寒假来临，春节将至。然而，并非每位学生、每个家长都欢天喜地。一些父母阴郁的脸，大多源于上周拿到的孩子那张期末考试成绩单。“名次下降了”“数学又没考好”“作文分数被扣得一塌糊涂”……一个“严酷”的问题摆在了这些学生和他们的家庭面前这样的心情会不会让过大年也变得“晴天转阴”？

Winter comes,The Spring Festival will come.however,Not each student/Every parents rapture.Some parents gloomy face,Most of the children from last week to that piece of the final test report."Ranking dropped""Mathematics failed the exam again""The composition scores were cut it in a great mess"……a"harsh"Problems in the students and their families such mood before would also become a great year"Turn sunny"?

分数考低了 Scores low

拥抱比成绩重要 Hug than an important result

　　 “有个一年级学生拿到考试成绩后，看到在校门口接自己的妈妈，便兴冲冲地大声说：‘妈妈，我语文考了76分！’一脸喜悦，一脸天真，一脸骄傲。这位妈妈事后在电话里对老师说，这不是个值得宣扬的分数，当时旁边那么多家长都听到了，多难为情啊。”这是闸北区第三中心小学心理教师陈来秀说的一个例子。陈老师说，这位妈妈多虑了，把太多成人世界的观点带进了孩子的世界。其实，在孩子的心目中，妈妈是他最要分享自己成就的人。所以，当他第一时间就把分数告诉爸妈时，家长一定要给他一个拥抱，一个微笑，一个亲吻。因为，孩子心里有你，而且他知道要带成绩回来。在他的世界里，暂时无法体会96分和76分带给妈妈的不同感受，他更不懂得平均分的高低、在班级中的排名意义……

"A first-year students get after test scores,See after her mother at the school gate,He excitedly said loudly:‘mother,I got 76 in Chinese!’A face of joy,A face of innocence,A face of pride.After the mother on the phone to the teacher said,This is a cause worth demonstrating fraction,When side so many parents are heard,How embarrassing!."This is the third center zhabei elementary school teachers' psychological ChenLaiXiu said an example.Chen said,The mother overrated,Put too much adult world view into the children's world.In fact,In the children's mind,Mother is his most want to share your successful.so,When he first time when the score to tell mom and dad,Parents must give him a hug,A smile,A kiss.because,Children in the mind have you,And he knew that to bring results come back.In his world,Temporarily unable to realize 96 points and 76 points to mother's different feelings,He don't know more average height/In class ranking significance……

擅长学科没考好 Good at subjects didn't test good

调整好学习策略 Adjust learning strategy

　　 陈来秀说，孩子“考砸”了，家长不能一见分数就跳，或看孩子鼻子不是鼻子脸不是脸。作为孩子最可信任的人，一定要无条件地接纳他，别让他滋生出“因为没考好而使得爸妈不喜欢我”的不良心情，长此以往，孩子的潜意识里会开始拒绝考试，讨厌分数。

ChenLaiXiu said,children"flunked"the,Parents can't see your scores will jump,Or see children nose nose not face is not face.As children's most trusted people,Must unconditionally accept him,Don't let him develop into a"Because didn't test good and makes my parents don't like me"Bad mood,In the long run,The child's subconscious will start to refuse to test,Hate score.

　　 也有些孩子考前担忧的科目考得倒不太差，原来挺有把握的学科，反而考得很不理想。此时，家长应该在肯定孩子努力的前提下，帮他们多方查找原因。比如，有时候可能对“短板科目”给予了足够重视，复习和考试都特别仔细，而且考前期望值不高，考试时心态很放松，所以反而获得意外惊喜。相反，对于原来的擅长学科，可能会因为自以为把握很大，结果复习得不够到位，或是把太多的时间和精力匀给了“短板科目”，反而影响了擅长学科的考试发挥。遇到这种情况，家长就应当帮着孩子一起思忖，将来如何合理调整好学习策略。

Also some children before concern subject exam but not bad,Originally a certain subject,It got very not ideal.At this time,Parents should be sure the child under the premise of efforts,Help them to find the reason.Such as,Sometimes may be"Short plate subject"Given enough attention,Review and test are particularly carefully,Before and expectations is not high,When the exam mentality is very relaxed,So instead get surprise.instead,For the original good discipline,May be because thinks a grasp,Results review enough in place,Or put too much time and energy to the well"Short plate subject",It affects the subject test at play.Encounter this kind of situation,Parents should help children to contemplate,The future how to reasonably adjust learning strategy.

卷面错得离奇 Noodles wrong weirdness

帮孩子重拾信心 Help children to regain their confidence

　　 有个男孩，考语文漏了整整一个大题，8分全被扣掉。妈妈在老师办公室里看过卷面后回家质问孩子。不料，孩子坚称没有这道题，并表示考试时已经仔细检查过。还有一位同学的语文考卷也是错得离奇，在做看拼音写部首这道题时，明明是“舟字旁”，却写成了“走之底”；“高”的反义词，明明知道是“低”，却写成了“纸”。

A boy,Tests the language leakage for a big problem,Eight points are all subtract.Mother in the teacher office seen noodles at home after questioning the child.but,The child insists there's no this problem,And said exams have been carefully checked.Have a classmate language test paper is also wrong weirdness,Do see pinyin write radical when this problem,Clearly is"Subjective word side",Is written for"Only bottom";"high"antonym,Clearly know is"low",Is written for"paper".

　　 陈来秀老师说，遇到这样的“粗心”孩子，家长们痛心的同时，不妨理智地分析一下，这也许是孩子的心智、理解力的发育还赶不上趟。家长应以温柔而坚定的陪伴，协助他们重拾信心，而不要让孩子因为这样的失利从此就将考场视为畏途。

ChenLaiXiu teacher said,Encountered this kind of"careless"children,Parents grieved at the same time,Might as well rationally analyze,Perhaps this is the child's mind/The development of comprehension still miss trip.Parents should be gentle and steady company,To help them regain their confidence,And don't let the child for such loss from now on will be regarded as a dangerous road test.

事先承诺的奖励 Prior promised reward

不论成绩都兑现 No matter scores to cash

　　 对于孩子考得不太好的分数，家长也要设法注意替孩子“保密”，切莫在春节走亲访友时，当众拿别人家孩子的高分教育自己的孩子，更不该因为考得不好而限制了孩子过年时的外出游玩。

For children didn't do very good score,Parents also try to note for children"confidential",Never in the Spring Festival when visits,With other people's house in the child's high education their children,And shouldn't because well on the test that limit the children of Chinese New Year to go out and play.

　　 此外，每当大考过后，不少家长还会有一个疙瘩难以解开。那就是，如果孩子考得没有预先“约定”的好，原先给孩子的奖励承诺，还要不要兑现。陈老师说，正确的做法是，那些之前说定的旅游、买新衣服等，不论孩子这次考试得了多少分，家长都应当积极做到。

In addition,Every time after the big test,Many parents will have a knot in one's heart is difficult to solve.That is,If the children got haven't"agreed"good,The original to the child's reward commitment,Also don't cash.Chen said,The right way is,Those who say before travel/Buy new clothes, etc,No matter how many points has children the exam,Parents should be positive to do.

　　 不过，著名教育专家孙云晓先生认为，对孩子的学习成绩用金钱奖励是一个误导，更好的方法是精神奖励。例如：给予孩子表扬，安排孩子旅行或给孩子买他想要的学习用品，甚至可以给他多一点玩的时间。总之，家长的奖励或惩罚，都要注重导向，一定要以尊重孩子为前提，切莫伤及孩子的心灵。(记者 王蔚）

but,Famous education experts SunYunXiao Sir Think,To children's academic performance money reward is a misleading,A better method is spirit award.Such as:Give children praise,Arrange children travel or to buy his children to learning products,Can even give him a little more time for play.In a word,Parents' reward or punishment,Should notice to guide,Must to respect children as the prerequisite,Never hurt the child's soul.(Reporter WangWei)