成功属于有目标的人 Success belongs to the goal person

　　孙云晓：你们现在有没有人生目标？

SunYunXiao:Do you have any goals in life?

　　包逊瑞：我很喜欢计算机，觉得电影里特工破译密码很酷，我以后想当计算机方面的专家。

's red bag:I like computer,Think movie agent deciphering the password is very cool,I will want to be a computer expert.

　　龚恒一：我以后想当自然科学家。

GongHeng a:I think after when natural scientists.

　　孙云晓：这很好。成功属于有目标有计划的人，中学生要做到人生有目标，做事有计划。哈佛大学曾做过一个研究，他们找了一些家庭背景、智商等条件比较相似的学生进行测试，问你的人生目标和计划是什么。只有3%的人能详细说出，13%的人能够大概说出，其他的人没有目标和计划。调查发现，十年过去后，那3%的人的收入是没有目标和计划的人的10倍，成为社会的精英阶层。那13%的人的收入是他们的两倍，成为社会的中产阶级。而那些没有目标和计划的人就成了最普通的人，有的还过得很惨。

SunYunXiao:This is very good.Success belongs to the people have goals in a planned way,Middle school students to do life has a goal,Work in a planned way.Harvard University has done a research,They found some family background/Intelligence quotient (IQ) conditions similar to the student to carry on the test,Ask your life goal and plan is??????.Only 3% of the people can speak in detail,13% of the people can probably tell,Other people do not have goals and plans.Survey found that,Ten years after,The 3% of the income is no goal and plan ten times,Become a social elite.The 13% of the income is their two times,Become social middle class.And those who do not target and plan became the most ordinary people,Some still very miserably.

　　龚恒一：怎么确定目标和规划呢？

GongHeng a:How to determine a goal and planning?

　　孙云晓：目标一定要细化。像自然科学家有研究动物的，也有研究植物的。我有一个朋友是科普作家，他就是研究蚂蚁的。目标细化之后行动才能更明确，你可以制定大计划，初中干什么，高中干什么，比如读传记、参观博物馆等。小计划则可以确定每天干什么。我每年至少会有三本“效率手册”，上面都写着我每天的安排。

SunYunXiao:The goal must be refined.Like natural scientists research animals,Other studies have plant.I have a friend who is a science writer,He is the study of the ants.Target after refining action can be more clear,You can make big plan,Junior middle school to do,High school do,Such as reading biographies/Visit the museum, etc.Small plan can be sure every day.Every year I at least three copies"Efficiency manual",Above all written my daily arrangement.

答家长问 A parents ask

　　Q 汪女士（包逊瑞母亲）：北师大附中没有排名，很多时候都是老师给学生一个中等成绩。我很担心这样是不是不能给学生鞭策作用？

Q ms wang(Bag amazonian red mother):Beijing normal university affiliated ranked no,Most of the time are all teachers give students a medium performance.I'm worried about it is can't give students spur action?

　　孙云晓：提高学习积极性确实很重要。心理学研究发现，学生学习的动机有四种，第一叫认知需要，即学习是为了获得知识和能力，这是最稳定的内在动力；第二是发展需要，为了考大学、出国，这样就有一定功利性；第三是报答需要，比如报答父母，不让他们伤心；最后也是最可怕的，即竞争需要，学习为了考第一，为了超过别人。但谁都无法保证永远考第一，这就会造成心灵扭曲，看别人都是敌人。也会束缚自己的思维，对学生长远的发展不利。我们很早就呼吁考试成绩可以成为学生的隐私，北师大附中的做法算是一种改进。

SunYunXiao:Improve the learning enthusiasm is really important.The psychology research found,Students' motivation to learn there are four,The first call cognitive needs,That learning is to acquire knowledge and ability,This is the most stable inner power;The second is to develop the need,In order to test the university/Go abroad,There must be utilitarian;The third is to return,Such as repay parents,Don't let them sad;The last and the most terrible,That need to be competitive,Learning in order to test the first,In order to more than others.But who can guarantee always test first,This can cause heart distortion,Look at the others are the enemy.Also bound his own thinking,On students' long-term development is adverse.We have long called for test scores can become students' privacy,Beijing normal university with the practice is a kind of improvement.

　　汪女士：经过比较，我发现学校给孩子留的作业比较少，虽然这样能减轻孩子负担，但我也担心这样下去，孩子在应试方面会吃亏？

Ms wang:By comparing,I found that the school give children leave work less,Although this can reduce the burden of children,But I also worry about this continues,Children in the examination aspects will suffer?

　　Q 孙云晓：北师大附中的校友钱学森每天下午打篮球到天黑才回家，他还有音乐才能，这些都没妨碍他成为科学家，反而有助于他成为科学家。孩子真正有了目标和计划后，关键是掌握方法，有探索精神，而不在于学习时间长短。我觉得家长先要注意孩子的兴趣，帮孩子确定目标，然后给他空间，激发他的渴望。

Q SunYunXiao:Beijing normal university alumni of the attached qian xuesen play basketball every afternoon't come home until it is dark,He has music ability,These are not interfering with he became a scientist,It helps him to become scientists.Children really have goals and planning,The key is to keep method,A spirit,And not in the length of time of learning.I think parents should first pay attention to the interests of the child,Help my child to determine a goal,Then give him the space,Inspire his desire.

强微花开 Strong micro blossom

　　@京翰教育：成长就是一个又一个的死亡与新生。成长中，我们会学会感恩、学会团结、学会自立……会学会很多很多；我们也会认识：真、假、善、恶、美、丑。成长是有坎坷的，哪会有人没有磕磕绊绊。经历的越多，成长的越快。总在父母的关照下生活，永远都不会成长；要相信自己，自己去做好。

@ Beijing John education:Growth is one of the death and birth.growth,We will learn to be grateful/Learn to unity/Learn to be independent……Will learn a lot;We will know:true/false/good/evil/beauty/ugly.Growth is a bumpy,Which meeting someone without stumbling.Experienced more,Growing faster.Always in parents' care next life,Will never grow;Believe in yourself,Yourself to do.

　　绿绿的梦泡泡：我的成长，是老妈的唠叨，是老爸的语重心长，是哥哥背着我奔跑在麦田里，是姐姐给梳的麻花辫，是教室里等待的下课铃声，是每学期抱回家的奖状，是抽屉里突然出现的青涩“情书”，是大学图书馆里的小说，是等待毕业的忐忑，是工作后的失落和赞扬……

Green dream bubble:I grow up,Is mom's nagging,Is the old daddy's sincere and earnest,My brother is running behind my back in the catcher in the rye,Is the elder sister to comb the plait of Fried dough twist,Is the classroom of waiting for the bell,Each semester is holding a certificate to go home,Is the drawer suddenly appeared the green"Love letter",Is the university library in the novel,Is waiting for graduation in,After the work is lost and praise……

　　(来源:新京报)

(Sources: Beijing news)