“名嘴”教师与硕士生探讨恋爱婚姻实话实说： "Name mouth"Teachers and discuss the master love marriage call a spade a spade:

剩男不是真问题 剩女才是 Is not a problem with male with female is

　　26日晚，有华中科技大学“网络人气之星”、“才子教师”等名号的夏增民博士，应邀与该校硕士生探讨恋爱、婚姻问题。

26 late,A central China university of science and technology"Network popularity star"/"Wit teachers"And the name XiaZengMin doctor,The school master invited to discuss with love/Marriage problems.

　　他把“人为什么一定要结婚”的问题抛给现场学子。“因为同居是非法的”、“凡是不以结婚为目的的谈恋爱都是耍流氓”……一些学子回答。夏增民说：“家庭是一个基本生产单位。在中国，一个人一直不结婚会被视为另类。”

He put the"Why people must get married"Problems thrown to the students."For co-habitation is illegal"/"Those who do not to get married for the purpose of fall in love are blackguard"...Some students answer.XiaZengMin said:"The family is a basic production unit.In China,A person has not been married will be considered alternative."

　　他告诉学生，“剩女”是个真问题，“剩男”则是个“伪问题”；男女事业发展“曲线”不同，男性30岁以后仍有较大发展平台，女性则不同。

He told the students,"Left female"Is a real problem,"With male"Is a"Pseudo problem";Men and women development"curve"different,Male 30 years old still has large development platform,Women different.

　　“谈了3年恋爱还不结婚，80%的人最后都会分手；因为时间长了，双方都会疲倦。”对异地恋问题，他表示“很苦，很脆弱；不看好，不支持”。

"About 3 years love still not get married,80% of the people finally will break up;For a long time,Both sides will be tired."For long distance relationship problems,He said"Very bitter,fragile;Do not expect,Do not support".

　　有学子认为，“多谈几次才能知道哪个是真爱”；“婚姻就像鞋子，总要试过之后才能知道是否合适”。有学生当即反驳：“多试几次，是对自己的负责，对他人的不负责。”夏增民则认为，要把恋爱的责任与婚姻的责任分开，背后的核心问题是性观念问题。

Have students think,"Talk about a few times to know which is true love";"Marriage is like shoes,Always after trying to know if appropriate".Have the students immediately refuted:"Try several more of,Is to oneself of responsible for,For others is not responsible for."XiaZengMin argue that,The love's responsibility and the responsibility of the marriage separate,Behind the core problem is sex idea problem.

　　夏增民调查发现，父母婚姻对子女影响很大。如果父母经常吵架，孩子对婚恋的态度会是：“一定不要结婚，结婚特别没意思。”

XiaZengMin survey found,Parents of children marriage influence.If the parents often quarrel with each other,The child to romantic attitude will be:"Must not get married,Get married special boring."

　　“90后”学子婚恋观中出现的高频词主要有“责任”、“理解”、“宽容”、“严肃”、“慎重”、“尊重”、“真诚”、“磨合”等。

"After 90"Students appeared in the marriage of high frequency words are mainly"responsibility"/"understand"/"tolerance"/"serious"/"careful"/"respect"/"sincere"/"Running in", etc.

　　“这些词都显示出了正能量。”他说，“有共同利益的双方，婚姻会更稳固。就像双方一起供房，一旦离婚，有一方没地方住，仅靠一个人很难再买一套。” (记者朱建华)

"These words are showed positive energy."He said,"The common interest of both parties,The marriage will be more stable.As both sides for room together,Once divorce,There is a party no place to live,Only by one person is hard to buy a." (Reporter ZhuJianHua)