几个小孩子玩“过家家”的游戏，玩过也就算了，对此不必当真，但当幼儿园的老师和孩子的家长把“过家家”放大，隆重地为孩子举办婚礼，就让人不解了。怎么可以给孩子举行“集体婚礼”，让孩子过早“结婚”？这不是扯淡是什么？

A few kids"Play house"game,Played also calculate,This should not be taken seriously,But when the kindergarten teachers and children's parents send"Play house"amplification,Grand wedding for children,Let the people don't understand.How can give children be held"Collective wedding ceremony",Let the children early to"married"?This is not what is nonsense?

　　“集体婚礼”举行得很隆重，不仅仪式参照成人结婚，而且还让孩子紧紧拥抱，表达爱意，更亲密的，还当众吻了一个。这种完全成人化的仪式，难道就是对孩子的性教育吗？

"Collective wedding ceremony"A very grand,Not only with reference to the adult ceremony of marriage,But also let the child embraced tightly,Expression love,More intimate,Also a kiss in public.This fully ChengRenHua ceremony,Don't is the child's sex education?

　　诚然，3至6岁的孩子中，不少进入“婚姻敏感期”，孩子会说喜欢谁，会说和某某结婚，但那是天真的，等过了一段时间或许就忘记了。孩子们不知道何谓结婚，也不知道结婚有何意义，如果将孩子的天真当作郑重其事的“大事”，显然是在加深和转化孩子的“天真”，从而混乱了孩子的“纯真”，恐怕其结果不是增强了孩子的责任感，而是让他们更加地“手足无措”。

admittedly,3 to 6 years old children,Many into"Marriage sensitive period",The child will say like who,Will say so-and-so marriage,But it is innocent,And after a period of time might be forgotten.The children don't know what is marriage,Don't know what's the significance of marriage,If the child's innocent as seriously"event",Apparently in the deepening and transformation of the children"naive",Thus chaos the child's"pure",I'm afraid the result is not enhance the child's sense of responsibility,But let them more"overwhelmed".

　　小小的孩子就当起了“新郎新娘”，他们天真的话语加上大人式的动作，会让一些成人觉得好玩，就像虐童事件中的那位“老师”那样，觉得挺好玩的，可不知道这么做，却是在“虐杀”孩子的精神，从某种意义上说，是另一种形式的“虐童”。

Small children and worked as a"The bridegroom bride",Their innocent word plus adult type action,Will make some adults feel fun,As the child abuse event the"The teacher"that,Think of the fun,Don't know to do so,Is in"jury"The child's spirit,In a sense,Is another kind of form"Child abuse".

　　孩子需要进行性教育，但性教育需要良好的载体，更需要循序渐进。过早让孩子“结婚”，反而是坏事。（王军荣）

Children need progressive education,But sex education need good carrier,Need more step by step.Early let the child"married",But it is bad.(WangJunRong)

又论 And theory

幼儿园“集体婚礼”是场全民教育 kindergarten"Collective wedding ceremony"Is a national education

　　成人应有的仪式让孩子经历一次，这种“现场模拟”的性教育方式，就连成人也有些惊奇。对于一向“谈性而讳”的国人来说，这样的开放式教育或许有着不可替代的教育启发意义，甚至这对成人也有教育理念上的启蒙价值。

Adult ceremony should let the children undergoing a,this"Field simulation"Sex education mode,Even the adults also some surprise.To always"Talk about sex and so"Countrymen for,Such open education may have irreplaceable education enlightening significance,Even the adults have education idea enlightenment value.

　　成功的教育者，往往会让孩子体验和扮演不同的角色，比如开展“今天我当天父母”活动，或者搞“假如你当一天校长”之类的讨论。很多成年人可能还会对自己小时候，跟异性女孩子“过家家”的游戏记忆犹新。从心理学的角度看，对于孩子来说，这些“性游戏”对他们并不会带来什么身心方面的伤害，相反有利于日后性心理健康发展。

Successful educators,Tend to let the child experience and play different roles,Such as in"Today my parents on the day"activities,Or make"If you when a day the headmaster"Discussed such as.Many adults may be to his childhood,Girls with the opposite sex"Play house"Remember the game.From the psychological point of view,For children,these"Sex game"For they will not bring any physical and mental damage,Contrary to psychological healthy development in the future.

　　对于成人世界的好奇，成了孩子求知的强烈动力。对性的了解是一个人的基本权利，对性知识的掌握也是一种基本素质。事实是，越是透明公开，越是对知识掌握，越可能变得理性和理智；反之，就越容易产生强烈的好奇心，越容易步入迷路。

For the adults curiosity,A child learn strong power.Know about sex is a person's basic rights,To the knowledge of sex is a kind of basic quality.The fact is,More transparent public,The mastery of knowledge,The more likely to become rational and reason;and,The easier it is to produce intense curiosity,The more easily into the labyrinth.

　　去年，北京首部小学生性教材《成长的脚步》大纲公布，很多网友认为尺度太大。如是观之，幼儿园里的集体婚礼既是一场启蒙运动，又是一场全民教育。（堂吉伟德）

Last year,Beijing first primary school teaching material by nature[Growth steps]Outline published,Many netizens think scale is too big.If the view,In the kindergarten collective wedding ceremony is a enlightenment,Is a national education.(Hall JiWeiDe)

　　转自华商晨报

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