主持人、拍过影视剧，早前在数学、钢琴、书法等比赛中多次获奖。他擅长写作，被《成长周刊》聘为专栏小作家小记者。

Surprisingly,Feng shao together is not a teacher eyes"kids",It is not a cynical man.instead,He is a standard all-round development"Top student":He in elementary school because the result is outstanding even jump level 3,Only 10 years old have read the junior middle school freshman class.In his spare time,He also made the host/Taken the film and television play,Earlier in the mathematical/piano/Calligraphy competition award many times.He is good at writing,was[Growth weekly]As the small column writer small reporter.

　　“他想要的生活就是有时间练琴、绘画，能够观察他喜欢的动物和昆虫标本，能够有时间爬山，在想学习的时候学习，累了的时候就可以休息”，冯邵一的父亲冯银刚告诉记者。而在采访中，冯邵一更加直接地表达了他的不满：“现在中学教育的终点都是高考，如果我能通过别的方式达到这个目标，为什么非得每天呆在学校里接受这种僵化的教育？”

"He wants to life is have time to practice/painting,To observe and he likes animals and insects specimen,Can have time to climb mountains,When I want to study while you study,Tired when can rest",Feng shao a father FengYinGang told reporters.And in the interview,Feng shao a more directly expressed his dissatisfaction:"Now the end of high school education is the college entrance examination,If I can achieve this goal through other means,Why every day to stay in school to accept this kind of rigid education?"

　　在冯银刚看来，“他的不快乐应该是从上初中开始的”，冯银刚回忆，小学期间的冯邵一凭借自己的聪明“一本教材几天就能看完，并且可以考个不错的成绩”，所以花在学习上的时间并不多；而课外他参加了影视剧拍摄、绘画、写作等多种活动，“生活多彩、成绩优异”。“但是上初中之后，学校的教学比较枯燥，大部分时间都是上课、做作业、考试、排名，孩子很不适应。而升学后的首次考试，冯邵一班级第9、年级100多位的排名也不能令孩子自己、老师和家长满意，骤变的环境和心理落差都让他感觉一下子难以适应。”冯银刚表示。

In FengYinGang seems,"He's not happy should start from the top junior high school",FengYinGang memories,During the primary school of feng shao a with his clever"A few days a textbook should be finished,And can you take an examination of a good results",So spend in study time is not much;And extracurricular he took part in the film and television play shooting/painting/Writing and so on the many kinds of activities,"Life is colorful/Excellent results"."But after the junior high school,The school's teaching is quite boring,Most of the time are the class/Doing his homework/examination/ranking,Children are just not used to it.And for the first time after the entrance exam,Feng shao a 9 class/Grade more than 100 ranking also can't make their children/Teachers and parents satisfaction,Shock environment and psychological gap are made him feel suddenly difficult to adapt to."FengYinGang said.

　　此外，在冯银刚看来，不同的教学方式也会影响孩子对学校的感知和认同感。“邵一小学阶段老师的教学更温和，也会鼓励学生多参加辩论赛等一些课外活动，甚至给学生一些小甜头以资鼓励。”冯银刚向记者介绍。

In addition,In FengYinGang seems,Different teaching methods will affect children to school awareness and sense of identity."Shao a primary school teacher's teaching more gentle,Will also encourage students to take part in the debate and other extracurricular activities,Even give students a little sweet taste as a little encouragement."FengYinGang introduces to the reporter.

　　进展达成《父子谅解备忘录》可申请休学 Progress reached[Father and son memorandum]Can apply for the suspension

　　冯邵一的退学申请书在天空城社区引发了很多关注，尽管不少网友表示“很少孩子能这么坦诚地说出自己的想法”，但冯邵一仍然不得不面对一些拍砖和质疑。针对是不是真的要退学这个关键问题，冯邵一随后发表文章阐明自己此次举动的目的：“公开表达自己的观点，然后看看大家的意见”；“表明自己是有看法的”；并“通过对话选择一种大家都接受的方式，引起爸爸妈妈和老师的注意”。在这篇文章里，他明确回应，“要读书、要学习，只是能不能让我们更舒服一点地去读书？”在他看来，自己所想所写并非一个人的态度，只是自己最终选择用一种方法表达出来。

Feng shao a dropout application in the sky city community has caused a lot of attention,Although not a few net friend said"Few children can so openly discuss your own ideas",But feng shao a still have to face some clap brick and questioned.According to really want to drop out from school this key problem,Feng shao a subsequent editorial to clarify the purpose of his move:"Open to express their point of view,Then look at everyone's opinion";"Show that he is a point of view";and"Through the dialogue choose a everyone acceptable way,Cause mom and dad and the teacher's attention".In this article,He clear response,"To read/To learn,Just can let us more comfortable to reading?"In his view,What his writing is not a person's attitude,Is your final choice a method to express.

　　如他所愿，这封《申请书》成功地触动了冯银刚。“心疼”，冯银刚回忆，自己最初通过微博看到这份申请书时的反应并没有像孩子担心的“咆哮如山洪”，“因为想一想也能理解孩子的压力；每一次考试后，我们家长都能够收到学校发来的有关孩子成绩排名的信息，时间长了也会感觉到压力，更何况小孩，每天考虑考试、排名，难免会觉得枯燥单调。”他看来，冯邵一的叛逆是在可控范围内的。

As he had let,This letter[application]Successfully touched FengYinGang."Love dearly",FengYinGang memories,His first through the micro bo see when the application did not react as a child to worry about"Roar like flash floods","Because think can also understand the child's pressure;Every time after the exam,Our parents are able to receive from school the child achievement the information,For a long time will also feel the pressure,Besides the child,Considering the exam every day/ranking,Hard to avoid can feel dull monotone."He seems to,Feng shao a rebel is controlled within the scope of the.

　　“我尽管也不赞同这样的教育方式，但是作为家长也没有其他的办法，”冯银刚说，作为家长自己更倾向于中西结合的教育，即希望学习成绩能和个人其他能力综合发展，“但是目前的升学方式必然导致了现在以成绩至上的教育模式，作为家长我们也是被动的。”

"Although I don't agree with the education mode,But as parents also have no other way,"FengYinGang said,As parents more tendency YuZhongXi combination of education,Is hope study result can and personal other ability comprehensive development,"But the current study mode will inevitably lead to the present to result the highest education mode,As parents we are passive."

　　冯邵一说，经过谈判妥协，他和冯银刚达成《父子谅解备忘录》，里面有重要的四条决议：“我不出卖自己的主权，爸爸只享受监护权。我继续上学，也可以申请休学，但学习不能停止。允许我抗议，实行家庭两票通过的抗议有效。拒绝家长长期在我身边三米内巡航。”

Feng shao said,After negotiation compromise,He and FengYinGang reach[Father and son memorandum],There are important four resolution:"I don't betray their sovereignty,Dad only enjoys custody.I continue to go to school,Also can apply for the suspension,But learning can't stop.Allow me to protest,To carry out family two tickets through the protest effective.Refuse to parents for a long time in my side in the three meters cruise."

　　争论 “能不能让孩子更舒服地读书？” debate "Can let the child more comfortable to reading?"

　　冯邵一的这封《申请书》在天空城发表出来后，立刻引发了同龄的小朋友和身为“天使守护团”的作家、老师们的关注。“看到你的这封自白有点震撼呢。虽然有时候我也不喜欢学习、上课、考试，但我家小艇姐姐一直告诉我，读书不是为了找到好工作，那是很世俗的想法。人活着，应该保有一颗好奇心去更多地了解自己生存的这个世界，对于自身，也是一个不断提高自我的过程。”网名为“伊一在笑”的小学生说。图书编辑、书评人、天使守护团的老师马伯贤称：“起码你这封申请书已经让老师和家长有所反思了，这已经是好的开始。人生的路还很长，用未来的眼光看现在，可能会有不一样的想法。”

Feng shao a of this letter[application]In the sky city published after coming out,Immediately triggered children their age and as"Angel guardian group"writer/The attention of teachers."See you this letter confessions a little shocked?.Although sometimes I also don't like learning/class/examination,But my boat sister has been told me,Reading is not in order to find a good job,That is a very secular thoughts.People alive,Should have a curiosity to know more about them to live in this world,For their own,Is also a continuously improve the process of self."Net is"Iraq in a smile"Pupils said.Books editor/Book review people/Angel guardian group teacher MaBoXian says:"At least you this letter application has let teachers and parents have the reflection,This is a good beginning.Life is still a long way to go,With the future look now,May have different ideas."

　　青年作家、天使守护团成员“善若水”则认为应当尊重孩子表达的权利，“善若水”解释：“感谢天空城有了一个让孩子发泄的渠道，相信孩子发泄完了，该干嘛还得干嘛。”这条留言则得到冯邵一的回复“谢谢！你懂我”。

Young writer/Angel guardian group members"Good if water"Argue that children should respect the rights of expression,"Good if water"explain:"Thanks to the sky city have a let the child out of the channel,Believe that children had vent,This why still have to why."This article is a message to get von shao a reply"thank you!You know what I".

　　在这次有关“争取自由空间”的争论中，让大人们讶异的不仅是孩子们的想法，更重要的是他们的表达方式。冯邵一的独立思考能力给不少老师和家长带来了震撼，作家、天使守护团老师郑枫戏称冯邵一为冯小先生，因为“叫你孩子明显不对”。基于此，这些老师、家长的引导虽然温和但也更多地展现了平等对话的姿态。

In the relevant"Freedom space"debate,Let the grown-up surprised not only is the children's idea,The more important thing is their expression.Feng shao a independent thinking ability to many teachers and parents brought shock,writer/Angel guardian group teacher ZhengFeng calls feng shao one for von little teacher,because"Call your child obviously wrong".Based on this,These teachers/Parents' guidance gentle but also showed more equal dialogue attitude.

　　而记者发现，对父母唯唯诺诺或者是逆反已经过时，像冯邵一这样试图通过一种辩论协商的方式解决问题已经成为孩子们的新潮流。在冯邵一之后，江苏省徐州市树人中学初一学生、小作家任蔷羽则把自己与父母进行“民主辩论”争取上网权益的过程贴上了空间。在这场模拟的法庭辩论中，双方不仅陈述自己的理由，还拟定了“公告”，作为家庭成员必须遵守的准则。

But the reporter discovers,To parents obsequious or negative have been out of date,Like feng shao a such attempts through a debate consultative way to solve the problem has become the new trend in children.In feng shao after a,Jiangsu xuzhou ents middle school students first/Small writer as Qiang feather makes his parents' and"Democratic debate"For the process of the Internet rights with a space.In the simulation of the court debate,Not only both sides stated his reason,Also draws up the"announcement",As a family member must abide by the rules.

　　校方 初一新生需要一定的适应期 New moon school freshman need certain period of adjustment

　　记者随后采访了冯邵一所在的学校珠海拱北中学。一位教务处老师表示，由于相较于小学，中学的科目增多、难度变大、课业压力有所提高，同时学生由于环境的改变也需要一定的适应期，所以刚入学的学生普遍会产生一些不适应。但是大多数学生的不适应仅维持一个月左右。针对这种情况，她表示，学校把新生入学的第一个月看做调整期，从学科、德育、家庭沟通等方面帮助同学尽快适应新环境。

Reporter then interview von shao a school zhuhai gongbei middle school.An academic administration teacher said,Because in elementary school,Middle school subjects increased/Difficulty bigger/Their pressure improved,At the same time students due to the environmental changes also need a certain period of adjustment,So first-year students generally will produce some does not adapt.But most of the students not only to maintain a month or so.In view of this situation,She says,The school admission of the first month as an adjustment period,From the subject/Moral education/Family communication, etc to help students adapt to the new environment as soon as possible.

　　“与小学不同，中学必须面对升学压力，这是不容回避的客观问题，但是我们强调公平教育，尽量引导学生淡化排名，更重要的想要培养学生的自主学习能力。”这位老师表示，学校安排了丰富的课外活动供学生选择，“但有些同学可能在兴趣爱好上执着于某一方面，我们的活动无法满足他，这种状况也不可避免，还需要加强沟通。”

"And primary school different,Middle school must face pressures upon their schoolwork,This is unavoidable objective problem,But we emphasize fair education,Try to guide students to desalination rankings,More important to cultivate students' autonomous learning ability."The teacher said,School for the rich extracurricular activities for students to choose,"But some students may be in interests attached to a hand,Our activity can't satisfy him,This situation also inevitable,Still need to strengthen communication."

　　在学生的心理压力问题上，该老师表示，同学们遇到问题应当加强与班主任的沟通，“我们的老师都学习过教育心理学并且参加相关的培训，可以给同学们以指导；但是，由于班上同学较多一时难以兼顾，一些同学的心理压力如果表现不明显老师可能会有所忽略，所以还需要老师、家长、同学加强沟通。”

In the students' psychological pressure on the problem,The teacher said,The students have a problem with the teacher in charge shall strengthen the communication,"Our teachers are studied education psychology and participate in related training,Can give students to guide;but,Because the class a more difficult to give attention to two or morethings,Some students psychological pressure if performance is not obvious teacher may have ignored,So also need to the teacher/parents/Students strengthen communication."

　　-专家建议 - expert advice

　　孩子个性和社会性的发展比学习更重要 The child personality and social development is more important than learning

　　华南师范大学教育科学院教授郑淮 South China normal university education academy of sciences professor ZhengHuai

　　华南师范大学教育科学院教授郑淮认为：“从宏观层面来看，现在社会越来越开放，青少年接受的教育也发生了变化，他们表达意见的愿望比从前更加强烈，因此，不论家长和老师对孩子提出怎样要求和意见，都应该建立在有效沟通、尊重儿童兴趣和意愿的基础上。”

South China normal university education academy of sciences professor ZhengHuai think:"From the macro level,Now the society more and more open,Teenagers accept education has also had the change,They express their opinions wishes more strongly than before,therefore,Whether parents and teachers to the child proposed how to request and opinions,All should be based on effective communication/To respect children's interest and the basis of will."

　　同时，他分析，青少年倾向于使用自己熟知并且能够掌握的方式来与家长、老师进行沟通；对于现在的小孩来说，网络、短信已经渗入他们的生活，通过这种手段发表意见让他们感到更无所顾忌，减少了尴尬和过去礼教的束缚，所以，使用新的表达渠道会成为社会的必然。

At the same time,He analysis,Teenagers tend to use their own familiar with and can grasp way to and parents/The teacher to communicate;For now the child to,network/Message had penetrated into their lives,By this means comment to let them feel more unscrupulously,Reduce the embarrassed and past the bondage of moral codes,so,Use new express channel will become the social inevitable.

　　他建议，教育者在教育的方法上应该更加讲求策略，例如能否应用同样的手段、在同一个表达平台上提供有说服力的资料，对孩子进行有效的引导。郑淮认为，这些方式有助于赢得孩子的心理认同。

He suggested that,Educators in the education method should be more stress on strategy,For example can apply the same method/In the same expression platform provide convincing material,To effectively guide the children.ZhengHuai think,The way to win the child's psychological identity.

　　“此外，事情发生的客观原因是社会对小孩的期望没有顾及到孩子自身的期望和感受，这也说明我们的教育制度离真实生活越来越远。”郑淮表示，随着孩子的成长和自我意识的形成、对自主自由的要求会逐渐增多，这就更需要学校和家长给他们提供更多的自由空间。

"In addition,Things happen objective cause is social children expect no consideration of the child's own expectations and feelings,It also shows that our education system is more and more far away from real life."ZhengHuai said,As children grow older and the formation of the self consciousness/For the requirement of freedom will increase gradually,It need more schools and parents to provide them with more free space.

　　“每一个小孩的发展都不一样，学习仅仅是一个方面，个性和社会性的发展在孩子的成长中占有更重要的地位，但是我们现在的教育鲜有顾及。”郑淮建议，学校和家长一方面要适当给孩子减轻课业负担，要给孩子的自由发展留下一定的空间，重视不同孩子身上不同的发展轨迹；另一方面，他认为这样案例的出现也恰恰表示我们的教育制度已经亟待改革。

"Each child's development is not the same,Learning is just one aspect,Personality and social development in the child's growth plays more important position,But we now education rarely take into consideration."ZhengHuai Suggestions,The school and parents on one hand should be appropriate to reduce the burden on their children,To give the child's free development leave some space,Pay attention to different children different development track;On the other hand,He said that the emergence of the case is just a token of our education system has to be reform.

　　给孩子更多 Give children more

　　自由选择的空间 刘茜 Freedom of choice of actor of the space

　　-周刊速评 - weekly speed evaluation

　　十岁“优等生”不想把理想葬送在无聊的考试中，申请退学争取“自由空间”。当然只是冯邵一自己的想法而已，有这种想法的孩子其实很多，但往往被大人们当成“痴人说梦”。这次有点意外，冯邵一在天空城表达了这种想法后，引起了广泛的关注，或许我们的教育观正在发生悄悄的改变。

Ten years old"Top student"Don't want to ruin the ideal in boring test,Application drop out of school for"Free space".Of course just feng shao himself thinks,Have this kind of idea actually a lot of children,But are often as adults"Ask for the moon".This a little surprised,Feng shao a city in the sky to express the thought,Caused wide attention,Perhaps our education is happening quietly changed.

　　在传统的中国家庭教育中，家长像霸道的园丁，完全用自己的理想和志趣“修剪”孩子。孩子们一次次地被安排：学钢琴、学奥数、进各种各样的补习班……“虎妈”、“鹰爸”更是把这种教育观推向了极致。于是我们虽然看到“虎妈”、“鹰爸”培养出了少数的精英外，更多的是身心疲惫、没有激情、随大流的青年人。

In traditional Chinese families in education,Parents like arbitrariness gardener,Complete with their own ideal and interest"trim"children.The children are time arrangement:Learn the piano/Learn aoshu/In all kinds of cram school……"Tiger mother"/"Eagle dad"Is this kind of education to the extreme.So although we see"Tiger mother"/"Eagle dad"To create the few elite outside,More is exhaustion of body and mind/Without passion/Follow the crowd of young people.

　　在迪士尼的电影里，那些好好读书的乖孩子们时常在某一天崩溃，突然顿悟：生活不是服从和读书获奖，而是脱掉衣服尖叫着奔向大海畅游，然后选择自己喜欢的生活方式。然而在中国的现实中，勇敢的冯邵一随后还是“有些心虚”地发表文章阐明自己此次举动的目的：“公开表达自己的观点，然后看看大家的意见”；并“通过对话选择一种大家都接受的方式，引起爸爸妈妈和老师的注意”。他的父亲冯银刚也表示：“我尽管也不赞同这样的教育方式，但是作为家长也没有其他的办法”。

In Disney movie,Those who take reading lovely children often in one day collapse,All of a sudden insight:Life is not to obey and reading award,But take off clothes screamed and ran to the sea cruise,Then choose your favorite way of life.However, in China's reality,Brave feng shao a subsequent or"Some guilty"Published articles to interpret his purpose of this act:"Open to express their point of view,Then look at everyone's opinion";and"Through the dialogue choose a everyone acceptable way,Cause mom and dad and the teacher's attention".His father FengYinGang also said:"Although I don't agree with the education mode,But as parents also have no other way".

　　其实大多数父亲的内心是“分裂”。一方面他们希望孩子“成为一个平凡快乐的人”，另一方面他们内心深处却都深藏着要打造一个“了不起的孩子”的欲望。安排繁重“教育任务”，如乌云遮蔽了本该天真烂漫的童年天空。冯银刚还不错，允许孩子进行“可控”的试验。

In fact most of the father's mind is"division".On the one hand they want children"Be a ordinary happy person",On the other hand they heart deep but to build a"Great children"desire.Arrangement heavy"Education task",Such as dark clouds covered the sky should be innocent childhood.FengYinGang is good,Allow children"controlled"test.

　　我自己曾经也对这种被学校、家长“逼”着学的教育深恶痛绝。但想想孩子的未来也还真不敢大意。直到去美国呆了一段时间之后，看到美国孩子从小就学着选择，并选择自己想要的人生很感慨。

I ever also to the school/parents"force"The learning education detest.But think about the future of their children also I can't careless.To go to the United States for a period of time later,See the United States the child learn to choose,And they want to choose the life very regrets.

　　在美加，中学主科不多，很多是选修课，孩子通过上选修课发现自己的兴趣。他们还有一个“影子日”，跟爸爸妈妈一天，看他们怎么工作。孩子特别高兴，一天不用上课。还有个“职业日”，你想做理发师，去理发店跟一天；想做律师，去律师楼跟一天；想做护士，去医院跟一天。学校很早就做职业分析的测试，设计的问题很巧妙，不会直接问你喜欢什么职业，是通过各种小问题，拼出你的职业倾向。

In the United States and,Middle school few major subject,Many are elective course,The children through the elective course found their interests.They have a"Shadow,",Mum and dad one day,See how do they work.Children particularly happy,One day there is no class.There is a"Career day",Do you want to do the barber,With a day goes to a barber's;Want to be a lawyer,Go to your lawyer with a day;Want to be a nurse,Go to a hospital with a day.The school very early to do professional analysis test,Design problem is very clever,Will not directly ask what professions do you like,Is through all sorts of small problem,Spell out your career tendency.

　　但我们根本不让孩子想“什么适合自己”，而是什么专业就业前景好，大家都去考。孩子究竟想过什么样的生活也容不得有自己的想法。

But we don't let the children want to"What suit oneself",But what major better job prospects,Everyone to take an examination of.Children really want a what kind of life also let shall not have their own idea.

　　去年美国有120万高中生辍学，只有70%的高中生能拿到毕业证书。因为美国是孩子自己做出的选择，“我不想上”，“不愿意读”，家长也不能强迫他。有一部分人就完全按照自己的爱好选择经商或其他社会活动，当他们做出一定的成绩后，照样可以申请一流的大学，成为杰出人才。

Last year in the United States, there are 1.2 million high school students drop out,Only 70% of senior high school students can get graduation certificate.Because the United States is the child make the choice,"I don't want to go to","Don't want to read",Parents also can't force him to.There are some who is completely according to own hobby choose a business or other social activities,When they make certain results,So can apply for the first-class university,Become outstanding talents.

　　另外一些人，可能就选择职业教育，做蓝领一样很幸福。美国孩子的社会分流很早就形成了。中国的情况是，家长、社会都逼着孩子读书。因此很多教育学家在考察美国教育后说，中国教育其实只是照顾到了中间层次的孩子，而那些特别优秀的又有个性被扼杀了，比较差的孩子被耽误了。而美国可选择的教育却让各种层次的孩子各得其所，因为社会需要的人才是多层次的。

others,May be the choice of the vocational education,Do blue-collar same very happiness.Children in the United States social shunt very early formed.The situation in China is,parents/Society force their children to school.So many education experts in the inspection after the United States education said,Chinese education is just to take care intermediate levels of children,And those special excellent and have individual character was killed,The poor child was delayed.While the United States alternative education but let all levels of each child,For the needs of the community talent is mutiple level.

　　曾以《素质教育在美国》著名的旅美教育学者黄全愈说，学校教育、家庭教育、社会教育、自我教育四位一体，但前三者只是三脚架的腿，能拍到什么样的人生风景，还要看固定在三脚架上的自我教育能提供多大的取景框。因此让孩子自己作出选择在他的人生中的作用就格外重要。

Had to[Quality education in the United States]Commenting on cross-strait ties some time ago famous education scholars HuangQuanYu said,School education/Family education/Social education/Self education quaternity,But before 3 person just tripod legs,Can take what kind of life scenery,Also see fixed on the tripod on self education can provide much QuJingKuang.So let the child choose himself in his life more important role.

　　《下一代的竞争力：美国麻省理工学院中国总面试官的教子手记》在近20年为麻省理工学院选拔新生的面试工作中，蒋佩蓉女士发现了一个惊人的规律：那些只凭一纸高分的高智商申请者，往往被麻省拒之门外美国顶尖级大学所看重的，不只是学习成绩，更重要的是整体健全的人和独立的思想。而独立的思想就是自我选择的结果。

[The next generation of competitiveness:Massachusetts institute of technology in the Chinese general interviewer's true godson hand]In the nearly 20 years for the Massachusetts institute of technology selection new interview work,JiangPeiRong woman found a surprising rule:Those who only by a paper high scores high intelligence quotient (IQ) applicants,Massachusetts are often rejected the finest universities values,Not only the study result,More important is the overall sound and independent thought.And the independent thought is the result of choice.

　　也有家长说，人都是好逸恶劳的，按照孩子的选择肯定就是“吃喝玩乐”，冯邵一的选择是“舒服地读书”，其实他作出这种选择时并没有想过人在社会上还要有安身立命之本。这时候就需要家长进行引导。

Also have parents say,Man is the indolence,According to the child's choice is definitely"Beer and skittles",Feng shao a choice is"Comfortably reading",In fact he made this choice didn't want to people in the society have the settlement.This time will need to guide parents.

　　在美国的中学，除了让成功的企业家、学者去做报告外，也让那些清道夫、消防员，甚至侍者去学校讲述他们的生活，让孩子了解，这就是“社会”和“人生”，看看自已将来是否愿意选择他们这样的人生，而在中国学校成功人士才会在被邀请之列。

In American high schools,In addition to make successful entrepreneur/Scholars to do the report,Also let those scavenger/firefighters,Even the waiter to school about their lives,Let the child understand,This is"social"and"life",Look at yourself in the future would like to choose their this kind of life,In China the school successful will be invited list.

　　我因此受到启发，孩子小学开始后的每个假期，如果去工厂采访就带上他，让他了解外来工的生活。另外还带着他看《凤凰卫视》的冷暖人生，并就其中各种人生进行探讨：什么样的人生是值得过的。这种方法好像还挺有用的，他从初中开始就明白了自己的路要怎样走，学习刻苦、自觉从来不让家长逼。

So I was inspired,After the start of child elementary school every holiday,If to the factory will bring his interview,Let him know the life of migrant workers.Also took his watch[Phoenix TV]Changes of life,And all kinds of life are discussed:What kind of life is worth living.This method as it is quite useful,He from junior middle school to see his own way to how to go,Study hard/Consciously never let parents force.

　　其实成人的社会俨然已是一场生存竞赛，我们都被各种竞争的硝烟熏染得焦虑无比。也常常怀疑，这人生真的有那么一场决定胜负的“战斗”吗？为一个好工作、好职位累得像狗，这样的人生是否就更“成功”？所以孩子选择舒服一些的方式，我也并不反对。然而我的儿子在去工厂看到外来工的生活和看了很多期《冷暖人生》后，非常郑重地告诉我，他不想成为社会低层的人。

In fact that's the adult society has already is a survival competition,We are all kinds of competition to edify smoke so anxiety.Also often doubts,This life really have so a decisive"combat"??For a good job/Good position tired like dogs,This kind of life is more"success"?So the children choose comfortable way,I also not against.However my son in to factories see migrant worker's life and see a lot of period[Life changes in temperature]after,Very solemnly told me,He did not want to become social lower people.

　　所以我在想，也许当孩子成长到自我意识苏醒的那一天，能惊喜地发现通过自己的选择拥有开拓生活的无限激情，而不是悲哀地发现自己已伤痕累累，身心疲惫无力回天。

So I want to,Maybe when the children to grow up to self-awareness awakening that day,Can pleasantly surprised to find that the choice of development through their life with infinite passion,Not mournfully found himself already scarred,Exhaustion of body and mind no turning back.