对于如今的不少在校大学生来说，宿舍似乎总是被“矛盾”、“压抑”、“冷漠”这样的字眼充斥着。以前的大学宿舍是什么样的呢？宿舍关系是不是一团和气呢？记者采访发现，不同年代有不同年代的烦恼，只是现在大学宿舍人际关系的问题更加突出。要让宿舍有家的味道，需要宿舍每一分子的共同努力。

For today's college students a lot of it,Dormitory always seems to be"contradiction"/"depressive"/"cold"Such words full of.Former university dormitory is what kind of?The dormitory relations is YiTuanHeQi??Reporters found that,Different age has different s troubles,Just now the university dormitory interpersonal problem become more prominent.To make the dormitory have the taste of home,Need the joint efforts of every molecule.

　　第六届吴玉章人文社科奖获得者陶敏教授1955年考入武汉大学。在他眼里，那时的八人宿舍中规中矩，大家相处起来并没有太多问题。陶教授回忆，当时的同学分为两种，一种是通过正常高考进入大学的，年龄都在20岁上下，另一种是公派选调生，比其他同学大七八岁。“大家都把学习看得特别重要，很多时间都忙于听课和泡图书馆，真正待在宿舍里的时间并不多，没有太多交集，更谈不上有矛盾了。”

The sixth wu yuzhang humanities social sciences professor TaoMin prize winner in 1955, and entered the wuhan university.In his eyes,Then eight compasses dormitory,We get along with up and not too many questions.Professor tao memories,The students are divided into two,One is through the normal college entrance examination to enter university,In the twenty years of age and age,Another kind is XuanDiaoSheng began,Eight big than the other students."Everyone to see learning is particularly important,A lot of time are busy to attend a lecture and libraries,Really stay in the dorm is not much time,Don't have too much intersection,Let alone have the contradiction."

　　1988年毕业于岳阳师专的廖先生至今对自己的宿舍感情深厚：“我是宿舍里年龄最小的。我们是六人寝，都来自农村，大家都特别朴实，宿舍出现矛盾一般会以开会的方式解决，从来没打过架。或多或少也会出现摩擦，但是那时的宿舍人际关系普遍比较单纯，大家谈论的也多是学习、生活，平淡中不失乐趣。”

In 1988, he graduated from the college of yueyang LiaoXianSheng has to own dormitory deep feelings:"I am the youngest in the dormitory.We are lay six people,All come from the countryside,Everyone is special simplicity,Dormitory contradictory in general meeting way,Never a fight.More or less also can appear friction,But then the dormitory interpersonal relationship is generally simple,Talk about much is learning/life,Insipid in do not break fun."

　　“要进入大学了，既兴奋又忐忑，听说大学宿舍关系特别难处理，我该怎么办啊？”接到录取通知书后，网友“蛋炒饭耶”发帖求助。有此类顾虑的新生比比皆是，他们中的大多数是由于身边大学生的“抱怨”，对于未来的宿舍满心担忧。

"To enter the university,In both excited and,Heard that university dormitory relationship especially difficult treatment,What should I do?"After receiving admission notice,Net friend"Eggs Fried rice and"Post for help.Such concerns have new everywhere,Most of them are due to the side of the college students"complain",For the future of dormitory were filled with concern.

　　北京市曾对大学生心理问题产生的根源作了3次较大规模的跟踪调查，结果显示：人际关系适应不良或交往不良成为诱发大学生心理问题的主要原因，已经超过择业和学业的压力。

Beijing has to college students' psychological problems for the root of the three times more massive tracking survey,The results show:Interpersonal adaptation or communication become poor university students' psychological problems induced by the main reason,Has more than employment and academic pressure.

　　有专家指出，当代大学宿舍关系不够和谐，不能一味指责大学生。社会转型期出现的功利和利益至上的风潮在一定程度上对大学生群体造成不小冲击，以致人与人之间的交往缺乏坚实的信任基础，加之通讯工具便利，虚拟的网络世界让不少年轻人沉溺其中，忽略现实，出现了“通讯越便捷，人心越疏远”的怪现象。这一代大学生普遍是独生子女，不免有以自我为中心的弊病，缺乏集体意识和合作意识，讲究实用主义，张扬个性，颇有主见。长期生活在同一个屋檐下，室友的一些平日里看不到的缺点就会被放大。

The expert points out,The contemporary university dormitory relations is not harmonious,College students can not blindly blame.In the social transition period of utility and benefits of the first wave in a certain degree of college students not caused by impact,So that the interaction between people to the lack of a solid foundation of trust,Together with convenient communication tools,Virtual network world let a lot of young people indulge among them,Ignore reality,appeared"Communication more convenient,The more distance"Strange phenomenon.This generation of college students is generally only children,Not a self-centered malady,The lack of collective consciousness and cooperation consciousness,Exquisite pragmatism,Make public individual character,Quite independent.Long live under the same roof,Roommate's some daily see faults can be amplified.

　　1999年考入长沙铁道学院(现合并为中南大学)的段惠丹现在是华中科技大学的一名教职工。她回忆起自己的大学宿舍，表示虽然不可避免有分歧和矛盾，但整体的氛围都是如兄弟姐妹般难忘。看到如今大学生宿舍关系的错综复杂，她说道：“和室友相处，最重要的是要学会分享，学会容忍，学会承担。”

The year 1999, he passed the changsha railway institute(We merge for central south university)Now is the DuanHuiDan huazhong university of a staff.She recalled his university dormitory,Said although the inevitable differences and contradictions,But the overall atmosphere are like brothers and sisters unforgettable.See now college students' dormitory relations complex,She said:"And your roommates,The most important thing is to learn to share,Learn to tolerate,Learn to bear."

　　两位80年代的大学生则表示，相互的交流是处理好宿舍关系不可或缺的法宝。“如果宿舍出现问题了，最好还是要大家一起主动交流，不要在心里埋怨或者在背后暗箭伤人。”

Two college students in the 80 s, said,Mutual communication is to deal with the dormitory relations indispensable weapon."If the dormitory there a problem,Better to communicate actively together,Don't complain in the heart or behind a stab in the back."

　　辅导员老师胡蓓蓓提出了宿舍关系复杂化的对策。确立宿舍成员核心价值，宿舍应当有自己的文化；定型宿舍交流沟通机制，一旦遇到问题马上开始启动模式化沟通渠道；调试宿舍成员角色定位，使其相对稳定，更有利于营造和谐的氛围；维持保护宿舍的和谐关系，良好的宿舍关系是身心愉悦和健康学习的重要前提，也是大学生自我发展和人格完善的基础。(本报记者 唐湘岳 本报通讯员 沈剑奇 宋 盼)

Instructors HuBeiBei teacher put forward the countermeasures of dormitory relations complication.Establish the core value of dormitory members,Dormitory shall have their own culture;Finalize the design the communication mechanism,Once encounter problems immediately start modeled communication channels;Debugging dormitory members role,Make its relative stability,More conducive to create a harmonious atmosphere;Maintain protection dormitory harmonious relationship,A good dormitory relationship is happy and healthy learning important premise,And college students' self-development and personality perfect foundation.(Our reporter TangXiangYue our newspaper reporter to ShenJianJi song)