本周出镜

This week the mirror

　　包逊瑞、龚恒一

's red bag/GongHeng a

　　北师大附中初一学生

Beijing normal university affiliated 7th grade students

　　互动方式：与著名教育专家、中国青少年研究中心研究员孙云晓谈话一小时，讨论中学生的成长与发展

Interactive way:With a famous education experts/China youth research center researchers SunYunXiao talking for an hour,Discuss middle school students' growth and development

　　强二代关键词：自我管理、广泛交友、自我成长

Strong second generation keywords:Self management/Widely to make friends/Self growth

　　包逊瑞与龚恒一在学校里是同班的好朋友，包逊瑞比较安静，不怎么爱说话，龚恒一则比较开朗。在与记者交流时，他们总喜欢绕圈子，不愿敞开心扉。但面对经验丰富的教育专家孙云晓，他们立马成为乖学生，开始老老实实地回答各种问题。

He's a bag with GongHeng at school are good friends,Johnson red bag is quiet,Don't love talk,GongHeng a more optimistic.In the communication with reporters,They always like to beat about the bush,Don't want to open your heart.But in the face of experienced education experts SunYunXiao,They immediately become a good student,Began to honestly answered all the questions.

中学需提升自我管理能力 Middle school need to improve self management ability

　　“你们觉得中学和小学有哪些不同？”相异于以往的交流活动，作为嘉宾的孙云晓首先发问。

"You think that middle school and primary school what different?"Differ from past activities,As a guest SunYunXiao first asked.

　　“我觉得中学对自主学习的能力要求更高。中学老师教学完了之后不会带你复习，很快就考试。如果不自己复习就会很吃力。”龚恒一回答。包逊瑞则认为“初中比小学作业多了很多，一般小学写到七八点就行了，中学起码得写到十点。而且初中一个小考就考一个小时，不像小学考试只有四十分钟左右。初中题目也很难，经常做不完。”

"I think high school on the autonomic learning ability request higher.Teaching high school teacher after won't take you to review,Soon test.If not review will be very difficult."GongHeng one answer.He argues that Johnson bag"Junior high school a lot more homework than primary school,General elementary school QiBaDian wrote it,High school at least have to write at ten o 'clock.And junior high school a quiz tests for an hour,Don't like elementary school exam only forty minutes.Junior high school subject is difficult to,Often do not over."

　　“到了中学，好像换了一个世界，同学都是陌生群体。而且初中教育的知识面和知识量成倍增加，对自我管理能力要求高了。有句话叫人生成败看自制。能不能有成功的中学时代，一个重要的标志就是自我管理能力的强弱，自我管理能力强的人，适应力也强。”孙云晓说。

"The middle school,As if in a world,Students are strange group.And the junior middle school education knowledge and have learned fold increase,To the self management ability request high.There is an old saying that life success look homemade.Can you have success of middle school age,An important mark is self management ability strong and the weak,Self management ability strong people,Adaptability is strong."SunYunXiao said.

广交友，但早恋不明智 Wide to make friends,But early love not wise

　　当被问到在学校是否还有其他朋友时，包逊瑞和龚恒一都给予了肯定回答。龚恒一认为，小学的朋友只是一块玩一块闹，而中学的朋友可以真正交流，朋友的分量重了很多。包逊瑞则表示，“上中学后，只能依靠朋友了。”

When asked whether there are other in school friends,Bag's red and GongHeng have given a definite answer.GongHeng a think,Primary school friends is just a play a piece of surface,And high school friends can be a real communication,Friend's component weigh a lot.Hudson, said red bag,"After secondary school,Can only rely on friends."

　　孙云晓指出，上小学时父母很有权威性，但中学就发生了变化，同学、朋友的话更重要。比如父母给你买了件衣服，到学校后同学们都说很难看，你肯定就不愿穿了。在社会心理学上，这就叫群体社会化，中学生特别渴望同学的接纳，以适应这个群体，同学的影响力就超过了父母。

SunYunXiao pointed out that,In elementary school parents have authority,But high school is changed,students/If a friend is more important.Such as parents give you buy clothes,To the school the classmates all say very ugly,Are you sure did not want to wear.In social psychology,This is called group socialization,High school students for special students acceptance,To adapt to this group,The influence of the students is more than the parents.

　　但包逊瑞和龚恒一也坦言，他们的朋友里没有异性朋友，今年11月11日他们还和另一位同学一起过了光棍节。被问及是否有女朋友时，两人不好意思地赶紧摇头。

However, the packet's red and GongHeng a also said,Their friends had no friends,November 11, they also and another classmates after a single day.Asked if have a girlfriend,Two people embarrassedly hurriedly shook his head.

　　“到了中学，很多学生都会面临这种问题，比如有人给你递个纸条啊，想和你约会啊等等。其实，爱情是美好的，中学生完全可以谈论爱情。而且中学生只跟同性朋友交往肯定是不够理想的。男女生之间可以有广泛的友谊，积累一些经验，比如怎么和异性说话。有了和异性朋友交往沟通的经验，将来的恋爱就水到渠成了。”但孙云晓也指出，中学生过早恋爱不是很明智。“爱情是排他的，友谊不是排他的。过早恋爱就是过早排他了，这会让一个人的世界变得很狭小。”

"The middle school,Many students will be faced with this kind of problem,Such as someone give you handed a note ah,Want to make an appointment with you ah, etc.In fact,Love is beautiful,Middle school students can talk about love.And high school students with only gay friends affirmation is not ideal.Between male and female students can have a wide range of friendship,Accumulated some experience,Such as how to talk with the opposite sex.A and heterosexual friends communication experience,Love is the future success will come."But SunYunXiao also pointed out,Middle school students early love is not very wise."Love is exclusive,Friendship is not exclusive.Early love is the exclusive early,It will make a man of the world become very narrow."

　　在交流过程中，孙云晓还与他们分享了自己读书、写作的经历，鼓励他们多运动，多读书。

In the course of the exchange,SunYunXiao also share their reading/Writing experience,Encourage them to exercise more,Read more books.

【点评】 [Comment on]

　　这两个男生学习成绩优良，很朴实也很单纯，内心富有活力，对新生活跃跃欲试。但他们缺乏与陌生世界沟通的主动性，需要更多的社会实践来拓宽视野，增强适应力和应变能力。孙云晓

The two boys learning achievement is admirable,Very simple and very simple,Inner dynamic,To try a new life.But they lack and strange world communication initiative,Need more social practice to broaden their horizons,Enhance adaptability and strain capacity.SunYunXiao