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　　尽管收入有高有低，但涉及孩子的教育支出，每个家庭都是尽可能给孩子提供最好的条件。

Although have high low income,But in children's education spending,Every family is as far as possible to provide the best conditions for children.

　　本报记者通过采访发现，虽然目前义务教育阶段的学费全免，但家长们仍要面对名目繁多的“费”，如补课费、择校费、赞助费等。教育支出因此成为多数家庭一个沉重的负担。

Our reporter through the interview found,Although at present the obligation education stage of the tuition is free,But parents still have to face various kinds of"fee",Such as classes/ZeJiaoFei/Sponsor fee, etc.Education spending so most families become a heavy burden.

　　不是每个孩子都有可能成为“郎朗”。专家呼吁，家庭教育支出需要家长回归理性，量入为出。

Not every child might become"Lang lang".The experts urged,Family education spending parents need to return to the rational,Make ends meet.

　　2012年年底，湖北荆州市一高中女生在一次考试失利后，不吃饭、不上学甚至要离家出走，精神处于崩溃边缘。其母简女士心急如焚，向尹邓安心理咨询中心的心理咨询师尹邓安教授咨询解决办法。本报记者获悉后，对此事进行调查采访。

By the end of 2012,Jingzhou in hubei a high school girl in a test after the defeat,Don't eat/Don't go to school or even to run away from home,Spirit on the verge of collapse.Ms Jane mother worried,To DengAn Yin psychological counseling center of psychological consultation ShiYin DengAn professor consulting solutions.Our reporter after that,Investigating interview.

　　2012年，简女士的女儿考上荆州一所省示范高中的三限生，2万多元的择校费，对一个工薪家庭来说，是一笔大开支。为了鼓励女儿上进，简女士想出了记账的法子。择校费、学费、住宿及每月生活费、各类学习用品，女儿花的每一笔钱，简女士都一一记录在账本上。女儿上高中半年，各类支出加在一起已经超过了3.5万元。

In 2012,,Ms Jane the daughter of jingzhou admitted to a province demonstration high school three limit was born,The ZeJiaoFei 20000 yuan,For a working families,Is a big spending.In order to encourage daughter progress,Jane lady came up with the charge way.ZeJiaoFei/tuition/Accommodation and monthly cost of living/Learning supplies all kinds of,Daughter spent each a sum of money,Jane lady one recorded in the ledger.Daughter is in high school half a year,All kinds of spending together has more than 35000 yuan.

　　每次，简女士总是当着女儿的面记账，并随口说，“现在给你花的，将来都要还给我”，女儿每次都默不作声。考试失利后，女儿将自己反锁在寝室里大哭大叫：“将来考不上大学怎么办？欠妈妈的钱还不了又怎么办……”简女士没想到，原本想勉励孩子勤奋读书的记账法，却适得其反，还让女儿背上了沉重的心理压力，最终导致母女矛盾激化。

Every time,Jane lady is always in front of her daughter's surface charge,And freely said,"Now give you the flowers,The future will give it back to me",Daughter always silent.Test after losing,His daughter will be locked in the bedroom shout loudly cry:"The future test not to go to college?Owe my mother's money is not and how to do..."Jane lady thought,Originally want to encourage children to read JiZhangFa of diligence,Just the opposite,Still let daughter back a heavy psychological pressure,Eventually lead to conflict and deepening.

　　简女士的情况并不是个例。在记者的采访中，诸多家长坦承也曾给孩子记过账。家长们反映，现在家庭教育支出的负担越来越重，为支付孩子上学的费用，家长承受的压力不比孩子小。有的家长还向记者表达了他们的疑问：“到底该谁来对承受巨大压力的孩子负责？又该谁来为辛苦赚钱支付孩子高额教育支出的父母负责？”

Jane lady's situation is not case-by-case.With the reporter's interview,Many parents have admitted to the child account a demerit.Parents reflect,Now family education spending more and more heavy burden,In order to pay for the cost of their children to school,Parents of children under pressure is small.Some parents also to reporter expressed their doubt:"What who came to stressed-out child is responsible for?And the who is hard to make money to pay child high education spending parents responsible for?"

　　尹邓安分析简女士母女的事件时说：“应试教育制度是导致这类问题的根源。一切为了考试，分数决定一切，家长认为只要孩子能上好大学、出人头地，为此付出再多也值。”

Yin and DengAn analysis Jane lady said the event:"Takes an exam the education system is lead to this kind of the root of the problem.In order to test all,Score to determine all the,Their parents think that as long as the child is a good university/Stand out,Therefore pay more also value."

　　应试制度下，成绩成为家长关注的唯一问题，随着家长对教育重视程度的提高，“不让孩子输在起跑线上”、“高投入高回报”等功利性的教育观念就越来越深入人心，孩子负担增大的同时，家庭经济负担也越来越重。

Examination system,Results become parents concern only problem,As parents to pay more attention to the improvement of education level,"Don't let the children lose in the starting line"/"High investment high returns"The education idea, such as utilitarianism is more and more thorough popular feeling,The child burden increase at the same time,The family is becoming more and more heavy economic burden.

　　专家表示，目前教育支出的增速明显快于家庭收入的增速，在义务教育阶段，校内教育已经不能满足家庭对教育质量的追求。相关调查结果显示，现阶段，基础性教育支出平均仅占家庭教育总支出的19.8%，这也就是说，城市家庭的教育支出大多数花在了课外辅导、择校等方面。因而城市家庭的课外培训或辅导、买学区房、择校等选择性教育支出与扩展性教育支出，已经成为家庭教育支出的主要负担。父母又将这一负担转嫁到子女头上，从而形成一种恶性循环，让当下的教育方式陷入“高投入，低回报”的怪圈。

Experts say,At present education spending growth significantly faster than the rate of growth of family income,In the compulsory education stage,School education can't meet the family education to the pursuit of quality.The investigation results show that,At present,Basic education spending an average of only 19.8% of the total of family education,This also means,Urban family education spending most of the flowers in the instruction after class/School, etc.So the city family extracurricular training or coaching/Buy school district room/School education, such as selective spending and scalability education spending,Has become the main burden of family education spending.Parents and children the burdens to the head,So as to form a vicious circle,Let the current education mode in"High investment,Low returns"".

　　“现在的家长要求孩子只关心上学、考试，不让孩子劳动，其实是剥夺了孩子们发展、成长的权利，堵塞了他们成长的道路。家长不妨多注重对孩子的人格教育，引导孩子关心他人、关注社会，让孩子健康成长。”尹邓安这样建议家长们。(记者 夏静)

"Now parents only care about requiring children to go to school/test,Don't let the child labor,Is actually deprived children development/Growing right,Blocked their growth path.Parents might as well much focus on the child's personality education,Guide your child to care for others/Pay attention to the social,Let the children healthy growth."This DengAn Yin suggested that parents.(Reporter XiaJing)

“不是每个孩子都能成郎朗” "Not every child can into lang lang"

　　放下课本，已经是中午12点30分了，在辽宁沈阳某教育培训机构上班的李老师又错过了午饭时间。“现在是寒假，课非常多，下午1点还有课，午饭就对付一口面包吧。”李老师笑着说。

Put down the book,Is 12 o 'clock at noon in 30 points,In liaoning shenyang a education training institutions to work miss li and missed the lunch time."It is winter vacation,Class very much,1 PM and class,Lunch will deal with a mouthful of bread."Mr Li said with a smile.

　　李老师在社会教育培训机构工作3年了，每天忙忙碌碌已经成了习惯。“培训机构有经验的老师特别缺，需要课外辅导的学生特别多，因此，补课的费用也就越来越高。” 李老师介绍，“现在，如果一对一补习，初中生一节90分钟的课，最少要130元，初三、高三甚至要200元以上。多数学生要补习4科，每科每周上两节课，一个月就要好几千元。”由于收入不菲，个别公办学校的教师甚至放弃了编制，辞职来到社会教育培训机构。

Miss li in social work education training institutions for three years,Busy day has become a habit."Training institutions experienced teacher special lack,Need instruction after class students much more special,so,The cost of the remedial work is more and more high." Miss li is introduced,"now,If one-on-one remediation,Junior high school student section 90 minutes of class,At least 130 yuan,grade/Three even to 200 yuan of above.Most students want to cram 4 families,Every department in two classes a week,Thousands of dollars a month away."Due to the lucrative,Individual public school teachers and even give up establishment,Resignation came to social education training institutions.

　　家住沈阳市大东区的于静女士对记者说，自己是一个工人，十几年前就下岗了，每个月上千元的补课费，对她来说是一个沉重的负担，但是，看到其他孩子都补课，也不能让自己的孩子“委屈”着。

Live in shenyang city big east the area in static lady told reporters,He is a worker,Ten years ago the laid-off workers,Every month, thousands of yuan of classes,It is a heavy burden,but,See other children make up a missed lesson,Also can't let their children"injustice"the.

　　“比起艺术院校的消费，普通中学的花费还不算高。”家住皇姑区由先生的女儿在艺术院校的附中，每年光学费就8000元。为了让孩子学钢琴，孩子上初中的时候，由先生就放弃了工作，到孩子学校附近租房陪读。每个月的房租和生活费都在2000元左右。为了让孩子能快速提高，家长还要带孩子参加夏令营和各种比赛，一次夏令营就要花掉近1万元。

"Compared with the consumption of the art colleges,Ordinary high school cost is not high."HuangGuOu live by the daughter of Mr In art colleges affiliated,Light year tuition is $8000.In order to let the children learn to play the piano,The child to the junior high school of time,Mr. By giving up my job,To children or relatives can apply for renting a house near the school.Each month's rent and the cost of living is in 2000 yuan or so.In order to let the child can quickly improve,Parents should take children to take part in a summer camp and all kinds of competition,A summer camp will spend nearly 10000 yuan.

　　由先生租房子的桃仙镇就是个农村，但租房的价格却翻了跟头地涨。记者随意拨通了一家租户的电话：“请问，您那房子出租，多少钱一年啊？”

Mr. The rent house taoxian town is a rural,But renting a house prices are turned back to rise.Reporter dialed a tenant at the telephone:"Excuse me,You the house rent,How much money a year or so?"

　　“至少五千！”

"At least five thousand!"

　　“是跟别人合租，还是自己单租？”

"Shares is with others,Or oneself single rent?"

　　“当然是合租了，要是单租，哪个房子不得万八千！”

"Of course is the shares,If single rent,Which house shall not eight thousand!"

　　由先生还告诉记者，每天把孩子送到学校后，这些陪读的家长在桃仙镇三五成群一边晒太阳，一边谈论孩子学习，成了当地的一景。记者与这些“留守”家长闲聊，人们有意无意都会提到一个名字：郎朗。郎朗出生于沈阳的一个普通家庭，在他父亲近乎固执而又苛刻的调教下，成了“世界最年轻的钢琴大师”。伴着郎朗的成功，其父郎国任不惜辞掉公职孤注一掷培养孩子的做法也被许多家长所仿效。

Mr. By also told reporters,The day after the children to school,These parents or relatives can apply in taoxian town in knots side in the sun,Talk about the children learn,A local one scene.Journalists and the"left-behind"Parents chatting,Intentionally or unintentionally people will mention a name:Lang lang.Lang lang was born in a common family in shenyang,In his father's near stubborn and demanding setup,became"The world's most young piano master".With the success of the lang lang,His father LangGuo at any quit office put all your eggs in one basket develop the child's practice was also emulated by many parents.

　　“不是每一个孩子都能成为郎朗。”沈阳师范大学教授田鹏颖告诉记者，真正成为“人上人”的学生凤毛麟角，可是现在绝大多数的学生家长都希望自己的孩子成为“人上人”，表现在教育投资上就是不计成本，过度消费。

"Not every child can become lang lang."Shenyang normal university professor TianPengYing told reporters,Become a real"People master cheng yen"Students rare breed,But now most of the students parents hope that their children can become"People master cheng yen",Performance in the education investment is not to count the cost,Excessive consumption.

　　“一般来说，家庭教育支出有三种：基础性教育支出、扩展性教育支出和选择性教育支出。其中，学杂费、食宿费、学习用品等基础性教育支出并不贵，贵的是选择性支出和扩展性支出。”田鹏颖说，“解决基础性教育支出，政府已经做了许多努力，成果也非常显著；但是要想削减扩展性教育支出和选择性教育支出，除了政府努力外，还需要家长回归理性，量入为出。”(本报记者 毕玉才 本报特约记者 刘勇)

"Generally speaking,There are three kinds of family education spending:Basic education spending/Scalability education spending and selective education spending.the,Tuition and fees/accommodation/Learning things, and so on basic education spending is not expensive,Your is selective spending and scalability spending."TianPengYing said,"Solve basic education spending,The government has made many efforts,Results is also very significant;But if you want to cut scalability education spending and selective education spending,In addition to the government's efforts,Also need to parents regression rational,Make ends meet."(Our reporter, BiYuCai our stringer)