上海外国语大学附属大境初级中学开设了《网络文明》课程。图为学生们正在上课。 Affiliated to Shanghai international studies university, big opened its junior high school[Internet civilization]course.The students are having classes.

　　晨报记者 陈 征 图片

The morning paper reporter Chen sign pictures

“他就坐在你的面前，却和你无话可说，一直低着头滑动着手机” "He sat in front of you,And yet you have nothing to say,Always low head sliding a mobile phone"

　　“一个iPad，就把孩子的注意力全吸引过去了”

"A iPad,The child's attention all attract the past"

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　　互联网下的社交环境，让如今的家长感觉孩子教育比以往任何时候更复杂，“你的孩子坐在离你不远的地方用着电脑，却可能正在上当受骗。有的女生甚至在网上和陌生人裸聊。 ”

The Internet of the social environment,Let today's parents feel the child education more complicated than any time before,"You children sitting place not far away from you with the computer,But may be deceived.Some girls even in online and stranger naked chat. "

　　社交媒体，对孩子们来说是一个充满了诱惑的世界。他们渴望在其中探索知识、交友、玩游戏。但社交媒体也是一把双刃剑，在带给孩子精彩世界的同时，也威胁着孩子的健康成长。因为已出现孩子沉迷网络游戏，还有孩子在网络世界里上当受骗。

Social media,For children is a full of temptations of the world.They are eager to in the search for knowledge/friends/Play games.But social media is also a double-edged sword,Bring the children wonderful world at the same time,Also threatens the health and sound growth of children.Because appeared children addict network game,There are children in the network world be deceived.

　　面对这些问题，家长是指责批评，还是潜水监控？学生又如何学会在网络上自我保护？学校又该如何教育学生安全上网？日前记者走访了一些中小学校、家庭和相关问题的专家。

In the face of these problems,Parents are accused of criticism,Or diving monitoring?Students learn how to protect themselves on the Internet?School education students' safety and how to get on the Internet?Has the reporter interviewed some primary and secondary schools/Family and the related problems of experts.

　　孩子迷网危险不断

Children fan net dangerous constantly

　　玩iPad动如脱兔一上课呆若木鸡

Play iPad move such as escaped hare a class be rooted to the spot

　　浦东联洋地区的林小姐有两个分别为十一、十三岁的孩子，“对我的孩子来说，互联网就像空气，是他们生活的方式。”

Pudong LianYang area miss Lin has two were eleven/Thirteen years old,"For children to me,The Internet is like air,Is their way of life."

　　两年前也就是2010年年底，林小姐的孩子开始接触iPad。因为怕伤眼睛，林小姐对孩子使用iPad的时间进行了严格的控制，“不允许孩子带到学校。孩子一般早上起床后滑滑屏幕，晚上作业做完睡觉前玩一会。虽然对使用时间进行了控制，但孩子现在做作业明显不如以往专心。”

Two years ago, is also the end of 2010,Miss Lin children started to contact iPad.For fear of hurting eyes,Miss Lin iPad for children to use the time for the strict control,"Don't allow children to school.Children usually wake up in the morning sliding screen,Before you go to bed in the evening homework play for a while.Although to use the time control,But children do your homework now obvious not equal to former concentration."

　　“下课玩iPad、网络聊天或者是玩游戏时，他们的反应很快。但在课堂上，这些孩子注意力集中的时间却越来越短。”浦东一所小学的王老师说。

"Class is over to play iPad/Network chat or play games,Their reaction quickly.But in the classroom,These children concentration time is more and more short."Pudong a primary school teacher wang said.

　　根据王老师的观察，玩iPad或者网聊时间比较长的孩子，做课堂作业经常会做做玩玩且粗心大意，“听课时会出现咬笔头、玩手指的现象。另外，窗外一有风吹草动，眼珠立即就朝窗外转去。”

According to wang's observation,Play iPad or network chat time longer children,Do the assignments often do play and careless,"Will appear a bit written/Play the phenomenon of fingers.In addition,Out of the window the first signs of trouble,Eye immediately turned to out the window."

　　记者走访的一些中小学，和王老师有同样感受的老师不在少数。“希望有关部门研究一下，是否因为网络和社交媒体的风靡，使得现在孩子注意力集中的时间越来越短。”王老师说。

Reporters visited some primary and secondary schools,And the king the teacher have the same feelings teacher is not a few."We hope that relevant departments study,Is it because the network and social media fashionable,Now that the children focused time more and more short."Teacher wang said.

　　事实上，王老师的猜测得到了美国日前一项调查的印证。根据调查，超过3/4的教师认为，如今学生的注意力持续时间短于以往任何时候。专家为此还警告说，依赖社交网络和玩游戏时间太长可能会“改装”大脑。

In fact,Teacher wang guess the United States has the seal of a survey.According to investigation,More than three-quarters of teachers say,Now for the attention of students duration is shorter than any time before.Experts also warned that this,Rely on social networks and play the game time is too long may"modification"brain.

　　父母天上飞 孩子网上“游”

Parents sky fly children online"swim"

　　林清（化名），高二学生。父母是生意人，常飞来飞去出差，没什么时间陪他。

LinQing(alias),School students.Parents are businessmen,Often flew on a business trip,No time with him.

　　读高一时，林清开始在网上找朋友，并很快沉浸其中，不仅对学习越来越没兴趣，而且上网后精神极度亢奋、不能自制，常常晚上一上网就上到凌晨。

Read a high,LinQing began to find friends on the Internet,And soon immersed among them,Not only to learn more and more no interest,And after the Internet spirit extremely excited/incontinence,Often in the evening to the Internet on until the wee hours of the morning.

　　林清父母发现后，和老师商量将其住读在老师家。由于老师对上网管控严格，渐渐地林清上网少了。

LinQing parents discovered,And the teacher will discuss the ZhuDou in teacher's house.Because the teacher on the strict control,Gradually LinQing less on the Internet.

　　一年以后，由于父母生意的原因，林清搬家转学到另一所中学。不住读的他每天回家，但父母不在家加上又没有老师管控，林清网聊、游戏的“瘾头”复发，白天上学，晚上上网到凌晨。

A year later,Because parents are the cause of the business,LinQing move, transfer to another school.Don't ZhuDou he go home every day,But parents are not at home and no teacher control,LinQing network chat/The game"addiction"recurrence,To go to school during the day,In the evening the Internet until the wee hours of the morning.

　　林清说，如果没有电脑聊天或玩游戏，自己就会吃不下饭，睡不着觉。过度上网的他不上网时，手指也会经常不自主地抖动，似乎是在敲打键盘。

LinQing said,If there is no computer chat or play games,His will be unable to eat anything,sleep.Excessive Internet he is not on the Internet,Finger will often not independently jitter,Seems to be in the tap the keyboard.

　　对此，束手无策的林清父母为了将儿子从虚拟世界拉回，不得不求助心理医生。

this,LinQing stranded parents to son from the virtual world pull back,Have to turn the psychological doctor.

　　iPhone上网乱秀 网下引来真抢劫

IPhone Internet disorderly show offline draw true robbery

　　社交网站除了吸引孩子外，当然也吸引到了不少犯罪分子，而这极大地增加了孩子上网的危险。

Social networking sites in addition to attract children outside,Of course, has also attracted to a lot of criminals,And this greatly increases the risk of children on the Internet.

　　一个阴天的下午，初二男生李文（化名）走在放学的路上。当他走到地铁站时，一个陌生的、比他看上去大好几岁的男子拦住了他。

A cloudy in the afternoon,Teenager boy levin(alias)Go on their way home after school.When he went to the subway station,A strange/Than he looks big several year old man stopped him.

　　“你叫李文吧，把你的手机给我。”

"You call when levin,,Put your mobile phone to me."

　　“他怎么知道我的名字？”李文还在摸着后脑勺想问题，陌生男子强硬地把手伸到了他手边，试图夺手机。

"How did he know my name?"Levin is still in touch to the back of the problem,Strange man tough hand into his hand,Tried to take phone.

　　“抢劫了，抢劫了！”李文迅速反应过来，大声呼救。

"robbed,robbed!"Levin rapid reaction to come over,Calling for help.

　　碍于地铁站口行人多不能强取，陌生男子迅速消失在人海中……

Due to the subway ZhanKou pedestrian more than guns,Strange man rapidly disappearing in the crowd……

　　这是发生在去年“十一”前夕的事情。据浦东新区洋泾派出所社区民警张颖川回忆，李文当时并未报案。“但这个案件值得关注，因为作案的陌生男子是李文在网络上添加的、已毕业的一个陌生校友。由于李文使用iPhone在网络上签到并发布自己的照片，陌生男子就根据他的签到地址和相貌找到了他。”

It happened in last year"11"Eve things.According to the pudong new area xujing police station community police ZhangYingChuan memories,Levin at that time did not go to the police."But the case is a concern,Because of a strange man in the network is when levin added/Graduated a strange alumni.Because use iPhone levin in the network and sign in to post their own photos,Strange man according to his attendance address and found his appearance."

　　张颖川表示，学生在社交网站添加好友时一定要通过审核认证，“要少添加陌生人，同时尽量避免在未知网域公开自己的具体位置、个人照片。”

ZhangYingChuan said,The students in the social networking sites when add buddy must be through the audit certification,"Add less stranger,At the same time try to avoid the unknown domain open their location/Personal photos."

　　家长“八仙过海”求对策

parents"way"Countermeasures for

　　匿名微博监控屡屡被“拉黑”

Anonymous micro bo monitoring was repeatedly"Pull black"

　　如果说孩子注意力不集中、沉迷网游，还主要是心理方面的问题的话，那么孩子因为上社交网站透露隐私导致被歹徒跟踪，对家长来说则是一个看得见、摸得着的危险信号。

If the child inattention/Indulging online,Is mainly the psychological aspect questions,So the child because social networking sites revealed that privacy led to be the tracking,For parents, it is a visible/The real danger signal.

　　如何保证孩子上网安全，事实上许多家长都在尝试不同的方法。比如有家长就采取监控，具体的做法是，在一些社交网站或微博监控孩子的行为，不让孩子看不合适的内容，阻止孩子上传照片，偶尔还让孩子在交友网站上将他们认为不好的人从好友名单中剔除。

How to guarantee children Internet security,In fact many parents are trying to different methods.Such as have parents to take control,Particular way is,In some social networking websites or micro bo monitoring the child's behavior,Don't let the children can't see the right content,Stop the child to upload photos,Occasionally still let children in friendster will they think that bad people from friends list with.

　　不过家长的这些监控多半遭到了孩子的反感。于是乎，对一些即使一言不发默默关注的家长，孩子认出后往往第一时间就“拉黑”。

But the parents of these monitoring by the most children dislike.As a result,Some even silent silently concern of parents,Children often recognized after the first time"Pull black".

　　广告界才子杰克（化名）就是其中的一位。

Advertising mastermind jack(alias)Is one of them.

　　3年前，女儿还在上高二的时候，正是人人网等社交媒体风靡之时。杰克曾多次试探地问女儿是否上人人网，“你上的话，我可以加你。”但女儿只有一句回复，“没有”。

Three years ago,Daughter is in high school,It is everyone and the popular social media.Jack has repeatedly been tempted to ask whether secured daughter here,"The words you,Can I add you."But daughter only a reply,"no".

　　后来杰克从校外辅导老师那里知道女儿早就上人人网。为了解女儿的动态，杰克用一顿美餐从亲戚那换来了一个人人网的登录号码。自此，他开始加女儿为“好友”，每天不露声色地关注着女儿。

Then jack from external tutor there know daughter would have secured here.In order to understand the dynamics of daughter,Jack is a good meal from relatives that for one human network login number.Since then,He began to add to his daughter"friends",Every day to profess attention to his daughter.

　　尽管一言不发，但不久杰克就被女儿“拉黑”了，“我是怎么被发现的？”杰克百思不得其解。

Although not say a word,But soon jack was her daughter"Pull black"the,"How am I to be found?"Jack scratching their heads.

　　一年多后，女儿上大学开出了微博。杰克在同事的帮助下立即注册了微博。但因为是实名登记，没过两天，杰克就被女儿“拉黑”了。

After more than a year,His daughter's university to offer a micro bo.Jack in the help of colleagues immediately registered a micro bo.But because it is the real name registration,No two days,Jack was her daughter"Pull black"the.

　　杰克随后改了新名并重新使用微博。不料女儿也改了名字，杰克找不到女儿。

Jack then change a new name and to use micro bo.Only daughter also changed name,Jack can't find her daughter.

　　在同事的指点下，杰克先找到女儿同学的名字，然后又在微博上找到女儿，开始悄悄关注。“谁知道，尽管我一言不发，她好像是瞄准了我一样，又把我‘拉黑’了，改了几次黑了几次，我也不知道是怎么回事……最新一次，还没被‘黑’，所以，我就继续‘关注’着。”杰克说。

In under the guidance of the colleagues,Jack to find her daughter the name of a classmate,Then in micro bo to find her daughter,Began quietly pay attention to."Who knows,Although I not say a word,She seems to be aimed at the me,And I‘Pull black’the,Changed several black several times,I don't know what is the row……latest,Has not been‘black’,so,I will continue to‘attention’the."Jack said.

　　因为杰克对微博不熟悉，每次女儿一改签名，他就找不着，但他还是会费尽力气从女儿好朋友的圈子里再把女儿找出来。对于这样的“捉迷藏”，杰克自己觉得再累也要进行到底，但女儿心底的逆反情绪却越来越重，看到老爸也往往一言不发。“我其实希望女儿加一些人，再删一些人，可是她不会听我的。我担心女儿在网上会交友不慎……现在她每天要在网上待上好几个小时，和外面朋友的交往时间倒不多，我挺担心这样会不会影响她正常的社交。”杰克表示。

Because jack to the micro bo not familiar with,Each daughter change signature,He can't find,But he still dues do strength from daughter good friends circle to find out the daughter.For such"Hide and seek",Jack feel more tired also want to undertake after all,But the negative emotions daughter heart is more and more heavy,See dad also often not say a word."I really hope the daughter with some people,To delete some people,But she wouldn't listen to me.I worried that her daughter in online friends will be careless……Now she on the Internet every day for several hours,And friends outside of time of association but not much,I was worried about the way she will not affect the normal social."Jack said.

　　一人两号对付家长监控

A man with two parents, monitoring

　　昨日下午，建桥学院视觉传达专业2011级学生萌萌将母亲的QQ拉入了黑名单。“我又重新开了一个QQ号，专门加我妈。但在这个号，我只是偶尔发表些正面观点……应付一下老妈的好奇心。”

Yesterday afternoon,Construct a visual communication professional level 2011 college students sprout sprout will mother QQ pull into the blacklist."I have to open a QQ number,Special and my mom.But in the number,I just occasionally published some positive point of view……Deal with the mother's curiosity."

　　问及为何这样做，萌萌说，今年暑假，她的妈妈注册了QQ账号，并在第一时间添加自己为好友。“自从加妈妈为好友后，我就不敢在QQ上发表太多的感想，因为每次发表感想，妈妈都会按时查看。”

Asked why do it,Sprout sprout said,This summer,Her mother registered a QQ account,And in the first time to add their friends."Since the mother and friends for after,I can't on the QQ published too much feeling,Because every time feel released,Mother will check on time."

　　“我只是偶尔在QQ上自称‘老子’宣泄情绪，妈妈就指责我说小姑娘不要乱讲脏话。”作为一名大二学生，萌萌认为妈妈的行为给她带来太多的限制。“我已经是个大学生，为什么妈妈还像对小学生一样管我？”

"I only occasionally to on the QQ‘Lao tze’To show emotion,Mother will blame I said little girl don't disorderly speak bad language."As a sophomore,Sprout sprout think mom's behavior brought her too many restrictions."I have a college student,Why does mother also like to schoolboy tube me?"

　　记者发现，采用一人两号招数的孩子并非个别，不少孩子坦荡答应父母“你加吧”，回头就弄了两个号。还有一些高中学生发现父母通过微博关注自己后，便第一时间删除以前的部分微博。此后，他们再也不发表自己的感想，多以转发为主。

Reporter discovery,The two children, one way is not the individual,Many children parents a promise"You add it",You got two number.Some high school students found that parents through the micro bo after focus on her,And the first time before delete part of the micro bo.Since then,They never published their own feelings,In forward primarily.

　　采访中，只有少部分孩子表示，和父母在社交媒体上有良性互动。小李同学说，一次考试失误，因为不敢与父母交流，就在微博上写下失误原因及体会，“没想到父母反而在微博上安慰自己。”

interview,Only a few children said,And parents in social media on the benign interaction.Xiao li classmate say,A test error,Because can't communicate with their parents,In micro bo write error causes and experience,"Didn't think parents but in micro blog consolation."

　　学校作出新探索

The school to make the new exploration

　　大境中学开出《网络文明》课

All open big middle school[Internet civilization]class

　　不仅教微博还教如何防沉迷如何安全网购，学生称很受用

Not only teach micro bo also teach how to prevent addicted to the net security,Students say very useful

　　“QQ视频中的人一定是真人吗？”学生提问。“未必。”老师回答说，“有人可能会利用截图迷惑你，尤其是陌生人视频，所以使用视频聊天要尽量和认识的人，并且视频前最好通过电话确认一下对方的身份。”

"QQ video of the people must be real?"Students questions."May not."The teacher said,"One might use screenshot confuse you,Especially the stranger video,So as far as possible to use video chat and know,And video before had better through the phone to confirm the identity of the other party."

　　这是上海外国语大学附属大境初级中学《网络文明》课的课堂。每周五下午，20余名初二学生都会在这间教室里和老师互动交流，学生提出平时上网出现的难题，老师则负责回答和讨论。

This is affiliated to Shanghai international studies university, big land junior middle school[Internet civilization]Class classroom.Every Friday afternoon,More than twenty students name there will be in this classroom teacher and interactive communication,The students usually put forward problems on the Internet,The teacher is responsible to answer and discussed.

　　首创这门课程的是大同中学的王菲老师。王菲说，课程主要是向高中生介绍如何健康上网和保护个人隐私，“这门选修课让学生增强了上网的安全意识。每学年大同中学有100多人选修。”

The course is datong high school teacher faye wong.Faye wong said,Course is to introduce how to high school students health on the Internet and protect individual privacy,"The optional course for students to enhance the safety awareness of the Internet.Each year more than 100 people datong high school courses."

　　大境中学则共享了这门课。校长王峙渊还针对初中生的特点对课程进行了改良，并安排政治老师、计算机老师分别从理论和技术角度来讲授这门课。“课程共分五个版块。其中，互联网文化分网络语言、网络文学、博客向微博的转变；互联网学习则教授如何搜索，如何正确地使用学习资源；互联网与经济是想教会学生在网络购物时如何维权；互联网休闲主要希望学生不再沉迷于网络游戏；互联网安全则希望教会学生识别钓鱼网站、防止黑客入侵等等。”

Its large middle school is sharing the course.The principal WangShiYuan also according to the characteristics of the junior high school students on the course, the improvement,And arrange political the teacher/Computer teacher respectively from the Angle of theory and technology to teach this course."The course is divided into five sections.the,Internet culture network language points/Network literature/The blog to micro bo transformation;The Internet learning how to search the professor,How to correctly use of learning resources;The Internet and economic is to teach students how to rights in the network shopping;The Internet leisure main hope students will no longer indulge in the network game;Internet security is to teach students to identify fishing site/Prevent hackers, etc."

　　一不愿透露姓名的授课老师说，现在的学生很容易把现实世界的价值观带到虚拟世界，这会使现实世界和虚拟世界发生矛盾，“学生需要加强警惕，需要学会上网时不随意透露个人身份、详细地址、电话等。另外还应该注意不轻易给网络好友汇款付钱，必须通过电话、手机等确认对方身份……”

A did not wish to be named, said the instructor,Now the students are easy to put the real world values to the virtual world,This will make the real world and virtual world conflict,"Students need to strengthen vigilance,Want to learn the Internet involuntary reveal personal identity/Detailed address/telephone.In addition it should also be noted that is not easily to network friends pay remittance,Must through the telephone/Mobile phone and confirm each other identity……"

　　另一授课老师吴骏几年前曾亲身经历过网银被盗，“像我这样一个教电脑的人也会被盗网银，说明隐患的确很大。”“为防止学生沉迷社交媒体，家长、老师及学生要想办法创造一个未成年人喜欢的世界，让学生对周围事物感兴趣。家长、老师要从小注重对孩子进行注意力和持久力的锻炼，比如围棋、书法等既可以让孩子感受文化熏陶，又可以让孩子锻炼耐心。如果孩子已经出现了沉迷，要尽快转移孩子的注意力。”两位老师说。

Another teacher a few years ago WuJun firsthand experience of net silver stolen,"Like I such a teach computer will also stolen net,That is a hidden danger.""To prevent students indulging social media,parents/Teachers and students to think of a way to create a minor like world,Let the students are interested in to the world around them.parents/The teacher should pay attention to undertake to the child from attention and endurance exercise,Such as go/Calligraphy can let the child feel culture,Can let the child to exercise patience.If a child has appeared indulging,As soon as possible to transfer the child's attention."Two teachers said.

　　对《网络文明》课的效果，大境中学学生许杰说，以前自己网购时，东西都是直接往家里寄，“但上了这门课后，我知道要使用公共地址，防止因为买到水货给店家差评而遭到恶意报复。”“妈妈有次遇到亲戚在网上借钱，我立刻让妈妈打电话给亲戚，才知道亲戚的账号被盗了……”大境中学另一学生说。

to[Internet civilization]Class effect,Its large secondary school students XuJie said,When was the net,Things are directly send home,"But in this class,I know to use public address,Prevent because buy smuggled goods to the bad review by the malicious revenge.""My mother once meet relatives in online to borrow money,I'll let my mother call relatives,Just know relatives account stolen……"Its large middle school another student said.

　　而单同学则将自己学到的网络安全知识和周围同学分享，“提醒没有上这门课的同学注意。”

And single students will learn his network security knowledge and around the students share,"Remind not on this course students pay attention to."

　　专家支招开出三大“药方”

Experts move out three"prescription"

　　心理学家夏东豪：

Psychologists XiaDongHao:

　　建议有个“社交离线日”

Suggest a"Social offline,"

　　孩子喜欢社交网络乃至沉迷其中，真的是孩子的错吗？

Children like social networks and indulging,Really is the child's fault?

　　对这个问题，专家表示，造成目前部分孩子沉迷社交网络并不能完全怪孩子，“一些家长在外吃饭聚会时，孩子调皮不听话，就会把iPad当作灵丹妙药似地丢给孩子。还有些家长忙于事业，在家没有时间照顾、陪伴孩子，也丢给孩子一个iPad或者iPhone，家长感觉是轻松了，但孩子却很有可能从此上瘾。”

To this problem,Experts say,In the part of the child indulged social network and cannot be completely strange child,"Some parents go to a party,The child mischievous not obedient,Will the iPad as a panacea seems to throw it to the child.Some parents are busy career,At home have no time to take care of/Accompany children,Lost give the child a iPad or iPhone,Parents feel is easy,But the child was possible from now on addiction."

　　循着这样的出发点，不久前，夏东豪等一些心理学家开始倡导“社交离线日”，号召现代人暂时离开社交网络，感受真实沟通的乐趣和意义，“希望通过倡导‘社交离线日’，让孩子们不要一直盯着手中的iPad，也鼓励家长和孩子经常共同做一些有意义的事，既增加感情，也能为孩子创造健康成长的环境。”

Followed this starting point,Not long ago,XiaDongHao some psychologists began to advocate"Social offline,",Called for the modern people leave for social network,Feel real communication pleasure and meaning,"Hope that through advocacy‘Social offline,’,Let the children don't have been at the hands of iPad,Also encourage parents and children often common do some meaningful things,Which can increase the feelings,Children can also create a healthy growth environment."

　　“从微博上获取各种信息确实非常便捷，但如果使用过度，则可能表现为一种病症。”夏东豪表示，“社会人”包括学生家长、老师要适时地抽离社交网络，感受真实的离线社交状态。

"From the micro bo get all kinds of information is really convenient,But if you use too,May be shown as a kind of disease."XiaDongHao said,"Social man"Including the parents of the students/The teacher should timely out of social networks,To experience the reality of offline social status.

　　夏东豪还建议，家庭聚会时，家长不要自顾自地刷微博，“家庭聚会的目的是实现现实的交流。微博关掉、微信关掉、私信不看、留言不回，好好面对眼前人。”

XiaDongHao also suggested,Family party,Don't leave the parents to brush micro bo,"The purpose of the family gathering is to realize real communication.Micro bo turn off/Micro letter off/Don't usually letters tell/Message not back to,To face the present."

　　夏东豪还介绍说，目前有一种叫“手机叠叠乐”游戏很流行，“规则很简单,吃饭时全部人交出手机，叠在一起，谁先受不了去碰手机就要买单。”

XiaDongHao also said,Currently, there is a call"Mobile phone folding music"The game was very popular,"Rules are simple,Eat up all the mobile phone,Fold together,Who first can't stand to touch phone will pay."

　　对沉迷社交网络的“宅童”，夏东豪建议家长要和孩子多互动，而且要有热情，“只有开启了‘热情模式’，情感才能慢慢建立，孩子就更愿意跟父母一起出去玩。”

Addicted to social networks"Home child",XiaDongHao suggested that parents and children more interactive,And be enthusiastic,"Only open the‘Enthusiasm mode’,Emotion can set up slowly,Children are more willing to go out to play together with their parents."

　　夏东豪举例说，自己的侄女有段时间沉迷于玩iPad，“8月底拉她去动物园，起先她不愿意，只想玩iPad，但父母热情动员，在动物园一天玩下来，孩子最终感叹‘动物园真好玩，以后还要去’。”华东师大心理咨询专家陈默：

XiaDong munificent cases said,His niece have a period of time to indulge in play iPad,"The end of August to pull her to go to the zoo,At first she didn't want to,Just want to play iPad,But parents enthusiasm mobilization,At the zoo one day play down,The child finally exclamation‘Zoo is fun,Afterward to’."East China normal university psychological consultation experts ChenMo:

　　多玩同伴游戏就不“呆”

More than playing with fellow game will not"stay"

　　“在生活中小朋友同伴少、游戏少，所以只能把注意力放在电子游戏上，没有同伴游戏，总不见得让孩子整天看天花板吧。”华东师范大学心理咨询专家陈默认为，所有家长应给孩子创造一个条件，让孩子和同伴在一起，让孩子有“同伴游戏”。“因为孩子上网时间过长，而把孩子带来找我的家长不少。”陈默说，孩子有网瘾是一个“老大难”的问题。上网时间过长的孩子往往会出现以下症状：社交功能退化，在人群中显得比较“呆”；语言能力退化，很多时候回答问题比较迟钝、没有反应；没有电脑的情况下会坐立不安。

"In the life of small and medium-sized friends less companion/The game less,So can only focus on electronic games,Don't have a partner game,Always not let the children all day watching the ceiling it."East China normal university psychological consultation experts ChenMo think,All parents should give children to create a condition,Let the children and friends together,Let the child have"Companion game"."Because the child online time is too long,And the children bring to find my parents a lot."ChenMo said,Children have the net addiction is a"much"problem.Online time is too long children often can appear the following symptoms:Social function degradation,In the crowd comparison"stay";Language ability degradation,A lot of time to answer problem is slow/No response;Don't have a computer of restlessness.

　　许多家长为了让孩子保持长时间的安静，随手将iPad或者iPhone等丢给孩子，尤其是幼儿玩，也成为威胁孩子健康成长的问题之一。孩子长时间生活在虚拟世界中，现实感就比较弱，越是和虚拟环境接触的时间长，和现实就离得越远。

Many parents in order to let the children to keep quiet for a long time,With the iPad or iPhone and throw it to the child,Especially the children play,Has become a threat to the healthy growth of children one problem.Children long life in the virtual world,The sense of reality is weak,The virtual environment and contact time is long,And the reality is the farther away.

　　陈默认为，一个孩子要发展得好，每一个阶段的心理都要良好发展，而“同伴游戏”就是孩子最高的心理需求。家长要愿意放手让孩子玩，要让孩子在和同伴的不断游戏中成长，同时也能够避免孩子沉迷于社交媒体。

ChenMo think,A child to develop well,Every stage of the psychological development are good,and"Companion game"Is the child of the highest psychological needs.The parents should be willing to let children play,Let the child in the game and companions constantly grow,At the same time also can avoid the child addicted to social media.

　　心理学博士叶斌：

Psychology YeBin Dr:

　　让孩子自己接触、辨别

Let your child contact/discrimination

　　林紫心理机构总督导、心理学博士叶斌认为，如果孩子有梦想，就不容易受到社交媒体的威胁。“目前微博、游戏等吸引着孩子，但还不是让孩子沉迷其中最主要的原因。最主要的还是由于孩子的内因缺乏交友经验、社会经验不足、在常规途径中缺乏自信等。”

LinZi psychological mechanism total supervision/Psychology doctor YeBin think,If the children have a dream,Will not vulnerable to the threat of social media."At present the micro bo/Games to attract the child,But not just let the child indulging the main reason.The main cause of the child or the result of lack of experience to make friends/Social experience/In the conventional way, such as lack of confidence."

　　叶斌建议，家长培养孩子的安全意识时，不要仅简简单单地说教，而是让孩子在现实中接触一些人、辨别其好坏，并反复实践锻炼。“如果有条件，可以让孩子接触一些不应该接触的人，亲自体验后告诉他们这样做不安全，而不要只讲道理。”（记者 朱晓芳）

YeBin Suggestions,The parents of the child safety consciousness,Don't just simply preach,But let the child in the reality contact some people/Discern the stand or fall,And repeated practice."If there are conditions,Can let the child contact some should not contact person,After personally experience tell them do not safety,And don't make sense."(Reporter ZhuXiaoFang)