子把父当马，父望子成龙，可怜中国父母心！舔犊之情，不能不令人感动，然而舔犊的方式，恐怕尚待改进！纵观中国的家庭教育之弊，放纵者有之，溺爱者有之，施暴者有之，粗略的划分一下，大致有如下类型：

Son father when the horse,Father used to,Poor Chinese parents heart!Lick calf love,Not moving,However lick calf way,I'm afraid for improvement!In China family education of disadvantages,Indulgence of the,Dote on those of the,Is responsible,The division of the roughly,Generally has the following types:

　　(一) 模具制造型 (a) Mould manufacturing

　　持此类教育方式的家长，大有人在。此类家长，属于自以为是之人，总以为自己的想法不会错误，总以为自己是爱孩子，为孩子好。对孩子的要求极严，孩子的举手投足，都给予详尽的指示，从生活习惯、活动的范围方式，到读书的范围方法、兴趣爱好，甚至到高考专业的选择、毕业工作的种类，都受到强制性指导。

Hold this kind of education mode of parents,there.Such parents,Belong to the people thinks,Always think their ideas will not mistake,Always thinks he is a love child,Good for children.To the child's request very strict,The child's raise one's hand is cast sufficient,Give detailed instructions,From the life habits/Range mode,To the scope of the study method/interest,Even to the college entrance examination professional choice/The types of graduate work,Are subject to mandatory guidance.

　　殊不知，人是万物之灵，人最大的长处，是善于思想，善于学习，善于在学习中创造，而这种教育模式，无形之中，就抹杀了孩子的自主学习与创造能力。在这种模式之下，不否认也有一些孩子有所成就，但更多的孩子，却成为模具制造的产品，家长原形的克隆，人的独立思考与创造能力，在这些克隆产品中黯然消退。龙生龙，凤生凤，老鼠的儿子会打洞，在这种模式之下，恐怕龙凤老鼠的后代，都是“老鼠”了！

Little imagine,Man is the soul of the universe,Man's greatest strengths,Is good at thinking,Are good at learning,Good at learning to create,And this kind of education mode,Aeriform in,Will kill the child's autonomous learning and creativity.In this mode of,Do not deny that there are some children achievement,But more children,It has become mould manufacturing products,The parents of the clone,People's independent thinking and creativity,In these cloned products dim and resolve.Dragon born dragon,Chicken born chicken,Mouse's son can make hole,In this mode of,I'm afraid longfeng mice offspring,are"mice"the!

　　(二) 温室培养型 (two) Greenhouse cultivation type

　　经济条件的改善，孩子数目的减少，使家长更有能力精力来教育培养孩子。捧在手中怕掉了，含在嘴里怕化了，给予孩子最好的学习与成长条件，弥补自己少时的缺憾，这是生在艰苦年代的家长的普遍做法。

The improvement of the economic conditions,The reduction in the number of children,Parents have the ability to make more energy to education training children.Hold it in your hands off the fear,Plumper fear changed,Give your children the best of learning and growing conditions,Make up their defects in his youth,This is born in hard s parents' common practice.

　　孩子的吃，要操心，总担心孩子缺锌少钙；孩子的穿，要操心，嘘寒问暖，从孩子房里的太空被空调，到出门武装到牙齿的装备，无一不体现了家长细腻的爱心；孩子的行，要操心，在学校附近春游，父母也要请假奉陪；孩子的交往，要操心，本着近朱者赤近墨者黑的道理，孩子只容许与“优秀”者(大多以学习成绩为标准)交往；孩子的学，更要操心，从胎教，到小时候的艺术素质的培养(比如学琴画画)，到入学的学校选择、老师选择，无一不体现了家长的“智慧”，直到孩子的毕业，专业的选择，工作的选择，爱人的选择，仍要操心，有道是鞠躬尽瘁死而后已。

The child's eating,To worry about,Always worry about the children less calcium zinc deficiency;Children's wear,To worry about,Be caring and attentive,From child room space is air conditioning,To go out armed to the teeth of the equipment,All reflect the fine parents love;The child's line,To worry about,Near the school spring outing,Parents will leave company with;The child's communication,To worry about,In line with "the word of fleas,The child only permissible and"good"person(Mostly to study result as the standard)communication;The child's learning,More to worry about,From the foetus education,When I was a child to the art of the cultivation of quality(Such as the piano paint),To attend the school choice/The teacher choose,All reflect the parents"wisdom",Until the child's graduation,Professional choice,Job choice,Lover's choice,Still have to worry about,The tao is one spare no effort.

　　却没有料到，人的思虑有限，自然的造化无穷！这样的做法，制造了许多肥胖儿童与厌食者，制造了免疫力极差的孩子，制造了庞大的厌学者队伍，制造了离开父母一无所能的孩子。温室的花朵，禁不住一点点风吹雨打，“温室”培养出来的孩子，离开父母，却无法适应于社会，最后父母只好哀叹自己无法与天地同寿了！

Did not expect,People's worries limited,Natural nature infinite!This approach,Made a lot of obese children and YanShiZhe,Manufacturing the immunity of the poor children,Make a huge disgusted scholars team,Made from parents can do nothing children.Greenhouse flowers,Can not help a little bit of wind and rain,"greenhouse"Culture out of the children,From their parents,But can't adapt to the society,The parents had to bemoan his heaven and earth and not with the life!

　　(三)极力压榨型 (three)Trying to press type

　　这种模式多出现在孩子的读书过程之中。教育的社会性与个体的特殊性之间必然有矛盾，在目前形势下，高等教育与高中教育没有普及，大学生的就业率很低，迫使家长对孩子提出过于苛刻的要求，以使孩子能够上一所名校，有个较好的前程。

This model more appeared in the children's reading of the process.Education social and individual must have the particularity of contradiction between,In the present situation,Higher education and high school education was not up to standard,College students' employment rate is very low,Forced the parents to the child proposed too stringent requirements,In order to make children could go to a school,Have a good future.

　　纵使学校能够减负，家长也未必让孩子减负，连小学生的作业，家长都要求孩子完成两套三套，而学校面临的生存压力，教师面临的考核压力，也使学校的减负成为镜花水月。在平时，孩子们都被迫学习到晚上10点以后，而假期，更有各种补习班、特长班在等待着被压榨得灯枯油尽的孩子！教育科目的设置不合理、教育模式的缺陷，在扼杀孩子的创造力，而家长们，不设法补救，却推波助澜，成为扼杀孩子天性与创造力的同案犯。

Even if the school is able to reduce the burden,Parents also not let children alleviate burdens on somebody,Even the elementary student's work,Parents are required to complete two sets of three sets of children,And the school facing the survival pressure,Teachers face pressure assessment,Also alleviate the burden on the school as an illusion.On weekdays,The children are forced to learn to night after 10,But summer,More various cram school/Specialty training classes in the waiting to be pressed to light oil is our child!Education section objective setting is not reasonable/Education mode has its own defects,In the kill children's creativity,And parents,Don't try to remedy,But add fuel to the fire,Be kill children nature and creative partners in crime.

　(四)经济刺激型 (four)Economic stimulus type

　　物质的社会，造就物质的方式，一切以经济为中心，教育模式也被产业化，很多家长的教育方式，也是“向钱看”！考第一，奖励多少，考前十名，奖多少，在不少家庭，都成为制度！许多家长基本上都是以钱来“遥控”孩子。小小的脑袋，最终只容纳了一个庞大的“钱”字，洗自己的衣服，可以，拿钱来；帮你做作业，可以，拿钱来；帮爸爸买包烟，可以，拿钱来……

Material society,Make material way,Everything with economy as the center,Education mode is also industrialization,A lot of parents' education way,is"money"!Test first,How much reward,Top test,Award many,In many families,Have all become system!Many parents basically all is by the money to"Remote control"children.Small head,Finally only contains a huge"money"word,Wash my clothes,can,Take money to;Help you to do your homework,can,Take money to;Help father buy packs of cigarettes,can,Take money to……

　　(五)原始放牧型 (five)Original grazing type

　　这类模式多出现在打工家庭或者问题家庭，父母忙于打工挣钱，无暇关注孩子，或者婚姻破裂，根本就不顾及孩子。当然也有现实的家长，认为读书无用，孩子未必能考上大学，大学毕业未必能找到工作，不读书也同样可以挣大钱，甚至成为黑社会的流氓，也一样“出人头地”！干脆就任其自生自灭！这种模式的后果，就是把教育的责任全部推给学校推给教师，现在虽然有“教育万能”的理论，这世界上却没有万能的教师！

This kind of mode more work appeared in the family or family problems,Parents are busy to work to make money,Too busy to pay attention to children,Or marriage,Don't take into consideration the child.There are, of course, the reality of parents,Think reading useless,Children may not be accepted into a university,Graduated from the university not to find a job,Don't read also can earn a lot of money,Even become an underworld gang,too"Stand out"!Just as it run its course!This model of consequences,Education is the responsibility of all on the school on the teacher,Although there are now"Education universal"theory,This world is not everything the teacher!

　　(六)自家萝卜型 (six)Their radish type

　　俗话说，自家萝卜天大个，是啊，情人眼里出西施，家长眼里出天才，自家的孩子什么都好，稍微的出众，在有的家长眼中都是天才的举动，即使有不好，那也是别家的孩子不好，是老师学校的不好，是社会的不好，自家的孩子绝对不会不好！这种情形，相信读者也曾见识，其中危害，就不赘述了。

As the saying goes,A big radish oneself,yes,Beauty is in the eye of beholder,Parents eyes out of genius,Their children what is good,Slightly outstanding,In some parents eyes is the genius of behavior,Even if the bad,That is another child is bad,Is the teacher of the school is bad,Is the social bad,Their children would never bad!This kind of situation,Believe that the reader has knowledge,The harm,It is not easy to the.

　　(七) 崇尚暴力型 (seven) Advocate violence type

　　“棍棒下出孝子”，仍然有部分家长崇尚用武力解决问题。特别在孩子调皮不听话的时候，在气头上，对孩子拳脚相加的，仍然大有人在。给孩子造成的心理阴影，逆反心理以及长大后崇尚暴力解决问题的恶劣影响，很难消除。暴力调教的孩子，要么逆反心理特别强，要么特别懦弱，但有一个共同点，就是在这种环境长大的孩子，很少不崇尚用武力解决问题！

"Sticks a filial son",There are still some parents advocate use of military force to solve problems.Especially in children naughty naughty time,Nevertheless, in,To the child of his fists,There still.Give children cause psychological shadow,Negative mentality and grew up advocating violence to solve the problem of bad influence,Is very difficult to eliminate.Violence set-up children,Or negative mentality especially strong,Or special weak,But there is one thing in common,In this kind of environment is a child growing up,Rarely do not advocate use of military force to solve problems!

(八)《大话西游》唐僧型 (eight)[A Chinese Odyssey]Tang's monk type

　　这部分家长相对比较温和，但又失之偏颇，当语言说服不能解决问题时，就难免絮絮叨叨了，好比是《大话西游》的唐僧念经，两个小鬼实在受不了，只好上吊自杀了。现实之中，有的家长的确过于唠叨，但殊不知，这样做不仅对孩子的教育于事无补，反而会起到反作用。

This part of the parents is relatively mild,But we,When language persuade cannot solve problems,Either the babble,is[A Chinese Odyssey]Of tang's monk to chant buddhist scripture,Two kids can't bear,Have to commit suicide by hanging suicide.reality,Some parents really too nagging,But little imagine,It not only to the child's education to no avail,It would be counterproductive.

　　(九) 百依百顺奴才型 (nine) Jump through hoops minions type

　　经济条件的改善，孩子数目的减少，一个孩子，可能是祖父祖母的期望所在，外公外婆的期望所在，叔叔阿姨的期望所在，父亲母亲的期望所在，这样，造就了一大批“小皇帝”，自私自利，没有爱心，唯我独尊，最后不容于社会也就必然了。

The improvement of the economic conditions,The reduction in the number of children,A child,May be grandmother and grandfather in expectations,Grandpa and grandma in expectations,Uncle aunt expectations place,Father mother's expectations place,this,Make a large number of"Little emperors",selfishness,Does not love,Just me,The last not to the society must the.

　　修正教育缺陷的建议 Correction education defect suggestion

　　最后，给出作为补救以上一些家庭教育方式的缺陷的建议。

finally,As a remedy is above some family education mode defect suggestion.

　　理想的家长，应该在儿童的早期的智力开发方面下功夫，先天智力毕竟无法更改，后天智力确有极大的挖掘潜力，这是其一；爱孩子，重视孩子，但不能溺爱，满足合理的要求，但要让孩子自己明白，哪些是不受鼓励的；严格要求孩子，但应给孩子适度的活动空间；幼儿教育与小学教育特别重要，这是决定孩子的行为习惯、思维方式、以及培养孩子兴趣爱好的重要阶段，一个良好的学习习惯，一个良好的生活习惯，一个良好的思维习惯，一个良好的经济观念，以及好的性格，都将要影响孩子的终生，都将决定你的孩子的成就！现在的家长，却过于实用主义，眼睛只盯着初中高中，却没有明白，初中高中的成就，很大程度取决于小学养成的习惯与逐渐形成的性格。

Ideal parents,Should be in the children's early intelligence development aspect,Innate intelligence after all can't change,The day after tomorrow is great mining potential intelligence,This is one;Children love,Value children,But can't spoil,Meet the reasonable requirements,But let the child can understand,Which is not to be encouraged;Strictly requiring children,But should give children moderate activity space;Preschool education and primary school education is especially important,It is decided to the child's behavior/Way of thinking/And cultivate children to interest the important stage,A good study habits,A good living habits,A good habit of thinking,A good economic concept,And good character,Will all affect a child's life,Will determine your child's achievement!Now parents,But too pragmatism,Only the eyes staring at the junior middle school high school,Did not understand,Junior middle school high school achievement,Largely depends on the primary school to become a habit and gradually formed character.