原标题 [“被催族”春节遭轮番碎碎念：催婚催娃催工作] Original title ["Be push family"The Spring Festival was repeatedly broken broken read:Urge marriage push Eva push work]

　　东方网2月12日消息：过年亲朋好友难得一聚，话题的焦点离不开“催”。在催成绩、催工作、催结婚的同时，“别人家的孩子”愈发频繁地被提及用以对比，同台竞技下“被催族”败下阵来，也使“被催族”陷入恶性循环中。专家支招，“加急时代”考验着长辈和晚辈之间平等、人性的沟通能力，善意的关心应建立在尊重彼此需求和选择的基础上。

DongFangWang on February 12,):New Year's day relatives and friends seldom together,The focus of the topic from"push".Results in the rush/Push work/Push married at the same time,"Other people's house of in children"More frequently mention to contrast,Under the same competitive"Be push family"were,Also make"Be push family"Into a vicious cycle.Experts move,"Urgent time"Test the elder and the younger generation equality between/Human communication ability,Good care should respect each other on the basis of the needs and select.

　　“被催”的又何止一代人 "Be push"And far more than a generation

　　春节到了，“被催族”免不了催工作、催结婚、催生娃……的命运，然而最可怕的不是七大姑八大姨的轮番提问，而是“别人家的孩子”。“别人家的孩子”集各方优点于一身、完美到无懈可击，让绝大多数“被催族”不得不相形见绌。33岁的北京单身白领李晴告诉记者，今年家里人真着急了，父母最近打电话就两件事，一是谈对象，二是留长发。还经常加一句，别人家孩子生的娃都会打酱油了，你看你……

The Spring Festival to,"Be push family"Avoid rush job/Push married/Midwifery Eva……fate,But the most terrible not seven elder sister-in-law eight greatest yi intensive questions,but"Other people's house of in children"."Other people's house of in children"Set the parties advantages at a suit/Perfect to perfect,Let the vast majority of"Be push family"Have to shame.33 years old Beijing single white-collar LiQing told reporters,This family is worried,Parents call recently is two things,One is to talk about the object,The second is to have long hair.Often to add 1,Other people's house of children she can play the soy sauce,Do you think you……

　　在宁夏银川市私企工作的王文说：“家人今年又提起别人家的孩子都考公务员了，让我也换稳定的工作，这样买房子、娶媳妇都容易。我不得不死在编制里了。”“90后”升学择业，“00后”成绩至上，自然也不能幸免“被催”。记者从微博大量回复中发现，不同年龄的网友在过年期间遭遇最烦的问题大多是：“考了多少分？”“工资多少了？”“为什么还不买房结婚？”……总之，“被催”的又何止一代人。

In yinchuan ningxia private enterprise work wang wen said:"This year a family and other people's children did the civil servants,Let me also in stable job,So to buy a house/Marry daughter-in-law are easy.I shall not die in the preparation.""After 90"Employment entrance,"After,"Results first,Nature also can't survive"Be push".Reporters from micro bo found in a large number of reply,Users of different ages during the Chinese New Year encounter the most irritated problem is mostly:"Got how many points?""How much salary?""Why not buy a house get married?"……In a word,"Be push"And far more than a generation.

　　“刺激催促”难有好结果 "Stimulus urged"Difficult to have a good result

　　“被催族”过年被轮番碎碎念，一些父母表示也很无奈。王文的父母告诉记者，熟人一见面就问孩子挣多少钱，结婚了没，他们也不知道怎么回答。

"Be push family"New Year's day was repeatedly broken broken read,Some parents say is also very helpless.Wang wen's parents told reporters,Meet acquaintances a child asked how much money,Married didn't,They also don't know how to answer.

　　“刺激催促”并没催出好结果，适得其反的占多数。“我妈一有机会就提"别人如何"，我忍不住发火了，惹我妈生气，我再哄，哄好了又催，周而复始，快崩溃了！”李晴说。

"Stimulus urged"And don't rush to produce good results,Counterproductive in the majority."My mother will carry a chance"Others how to",I can't help but get angry,Make my mother angry,I'll to,Coax good and push,cycles,Quick collapse the!"LiQing said.

　　还有部分“理解”亲朋好友良苦用心的“被催族”，未婚的开始相亲大作战，挣钱少的钻营换岗提职，成绩稍差的两耳不闻窗外事，欲与“别人家的孩子”试比高。结果是相亲相到累，求职编制内，学分是命根……

There are still some"understand"All the relatives and friends with"Be push family",Unmarried began to worm,Money less gaining promotion shift work,Is a bit poor performance of the two ear not smell things out of the window,Would like to"Other people's house of in children"Fields high.The result is to phase to tired,Job organization,Credits is wiener……

　　学习、求职还能“突击”，可婚姻如何在短时间内催成正果？在银川市有稳定工作、今年31岁的刘岩已经相了6次亲。“现在找对象是头等大事，其他都得让路，但相亲成功的几率太低了。”刘岩说，两个素不相识的人见面，没有任何感情基础，除非是一见钟“脸”，否则两厢情愿的事情很难发生。

learning/Job can also"assault",How can the marriage in a short time rush to accomplish anything?In yinchuan have a stable job/This year at the age of 31 LiuYan has phase 6 times close."Now find object is a top priority,Other have to keep out of the way,But to the probability of success is too low."LiuYan said,The two never met before meet people,No relationship,Unless one see clock emotion"face",Otherwise the consensual things hard to occur.

　　“加急时代”考验沟通能力 "Urgent time"Test communication skills

　　在社会节奏不断提速的“加急时代”，家庭也不可避免地参与其中，父母“唯恐自家孩子落后于别人”的过分担忧情绪显露无遗，其以激励为初衷“不停”催促，让子女自尊心、自信心都受到挑战，逆反心理油然而生。专家认为，“加急时代”亟须提升父母和子女平等沟通的能力。

In social rhythm speed continuously"Urgent time",The family also inevitably involved,parents"For fear that their children fall behind the others"Worrying about the mood of the show without involuntary discharge of urine,The incentive for original intention"keep"urged,Let children self-esteem/Self-confidence is the challenge,Psychological inversion arises spontaneously.Experts say,"Urgent time"It is urgent to improve parents and children shall equal the ability to communicate.

　　宁夏社科院社会学专家陈通明说，目前，受中国传统家庭教育的影响，长辈与晚辈之间平等的交流和沟通十分缺乏，尤其在婚恋、生育问题上，长辈对晚辈往往是采取控制、指导，对晚辈渴望平等交流的心态熟视无睹或者根本不知如何沟通，难免会引起晚辈的逆反心理。长辈应该多学学沟通的技巧，尊重子女的追求和选择。

Ningxia cass sociology professor Chen were blazing said,At present,Under China's traditional family education influence,The elder and the younger generation equality between communication and communication is very lack,Especially in the marriage/Fertility problems on,The elder to the younger generation is often take control/guidance,For the younger generation of equal communication attitude turn a blind eye to or fundamental do not know how to communicate,Hard to avoid can cause junior rebellious attitude.Elders should learn more about the communication skills,Respect their children's pursuit and choice.

　　作者：邹欣媛 (来源：舜网-济南日报)

The author:ZouXinYuan (source:Shun network - jinan daily)