问题1、施加压力大 Question 1/Put pressure on big

　　有一些父母给孩子的压力太大，搞得孩子心情紧张，无所适从，结果适得其反。

Some parents give to their children too much pressure,Make your child a nervous,At loose ends,Results backfire.

　　李振霞教授楼下有一个孩子，与她大儿子金煜是同班同学，两人十分要好，成绩也不相上下。但高考考完后，成绩尚未揭榜，这个孩子就断定自己考不上。

Professor LiZhenXia downstairs has a child,And her eldest son JinYu are classmates,Two people very better,A similar result.But after the college entrance examination examination,Result has not yet JieBang,The child will judge yourselves I failed.

　　金煜吃惊地问：“为什么呀？你成绩一向很好的！”

JinYu surprised to ask:"Why ah?You have always been good results!"

　　那孩子口气，说：“我太紧张了。我爸跟我说，要我一定要考上，否则一切自理。我这些天心里很乱，一直在琢磨怎么个自理法呢？我上哪儿去住呢？”

The child tone,said:"I was too nervous.My father said to me,Will I have to take an examination of,Otherwise all physical.These, as I was in great confusion,Have been wondering how to a physical method?Where will I go to live?"

　　金煜说：“我爸不这样，他说，考不上就再复习一年，不要有压力。”

JinYu said:"My dad don't,He said,I failed again to review a year,Don't have pressure."

　　成绩出来后，两人分数果然悬殊很大，金煜金榜高中。李振霞教授说：“我们父母不能搞太多形而上学的东西。”她坦诚，平心而论，她虽然望子成才，有意识地教导他们，但从来没有想过他们必须个个是博士生，都得飘洋过海，风华绝代。

Result after coming out,Two people very different scores indeed as expected,JinYu caton high school.LiZhenXia professor says:"Our parents can't make too many metaphysical things."She admitted,Give the devil his due,Although she WangZi growing,Consciously taught them,But never thought they must all is doctoral student,Have to across the seas,southeast.

　　老大小时候是有名的淘气鬼，人称“小闹”，是打群架的孩子王。考大学时，他们夫妇也曾替他捏了把汗，一方面鼓励，另一方面又正视现实，做好出现意外的打算。一旦考不上，就再复习一年，实在考不上，就考个技校，将来有一技之长，能给社会做贡献就行。他们常常教导孩子教；“清洁工，也可以做成全国劳模的，就看你是不是一个有心人。”

The boss was famous rascal,said"Small make",Is the HaiZiWang punch-up.Take an examination of college,The couple had for him the pinch khan,On the one hand to encourage,On the other hand, to face up to reality,Do in the event of going to.Once I failed,Then review a year,Really take an examination of the,Just testing a technical school,Some skill,Can make contributions to the society will do.They often teach children to teach;"cleaner,Can also make the national model workers,See you is a difficult to the man who will try."

　　

问题2、减负两极化 Question 2/Refers to alleviate the burden on

　　如今提倡给学生减负，李振霞教授认为：减负是对的，但不能两极化。

Now advocate to alleviate the burden on students,LiZhenXia professor thinks:Is to alleviate the burden on the,But can't polarization.

　　有的父母急于教子成才，认为孩子学得越多，就越接近“素质教育”，于是一到周六、周日，琴棋书画、英语、武术等等，马不停蹄地往孩子脑子里灌输，搞得孩子疲惫不堪，身心在经过一周紧张的学习后得不到调节，造成恶性循环，结果成绩每况愈下。而另一种父母，则是一听说要减负，就不分青红皂白：一律减，减到孩子不学习了，甚至着父母打麻将。

Some parents are anxious to godson growing,Think that children learn more,The close to"Quality education",So a to Saturday/Sunday,Qinqi painting/English/Martial arts, etc,Without a stop to children in the brain implants,The children got tired,Body and mind after a week's hard learning is not regulation,Cause vicious cycle,Results from bad to worse.And another kind of parents,Is heard to alleviate the burden on,It indiscriminately:Are reduced,To reduce to the children don't learn,Even the parents playing mahjong.

　　一位海南的教师讲：学校响应减负的号召，将作业留到最少，但有的学生磨磨蹭蹭不好好做作业，不但在学校完不成，带回家依然不专心做，弄得晚上十一二点还做不完，好像作业堆成山。不明就时的父母一看急了，找学校告状来，说学校不减负。

A hainan teacher speak:School response reduction of the financial burden of call,Homework will be to a minimum,But some students dilly Dally not good doing his homework,Not only in the school to finish,Home still don't concentrate on doing,Make ten in the evening YiErDian also done,Like homework pile into a mountain.It is unknown when parents a look nasty,Look for the school to heads,That school don't reduce the burden.

　　其实，许多基础知识是孩子成才必须具备的，也是为他日后掌握其他知识奠定坚实的基础，是人类智慧几千年积累的精髓，让孩子学习这些知识是有道理的，怎么可以随意就减掉呢！

In fact,Many basic knowledge is the child into must have,But for his future master other intellectual lay a solid foundation,Human wisdom is the essence of accumulated for thousands of years,Let children learn these knowledge is reasonable,How can it at will lose!

　　

问题3、眉毛胡子一把抓 Question 3/Go about several tasks at a time

　　许多人十分诧异：“李振霞教授有4个孩子，个个出色，为什么我家就一个孩子，父母都操碎了心，就是丝毫不起效？”针对这种现象，李振霞教授笑着说：“精力用到了，却没有抓住教育孩子的重点，眉毛胡子一把抓！”

Many people are very surprised:"LiZhenXia professor have four children,All good,Why my house is a child,Parents are operating broken heart,Is a bit does not work?"Aiming at the phenomenon,LiZhenXia professor said with a smile:"Energy use the,Did not catch education child's key,Go about several tasks at a time!"

　　她说教育孩子要有重点，不能做“碎嘴老太婆”，大事小事唠叨个没完，她在全国做报告60多场，发现这样的父母还真不少。他们在听完李振霞的讲课后，问的问题鸡零狗碎。有的诚惶诚恐地问：“我发现儿子有一天放学后，跟一个女同学一起走，可怎么办？”有的惴惴不安地问：“我上高中的儿子星期天非要跟同学起爬山，该不该去？”更有甚者，坐在孩子身边对孩子实行监视，只要孩子的眼睛稍离开书本，就严加责骂。有一个孩子对李振霞讲：“奶奶，我妈坐在我身边，我心里特别紧张，看书都看不到心里。到后来，我干瞪着眼，不知道书上写的都是什么字，脑子里一片空白，又不敢离开，成绩一天比一天糟糕。”

She said education children to have the key point,Can't do"Broken mouth old woman",Great things on small nagging,She in the report more than 60 games,Found that such parents really many.They listened to the lecture in LiZhenXia after,Question JiLingGouSui.Some with reverence and awe to ask:"I found the son one day after school,With a female classmate went together,How can do?"Some nervously asked:"I the son of high school students up to Sunday to climb a mountain,This shouldn't?"What is more,Sitting around children for children to watch,As long as the child's eyes slightly away from books,Stood scold.One child to LiZhenXia speak:"grandma,My mom sitting on my side,My heart really very nervous,Reading all could not see the heart.To later,I stared at dry,Don't know the book to write is what word,My mind was a blank,And afraid to leave,Results a day than a bad day."

　　如此，孩子容易起逆反心，家长的威严也日渐减低。李振霞就从来不过分干涉孩子的自由，不做“唠叨妈妈”，所以，只要她找孩子谈话，孩子都明白：“问题严重了，得严肃对待。”

so,The child easy up negative heart,The majesty of parents also day after day to reduce.LiZhenXia is never too much interference in the child's freedom,Don't do"Nagging mom",so,As long as she find children talk,Children understand:"The serious problem,Have to seriously."

　　

问题4、父母矛盾暴露 Question 4/Parents contradictions exposed

　　俗话说：“父母不和，孩子遭殃。”父母是孩子终身的教师，所谓“身传甚于言教”，对孩子的成长起了关键的作用。父母若是整天在孩子面前剑拔弩张，互相指责，不但不能给孩子提供“稳定的后方，快乐的港湾”，还给孩子幼小的心理造成难以磨灭的阴影。这样的孩子成才几率相对小得多。

As the saying goes:"Parents don't,Children suffer."Parents are their children life of teachers,The so-called"The body than teach by word of mouth",For the development of children played a key role.If parents all day in front of children at swords' points,Blamed each other,Not only can't give their children"Stability of the rear,Happy harbor",Back to the child young psychological cause an enduring shadow.Such children to become a useful person comparatively small chance.

　　李振霞夫妇几十年的“互爱、互敬、互帮、互谅、互信”，对4个孩子成长大有裨益。李振霞教授说：“现在，许多中年人，互相指责。互不信任，在孩子面前不自律，整天吵得鸡犬不宁，为日后婚变埋下了祸胎。做孩子的很痛苦，整天担心父母会不会离婚，有的还悄悄跟踪父母，看有没有第三者插足。你说这孩子还怎么能专心学习？又怎么能够学好？又怎么能培养成欢乐、健康的性格？”

LiZhenXia couple of decades"Mutual love/And mutual respect/Helps the/Mutual understanding and mutual/Mutual trust",In four children to grow up greatly.LiZhenXia professor says:"now,Many middle-aged,Blamed each other.Mutual distrust,In front of the child not self-discipline,Noisy all day to general turmoil,For the future character of buried the the root of the trouble.The children to do the very pain,All parents will worry about divorce,Some still quietly tracking parents,Look have involvement of a third party.You said the child how to concentrate on learning?How to learn?How to cultivate the happiness/Healthy personality?"

　　所以，父母一定要有为孩子营造温馨、和睦快乐的家庭生活环境的责任心。另外，父母在教育孩子的问题上，一定要保持高度的一致，绝不把分歧暴露在孩子面前。

so,Parents must build sweet for children/Harmonious happy family living environment sense of responsibility.In addition,Parents in education on the question of children,Must maintain a high level of consensus,Never put the differences in front of children exposed.

　　

问题5、不良环境的影响 Question 5/The influence of the bad environment

　　随着物质生活的丰富，外在环境对孩子的影响越来越大。有的孩子整天看电视，有的沉溺于电脑游戏不能自拔。

With the rich material life,The external environment to the child the influence is more and more big.Some children watch TV all day,Some addicted to computer games can not extricate themselves.

　　李振霞教授说：“我家直到孩子都考上大学，才有电视机。一些对儿童不宜的电视剧最好不要看。一次，我小外甥看了一些言情片后，搂着他50岁的保姆亲嘴，气得保姆大骂。后来我们就让保姆看着他，不让他随便看不健康的东西。玩游戏机也一样，玩可以，但要限定时间，不能无限觉溺其中。

LiZhenXia professor says:"My home until the child is admitted to university,Didn't have a television.Some of the children's unfavorable TV series had better not read.a,My little nephew saw some after romance,Hug him 50 years old nanny a kiss,Spirit the nurse cursed.Later we let nurse looked at him,Don't let him to literally see unhealthy things.Play the game too,Play can,But time limit,Can't infinite sleep drowned among them.

　　

问题6、粗暴教育方法 Question 6/Rough education method

　　中国有“棍棒下出孝子”的说法，许多家长到现在都存在“暴力教育”倾向。孩子成绩不好，行为不对，不是帮助其找原因，而是当众责骂，有的还拳脚相加。李振霞教授说，美国有“赏识教育”，就是观察孩子有一点点儿优点，就及时夸奖，给以鼓励。她家虽不叫“赏识教育”却是不离其宗。有著名的“一屋”、"二实”、“三主”、“四不”。

China has"Sticks a filial son"that,Many parents to now have"Violence education"tendency.The child bad grades,Behavior not,Not help them find reasons,But in public scold,Some still with his fists.LiZhenXia professor says,The United States has"Appreciation education",Is to observe children have a little advantage,Will timely praise,To encourage.Her house is not let"Appreciation education"It is not depart from the Pope.A famous"A house"/"Two real"/"SanZhu"/"four".

　　所谓“一屋”，就是一个谈话小屋，将有问题的孩子单独叫去，在民主的氛围下轻松谈心，解决问题。

The so-called"A house",Is a conversation cabin,There will be problems children call alone,In a democratic atmosphere relaxed commune,Solve the problem.

　　“二实”就是“核实事实”不听风就是雨。分析事实，让孩子明白对错在何处。

"Two real"is"Verify facts"Don't listen to the wind is rain.Analyzing facts,Let the child understand right and wrong in where.

　　“三主”，是以说服教育为主，以尊重孩子为主，以表扬为主。

"SanZhu",Is to persuade education is given priority to,To respect the child is given priority to,Mainly in recognition of.

　　“四不”，就是不在客人面前说孩子，不在家人都在场的时候说孩子，这是为了不伤害到孩子的自尊心，不在饭桌上说孩子，要注意孩子的饮食健康，不在气头上说孩子，这个时候父母容易说话走火，还怎么进行说服教育？所以，有气时她经常出去散散心，气消了再说。

"four",Is not in front of the guests said children,Not all the family said the child,This is in order not to hurt the child's self-esteem,Is not the child said,Attention should be paid to children's healthy diet,Not in anger say children,This time the parents easy to speak refuge,Return how to persuade education?so,So she often go out for fun,Gas turned again.

　　

问题7、忽视体能培养 Question 7/Ignore physical training

　　一个人，无论智商多么高，体能不行，一切都是白扯。培养孩子，要注意孩子的健康问题。

A man,No matter how high IQ,Physical no,Everything is white tear.Cultivate children,Attention should be paid to the child's health problems.

　　金家的孩子个个体魄健壮，是校园时里的运动之星。他们打小晚上回家后，吃饭前的第一件事就是运动，保持旺盛的精力。打球、游泳、滑冰，什么都玩，一个个跑得满身汗，大脑供血供氧都足，这时候吃饭，吃过饭休息会儿再写作业，晚上10点之前都睡觉，绝不熬夜打疲劳战。二儿子金侠在剑桥大学研究艾滋病，这需要有健康的血液对比分析，而剑桥大学这么著名的名牌大学却没有血库，金侠就经常从自己身上抽血，要没有好的身体，早挺不住了，还搞什么研究。

The Kim family children are strong,The campus is the sports star.They play small night after coming home,The first thing before dinner is movement,Keep the exuberant energy.play/swimming/skating,What all play,A running with sweat,Cerebrum offers blood oxygen are sufficient,At this time to eat,Eating meals have a rest to write operation,Ten o 'clock at night before sleep,Never stay up late playing fatigue war.The second son JinXia at Cambridge university study AIDS,This need to have healthy blood contrast analysis,And the university of Cambridge this famous brand university but no blood bank,JinXia frequently from your own body blood,Without good health,The early cannot stand it,Also make what research.

　　

问题8、学习方法不当 Question 8/Improper learning method

　　如果以上条件都是对一个孩子成才的外在磨励，那么，拥有良好的学习意识和方法，却是孩子终身受益的内在法宝。21世纪知识经济到来的时代，要想孩子将来不融于残酷的失业大军，必须从小培养孩子形成良好的学习意识和方法。

If above conditions are all for a child into external grinding excitation,so,Have good learning consciousness and method,Is the child life-long benefit inner magic weapon.The 21st century knowledge economy coming era,Want to children will not cruelty into the unemployment line,Must train a kid since the childhood form good learning consciousness and method.

　　首先要培养一种特殊的学习精神，那就是要刻苦勤奋，奋力拼搏，克服一切困难，到知识海洋的风口浪尖搏击。没有这种硬骨头精神，起不完成才的道路。

We should first train a special kind of learning spirit,That is hard to,striving,Overcome all difficulties,To of the ocean of knowledge in the teeth of the storm fight.No such hard bone spirit,Don't finish the only way.

　　其次，父母要以身作则，树立良好的家风。金家父母整天看书，对儿女的熏陶匪浅，父母求知若渴，做儿女的有何道理不学无术？

secondly,Parents will set an example,Set a good family trait.The Kim family parents reading all day long,The couple Shared bandit shallow,Parents eager,Do children have HeDaoLi be ignorant and incompetent?

　　三是要养成事半功倍的学习方法：

The third is to get twice the result with half the effort study method:

　　1、要培养学习兴趣，快乐学习，不觉得枯燥。她的孩子对考试不畏惧，就是因为对学习有浓厚的兴趣。

1/To develop interest in learning,Happy learning,Don't feel boring.Her children to the examination does not fear,Is because have great interest in learning.

　　2、培养高度集中的课堂注意力，练好“童子功”课前做好预习，课堂注意听讲，课后就能迅速完成作业，达到减负的效果。因为课外作业不过是课内作业的举一反三。所以，金教授经常让孩子回忆课堂所学内容，锻炼孩子的注意力和记忆力。

2/Training highly centralized class attention,practice"Lad work"Do preview before class,Classroom listen to the,After class can finish your homework quickly,To alleviate the burden on effect.For homework but is working within the class of the other.so,Professor king often let the child memories of the classroom content,Exercise the child's attention and memory.

　　3、要鼓励孩子与其他的孩子找距离，但不嫉妒。因为有比较才有鉴别，以正确的心态认识自己、认识别人，学习别人的长处。

3/To encourage the children with other children find distance,But don't envy.Because there is only identify,In the right state of mind know themselves/Know others,Learning the merits of others.

　　4、保持旺盛的精力，早睡早起，不过分疲劳。

4/Keep the exuberant energy,Early to bed and early to rise,Not too fatigue.

　　5、培养孩子自己完成作业的习惯，不拖拉。

5/Cultivate the habit of children homework all by yourself,Don't drag.

　　6、给孩子更大的空间，包括活动空间和心理空间，不能读死书。

6/Give children more space,Including activity space and psychological space,Can't read book death.

　　7、鼓励有余力的孩子多读课外书。扩大知识面，达到融会贯通、触类旁通。

7/Encourage spare capacity children read kinds of extra readings.The expanded aspect of knowledge,To digest/Comprehend by analogy.

　　最重要的，是从小培养好孩子的人品。人格是最高学位。有的父母在这方面不重视，不是花钱把孩子送到贵族学校，就是送到国外，孩子失去管教，别说成才，就连成人都成了大问题。李振霞教呼吁天下父母：做好孩子一生的老师！

The most important,From training is good character.Personality is the highest degree.Some parents in this respect not value,Not spend money, to send their child to kindergartens exclusive school,Is sent to the foreign,Children lose discipline,Don't say a,Even adult has become a big problem.LiZhenXia teaching calls for all the parents:The child's life to the teacher!