重庆晨报讯 家住合川区假日大道附近的杨女士，近两天寝食难安。因为她读初二的14岁女儿李小燕（化名）近来十分反常，更可怕的是，前晚小燕的手臂上全是刀痕。面对母亲，小燕竟淡淡地说是自己用刀片割的。

Chongqing morning news live near the ocean area holiday avenue ms Yang,Losing nearly two days.Because she read there LiXiaoYan 14 years old daughter(alias)Recently very abnormal,Is more terrible,The night before last xiaoyan arm is full of mark.In the face of the mother,Xiaoyan have lightly say oneself use blade cut.

母亲 mother

女儿是不是心理有问题 Daughter is psychological problem

　　小燕告诉母亲，因为前天物理单元考试只考了79分，与期中考试96分相比下滑了不少。因此，她要惩罚自己以示警戒，以后要好好学习。杨女士心疼地问她疼不疼，小燕依然十分淡定地摇了摇头。尽管小燕答应杨女士以后不会再做伤害自己的事情，但杨女士仍然有些担心。因为，去年女儿就曾因为考试成绩下降做出过激行为，用手掐自己，但没有这次严重。

Xiaoyan told her mother,Because the day before yesterday physical unit test only got 79 points,Compared with the mid-term exam 96 points dropped a lot.so,She want to punish yourself to alert,Later will have to study hard.Ms. Xiuzhu lovingly asked her painful not painful,Xiaoyan is still very weak marked shook his head.Although xiaoyan promised to ms Yang later won't do harm his things,But ms Yang is still a bit of a worry.because,Daughter last year was because test scores decline to aggressive behavior,His hand device,But no serious this time.

　　杨女士说，女儿的成绩一直很好。平时除了有些好强、爱钻牛角尖外，与人相处时十分外向。原本杨女士与丈夫一直带着女儿小燕在广东打工，直到女儿6岁才送回合川老家与外婆一起生活。前年女儿升初中，杨女士独自回老家照顾孩子。杨女士刚回老家时，小燕很少与她交流。随着相处的日子越来越长，小燕才渐渐开始与杨女士交谈。每次丈夫打电话回家叮嘱小燕要多穿衣，多吃饭,小燕就觉得十分反感，有时甚至还不愿接父亲的电话，觉得父亲虚伪。

Ms Yang said,Her daughter's performance has been very good.Peacetime in addition to some strong/Love over the,Get along with person very outgoing.Originally Yang woman and her husband has been with the daughter xiaoyan work in guangdong,Until 6 years old daughter to back to hometown and on grandma live together.The year before last daughter rise junior high school,Ms Yang back alone to take care of the children.Young lady just when back,Xiaoyan seldom communicate with her.Get along with the life became more and more and more long,Small YanCai gradually began to talk to young lady.Every time her husband to call home xiaoyan told to dress,Eat more,Xiaoyan feel very dislike,Sometimes don't even willing to meet his father's phone,Think father false.

　　杨女士猜想，是否因为自己与丈夫长时间不在女儿身边，才造成小燕如此偏激的性格。她更担心的是，小燕会不会是心理有问题，才会做出伤害自己的事情。

Ms. Xiuzhu guess,Is it because his daughter and her husband long time is not around,Just cause small yan so extreme character.She is more worried about,Xiaoyan will have a psychological problem,Will make damage your own thing.

专家 experts

需引导孩子正确对待失败 Need to guide children correctly deal with failure

　　重庆朱美云心理咨询所所长高级心理咨询师朱美云说，小燕之所以会有自我伤害行为，其实是因为太在乎成绩，欲望受挫后产生了自责心理。她的自残，其实是因为好强、偏执的性格引起的。家长需要引导她正确对待成功与失败。

Chongqing ZhuMeiYun psychological consultation institute senior psychological consultant ZhuMeiYun said,Xiaoyan have self-destructive behaviors,It's because too care about results,Desire after setback produced psychological era.Her self-mutilation,In fact because of strong/Paranoid personality cause.Parents need to treat correctly guide her success and failure.