检讨不深刻 就不能上课？ ，已一个月没上课，16岁的张悦(化名)已经一个月没到学校上课了，张悦说，她很想快点回学校上课，因为她“想顺利毕业，不想让父母操心”。

Review is not deep, it can't class? ,Has a month didn't class,At the age of 16 ZhangYue(The allotted time periods specified by the)Haven't been to school for a month,ZhangYue said,She is very want to hurry back to school,Because she"Want to graduate,Don't want to let parents worry about".

　　事情的起因，是张悦在学校里 “看一个女同学不爽”，就找来3个要好的女生，一起把这个女同学“修理”了一顿。事发后，学校学生科的负责老师表示，该事件很恶劣，除了让张悦递交检讨书之外，还要求她进行“深刻地反省”，否则就不能回到学校上课。

The cause of the things,Is ZhangYue in school "See a female classmate",Is to three good girl,The female classmate together"repair"A meal.After the incident,Be responsible for the school XueShengKe teacher said,The event is very bad,In addition to let ZhangYue submit written self criticism,Also ask her"Profoundly reflect on",Otherwise we can't return to school.

　　尽管已经递交了两次检讨书，但张悦还是因为反省“不深刻”而被拒绝在校门之外。

Although have been submitted for two times written self criticism,But still ZhangYue for introspection"Not deep"But was refused outside the school gate.

　　

父母：因为打同学，一个月没上课 parents:Because a classmate,A month didn't class

　　“什么叫反省不深刻？‘深刻’的标准是什么？她已经一个月没上课了，我们真的很担心她没法顺利毕业……”近日，张先生(化名)夫妻对记者说，他们的独生女 16岁的张悦因为在学校把同学打了，被老师要求深刻反省。

"What call don't reflect deep?‘deep’What is the standard?She has a month didn't class,We are really worried about her can't graduate……"recently,Mr. Zhang(The allotted time periods specified by the)Husband and wife told reporters,Their only daughter at the age of 16 ZhangYue because classmates play in the school,By the teacher for deep reflection.

　　张先生说，虽然女儿已经递交了两稿检讨书，但老师还是认为她反省得不够，也是因为这个原因，老师不让女儿返校上课。

Mr Zhang said,Although the daughter have been submitted for two draft written self criticism,But the teacher still think she reflect enough,Also because of this reason,The teacher won't let her daughter back to school for class.

　　张悦打人的事情发生在11月21日下午2点多，因为和同桌同宿舍的女生胡蕊(化名)有些“过节”，张悦找来了3个要好的女同学把胡蕊堵在楼梯的一角拳打脚踢了一番。据学校老师介绍，胡蕊被打得“鼻青脸肿”，事后也去医院做了检查，还好，检查结果显示没有大碍。

ZhangYue hitting it happened on November 21, at 2 PM,Because the dormitory girl HuRui with sit at the same table(The allotted time periods specified by the)There are some"For the feast",ZhangYue to three good female the classmate HuRui plugging in the corner of the stairs to kick.The school teacher said,HuRui was played"Your eye",Also went to the hospital after the event,It is better,Test results showed no is ok.

　　“那个孩子没有大碍，我们也付了检查费，孩子也有自尊心，我女儿也表示愿意向对方私下道歉，可老师还是觉得‘不深刻’，我们也不知道怎么样算‘深刻’。退一步说，反省和上学也不冲突啊，为什么不让她去上学？”张太太表示，她无法理解校方对女儿的处理方法。

"The child not serious,We also pay the inspection fee,Children also have self-respect,My daughter also said they would like to apologize to each other in private,But the teacher still think‘Not deep’,We don't know how to calculate‘deep’.Step back and say,Introspection and school don't conflict,Why not let her go to school?"Mrs Zhang said,She can't understand the treatment method of daughter to school.

　　

校方：不吸取教训，后果会很严重 The school:Don't learn from them,The consequences will be very serious

　　随后，记者联系上了张悦就读的学校，福建化工学校学生科负责人陈老师告诉记者，之所以不让张悦到学校上课，是为了“保障其他学生的安全”。

then,The reporter in touch the ZhangYue school,Fujian chemical school XueShengKe director Chen told reporters,Is don't let ZhangYue to school,In order to"Ensure the safety of the other students".

　　陈老师介绍，事发后，她有找张悦了解过事情的起因，而张悦向她表示，打人是因为“看胡蕊不爽”。“看人不爽就打人，这个问题很严重，如果她没有真正地反省，看别的同学不爽也打，那怎么办？”

Mr. Chen is introduced,After the incident,She has to find ZhangYue understand the cause of the things,And ZhangYue said to her,A hit because"See HuRui not great"."Look not great will hit people,This problem is very serious,If she does not really reflect on,See other students angry also,How about that?"

　　陈老师说，在此事发生之前，她就有关注到张悦，“平时比较散漫，不大遵守校规校纪，比如不穿校服、烫染头发，还在学校抽烟，我曾多次教育她，觉得她也有一些进步，但这一次居然做了这么恶劣的事”。

Chen said,Before it happened,She is concerned about the ZhangYue,"At ordinary times more lax,Don't obey the school rules,Such as don't wear school uniforms/Hot dye hair,Still smoking in school,I have many times her education,Think she have also made some progress,But this time should do such a bad thing".

　　同时，陈老师也认为，张悦之所以屡教不改，也和她父母对她的溺爱有关，所以这次她才下决心要给张悦一个警醒。

At the same time,Chen also said,ZhangYue are often teach not to change,And her parents for her doting on,So this time she was determined to give ZhangYue a watch.

　　

女孩：想顺利毕业，不愿父母操心 The girl:Want to graduate,Don't let parents worry about

　　因为不能去学校上课，这两天，张悦已经开始到一个朋友的服装店里做兼职，“我不想浪费自己的时间，希望学校不要这样拖着我”。

Because can't go to school,This two days,ZhangYue has started a part-time job to a friend's clothing store,"I don't want to waste your time,Hope schools don't drag me".

　　面对记者，回想起那天打人的经过，张悦表示，其实，那天她一开始只是想去找胡蕊“谈一谈”，希望化解两个人的“过节”，“可她还挺不屑的，我一冲动，没忍住，就打她了”。

Facing journalists,Recall the hitting of the day,ZhangYue said,In fact,That day she just want to find HuRui at the beginning"To talk about",To resolve the two"For the feast","But she still pretty disdain,I have a impulse,Don't hold,Call her".

　　张悦说，她确实已经认识到自己错了，“我觉得是陈老师觉得我是 ‘问题少年’，对我有偏见，进学校快两年了，很多同学都觉得我进步了不少，但她从来没有夸过我、肯定我，总是不停地指责我，有时候我本来想和她解释的，话到嘴边，又被她的责骂堵回去了”。

ZhangYue said,She does have come to realize he was wrong,"I think is Chen teacher think I am ‘Problem of the young’,Has a prejudice against me,Go to school nearly two years,A lot of a lot of classmates think I progress,But she never praised me/Sure I,Always keep accusing me,Sometimes I was and she would like to explain,Words to the mouth,And scolded by her back".

　　张悦说，经历了这件事情后，她会更加注意控制自己的情绪，希望能够尽快回到学校上课，“我知道爸爸妈妈很想让我顺利毕业，我不想让他们操心”。

ZhangYue said,After has experienced this matter,She will pay more attention to control your emotions,Hope to be able to return to school as soon as possible,"I know that mom and dad want to let me graduate,I don't want to let them worry about".

　　

观点 “坏学生”需更多鼓励和信心 Point of view "A bad student"Need more encouragement and confidence

　　对于张悦的处罚，我们理解学校的做法，相信他们也是为了学生能学好，希望她能够从检讨中真正学会善待同学。但是在对待“坏学生”的教育上面，我们是不是也需要多点宽容和耐心呢？

For ZhangYue punishment,We understand the practice of the school,Believe that they are also in order for the students to learn it well,Hope she can learn from the review to students.But in treating"A bad student"The education of the above,We need more tolerance and patience?

　　厦门市仙岳医院心理科主任张晓阳提醒家长和老师，像张悦这样的 “坏学生”在成长过程中，需要比一般孩子更多的鼓励和信心。“对于这类孩子，老师和家长更不应该给他们贴上 ‘问题’的标签，而应该把他们看做更需要帮助的孩子，更多地鼓励他们，在公开场合表扬他们，发现他们的进步。”

Xiamen xianyue hospital of director of division of psychological ZhangXiaoYang remind parents and teachers,Such as the ZhangYue "A bad student"In the process of growth,Need than normal children more encouragement and confidence."To this kind of children,Teachers and parents more should not be labeled as to them ‘The problem’The label,Instead put them as more children need help,To encourage them more,Praise them in public,Found that their progress."

　　比如，老师的肯定就很重要，“这样的孩子我们见到很多，他们犯了错误之后，本来还很努力地想要改变，结果被泼了一盆冷水，就缩回去了，甚至会一直走不出来，家长和老师一定要重视这一点”。

Such as,The affirmation of the teacher is very important,"So we see a lot of children,They made a mistake,Was also very hard to change,Was poured a pot of cold water,Went to withdraw,Even walk not to come out,Parents and teachers must pay attention to this point".

　　

对话 被贴上“坏学生”的标签 Dialogue to be labeled as"A bad student"The label

　　记者(以下简称“记”)：老师觉得你的反省不深刻，你自己觉得呢？

The reporter(Hereinafter referred to as the"remember"):Teachers don't think your reflection,You feel?

　　张悦：我觉得挺委屈的。我跟胡蕊是同班同学，在一个班里读书是一种缘分，还住在同一个宿舍，本来应该互相尊重，互相团结的，我打了她，是我不对，我当时不应该那么冲动。

ZhangYue:I feel very grievance.HuRui and I are classmates,In a class is a kind of predestination,Still live in the same dormitory,Should respect each other,Each other together,I hit her,I was wrong,I should not be so impulse.

　　我写了两次检讨书，真的认识到自己错了，但还是得不到老师的认同。老师觉得我是坏学生，就永远都是坏学生。我犯了错误之后，她就劈头盖脸地一顿乱骂，也从来没有想要了解我是真的想要改。她在训我的时候，都是她在讲，我都没有机会说一句。

I wrote two written self criticism,Really realized that he was wrong,But I still can't get the teacher's approval.The teacher think I am a bad student,It is always a bad student.After I made a mistake,She is slashing to a disorderly scold,Never want to understand I really want to change.When she was training I,Is she talking about,I have no chance to say a word.

　　记：老师为什么觉得你是坏学生？

remember:The teacher why think you are a bad student?

　　张悦：我平时常跷课，没有好好学习，学校规定不准染头发，我之前在学校外面做兼职，想把自己打扮得成熟一点，所以就去染发了。后来老师批评我之后，我就染回来了。老师说我不好的地方，我都有在努力改正，但我还是不被认可，已经被贴上了“坏学生”的标签。

ZhangYue:I at ordinary times often skip class,Don't study hard,School rules are not allowed to dye hair,Before I do part-time outside the school,Want to dress yourself mature a little,So I went to the hair.Later, the teacher criticized me,I will come back.The teacher said I bad place,I have trying to correct them,But I still not be recognized,Has been labeled as"A bad student"The label.

　　记：你自己觉得有改变，身边的人也这么觉得吗？

remember:You feel there is change,Side of the person also think so?

　　张悦：我承认父母对我很溺爱，什么事都顺着我，导致我脾气挺冲的。后来，我的很多朋友跟我说“其实你人挺好的，就是脾气太臭了”，慢慢地我意识到了这个问题，于是就慢慢在改正。

ZhangYue:I admit that my parents is very dotes on to me,What matter all follow me,Cause I temper is very blunt.later,Many of my friends told me"In fact you are good,Is too smelly temper",Slowly I realized this problem,And then slowly in the correct.

　　我觉得班主任对我挺好的，有看到我的进步，一直在鼓励我，还帮我加了很多德育分，我周围的同学也都觉得我真的有改变，在变好。

I think the teacher in charge is good for me,See my progress,Has been encouraging me,Also help me to add a lot of moral education points,The students around me also feel I really have changed,In the good.

　　记：有没想过自己是怎么变成一个“坏学生”的？

remember:Have never thought is how to become a one"A bad student"the?

　　张悦：其实我小学的时候是个成绩很好的乖孩子，英语学得很棒，在学校还是大队长，家里贴满了各种奖状。但在小学五年级下学期的时候，我认识了一些有点 “混混”的中学生，开始变得很疯狂，有时候晚上会跑出去玩通宵。

ZhangYue:But when I was a primary school was in fact a result good good boy,Learn English very well,In school or captain,Home is full of all kinds of certificates.But in the second semester of my primary school grade five,I know some a little bit "Hun hun"The middle school students,Starting to get crazy,Sometimes run in the evening go out to play all night.

　　在叛逆期的时候，我会打扮得很怪异，想吸引更多人的关注。后来，成绩开始下降，家长会后被爸妈批评，还被妈妈打。有一段时间失恋，还被朋友背叛，一时之间，觉得生活失去了希望，把自己关在房间里想自杀。那天晚上，我在自己的左手臂上割了好多道口子，看着它流血，当时想把自己的怒气割出来，觉得流一流血就什么也没有了，现在想来，那其实是一种发泄的方式。

In the rebellious period,I dressed very strange,Want to attract more people's attention.later,Performance began to decline,Parents meeting criticized by my parents,Is mother.There was a time brokenhearted,Also betrayed by a friend,For one hour,Feel life lost hope,Lock yourself in the room tried to commit suicide.That night,I cut a lot of on their left arm way cut,Looking at it bleeding,Want to cut his anger at that time,Think a blood flow is what also have no,Now want to come,That is actually a kind of out of the way.

　　记：那现在呢？还叛逆吗？

remember:That now??Still rebel??

　　张悦：已经走过叛逆期了，回想起来，挺后悔的，现在觉得，如果能做回一个乖乖女，我宁愿不被人关注，也会很开心。(海峡导报 记者 陈洋钦 实习生 陶默媛/文 沈威/图)

ZhangYue:Has passed rebellious period,Come to think of it,Very regret,Now feel,If you can do to a girl,I'd rather not be attention,Also will be very happy.(Channel herald reporter ChenYangQin interns TaoMoYuan/wen ShenWei/map)