互联网在不知不觉中影响着70后、80后父母的生活，家庭教育也进入互联新时代。通过微博新平台的扩散式传播，一批批拥有独特教育观念并亲力亲为投身传播正确理念的家长从中脱颖而出，成为“草根专家”并引领着中国家庭教育新步伐。

The Internet in imperceptible in affect after 70/After 80 parents' life,Family education into the new era.Through the micro bo new platform of diffused propagation,A large number of unique education concept and the concept of right into the primary spread out from parents,become"Grassroots experts"And led the Chinese family education new steps.

　　没有商业背景，只有自身点滴育子经验的分享。一位普通父亲将自己的教育经验娓娓道出，获得了20万家长“粉丝”；一位钻研高考志愿填报的家长，发表高考博文5529篇，获得1500万点击量……

No commercial background,Only their own drop rearing children experience.A common father will own education experience preached,Won the 200000 parents"fans";A study of the volunteer parents provided the college entrance examination,The college entrance examination 5529 articles published bowen,Received 15 million hits……

　　

极端个案不能普世 Extreme case not universal

　　

“棍棒式成长”不为大众接受 "Sticks type growth"Not for the public to accept

　　时下，独二代、“421”等家庭结构的变化以及社会转型，造就了一些家长过度宠爱、呵护孩子，这种关爱一不小心便成为溺爱。

nowadays,Only the second generation/"421"And the change of family structure and social transformation,Made some parents dote on too/Care for children,This kind of love carelessly become spoil.

　　在武汉、上海、成都的一些小学，每当学生负责值日做卫生的时候，总有一些家长来帮孩子打扫，久而久之，这个行为成为一种“理所当然”孩子们吃着零食在一旁玩耍，等着父母扫完地倒完垃圾再一道回家。长沙市对高校学生的问卷调查也表明：八成高校生不会做饭，七成高校生与室友相处不好，六成高校生表示更喜欢住在家而非学校。

In wuhan/Shanghai/Some of the primary school in chengdu,When the student is responsible for duty when doing health,There is always some parents to help children clean,As time passes,This behavior become a"granted"The children eating snacks on one side to play,Waiting for the parents and pour the waste to a home.For college students in changsha city of questionnaire survey also showed that:Eighty percent college students can't cook,Seventy percent college students don't get along with my roommate,Sixty percent of college students said prefer to live at home rather than school.

　　当然，也有极端的育儿心得，在这方面，“虎妈”、“狼爸”、“鹰爸”独树一帜。“虎妈”蔡美儿采用咒骂、威胁、利诱等严格的教育方式将女儿骂进了哈佛，“狼爸”萧百佑和“鹰爸”何烈胜也分别以“三天一顿打，孩子进北大”和让4岁儿子在暴雪中裸跑大出风头。另一种极端也见诸媒体，如温柔地和女儿跳着圆舞曲的“猫爸”和管女儿叫老师、管儿子叫兄弟的“羊爸”又陆续登场……

Of course,Also have extreme parenting tips,In this respect,"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"/"Eagle dad"unique."Tiger mother"CaiMeiEr the curse/threat/Such as the strict education mode will scold her daughter got into harvard,"The Wolf dad"Hsiao the save and"Eagle dad"HeLie - also respectively"Three days to play at,The child into the north"And let the 4 year old son in the blizzard of bare run cut a dash.Another kind of extreme and mass media,Such as gently and daughter dance the waltz"The cat dad"And tube daughter call a teacher/Tube son call brother's"Sheep dad"Has taken on……

　　国内不少盲目效仿“虎妈”、“狼爸”的事例，结果惨烈：温州6岁的女童小如因犯小错被父亲体罚跑步6小时致死；武汉4岁男童因未完成作业在母亲要求下当众扇自己耳光；安徽8岁男童因不满被关在房间持续练琴跳楼自杀。“棍棒式成长”中呈现出来的极端个案引来争议，并不能真正为大众所接受。

The domestic many follow blindly"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"case,The results so:Wenzhou 6 years old girl small as for making small wrong be father corporal punishment running 6 hours to death;Wuhan 4 years old boy was not finish my homework in the mother request public fan yourself a slap in the face;Anhui eight years old boy because of dissatisfaction is locked in the room for practicing jumped off a building suicide."Sticks type growth"Presented in the extreme case drew dispute,Do not give a true for mass acceptance.

　　不过，还有一些家长，他们的教育理念各有千秋，却不同于“虎妈”、“狼爸”、“鹰爸”般另类、严厉甚至残酷，他们的共同出发点是：尊重孩子、理解孩子。比如，小巫、王人平、尹建莉和晨雾。

but,And some parents,Their education idea each has his strong point,Were different from"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"/"Eagle dad"As alternative/Severe and even cruel,Their common starting point is:Respect children/Understand children.Such as,the/The king range/YinJianLi and the fog of the morning.

　　

分享自身教育经验 Share their own education experience

　　

普通父亲拥20万家长“粉丝” Common father hold 200000 parents"fans"

　　与“虎妈”、“狼爸”、“鹰爸”相比，小巫、王人平、尹建莉和晨雾四位家长的教育理念更有针对性、更切合实际。他们当中，有的是教育学硕士，有的曾在校任教，还有的具备成功育儿经验。

and"Tiger mother"/"The Wolf dad"/"Eagle dad"Compared with,the/The king range/YinJianLi and the pride of the morning four parents' education idea more specific/More practical.Among them,Have a plenty of a master of pedagogy,Some had taught in the school,Also have successful parenting experience.

　　小巫是教育学硕士，著有《让孩子做主》等畅销书。她对“中国式教育”的探讨另辟蹊径，借鉴西方先进教育理论和经验，为中国家长网友提供现实生活的实例分析。对于父母们所关心的“兴趣班”、儿童社会交往和师生关系等方面的话题，她倡导父母们摒弃急功近利的心态，创造适合孩子的教育方式。她在微博上变身答疑专家，独到的跨文化教育思维给无数家长带来启迪，使父母的心灵与孩子一起成长，引领了国际化育儿教育方向。

The is a master of pedagogy,Have the[Let the child family]Etc bestseller.she"Chinese education"The author discussed,Use for reference the western advanced education theory and experience,For Chinese parents net friend to provide real life case analysis.For parents who are concerned"interest"/Children's social interaction and the relationship between teachers and students of the topic,She advocates parents abandon get rich quick mind,Create suitable for children education mode.She in micro blog Cinderella answer experts,The original cross-cultural education thinking to countless parents bring enlightenment,Make the hearts of parents and children grow up together,Leading the international parenting education direction.

　　王人平是拥有20万家长“粉丝”的教育名博主，他却常自称“非专家只是一位普通父亲”。2011年，他接触微博后发现，太多专家和父母讨论的话题过于急功近利，于是，他开始在微博中分享儿童教育和父母自我成长的看法，并通过微博回答网友关于育儿家庭教育等方面的疑难问题，累计为上千名网友答疑解惑。他提倡家庭教育不是去约束和惩罚孩子，而是父母的自我管理和对孩子的人文关怀。他凭借独特的育儿观点、浅显易懂的语言，仅仅用了一年时间便成为传递育儿正能量的“个性父亲”。

The king is tied them with 200000 parents"fans"The name of the education blogger,But he often claim to"The expert is just an ordinary father".In 2011,,He contact micro bo found,Too many experts and parents of discussion too get rich quick,so,He started in micro bo share of children's education and parents self growth view,And through the micro bo answer net friend about parenting family education problems, etc,Accumulated for thousands of net friend answer to reassure.He called for a family education is not to discipline and punish the child,But parents' self management and humanistic care for children.He relied on the unique dramatically/A simple language,In just a year will be transfer parenting is energy"Personality father".

　　被网友誉为“最牛母亲”的尹建莉也是位教育学硕士，从教多年，她熟悉学校教育，并专注家庭教育咨询工作。她是《好妈妈胜过好老师》的作者，图书销量达550万册。她的女儿曾两次跳级，16岁参加高考，取得了超过当年清华录取线22分的优异成绩。尹建莉不但培养出一个品学兼优的女儿，还关注教育时事，通过微博传达自己对于“学校该不该取消班干部制”、“升学择校”等教育话题的独特见解，并在博客上帮网友解答家庭教育的疑难问题，深受网友追捧。

Be net friend as"Most cow mother"The YinJianLi is a master of pedagogy,Teaching for many years,Does she familiar with the school education,And focus on family education advisory work.She is[Good mother is better than a good teacher]author,Sold more than 5.5 million copies of books.Her daughter had two advanced placement,16 for attending the national college entrance examination,Achieved more than the tsinghua university admission line 22 points outstanding achievements.YinJianLi not only cultivate an excellent daughter,Also pay attention to education events,Through the micro bo to communicate"The school should cancel the class cadre system"/"School entrance"Education topic such as unique ideas,And in the blog to help users solve the family education problems,By the net friend to chase after hold in both hands.

　　作为一名家长，晨雾成功地把孩子送入国内名校，后将其送到国外留学。起初接触志愿填报，便是源于自己孩子高考需要填报志愿。2007年起，他开始深入钻研高考志愿。他对“异地高考、自主招生”等高考相关话题提出自己的看法并根据自己的经验预测高考录取分数。他发布高考相关博客5529篇，博客点击1500万余次，不仅将自己的观点传播给网友，并连续五年义务为高三家长提供及时有效的指导。今年起，他利用微博平台义务答疑，为解答网友家长填报志愿问题，他经常查询资料并回复微博到凌晨，被网友称为“最贴近家长的志愿专家”。

As a parent,The mist successfully take the children into the domestic universities,It sent to study abroad.At first contact volunteer fill,From her children is the college entrance examination need to fill volunteer.Since 2007,He began to dive into the college entrance examination volunteer.he"Different college entrance examination/Autonomous enrolment"The college entrance examination and related topic proposed own view and according to your own experience predict college entrance examination admission score.He released the university entrance exam 5529 articles related to the blog,Click blog more than 15 million times,Will not only their own ideas spread to users,And five consecutive years of compulsory for three parents to provide timely and effective guidance.This year,He used the micro bo platform obligation to answer questions,To solve netizen parents fill volunteer problem,He often inquires the material and reply to micro bo until the wee hours of the morning,Be net friend called"The most close to the parent volunteer experts".

　　

传播教育正能量 Communication education positive energy

　　

期待更多榜样家长 Looking forward to more example parents

　　得知四位家长荣获“中国榜样家长”称号，很多网友都认为，他们传播了教育正能量，是自己在教育方面的良师益友。

That four parents won"China example parents"title,Many people think,They spread education positive energy,In education is the mentor.

　　家长朱女士说，她曾经读过“狼爸”畅销书《所以，北大兄妹》，却对“狼爸”的教育方式不敢苟同，“北大只是人生道路上的一个环节，考上北大不代表‘成功’，没有考上也并非‘失败’，人生的道路很漫长，教育是一个长远的过程。而且，‘狼爸’的子女为内地香港籍考生，考北大可降100多分录取。”

Parents ms zhu said,She used to read"The Wolf dad"bestseller[so,North brother and sister],but"The Wolf dad"The education way beg to differ,"Peking University is life on the road of a link,Admitted to Peking University does not represent‘success’,No it is not passed‘failure’,The road of life is very long,Education is a long-term process.and,‘The Wolf dad’Children for the mainland for Hong Kong candidates,Test north can drop 100 points admission."

　　如今，朱女士是小巫微博的忠实“粉丝”，她坦言，女儿正在读高一，在接触小巫之前，自己曾为女儿“设计未来”，强迫孩子学钢琴、古筝，上英语培训班，帮女儿安排上什么学校。“现在我完全不这样了，像小巫老师说的，让女儿规划她自己的人生，做她喜欢的事！”孩子上高中后，朱女士发现，管孩子管少了，孩子的学习相反比过去好了。“明显感觉孩子懂事了，成长了。”她说。

now,Ms zhu is the micro bo faithful"fans",She said,A daughter is reading,In the contact before,He had for her daughter"Design future",Force children to learn the piano/guzheng,English training class,Arrange for my daughter what school."Now I'm not so,Like the teacher said,Let daughter planning her own life,Do she like!"Children after high school,Ms zhu found,Tube children pipe less,The child's learning instead the than in the past."Obviously feel the sensible child,grew."She said.

　　21世纪教育研究院副院长熊丙奇认为，眼下，图书市场上流行的教育书籍很多，大多数都是功利性非常强的书，诸如“狼爸”、“虎妈”之类的书籍，过于功利的目标，以及一些为这个目标服务的方法，看起来都是为孩子好，但是这种教育的真正结果，可能反倒是耽误了孩子。不论是家长还是孩子，应该回到经典中寻找教育的真谛和本质，教孩子做一个真正的人，这才是最重要的。每个孩子都有自己的人生选择，不要逼迫孩子成龙成凤。逼迫的结果往往大多数孩子也不能成龙成凤，反倒使他们的人生充满不堪。

The 21st century education research institute, vice President of the XiongBingJi think,the,Book market fashion education books a lot,Most are utilitarian very strong book,Such as"The Wolf dad"/"Tiger mother"Books such as,Too utilitarian goal,And some for this goal service method,Look is good for children,But the education of the real results,May even be delay the child.Whether the parents or children,Should go back to find the true meaning of classical education and nature,Teach children to be a true man,This is the most important.Every child has his own life choices,Don't force their children ChengLongCheng chicken.The result of persecution often most children can't ChengLongCheng chicken,But to make their life is full of unbearable.

　　熊丙奇说，这四位家长都有成功的育儿经验，难得的是，他们并没有单纯地炫耀这些经验，而是拿出来与更多家长共同分享，并且针对不同家长提出来的个性化问题提供解决方案。在当下的教育环境里，普通家长的育子经，可能更有参考意义，我们期待更多这样的榜样家长。

XiongBingJi said,The four parents have successful parenting experience,Rare is,They are not simply to show off the experience,But take it out and more parents share,And according to different parents out personalized problems and provide solutions.In the current education environment,Ordinary parents by yu son,May be more have reference significance,We are looking forward to more of the same parent role model.

　　

探索争鸣 Explore schools of thought contend

　　

家长要不要担当“第二任老师”？ Parents want to bear"Second teacher"?

　　胡乐乐

Hu lele

　　“狼爸”也好，“羊爸”也罢，家长对于孩子的教育问题，同时也是法国今年的热门话题。

"The Wolf dad"or,"Sheep dad"or,The parents for the child's education problem,At the same time also is France this year's hot topic.

　　新当选的法国总统奥朗德认为，来自优越家庭的孩子做家庭作业时可以得到父母的指导，而条件欠缺家庭的孩子却得不到任何指导和帮助，因此，所有的功课都应该在学校完成，而不是带回家。为此，奥朗德提出的教育改革方案中，包括取消家庭作业。

The newly elected French President omar lande think,From the superior families children homework can get parents' guidance,And the conditions of the lack of family children but no any guidance and help,so,All of the work should be finished in school,Not home.therefore,Mr Lande proposed education reform scheme,Including cancellation of homework.

　　但是，奥朗德的看法与中国的实情并不符。

but,Mr Lande views and China's the truth and discrepancy.

　　一位母亲发现自己五年级女儿的作文经常被老师退回重写，就亲自帮助润色修改，力争交到老师手里的作文都是完美的成品。老师对女儿作文的满意度提高了，但到考试时，女儿的作文却总是一塌糊涂，无任何长进。这位母亲很后悔，认为家长过分辅导会给老师造成“学生都学会了”的假象，从而放松对学生的责任。

A mother found himself five grade daughter composition is often the teacher returned to rewrite,Personally help embellish modification,Strive to make the inside of the teacher's hand composition is the perfect product.The teacher to her satisfaction improved composition,But when the exam,The composition of the daughter is always in a mess,Without any progress.The mother regret,Think parents too edition to the teacher cause"Students learned"Illusions of the,Thus to ease the duties of a student.

　　一位一线老师认为，养成学习习惯，培养学习兴趣，是一定需要家长来帮助的；至于写作业，主动权还是在孩子手里。如此说来，学校教育的确需要家庭教育的积极配合，但是，学校教育在孩子的教育中必须切实肩负起重大责任，并且这种责任不能随便甩给家长，命令或要求家长成为孩子的“第二任老师”。我们之所以需要学校教育，就是因为家长无暇、无力教育好自己的孩子，才送孩子到学校接受教育。如果学校将教育好学生的责任回抛给家长，那么学校教育就没有存在的必要了。

A line of a teacher to think,Form study habits,Cultivating students' interest,Is must need parents to help;As for homework,The initiative in children or hand.So it,School education really need family education of actively cooperate with,but,School education in the child's education must earnestly shoulder great responsibility,And this responsibility can't literally to jilt to parents,Command or require parents become the child's"Second teacher".The reason why we need to school education,Is because of too busy parents/Good education to their children,To send their children to school to accept education.If the school education will be the responsibility of the good students threw back to parents,So the school education is no longer necessary.

　　在美国，大多数教师是不喜欢家长辅导孩子写作业的。他们认为，让家长“加工”过的作业，老师根本就看不出学生懂了多少，孩子们如果需要辅导，那是教师的工作，不是父母的工作。因此，美国教育专家指出，家长不要把孩子的作业“修理”得太完美，让孩子在作业中锻炼自己，练就学习技能。

In the United States,Most teachers don't like parents coach children write the homework.They think,Let parents"processing"Over homework,The teacher simply don't see students understand how many,The children if need guidance,That is the teacher's work,Is not the work of parents.so,The United States education experts say,Parents don't put the child's homework"repair"Too perfect,Let the child in the assignments to train themselves,Practice learning skills.

　　美国《国家科学院学报》刊载的一项最新研究成果显示：让孩子有一个快乐的童年是对孩子未来最好的投资；即便成年后快乐感减少，但早期快乐可能改变你生活中很多东西，那些经历持续发挥着作用。该项研究的作者之一、政治经济和行为学副教授扬—伊曼纽尔·德尼夫说：“这项结果对学者、政策制定者和公众具有重要意义。”德尼夫敦促为人父母者营造并保持情感健康、情绪积极的家庭氛围。因此，孩子们的童年应该快乐、自由、尽情玩耍，家长要想方设法为他们创造自由自主探索兴趣、爱好的时间、空间。

The United States[The national academy of sciences]A new study published in the show:Let children have a happy childhood is the best investment for children in the future;Even if the adult, quick musicality reduce,But early happy may change a lot of things in your life,The experience of continued to play a role.One of the study's authors/Political economy and behavioral associate professor Yang - Emmanuel DE, "he said:"The results of scholars/Policy makers and the public has important significance."He's urging, parents who build and maintain emotional health/Emotional positive family atmosphere.so,The children's childhood should be happy/free/play,Parents should try to create for them free to explore interest/Hobby time/space.

　　因此，我们的中小学学校、家长之间，应当在教育观上达成默契：教育的成功，并不是唯考生分数的，更重要的应该是，教会孩子学会学习，帮助孩子自由探索，培养孩子的质疑、批判精神。如果我们的学校教育不切实改变现有的应试教育价值观，教育行政管理部门的官员不改变政绩观，那么，家长担当“第二任老师”，以及全程辅导孩子写作业的现象，将愈演愈烈，这将使孩子的快乐童年大打折扣。本版供图/CFP

so,Our primary and middle school school/Between parents,In education should be on a tacit understanding:Education success,Not only the score,More important, should be,Teach your child to study,Help children free inquiry,Develop the child's question/Critical spirit.If our school education don't actually change the existing examination education values,Education administrative department officials achievement does not change,so,Parents bear"Second teacher",And the whole counseling children homework phenomenon,Will be increasingly fierce,This will make the child of a happy childhood.This version for map/CFP

　　

专家观点 Expert view

　　

教育没有统一“黄金原则” Education has no unified"Gold principle"

　　21世纪教育研究院副院长 熊丙奇

The 21st century education research institute, vice President of the XiongBingJi

　　教育的实质是让每个人的生活更美好，因此，它不要求学生与学生之间比出高低，而是要让孩子们每天有进步，并从进步中感受到快乐。如果有这样的心境，孩子们的童年将是快乐的、充满阳光的。

The essence of education is to make everyone's life better,so,It does not require students and students than between the high and low,But to let the children have progress every day,And from the progress of feel happy.If there is such a state of mind,The children's childhood will be happy/sunny.

　　孩子各有特点，把适用在别人孩子身上的方法强制放在自己孩子身上不一定是好方法。教育孩子因人而异，切忌盲目跟风。父母在孩子的成长过程中起着非常重要的引导作用，家庭教育影响孩子的一生，父母要给孩子爱、尊重和适度的自由。

Children have their own characteristic,The applicable in other children method forced in his children is not necessarily good method.Education children vary from person to person,Avoid by all means is blind follow suit.Parents in the child's growth process plays a very important guiding role,Family education affect a child's life,Parents give children love/Respect and a moderate amount of freedom.

　　因此，教育方法没有统一的“黄金原则”，每个人都是在实践中不断摸索、总结。

so,Education method has no unified"Gold principle",Everyone is a fumble ceaselessly in practice/summary.

　　

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人人都可成为榜样家长 Everyone can become parents model

　　李学梅

LiXueMei

　　这两年，中国式家庭教育这一领域可谓“动物凶猛”，“范例”拼凑起来，基本上可以开个动物园了。只是，这些“榜样”也越来越让人困惑棍棒教育值得效仿吗?跟孩子称兄道弟就一定能让孩子成人成才吗?

The two years,Chinese family education is a field"Fierce animals","paradigm"kluge,Basically can open a zoo.just,these"example"Also more and more confusing sticks education to follow?With children call each other brothers we will be able to let the children become adults?

　　2012年度“中国榜样家长”中的这几位，“事迹”没有“猫爸”、“羊爸”那么另类，“手法”也不如“虎妈”、“鹰爸”那么极端，他们的长项各不相同，做法也更“中庸”，但他们身上却有一些共同的东西。首先，他们没有复制别人的经验，而是靠自己的摸索，寻找到了最适合自己孩子的教育方式；更难得的是，他们没有单纯地炫耀这些经验，而是拿出来与其他家长共同分享，并且可以针对家长提出的不同问题，给出个性化的指导方案。说明他们的经验具有更广泛的可学性。

2012 year"China example parents"The several,"deeds"no"The cat dad"/"Sheep dad"So alternative,"technique"than"Tiger mother"/"Eagle dad"So extreme,They build each are not identical,Practice and more"The doctrine of the mean",But them have some common things.First of all,They don't copy others' experience,But by their grope,Looking for the most suitable for their children's education mode;More rare is,They didn't simply show the experience,But take it out with other parents share,And can be put forward for parents to different problems,Given personalized guidelines.Experience shows that they have a wider range of each.

　　“兵无常势，水无常形”，教育亦如是。这世界上没有两片完全相同的叶子，更没有两个完全相同的孩子。孔圣人说过“因材施教”，这应是家庭教育的最高境界。而这些中国榜样家长的示范作用就在于，他们有能力因材施教，而且靠的不是剑走偏锋，对孩子，他们既不过分严格，也不过分宽容。其实，教育最怕的就是走极端。而只要能找到适合自己孩子的最佳教育方式，人人都可以成为榜样家长。（北京日报）

"Soldier is potential,Water impermanence form",Education and so.The world no two identical leaves,More no two identical child.Hole sage said"Teach students in accordance with their aptitude",This should be the highest state of family education.And the Chinese model of parents exemplary role is,They have the ability to teach students in accordance with their aptitude,And not by the sword go hail,For children,They neither too strict,Too much tolerance.In fact,Education is the most afraid of be go off the deep end.And as long as can find suitable for their children the best education mode,Everyone can be an example parents.(Beijing daily)