如果在“被塑造”的童年少年时代，孩子们仅仅学会被动接受，我们离真正的文明将越行越远

If the"Be molded"Childhood young age,The children just learn to passive to accept,We from the real civilization will do more far

　　马上就要过年了，许多孩子却轻松不起来。一份来自北京的问卷调查显示，约七成中小学生在这个寒假期间报了各种学习班，继续操练“语数外”，补课时长大多超过10天，而家长们为此的花费少说也要三五千元。还有一家电视台制作了一期专题节目，记者们采访了十几个各地的孩子，问他们的寒假心愿，绝大多数孩子希望寒假能和父母在一起，希望能有时间好好玩，而不是去补课。

Immediately to the New Year,Many children are easy not to rise.A questionnaire survey from Beijing,About seventy percent of primary and middle school students in this winter vacation period for the various classes,Continued to practice"Language the number",Make up a missed lesson most long more than ten days,And parents to cost less to say 35000 yuan.And a television made a period feature program,Reporters interviewed several around the child,Ask their winter holiday wish,The vast majority of children hope winter vacation can and parents together,Hope to have time to have fun,And not to make up a missed lesson.

　　关于中小学生寒假“加班”的三角结构很有意思：各种课外教育机构能够因此获得不菲的利润，当然乐意；各位家长自觉没让孩子的假期“浪费”，心甘情愿掏钱，也很乐意；只有孩子不乐意，但是孩子不乐意没关系，他们没有话语权，就算有话语权，也没有决定权。在家长和教育机构“双赢”的合同里，不需要孩子的签名，尽管最后需要他们用自己的时间和快乐为这份契约买单。

The winter of primary and middle school students"overtime"The triangular structure is very interesting:All kinds of after-school education institutions can have significant profit,Of course happy to;Your parents consciously didn't let the child's holiday"waste",Willingly pay,Will be very glad to;Only children are willing to,But the child does not enjoy it doesn't matter,They have no voice,Even with voice,No decision.In parents and education institutions"win-win"contract,Don't need the signature of the children,Even though the final need their own time and happy to pay the contract.

　　家长们不会不知道，学习时间太长不但影响孩子的健康，也减少了孩子的快乐。选择去补习班，固然是有很多无奈的原因，比如学校的要求，比如孩子假期无人照看，等等。但更普遍的情况是，在许多家长眼里，只有成绩才是“硬道理”，直接关系着未来的升学乃至就业。因此，每次假期前的那张成绩单，便决定了这个假期里“比学赶超”的任务单。成绩好的要保持，遑论成绩差的，不来个触底反弹、绝地反击，那还了得？有这种想法打底，各种假期学习班一边背着舆论的压力，一边成了家长群体的主流选择，也就不难理解了。

Parents will know,Learning time is too long not only influence the health of children,Also reduces the child's happiness.Choose to go to cram school,Is there are many helpless reason,Such as the requirements of the school,Such as child unattended on holiday,etc.But more often the,In the eyes of many parents,Only grades are"Hard truth",Are directly related to the future study and employment.so,Every time before the holiday that piece of transcript,He decided to the holidays"Than learning catch up"Task list.Good to keep,Let the bad grades,Don't come to a sole rebound/Jedi back,It never?Have the idea base,All kinds of holiday classes while carrying the pressure of public opinion,One side became the mainstream of the parent group selection,It is not so difficult to understand.

　　这些现象，折射了家长的两种标准误区。

These phenomena,Reflect the parents of two standard error.

　　其一，家长对孩子学习成长的评价持“单一标准”，显然很成问题。今天的中国，强调“五位一体”的总体布局，按照科学发展观的要求，是“全面协调可持续”，我们因此批评唯GDP论。为什么在孩子成长问题上，我们又把眼光退回到一个狭隘、短视的境地呢？学习成绩不就是孩子成长中的一种片面的GDP吗？相反，孩子过得是不是健康快乐、能不能和老师同学友好相处、有没有创新精神和创新能力，这些让孩子终身受益的性格、体魄、习惯上的培养，不是家长更应该关注的成长指标吗？

one,The parents to the child to grow and learn the evaluation"Single standard",Obviously is a problem.Today, the Chinese,emphasize"Five one"Overall layout,According to the requirement of the scientific development concept,is"Comprehensive, balanced and sustainable",We therefore criticism and theory of GDP.Why the child growing problem,We also look back to a narrow/Myopia position it?Study result is not children to grow up in a one-sided GDP?instead,The child had is healthy and happy/Can you get along well with teachers and students/Have the innovation spirit and innovation ability,These let the child benefit for life character/body/The habit of culture,Parents are not more should pay attention to the growth index?

　　其二，家长对自己和孩子的假期持“双重标准”，这显然更没什么道理。自己工作辛苦，需要以休假来调整身心状态，难道孩子就是永动机，可以马不停蹄学下去、学进去？但是，孩子的寒假愿望和快乐诉求，往往被忽略不计。这种“没道理”的道理，背后的代际问题值得深究。

The second,Parents to their children and the holiday"Double standard",This is clearly more no reason.Their hard work,The need for a vacation to adjust state of mind,Is the child is perpetual motion machine,Can work on/learn?but,The child's winter holiday wishes and happy appeal,Often be ignored.this"No sense"truth,Behind the generation problem worth probe.

　　成年人是一个社会的中坚，大至国家的宏观决策，小至家庭的微观决定，都出自成年人之手。如果在事关成长的问题上，成年人始终用一种俯视而非平视的姿态面对孩子，那么可以说，我们没有为孩子提供一种有关公正、平等的文明训练；如果在“被塑造”的童年少年时代，孩子们仅仅学会被动接受，并习惯一种“被决定”的惰性，我们离真正的文明将越行越远。(杨 凯）

Adults is a society of the backbone,To national macroscopic decision-making,Small to family microscopic decision,Out of the hand of adults.If for the growing problem,Adults always use a kind of look down rather than head-up attitude in the face of the child,So can say,We don't provide children with a relevant justice/Equal civilization training;If the"Be molded"Childhood young age,The children just learn to passive to accept,And get used to a"Is decided"inert,We from the real civilization will do more far.(Yang kai)

　　(人民日报)

(People's Daily)